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- My Friend is Shattered by Widowhood - by Submitted on May 27, 2009 from Elsabe SmitThere are few life events that are as life-shattering as suddenly becoming widowed – especially if you are not yet at the right age (whatever that may be) to become widowed. Dealing with the practical arrangements of a funeral or cremation and the paperwork related to the estate are often the ...
Views: 1558 - Grief Recovery Tips For The Grieving Souls - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraThe different stages of grief recovery are never easy, and it’s entirely up to the person how long it takes someone to be on the grieving process. There are different essentials when it comes to grief recovery, and it’s a must to help you to be on your way to recover. Bear in mind that tears ...
Views: 1553 - Widows Unite ! Grief: Five Tips To Survive The Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2007 from Beth WaddelHappy Holidays,Ting-ting-a-ling. Everywhere I go I hear the happy, happy, happy sounds of the holidays. Wait, I am a widow. I am experiencing grief, loss, misery. What's so jolly about being left alone at this time after a good marriage ? Left alone to manage the memories, to live through the 6 ...
Views: 1551 - A Look at Life and Death - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Janis EricsonRevenge is a confession of pain.” Today it is hard to think of much else. The news that Osama Bin Laden was dead arrived last night, and I wasn’t alone in my shock. It is news I thought would never arrive. We all remember 9/11 and where we were that day. None of us was alone in our grief ...
Views: 1550(1 vote) - Help for the Trauma of Abortion - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Tara SpringettThe following case-studies demonstrate what can be achieved in terms of help for the psychological effects of abortion by practicing the simple self-help method of higher-consciousness healing. Case study 1: Barbara (31 years) Barbara experienced strong and lasting guilt feelings about an ...
Views: 1550(1 vote) - Loss of Light - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2014 from Sheryl PaulLight fading, time passing, big boy is ten, baby isn’t a baby and the time for having babies is over. The pregnant woman in the check-out line and it’s eleven years ago, pregnant with my own belly of hope and love, on the threshold of everything new and exciting. There was pain then, too, but ...
Views: 1549 - Finding and Losing Inner Child Love: Mourning to Morning and Back Again - by Submitted on May 06, 2015 from Mark GorkinAlas, the recent break-up of a nine year relationship was painful enough. But when my ex-partner’s daughter indefinitely suspended (if not permanently ended) weekly 3-5 minute Skypeing and my periodic visiting with her 3 ½ year old daughter (i.e., my ex’s grandchild), because the mother felt ...
Views: 1547 - Grieving for a Dying Friend - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2011 from Maureen Brennan MercierThe journey of grieving for a dying friend has begun for me. It all began early last month when I heard that my friend Debbie's cancer had returned. Another friend Chris and I went to see her soon after she had a series of tests done. We were startled by how weak Deb had gotten so suddenly. My ...
Views: 1547(1 vote) - How to Get Things Done When You Are An Emotional Wreck - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2011 from Beth DargisEven though I am still reeling from my son’s death, things still must get done – taxes, money stuff, work, prosecution stuff… Here’s what’s been working for me: 1. Have grief sessions every morning and/or evening. Just a time to let whatever you are feeling out – through music, ...
Views: 1545(1 vote) - Coping With The Holidays: 7 Things To Help You Cope With Loss During The Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2010 from Roberta Stack-CostantinoCoping with the Holidays: 7 things to help you cope with loss during the holidays Are you coping with a loss? Maybe you have had a loss of a loved one, pet, job, marriage, or any other type of loss? Well, I am with you on this one. I have had many losses and the holidays always seem to be ...
Views: 1539 - Dear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2015 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: What Is The Grieving Process? What are the stages of the grieving process? How long does it take to go through each stage? Can one stage be relived over and over again? Is there a way to help someone through each stage? Dear Reader: If you've had a personal loss, I am ...
Views: 1539(1 vote) - Passing On: Playing the Dark Role - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Jelaila StarrDuring these times of great change, it seems that every day brings another opportunity to learn from the painful challenges that come our way. In some cases several lessons are learned through the same challenge. Such has been the case with the passing of my father and the circumstances ...
