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So many couples are now separated part-or full-time because of military deployment and/or work travel and schedules, I get a lot of questions about faithfulness. Your marriage vows may have said, "'til death do us part" but no one said anything about what happens when a military career or ... Views: 2017
When it comes to creating a deeper connection and a lasting impression on others; it is often assumed that sharing ones good points is the best approach to take. To share ones vulnerable side is something that should be avoided at all costs.
This means that successes and achievements should ... Views: 2016
Scientific Research Backs up What Access Consciousness Founder, Gary Douglas, Has Been Saying for Years
by ACCESS ADMINISTRATOR on JUNE 3, 2011
Judgment is one of the greatest limitations to creativity, including creating your life, according to best selling author Gary Douglas, founder of ... Views: 2011
In this seventh and last blog on sexting, we discuss what happens after one partner has acknowledged sexting with a third person outside of the primary relationship. How can the two partners rebuild their relationship, or is this impossible to do?
First of all, it is important to say that ... Views: 2009
Remember those public service announcements? This is your brain…this is your brain on drugs.” An egg sizzles on a hot skillet indicating the harm that drugs can do to your brain.
In Tantra, we can apply the exact same visual and words to describe your brain when you have sex except instead ... Views: 2005
Throughout the media, we are flooded with sexy over-40s who seem to have stopped time – or at least made it work for them. I’d like to ask Demi Moore, Goldie Hawn or Michelle Pfieffer: How do you do it? There are so many other women hitting their 40s and at the same time their sex drives are ... Views: 2001
In this new age of psychobabble, open sexual expression, and deeply rooted need for healing the Earth and ourselves, Tantra is a perfect practice for finding love. Unfortunately, it is so misunderstood. Contrary to popular belief, Tantra is not sex and sex is not necessarily Tantric- yet sex is ... Views: 2001
Dr. Romance writes: Many people ask me, “How will I know if I'm in love?”
Answer: Anyone who's in love usually knows it; the real question should be are we mutually in love, or am I wasting my time? If you want to be secure in your primary relationship, knowing how to create mutuality and ... Views: 2000
When the word Tantra comes to mind, one may think of ancient Eastern practices, intricate sex or images of naked gods and goddesses bursting with light and twisted into most difficult Kama Sutra positions. When you break it down, however, the word Tantra means “weaving” in Sanskrit. Tantra is a ... Views: 1995
In the movie Eat, Pray, Love Elizabeth Gilbert is portrayed as someone who has a tendency to distance herself from real intimacy in a romantic relationship because she’s afraid she will dive in so deeply that she all but disappears.
It’s a tendency many of us have in common with her.
Why ... Views: 1994
Overcoming Upset
How to overcome upset by developing connection to
resources for a peaceful and content life
This is an excerpt from upcoming book “Anatomy of Upset” by Behnam Bakhshandeh
As we all know by now UPSET is big part of our daily living. We are upset a lot and it seems ... Views: 1993
If you have been trying for a long time now to have a satisfying intimacy and didn’t succeed, it is very likely that you fail due to lack of Self-Awareness: you don’t understand how you shoot yourself in the foot. Developing Self-Awareness will enable you to realize a host of factors which drive ... Views: 1990
There is a world of difference between running towards God and running away from the world.
If you find the world empty of value, void of meaning beyond the very short and temporary life span of a human being, and this causes you to turn towards a spiritual life, leaving the material world ... Views: 1990
Our relationship is one of the biggest, most powerful asset and gift we have in our life! It is a true "treasure chest" worth a fortune. It can deliver unimaginable heights of satisfaction, peace, joy, love, happiness and success!!
To cash-in on this fortune we have to polish the "gems on ... Views: 1989
People resist intimacy primarily because they are hurt and afraid. To whatever degree you find yourself pulling away from your partner, resisting having one or buffering yourself from really being close with someone is the degree to which you are caught in a cycle of hurt and fear followed by ... Views: 1986
Here are a couple of ideas to start your creative juices flowing for planning dates:
• Watch a romantic movie. Grab a blanket and snuggle on the couch with a dvd she’s been dying to see. Or pull out an old favorite that has special significance. It doesn’t matter if it is a drama with ... Views: 1984
We all suffer from a heart that is closed, either a little or a lot, and we spend our life trying to avoid being aware of this, but it is always there in the back of our mind. This article will take the article; “How To Find What You Really Are” a little further.
