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- Virtue, Honor, Integrity & Courage - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2010 from Andrea ChapmanThose words define my daughter. I did not think so at one time. But as time has passed, I have come to admire her for her wisdom, and her sacrifice. Sometimes, our judgments prevent us from seeing the good in others. And they are judgments based on our own experiences, our own failures, and what ...
Views: 2741 - Your Spouse's Infidelity Revealed: Getting Over The Shock and Getting To Recovery: Part 2Submitted on May 18, 2009 from Peggy FergusonMarital infidelity can be revealed in a whole host of different ways. Regardless of how the infidelity is revealed, the revelation of the infidelity creates a crisis within the marital relationship and within the faithful spouse. The shock of discovering the infidelity leads to compulsive ...
Views: 2736 - Praying For Those Who Have Wronged You in the Past - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2009 from Kathleen HoweHaving had a very difficult past wrought in domestic violence and relationship dysfunction it occurred to me recently that it would be better to forgive those who wronged me in the past than to hang on to the negative energy I held within me through horrible memories and unresolved feelings and ...
Views: 2722(1 vote) - Dissolve Emotional Pain - Make it a Gift - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2009 from Cindy L. HerbHow many of you have trouble forgetting emotional pain? Perhaps you were upset with another or even, with yourself, for events that occurred in your life that were tragic. It is often hard to release the destructive emotions caused by others. There is a way to achieve freedom and change your ...
Views: 2719(2 votes) - Divorce Help for Men – Struggling to Deal with Post-Divorce Life - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2010 from Kyle MorrisonAre you struggling to get through the day because of the emotional strain and pressure that post divorce has enforced upon your life? If you are then you’re not the only as there are literally thousands of men all over the world battling the same problem as well. The reason for why there are so ...
Views: 2708 - Everyday Forgiveness…a simple way to clean the plaque of your soul - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2010 from Belinda FarrellForgiveness is confusing. Ask anyone and you get a different answer. Some people feel they have to forgive their perpetrator. “I’m not about to forgive the SOB that raped me when I was 12 yrs old and destroyed my life,” says Claire. But she hasn’t moved forward with her life since then. The ...
Views: 2701 - How Not to Fight: Myths about Fighting In Relationships (And What to Do about Them) - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2012 from Tina TessinaIn my counseling practice, couples are often surprised to learn they can communicate and solve problems effectively without fighting; but sometimes you may find it’s not so easy to give up your struggles. You may have trouble letting go of the fighting habit because of two factors: social ...
Views: 2680(2 votes) - 4 Signs Your Boyfriend is Going to Dump You - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2011 from Mika MaddelaAre you concerned that your boyfriend is falling out of love with you? Your relationship possibly has deteriorated fast and you're not certain how your relationship has gotten this terrible. Keep reading if you're interested in the top four signs he wants to break up with you. Signs He's ...
Views: 2677(1 vote) - Coping Advice for Men – Phases of Divorce and How to Deal with Them - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Kyle Morrison“Life is not a difficult thing” – at least that’s how men want to appear in front of other people. As men, we want to show the world that no matter how difficult complicated, or painful a situation can be, we will always be able to deal with it easily and come out fine in the end. Well, ...
Views: 2674 - Self Forgiveness - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2013 from Heather Fraser -Forgiveness is the only path that leads us out of hell. Forgiveness is letting go. It is surrendering. It is giving up the need to be right. It is finally admitting to yourself that you are open and willing to live your life another way. That way is through the door of forgiveness. If you ...
Views: 2672(4 votes) - Dr. Romance Video: Repairing a Dysfunctional Mother/Daughter Relationship - by Submitted on May 28, 2012 from Tina Tessina(Watch the video here: http://youtu.be/1Fp55ZFayeU) When you hit your teens you and your mom had a bad time, and you still are. Maybe she's not the mother you always wanted, but she's yours. How do you bury the hatchet and repair your connection? This will also be helpful for moms trying to ...
Views: 2670 - I Need Her Back: Five suggestions to Repair Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2011 from Matthew JohnsonEven if you divert your attention to other exciting activities, you still feel the emptiness as the sun sets in the west. You don’t feel it when your hands are quite full in the office, when you’re hanging out with your friends or when you’re watching soccer on TV. But when you’re about to ...
Views: 2666 - The Power of Forgiveness - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2009 from Laura AllanForgiveness is a topic that has come up quite a bit lately not only in my practice, but in my personal life. Many people have the mistaken idea that if you forgive someone you say what they did that hurt you was okay. Forgiveness really is about letting go of the negative energy you have ...