Views: 1538 - Embrace Death, Live Life - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2011 from Mike RobbinsMy mom, Lois Dempsey Robbins, was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer in early March. The disease spread very quickly and on June 13th, she passed away. I was honored and grateful to be with her through her dying process. It was both horrible and beautiful at the same time. My mom's ...
Views: 1537(1 vote) - Surviving Traumatic Events - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2011 from Adam BenedettoIn the wake of traumatic events it feels like the world is closing in and nothing makes sense, not even what others tell you or how you feel. It can be very unmanageable in how you feel and think, like nothing is right and you don’t know where to turn. Yet this moment is when you need ...
Views: 1529(2 votes) - *** Myths About Grief, Part 6 - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2009 from Sandy ClendenenIn this article I will be discussing a myth which most people can readily recall from early childhood, "Replace the loss and go on with your life." As young children we may have had a cherished stuffed animal or other special treasure. We may also have been fortunate enough to have a pet. The ...
Views: 1528 - Memories filled with regrets - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2018 from David HarmAs I have grown in years, I am ashamed of some of the things I have done. So ashamed that to mention them right now would take more than a simple story to explain. I’m not even sure if I could explain it all in a book. In fact, I’m not sure if I would even believe the explanation. What I ...
Views: 1528 - Pet Loss: Is It Normal To Experience Loss When A Pet Dies? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to lose a family member or a close friend, it can be seen as something that will have a bigger impact on them than if they were to lose a pet. Based on this, if they were to experience life differently it could be said that something isn’t right. Loss Thus, if one was to ...
Views: 1527 - Grief; What Is It? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2009 from Linda NusbaumGrief; What Is It? We all hear about grief, it’s something we are trained to know something about, even when we are small. It’s that thing that happens to us when someone dies. That’s grief, the word for that place we must visit when we are suffering a loss. But exactly is it? Or, could ...
Views: 1520(2 votes) - Three Secrets to Breathing -- It's More Than Simply Staying Alive! - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Sharon RosenWhen someone advises you to "take a deep breath" what do you actually do? How does it feel in your body? Try it right now, paying close attention to the front of your body. Where does the movement of the breath come in? I'm guessing you probably felt it most in your chest. You also probably ...
Views: 1520(3 votes) - “I Didn't Know What It Was Like To Lose Someone!” - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of my time at school, I would work at a crematorium whenever I didn’t have to go in. There were times when I would tell people about what I did and their responses said a lot about the kind of job that I had. Of course, it wasn’t that these people found it strange that I was ...
Views: 1519 - GRIEF MANAGEMENT The unexpected strikes again - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Elizabeth McNallyA few years back, I decided I wanted to get back into Literacy Project implementation and socio-economic development with Natives somewhere on this planet. My wonderful children were all grown up and I felt the urge of filling the void with a passion of mine! In spring, as I traveled Costa ...
Views: 1516 - Practical Alchemy - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2010 from Janis EricsonMy aunt ended her five-year battle with cancer recently. While I was teaching hypnotherapy in south Florida, I visited her at home and knew it would be my last time with her. I am thankful I had the opportunity to sit with her and share my love and respect for her. So, after two days of tears ...
Views: 1513(1 vote) - Thoughts of Fall - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2012 from Suzane NorthropI was listening to the weather guy last night saying he knows that many of us are upset that summer is gone, but then reminded listeners that fall that is quite spectacular. I have to agree with him. Of course, it depends where you live. In the Northeast, we get to see all those incredible fall ...
Views: 1513 - Why We Need Support Following Bereavement - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2010 from Tabitha JayneWhen we experience loss we immediately turn to our friends and family, expecting them to be able to help us. All too often, we are left disappointed. Friends don’t know what to say and can find it difficult to be around us. They sometimes have no understanding of what we are going through. ...
Views: 1513(1 vote) - Grief is our response to all kinds of losses…. - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Ligia HoubenAmong the misunderstandings people have concerning grief is that they think it is the reaction only to the death of a loved one. But we experience a sense of loss when something or someone that belonged to us and was of immense value has been taken from our lives, leaving in their place a void ...