Our activities and desires ... Views: 1983
Are you suffering from premature ejaculation? Is the question of how to cure premature ejaculation naturally, safely and permanently always come across your mind?
If you think you have suffered enough, feeling frustrated and embarrassed every time you have sex with your partner, or if all ... Views: 1982
On one hand, one’s life can be an expression of their true-self, and on the other hand, it can be an expression of their false-self. When it is an expression of the former, they are going to spend time with people who know they are.
As a result of this, it will be possible for them to ... Views: 1982
Regardless of what you may think. Sex happens in the brain. Our ability to feel desire, the things that turn us on, the things that make us reach climax all happen in the brain. So, if you want more sex, it’s reasonable to assume you should know more about the brain. I’ll give you the primer ... Views: 1979
Are you feeling unfulfilled and disconnected?
Single and touch deprived? Feeling the need to share and have someone listen really deeply to you?
Ready to discover what it feels like to experience pleasure, passion, joy, and laughter again?
BUT JUST CAN'T FIND THE TIME?
Allowing ... Views: 1978
When was the last time you were physically intimate with your partner? If you say a long time, you are not alone! A lot of couples share their sexual life is in the toilet. They struggle getting along, among other things, to the point that being physically intimate is the furthest thing from ... Views: 1977
By Leonard Thornton, PhD
This article details a very powerful session with a new client dealing with self-abandonment and an intimacy disorder of 30 years duration, which essentially cleared in one session.
Dirk came to me about a problem that he had had nearly all his life at the urging ... Views: 1973
Traditional sex – the heady cocktail of lust and emotional bonding - is all but dead. In a culture of casual, almost anonymous hookups, suppressing attendant emerging emotions is the bon ton and women and men drift apart, zerovalent atoms in an ever-shifting, kaleidoscopic world, separated by a ... Views: 1971
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How Can I Make My Orgams Stronger, Naturally? - by Dr. Martha Lee is Founder and Clinical Sexologist of Eros Coaching. She is a certified sexologist with a Doctorate in Human Sexuality. She provides sexuality and intimacy coaching for individuals and couples, conducts sexual education workshops and speaks at public events. For more, visit www.eroscoaching.com or email drmarthalee@eroscoaching.com.
The idea of having better orgasms isn’t meant to make you feel like there is anything wrong with the orgasms you’re currently having. Here are some basics: 1) Breathe so your orgasm becomes more of a full body experience; 2) Instead of tensing up and holding still during orgasm, move your body ... Views: 1970
Insults are easy to give. We give them all the time! We write books dedicated to insults that you can use for almost anyone out there, but good luck finding a book on compliments you can shout out to someone walking down the street.
Giving a compliment means we have to admit that someone is ... Views: 1969
Twin flames, Soul mates, Soul family are all topics getting a lot of attentions these days. I think that is good because it shows that we are evolving and beginning to remember our connectedness. There is however a lot of confusion about what these words mean. I believe it’s important to think ... Views: 1969
Too often people in relationships feel disconnected and alone. Perhaps they have been hurt in the past and want to avoid being hurt in the future. The problem is that cutting themselves off from intimacy not only strains their relationships, but strains their health as well. They may have built ... Views: 1968
Couple relationships experiencing difficulties can be categorized into two broad styles of relating: temperamental or tenuous, and can fluctuate between these extremes. These relationships are not satisfying, and not likely to succeed – enjoy couples’ inherent synergy, as the partners are spent ... Views: 1968
If you are wondering how to make friends, you are in the right place. Two of the biggest decisions you will ever make in your life are:
1. Deciding what kind of friend you will be
2. Deciding who your friends are.
If you want to have a good life, (and I’m sure you do), then having good ... Views: 1964
Are you ready for love? Are you willing to take responsibility for co-creating the love relationship you desire?
One of the ten Biblical commandments is "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." I would like to expand that notion. Have you ever done for a friend or a loved one ... Views: 1964
8 COMMON DATING MISTAKES MOST PEOPLE MAKE ON THE INTERNET
Finding love
We all want to be loved. It is a very profound human need. But how do we get it? Where do we look for it? Why don't we find it? ... Views: 1963
Love by itself isn’t enough to keep your relationship healthy. Here are some important tips to follow to keep your relationship thriving.
