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Those words define my daughter. I did not think so at one time. But as time has passed, I have come to admire her for her wisdom, and her sacrifice. Sometimes, our judgments prevent us from seeing the good in others. And they are judgments based on our own experiences, our own failures, and what ... Views: 2740
Marital infidelity can be revealed in a whole host of different ways. Regardless of how the infidelity is revealed, the revelation of the infidelity creates a crisis within the marital relationship and within the faithful spouse. The shock of discovering the infidelity leads to compulsive ... Views: 2735
Having had a very difficult past wrought in domestic violence and relationship dysfunction it occurred to me recently that it would be better to forgive those who wronged me in the past than to hang on to the negative energy I held within me through horrible memories and unresolved feelings and ... Views: 2721
How many of you have trouble forgetting emotional pain? Perhaps you were upset with another or even, with yourself, for events that occurred in your life that were tragic. It is often hard to release the destructive emotions caused by others. There is a way to achieve freedom and change your ... Views: 2717
Are you struggling to get through the day because of the emotional strain and pressure that post divorce has enforced upon your life? If you are then you’re not the only as there are literally thousands of men all over the world battling the same problem as well. The reason for why there are so ... Views: 2707
Forgiveness is confusing. Ask anyone and you get a different answer. Some people feel they have to forgive their perpetrator. “I’m not about to forgive the SOB that raped me when I was 12 yrs old and destroyed my life,” says Claire. But she hasn’t moved forward with her life since then. The ... Views: 2700
In my counseling practice, couples are often surprised to learn they can communicate and solve problems effectively without fighting; but sometimes you may find it’s not so easy to give up your struggles. You may have trouble letting go of the fighting habit because of two factors: social ... Views: 2679
Are you concerned that your boyfriend is falling out of love with you? Your relationship possibly has deteriorated fast and you're not certain how your relationship has gotten this terrible. Keep reading if you're interested in the top four signs he wants to break up with you.
Signs He's ... Views: 2677
“Life is not a difficult thing” – at least that’s how men want to appear in front of other people. As men, we want to show the world that no matter how difficult complicated, or painful a situation can be, we will always be able to deal with it easily and come out fine in the end. Well, ... Views: 2672
Forgiveness is the only path that leads us out of hell. Forgiveness is letting go. It is surrendering. It is giving up the need to be right. It is finally admitting to yourself that you are open and willing to live your life another way. That way is through the door of forgiveness. If you ... Views: 2671
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When you hit your teens you and your mom had a bad time, and you still are. Maybe she's not the mother you always wanted, but she's yours. How do you bury the hatchet and repair your connection? This will also be helpful for moms trying to ... Views: 2669
Even if you divert your attention to other exciting activities, you still feel the emptiness as the sun sets in the west. You don’t feel it when your hands are quite full in the office, when you’re hanging out with your friends or when you’re watching soccer on TV. But when you’re about to ... Views: 2666
Forgiveness is a topic that has come up quite a bit lately not only in my practice, but in my personal life. Many people have the mistaken idea that if you forgive someone you say what they did that hurt you was okay. Forgiveness really is about letting go of the negative energy you have ... Views: 2664
By any standards, we look to be in a bit of economic mess right now and in many ways the future looks bleak and uncertain. If you are in danger of losing your home or your job, you know this only too well. If you are in a predicament like this, I don't doubt that you are feeling fearful, angry ... Views: 2657
The emotional wreckage that comes after the discovery of an affair, makes it tough for couples to work towards rebuilding their marriage after infidelity has occurred.However your marriage after an affair can also become a relationship that is stronger and more loving than it was before. Read on ... Views: 2657
When you are going through a rough time the last thing you think about is the light at the end of the tunnel. Regardless of what the situation is, you are drowning in it. Your emotions are running rapid and you can’t quite get a grip on things. You have tunnel vision at this point and the ... Views: 2653
Willingness to forgive is dependent on our explanatory or attributional style, on why we think people do what they do. People are scientists by nature: when we observe an event, we attempt to make sense of it. Making sense of the world is adaptive, necessary for survival. The more we understand ... Views: 2651
Part II What Can Past Life Regression Do for Us?