Views: 1512(1 vote) - Critical Incident-Trauma-Grief Intervention & Debriefing: Train the Trainer/Caregiver Workshop -- Addendum - by Submitted on May 06, 2015 from Mark GorkinIn a world where encounters with sources of aggression and violence, trauma and grief are all too common, understanding the dynamics of “critical incidents/hazardous events” – both for adults and/or children directly impacted and for those encountering second-hand effects – is vital. This ...
Views: 1511 - SUMMERTIME SADNESS and JOY - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2016 from joan pancoeTo view in your browser: http://joanpancoe.com/page-newsletter-details.php?nl=107 “The pain later is part of the happiness now.” From the movie Shadowlands Dear ONE, There’s no better time than a lazy summer’s day to meditate on the Buddhist “Eight Worldly Concerns” of which ...
Views: 1511(1 vote) - An Open Letter to My Daughter Gracelyn in the Era of Donald Trump - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2017 from Bruce MulkeyDear Gracelyn, Today I write this letter to you so that you might better understand the tumultuous transformation that’s currently underway in our nation. For while your mother Shonnie and I are doing our best during your childhood to shelter you from adult concerns, I’m guessing that you ...
Views: 1501(1 vote) - My Mother Died Yesterday - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2009 from Bill WhiteMy mother died yesterday. She was 85 years old. A ruptured 6+ centimeter aortic aneurysm took her life subsequent to breaking a hip during a fall at her assisted living facility two days ago. I might also add that my mother suffered a stroke two and a half years ago, and was diagnosed with ...
Views: 1501(1 vote) - How to Recognize and Grieve Your Secondary Losses - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2007 from Louis LaGrandHave you wondered why your grief seems to be going on longer than you thought it would? It could be that you have some unfinished business with the deceased, or you have some anger you have buried and don’t want to deal with. However, one of the most common causes for prolonged grief is the ...
Views: 1499 - The Truth About Antidepressants And Depression - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2013 from Dennis SimsekI recently read some rather depressing medical news – and that is that anti-depressants don’t work. What’s worse is that we have all been conned by the FDA and the pharmaceutical industry telling us how much they DO work. We all know what a common problem depression is in mental health care. ...
Views: 1495(1 vote) - “I Wasn't Just Grieving The Loss of My Father!” - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperShorty after I had got to the point where I could contain my emotions, the healer that I was working with said it would be a good idea for me to see if I could cry when I’m by myself. The reason for this was that I hadn’t been able to cry during the sessions that we had had. As even though ...
Views: 1495 - Beyond The Fear - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2008 from Colleen Hoffman SmithI have lost my beloved friend Mary-Lee Barker. She died Thanksgiving weekend and I have been experiencing the grief fully. My intense relationship with my emotional and spiritual self has guided me to the river of healing. Mary-Lee’s death has taken me to the death of a perception that lived in ...
Views: 1493 - Unexpected and Traumatic Death - What Do You Do? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2009 from Judy WrightEven though 10% or more of reported deaths are unexpected and traumatic, you are still blindsided when it happens to those you love and care about. It is not something that one ever plans on and so are not only grieving emotionally, but have no idea on what to do in order to handle the ...
Views: 1492(2 votes) - How to Help Those Who Grieve - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Mary ZemitesWhat can I do for someone who is grieving? Is there really anyway a "bystander" can help? Sometimes watching a person suffer the pain of loss is almost unbearable. Often in life it is easier to accept our own suffering that it is to accept the anguish of someone we deeply care about. The ...
Views: 1489(1 vote) - Memorial Stories and Poems - "At the Crossroads of Life and Death" - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2014 from Ken MatthiesFor my Aunt Helen Jantzen, at your Crossroads of Life and Death You Have ....... You have walked life’s road, lo, these many years together in body and heart; You have shared the dreams, the joys and the tears of two lives that now must part. You have been called to that test we ...
Views: 1489 - Suicidal: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Feel Suicidal? - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain things that people talk openly about in today’s world that wouldn’t have been spoken about openly in the past and what is being spoken about can define whether progress is being made. However, there are many things that people talk about that show how far humanity has come. ...