Views: 2665(8 votes) - ***Upsiding The Downturn - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2008 from Colin TippingBy any standards, we look to be in a bit of economic mess right now and in many ways the future looks bleak and uncertain. If you are in danger of losing your home or your job, you know this only too well. If you are in a predicament like this, I don't doubt that you are feeling fearful, angry ...
Views: 2658(1 vote) - Is It Possible To Salvage Your Marriage After Infidelity Has Occurred? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2010 from George FellowsThe emotional wreckage that comes after the discovery of an affair, makes it tough for couples to work towards rebuilding their marriage after infidelity has occurred.However your marriage after an affair can also become a relationship that is stronger and more loving than it was before. Read on ...
Views: 2658(3 votes) - Time Heals All Wounds - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2012 from Womens Recreation, Inc.When you are going through a rough time the last thing you think about is the light at the end of the tunnel. Regardless of what the situation is, you are drowning in it. Your emotions are running rapid and you can’t quite get a grip on things. You have tunnel vision at this point and the ...
Views: 2655(2 votes) - To Forgive, Correct the Fundamental Attribution Error - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsWillingness to forgive is dependent on our explanatory or attributional style, on why we think people do what they do. People are scientists by nature: when we observe an event, we attempt to make sense of it. Making sense of the world is adaptive, necessary for survival. The more we understand ...
Views: 2651(3 votes) - Heal The Past......Heal The Present - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Adele Tartaglia INSTANT SUBCONSCIOUS REPROGRAMMING The Life Management Center 480/220-2089 eztherapy@gmail.comPart II What Can Past Life Regression Do for Us? The emotional reactions associated with past life events which are most often seen in therapy, involve emotional residues of the fear based emotions such as anger, resentment, revenge, fear, guilt, remorse; and distortions of love manifesting ...
Views: 2637(1 vote) - Forgiveness – Why should I forgive? - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Tracey BurchardAs kids, we generally learn that forgiveness is just a word that you say. When you forgive, it’s like letting the other person off the hook. They say they’re sorry and you hug and make up. But what does that really do? Do we feel differently? Does that make the hurt go away? Generally ...
Views: 2623 - My Ex Boyfriend Broke Up With Me - How Do I Get Him Back To Reconcile? Answer - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2016 from Joan RiversMy Ex Boyfriend Broke Up With Me, How Do I Get Him Back To Reconcile?; If you are asking this question, he broke up with me, how do I get him back?, here is an answer that might help you. After a breakup, getting back together, is not always easy and not always possible to be truthful. It ...
Views: 2614 - Dear Dr. Romance: I walked away when she needed me most - by Submitted on Apr 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: I am a young man whose life has fallen apart because of the girl I love so much. I slept with her but then she betrayed me by telling every body she saw and I felt so bad and walked away from her when she needed me the most. I could count all the tears that run out of ...
Views: 2592(1 vote) - Weird But Effective Ideas To Get Your Ex Back - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2011 from Mika MaddelaI'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time right now if you've been dumped recently. Breakups are never pleasurable. On the other hand, if you want to save your relationship, here are a few innovative ideas to get your ex back that might be a bit unusual. 1 - Get Back at ...
Views: 2589(1 vote) - The Test of Three Rs - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Sam VakninAcquired Situational Narcissism can be induced in adulthood by celebrity, wealth, and fame. But, it may also occur in a variety of other situations. Codependents, aiming to fend off gnawing abandonment anxiety, can resort to and evolve narcissistic and even psychopathic behaviours and traits in ...
Views: 2583 - It May Be Time To Finish Unfinished Business - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2014 from Moreen DuFermontIt May Be Time To Finish Unfinished Business Embracing a Psycho-Spiritual path in order to release past wounding is the overarching premise of this article. I say that “It May Be Time” with all due respect because I don’t know where you are on your own sacred journey. Those of you who are ...
Views: 2575 - My Girlfriend Left Me! My Heart Was Shattered And I Woke Up - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2012 from Robert LeesI had been going out with my girlfriend for about three and a half years. We were in a serious relationship and both still quite young, I got home one day from work one day and she had left me. Honestly guys, she had organized a truck to turn up in the morning, chucked her stuff on it and moved ...