The emotional reactions associated with past life events which are most often seen in therapy, involve emotional residues of the fear based emotions such as anger, resentment, revenge, fear, guilt, remorse; and distortions of love manifesting ... Views: 2637
As kids, we generally learn that forgiveness is just a word that you say. When you forgive, it’s like letting the other person off the hook. They say they’re sorry and you hug and make up. But what does that really do? Do we feel differently? Does that make the hurt go away? Generally ... Views: 2622
My Ex Boyfriend Broke Up With Me, How Do I Get Him Back To Reconcile?; If you are asking this question, he broke up with me, how do I get him back?, here is an answer that might help you. After a breakup, getting back together, is not always easy and not always possible to be truthful.
It ... Views: 2613
Dear Dr. Romance:
I am a young man whose life has fallen apart because of the girl I love so much. I slept with her but then she betrayed me by telling every body she saw and I felt so bad and walked away from her when she needed me the most. I could count all the tears that run out of ... Views: 2592
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time right now if you've been dumped recently. Breakups are never pleasurable. On the other hand, if you want to save your relationship, here are a few innovative ideas to get your ex back that might be a bit unusual.
1 - Get Back at ... Views: 2589
Acquired Situational Narcissism can be induced in adulthood by celebrity, wealth, and fame. But, it may also occur in a variety of other situations. Codependents, aiming to fend off gnawing abandonment anxiety, can resort to and evolve narcissistic and even psychopathic behaviours and traits in ... Views: 2581
It May Be Time To Finish Unfinished Business
Embracing a Psycho-Spiritual path in order to release past wounding is the overarching premise of this article. I say that “It May Be Time” with all due respect because I don’t know where you are on your own sacred journey. Those of you who are ... Views: 2574
I had been going out with my girlfriend for about three and a half years. We were in a serious relationship and both still quite young, I got home one day from work one day and she had left me. Honestly guys, she had organized a truck to turn up in the morning, chucked her stuff on it and moved ... Views: 2568
In a small town lived a young Christian woman named Erin who whole-heartedly followed the Bible's commandment, "You shall love your neighbor as yourself." (Leviticus 19:18, WEB) Whenever her neighbors were in trouble, they could always count on her for support, be it emotional, spiritual, or ... Views: 2567
The Six Steps of ‘Save Your Relationship’ Marriage Counseling Guide
Six steps of my Marriage Counseling processes are reviewed; the various qualities of being a marriage counselor, a psychologist, a life coach and a relationship advice provider are outlined.
Step # 1: I ask to speak loud ... Views: 2561
Slow-Motion Forgiveness ~ Duplication Encouraged
Also posted on NVC site HERE: https://www.cnvc.org/blog/2012/11/12/slow-motion-forgivenessservice-mark-nvcers-duplication-encouraged
Self-forgiveness 101, the Missing Manual
Slow-Motion Forgiveness
HealingToolbox.org, Best Practices in ... Views: 2556
A couple in a relationship are always both contributing to making the relationship thrive and flourish. If done properly, it won't even seem like work, but the most critical thing to keep in mind is that relationships grow and thrive only when both parties are involved. The responsibility for ... Views: 2543
Dear Dr. Romance:
Just over one year ago, my girlfriend cheated on me. It wasn't the standard 'met a guy, went to his place' kind of thing, she did it via the internet. He had her cell number but she swears they never talked (though she admits he left voicemails). Everything seemed fine with ... Views: 2543
By Linney Elder
The subject of betrayal seems to pop up all around me with people in various relationships. I got to thinking about the nature of betrayal. What is it really? In fact, is it real at all? What is real?
I think it’s a choice of which doors to open and a choice of which doors ... Views: 2541
Frequently I help my clients work through problems with their grown children. Sometimes, an offspring is angry about something, and the parent is at a loss for what is wrong or what to do about it. These struggles often have their seeds in things that happened long ago, when the child was young. ... Views: 2536
Choosing between staying with cheating partners or calling a divorce lawyer – is one of the first dilemmas in the tortured and suffering mind of the betrayed spouse. You don’t know what to do and dozens of different reasons for both directions – flood your head all together. Here you will ... Views: 2529
Is it really possible, or practical, to forgive and forget if someone is only going to repeat abusive and harmful behaviors? It is, but it requires a little more clarity on the entire process of boundary setting in conjunction with forgiveness.