Views: 1489 - Why I Chose Animals - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Lisa ShawI suppose my mother had something to do with me loving animals. From the time I was five, she was bringing home creatures small enough to go undetected in our Brooklyn apartment: turtles, tortoises, and a half-moon parrot with whom I bonded so deeply that the memories of having to give him up (I ...
Views: 1485(2 votes) - Some Things To Remember For The Newly Widowed - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraAfter a that time you buried your beloved husband, you will be called now as newly widowed. But faith will tell you that you would get through it. And here are the 8 things you have to bear in mind not to forget: 1. Do not forget to take good care of yourself-- wash your face, comb your hair, ...
Views: 1479 - The Top Ten Things to Know About Grief - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2007 from Louis LaGrandGrief is an integral part of life and living. Everyone grieves, although not everyone mourns. That is, not everyone goes public with their grief. They have been taught to keep it to themselves because it is much too personal. Consequently, silent or suppressed grief tends to perpetuate many ...
Views: 1479 - Passing On: A Time of Lessons and Blessings - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Jelaila StarrThe ancients have said that this time we are in now would be one of great pain and suffering. One only has to turn on the TV or read the newspaper to know that we are seeing the fulfillment of their words. In the midst of such pain it is easy to loose sight of the goal. As the higher perspective ...
Views: 1478 - Can Grief Be Brief? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2008 from Ursula WeideDr. Weide has been a Licensed Psychologist and Licensed Professional Counselor in private practice in the Washington, D.C. area for twenty years. Dr. Weide is also a Certified Thanatologist (by the Association for Death Education and Counseling), specializing in grief, bereavement and ...
Views: 1470 - Strength of the Circle - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Karel MurrayStrength Of The Circle By Karel Murray My breath exploded from my chest when I listened to my husband’s voice telling me of the sudden death of his oldest brother, Chris. There is just no other way to explain it. First I was breathing normally, enjoying the drive down a four lane highway ...
Views: 1467 - Book Review: On Grief and Grieving - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2008 from Douglas PakThis book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Grief and Bereavement. The death of a loved one is one of the most difficult emotional experiences a person can undergo. The process of Grief and Bereavement helps us honor the dead while moving forward with our own lives. Sandy ...
Views: 1463 - When Does Touch Become Critical? - by Submitted on May 06, 2008 from Elaine WilliamsElaine Williams ©2008 When does it become critical that you be touched with love or affection? Does something happen to those of us out of relationships for extended periods of time due to divorce, loss of a spouse or physical separation? Speaking for myself, as a widow of four years, some ...
Views: 1462 - What is that Black Cat with Wings? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2011 from Lisa ShawI am currently enrolled in a 16 hour Hospice volunteer training program with the intent to serve as a Reiki and pet therapy volunteer. The first six hours of training consisted of five units covering the dying process, volunteer parameters, caregiver roles, special populations, and legal and ...
Views: 1461 - Releasing Grief - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2011 from Adam BenedettoWhen we are faced with the moment of losing something, whether it is a job, a loved one, or a way of being, it can act as a catalyst of reversion, leading us on a path away from ourselves. It is almost as if in order to deal with it we must lose ourselves as well. To be present is harder than ...
Views: 1458(2 votes) - The Art of Living in the Present - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2018 from Carmen HarraAfter my husband passed, a whirl of past and future danced in my mind. The sad movie of every memory we shared played endlessly: there he was on the night we met, the wildly handsome young man with a heavy mustache. Then we were waltzing on the dance floor of the restaurant he owned, stepping ...
Views: 1458 - Grieving a Child - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2009 from Maurice TurmelLosing a child is one of life's biggest tragedies. All that promise, all those hopes, all those possibilities for a bright and successful future disappear in an instant. Whether you've lost a young child or a young adult child, the feeling of loss cuts deep. We are simply not programmed to ...
Views: 1455 - How to deal with the loss of a loved one through death. - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Connie Huebner,Question: Could you say something about losing a loved one through death? Divine Mother: Yes, this is the ultimate in letting go in the relative life. If you can let go and soften into the Wholeness, you meet your loved one. If you try to hold on because they are no longer physical, then ...
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