Views: 2569(1 vote) - How Do You Show Neighborly Love? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2011 from Dr. Shirley Cheng, Blind Author with VisionIn a small town lived a young Christian woman named Erin who whole-heartedly followed the Bible's commandment, "You shall love your neighbor as yourself." (Leviticus 19:18, WEB) Whenever her neighbors were in trouble, they could always count on her for support, be it emotional, spiritual, or ...
Views: 2568(2 votes) - Can You Walk the Six Steps for Your Marriage Counseling Journey? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2009 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamThe Six Steps of ‘Save Your Relationship’ Marriage Counseling Guide Six steps of my Marriage Counseling processes are reviewed; the various qualities of being a marriage counselor, a psychologist, a life coach and a relationship advice provider are outlined. Step # 1: I ask to speak loud ...
Views: 2563(1 vote) - How to do Slow-Motion Forgiveness; Self-forgiveness 101, the Missing Manual - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Bruce DicksonSlow-Motion Forgiveness ~ Duplication Encouraged Also posted on NVC site HERE: https://www.cnvc.org/blog/2012/11/12/slow-motion-forgivenessservice-mark-nvcers-duplication-encouraged Self-forgiveness 101, the Missing Manual Slow-Motion Forgiveness HealingToolbox.org, Best Practices in ...
Views: 2557(10 votes) - Can a Couple Make Their Relationship Work? - by Submitted on May 07, 2010 from Andrew HunterA couple in a relationship are always both contributing to making the relationship thrive and flourish. If done properly, it won't even seem like work, but the most critical thing to keep in mind is that relationships grow and thrive only when both parties are involved. The responsibility for ...
Views: 2545(4 votes) - Dear Dr. Romance: I can't forgive my girlfriend for cheating on me - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Just over one year ago, my girlfriend cheated on me. It wasn't the standard 'met a guy, went to his place' kind of thing, she did it via the internet. He had her cell number but she swears they never talked (though she admits he left voicemails). Everything seemed fine with ...
Views: 2544(1 vote) - Coping with Betrayal - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2012 from Linney ElderBy Linney Elder The subject of betrayal seems to pop up all around me with people in various relationships. I got to thinking about the nature of betrayal. What is it really? In fact, is it real at all? What is real? I think it’s a choice of which doors to open and a choice of which doors ...
Views: 2543(1 vote) - How to Heal a Rift with an Adult Child - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2013 from Tina TessinaFrequently I help my clients work through problems with their grown children. Sometimes, an offspring is angry about something, and the parent is at a loss for what is wrong or what to do about it. These struggles often have their seeds in things that happened long ago, when the child was young. ...
Views: 2538(3 votes) - Cheating Partners – How to Decide if You Should Stay or Leave Your Cheating Spouse - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2011 from Lisa Penn-JamesChoosing between staying with cheating partners or calling a divorce lawyer – is one of the first dilemmas in the tortured and suffering mind of the betrayed spouse. You don’t know what to do and dozens of different reasons for both directions – flood your head all together. Here you will ...
Views: 2530 - Forgiving, Forgetting, and Boundary Setting - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2009 from Dr. Lisa Love - Best Selling Author - Attract & Keep Real Love, Law of Attraction, Soul SuccessIs it really possible, or practical, to forgive and forget if someone is only going to repeat abusive and harmful behaviors? It is, but it requires a little more clarity on the entire process of boundary setting in conjunction with forgiveness. In the past several years I have become even ...
Views: 2517(2 votes) - Rebuilding Trust - Part II - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2012 from Darlene LancerSatisfying relationships are built on a foundation of safety and trust that you won’t be hurt physically or emotionally. Whether you trust too little or too much is influenced by your past, but once trust is broken, your sense of safety is in jeopardy. You feel insecure and may begin to question ...
Views: 2512(2 votes) - How to Forgive Someone: Lessons from the Heart Chakra - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2017 from Mindvalley AcademyHave you cut ties with someone that was once close to you? Would you like to give up the negative feelings you harbor for a person who has wronged you? Do you wish you could get over being hurt? When we experience pain, whether it’s rejection from a romantic partner, an explosive fight with a ...
Views: 2503 - Dear Dr. Romance: I need to forgive myself. - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2013 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance, I need to forgive myself for continuing in the care of a dentist whom I had lost confidence in and didn't trust anymore. He put a crown in and messed up my bite so now I bite and scratch my cheeks. I have had anxiety and a brief hospital stay over this. I ...