Kindness and Compromise:
All relationships require some effort. You’re not going to agree on every detail even if you want to. What's important is ... Views: 1961
February is the month of Valentine’s Day and media focus tends to be on love. Often my clients tell me that they have met their “soul mate” or “have fallen deeply in love”. Have they? Like cupids arrow, “falling in love” can be deep and swift but is this really love? Having witnessed successful ... Views: 1961
Sons of narcissistic fathers are driven by lack of confidence. Raised by a self-centered, competitive, arrogant father, they feel like they can never measure up or be enough to garner their father’s approval. Their father may be absent or critical and controlling. He may belittle and shame his ... Views: 1959
Dr. Romance writes:
The old folk songs say it:
Oh, love is handsome, love is fine
Love is a jewel when it is new;
But when love's old, it waxes cold
And fades away, like morning dew.
Folk wisdom says it: If newlyweds put a penny in a jar for every time they make love in the first ... Views: 1958
It’s not a joke; most married men I know claim to have less sex than they did when they were single. This seems to be confirmed by the Durex Survey (2001), since couples living together claim to have sex 146 times per year, while married couples make love only 98 times per year. Yet going from ... Views: 1958
Where To Touch A Woman To Arouse Her: Secret Places On Her Body That Can Drive Her Crazy With AROUSAL
It's a commonly known fact that women can not achieve an orgasm unless they are completely aroused and you simply can not turn her on unless you know the proper arousal techniques which would ... Views: 1958
During a marriage crisis, life gets turned upside down and pulled apart, often in frightening and distressing ways. Like a volcanic eruption, tensions and pressures have accumulated that can no longer be contained by feelings of love or the motivation to "stick it out." The crisis often peaks ... Views: 1956
There are times in life where it will be important for one to be serious and then there will be times when this is not the case. If one was to come across as one way all the time, they are going to be out of balance.
However, this doesn’t mean that one is going to spend half of each day ... Views: 1956
Warning: the contents of this article may upset you. In fact, I strongly recommend that you close this page. If you're like most people, you have a child-like naïveté about romance. I don't want to spoil that. Sure, you were able to handle the truth about Santa Claus and the tooth ... Views: 1953
How many times have you heard this when you ask someone how they’re doing: “I’m FINE! And you?”…and, you simply KNEW that you were being fed a line of hooey? How often has that happened to you with men as opposed to women? Perhaps, in these times, it’s an even more important question to ask, ... Views: 1948
In my counseling office, I see a lot of damage done because people don't know how to ask for what they want, or don't think it's OK. Not asking for what you want means you'll eventually resent somebody, and that leads to a lot of strife. So today, I thought I'd give some hints about how to ask ... Views: 1945
In all of our relationships we have expectations of how things should be, this applies in our intimate relationships as well. Many of these expectations have not been clearly defined in our own mind and frequently we have not openly shared our expectations with our partner. As our partner bumps ... Views: 1944
Dear Dr. Romance:
I've seen your website and I think you may be the exact person to be able to help me.
My wife and I have been married for just about 10 yrs., we have 3 beautiful children, and we live fairly comfortably (money is not too big of an issue). I grew up in a fairlyaffluent ... Views: 1944
Love seeketh not itself to please,
nor for itself hath any care,
but for another gives its ease,
and builds a Heaven in Hell’s despair.
…William Blake
Most of us “love” on a shallow level and yet we expect great rewards from our relationships. We are ... Views: 1944
Remember when. . .
The scent of your partner’s skin put a flare in your nostrils as you drank in their essence;
You couldn’t keep your hands off each other. Love making could happen anytime and anywhere;
There was an underlying passion to everything you did with each other;
The smallest ... Views: 1943
Wonder whether you’re in love or in lust? Whether your obsession about someone is a sign of love or addiction? Whether you’re staying in a troubled relationship because you’re addicted or in love? It’s complicated, and lust and love and addiction don’t always exclude one another. Endless ... Views: 1941
There is a tendency towards passiveness in our relationship as time passes.
Couples get comfortable in their routine, whether it is an efficient and satisfying routine or not, and lax in their relating, whether they are on the same page or not. They settle into whatever relating they have ... Views: 1940
Couples are always looking for ways to enhance their lovemaking. Through the use of tantric massage techniques a couple will be able to achieve just that. Through the use of the art of Tantra a couple can learn ways that enables them to not only amplify but extend the bliss they feel when making ... Views: 1940