In the past several years I have become even ... Views: 2516
Satisfying relationships are built on a foundation of safety and trust that you won’t be hurt physically or emotionally. Whether you trust too little or too much is influenced by your past, but once trust is broken, your sense of safety is in jeopardy. You feel insecure and may begin to question ... Views: 2511
Have you cut ties with someone that was once close to you? Would you like to give up the negative feelings you harbor for a person who has wronged you? Do you wish you could get over being hurt?
When we experience pain, whether it’s rejection from a romantic partner, an explosive fight with a ... Views: 2502
Dear Dr. Romance,
I need to forgive myself for continuing in the care of a dentist whom I had lost confidence in and didn't trust anymore. He put a crown in and messed up my bite so now I bite and scratch my cheeks. I have had anxiety and a brief hospital stay over this. I ... Views: 2483
Everything is different now and all that is on your mind is how to make your ex want you back. The real difficulty is what can you give your ex now that you were unable to provide before the breakup? In order to make your ex want you back, something or many things must change. Being miserable ... Views: 2481
Few people going through a messy divorce in mid-life would blame their own parents for their predicament. Neither would a business owner betrayed by a trusted partner normally think in those terms. A person who loses his job every five years would also not say that his grandfather was to blame. ... Views: 2479
It happened one bitterly cold night in January 2011. It was sudden and violent. It took our family by surprise as most tragedies do. We all vacillated between denial and shock. I cried out in anger and in sadness. I begged God to give me back those few minutes before it happened. I would ... Views: 2479
In all the Cuban business there is one man who stands out on the horizon of my memory like the north star at midnight.
When war broke out between Spain and the United States, it was very necessary to communicate quickly with the leader of the rebels. Garcia was somewhere in the mountain ... Views: 2469
Grief CPR Series
Things we need to know BEFORE emotional disaster strikes!
Emotion = Energy in Motion
Letting go!
I am often asked "How do I let go?" or "How did you let go?" That is such a tough answer. What I learned in 30 years of grieving is this: To truly let go, those arms have ... Views: 2465
To begin, let's realize that adult relationships are intricate in nature. No two relationships are the same, and thus they cannot be treated as if they are: everyone is different, taking different approaches to the same set of circumstances. Because all relationships are unique, there can't be a ... Views: 2465
The need to seek revenge on wrong- and evil-doers is as ancient as Mankind. But people attempt to address their grievances in three ways:
1. Punitive-moralistic
The aim of this type of vengeance is to restore justice and, with it, the victim’s view of the world as orderly, predictable, ... Views: 2443
Handling intrusive family members, prying friends and nosey parishioners while going through a breakup is never easy. It’s tough enough coming to grips with the fact your relationship is over. Throw in the frustrations, disappointments, stress and anger, plus, dealing with guilt as you ... Views: 2443
Relationships are never cut and dry. There are so many varied dynamics at work. Not only do you have to consider the different interests, temperaments, and personalities involved, but there is also an energetic component that most people aren't ever aware of. We are essentially a collection of ... Views: 2425
My reign of being an only child ended abruptly at the age of five. Initially I was excited at the thought of a new brother or sister. After all, my twin cousins had each other and an older brother. In my mind, they always had someone to play with. I always had fun when I played with them and the ... Views: 2423
One of the most powerful gifts we can give ourselves is to forgive, both ourselves and others. In forgiving we are not condoning the behaviour of the person we perceive as having wronged us, but rather we are allowing ourselves to break the hold that person has on our lives. Feeling anger ... Views: 2419
Infidelity in marriages is one of the worst forms of betrayal. Sadly, couples often can’t figure out the difficult task of getting over infidelity, thus it is one of the leading reasons for divorce all over the world.
Let’s take a look at why infidelity surviving seems so impossible. ... Views: 2405
“Yet the Bible says that a deep sleep fell upon Adam,
And nowhere is there reference to his waking up.”
(ACIM T.C2.I.3.6)
Older Souls
An older soul, who understands the real purpose of our time here is to awaken or reclaim our Spiritual Identity as soon as possible, will often choose ... Views: 2404