Views: 2485 - Make Your Ex Want You Back - The Secrets - by Submitted on May 22, 2012 from Josh TuttleEverything is different now and all that is on your mind is how to make your ex want you back. The real difficulty is what can you give your ex now that you were unable to provide before the breakup? In order to make your ex want you back, something or many things must change. Being miserable ...
Views: 2482 - Grieving The Living - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2012 from Sarah RuizIt happened one bitterly cold night in January 2011. It was sudden and violent. It took our family by surprise as most tragedies do. We all vacillated between denial and shock. I cried out in anger and in sadness. I begged God to give me back those few minutes before it happened. I would ...
Views: 2481(1 vote) - ***Why We Must Forgive Our Parents - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2008 from Colin TippingFew people going through a messy divorce in mid-life would blame their own parents for their predicament. Neither would a business owner betrayed by a trusted partner normally think in those terms. A person who loses his job every five years would also not say that his grandfather was to blame. ...
Views: 2480(1 vote) - A MESSAGE TO GARCIA by Elbert Hubbard, 1899 - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2011 from Michael HarrisIn all the Cuban business there is one man who stands out on the horizon of my memory like the north star at midnight. When war broke out between Spain and the United States, it was very necessary to communicate quickly with the leader of the rebels. Garcia was somewhere in the mountain ...
Views: 2471 - Grief CPR Series - Letting Go! - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2010 from Sandy BrosamGrief CPR Series Things we need to know BEFORE emotional disaster strikes! Emotion = Energy in Motion Letting go! I am often asked "How do I let go?" or "How did you let go?" That is such a tough answer. What I learned in 30 years of grieving is this: To truly let go, those arms have ...
Views: 2466(4 votes) - Saving a Relationship can be as Easy as 1-2-3! - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2010 from Andrew HunterTo begin, let's realize that adult relationships are intricate in nature. No two relationships are the same, and thus they cannot be treated as if they are: everyone is different, taking different approaches to the same set of circumstances. Because all relationships are unique, there can't be a ...
Views: 2466(2 votes) - "I Want Him to Pay a Price for What He Did - Yes: I want REVENGE!" - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2013 from Sam VakninThe need to seek revenge on wrong- and evil-doers is as ancient as Mankind. But people attempt to address their grievances in three ways: 1. Punitive-moralistic The aim of this type of vengeance is to restore justice and, with it, the victim’s view of the world as orderly, predictable, ...
Views: 2445 - Guilt Trips and Divorce - How to Handle Religious Issues, Family and Friends - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Dr. D. Ivan YoungHandling intrusive family members, prying friends and nosey parishioners while going through a breakup is never easy. It’s tough enough coming to grips with the fact your relationship is over. Throw in the frustrations, disappointments, stress and anger, plus, dealing with guilt as you ...
Views: 2444 - 5 Reasons Your Relationship Doesn't Work - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Erin HeavenRelationships are never cut and dry. There are so many varied dynamics at work. Not only do you have to consider the different interests, temperaments, and personalities involved, but there is also an energetic component that most people aren't ever aware of. We are essentially a collection of ...
Views: 2427(1 vote) - Sibling Rivalry: An Older Child’s Confession - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2011 from Lorri GiffordMy reign of being an only child ended abruptly at the age of five. Initially I was excited at the thought of a new brother or sister. After all, my twin cousins had each other and an older brother. In my mind, they always had someone to play with. I always had fun when I played with them and the ...
Views: 2423(1 vote) - Forgiveness Affirmation - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2010 from Michelle MayurOne of the most powerful gifts we can give ourselves is to forgive, both ourselves and others. In forgiving we are not condoning the behaviour of the person we perceive as having wronged us, but rather we are allowing ourselves to break the hold that person has on our lives. Feeling anger ...
Views: 2421 - Getting Over Infidelity in Marriages: Why Having an Affair Is Not the End - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Nea Joy JusticeInfidelity in marriages is one of the worst forms of betrayal. Sadly, couples often can’t figure out the difficult task of getting over infidelity, thus it is one of the leading reasons for divorce all over the world. Let’s take a look at why infidelity surviving seems so impossible. ...
Views: 2406(1 vote) - Waking from the Dream & Reclaiming Our Spiritual Identity - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from David Ott“Yet the Bible says that a deep sleep fell upon Adam, And nowhere is there reference to his waking up.” (ACIM T.C2.I.3.6) Older Souls An older soul, who understands the real purpose of our time here is to awaken or reclaim our Spiritual Identity as soon as possible, will often choose ...
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