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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Abuse: Is Grieving Unmet Childhood Needs An Important Part Of Ending The Cycle Of Abuse? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is abused during their childhood years, they can end up doing the same thing and abusing others or they can put an end to the abuse. And based on how much pain one would have experienced when they were abused, it is often hard for people to understand why they would end up doing to ...
Views: 2208 - Body-Shaming: Why Do Some People Who Exercise Shame People Who Don't? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, a gym membership was not something that many people had, and while this was partly because of the cost, it was also due to the fact that there wasn’t as much pressure on people to exercise. This is not to say that people have only recently been encouraged to exercise; what it comes ...
Views: 2207 - The Demise of Empathy at Home and in the Family and the Role of Technology - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2012 from Sam VakninEmpathy is on a precipitous decline in the family and home environments. Technology is partly to blame, but so are other social and economic trends. On June 9, 2005 the BBC reported about an unusual project underway in Sheffield (in the United Kingdom). The daily movements and ...
Views: 2207 - Relationships: Do Some People like Being Controlled? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the common challenges in relationships and a challenge that has existed throughout time is that of control. This can be something that is fairly subtle and anything but overwhelming. And then it can be so extreme, that one’s whole life is taken over by another person’s control. So ...
Views: 2199 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abused Children Idealise Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there is no such thing as a perfect childhood, that doesn’t mean that everyone is treated in the same way. There are going to be some people who were treated well on most occasions and there are going to be others who had the opposite experience. In this case, one would have been ...
Views: 2196(1 vote) - Depression: Can Repression Cause Depression? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, depression has become a word that carries enormous weight; either for people who have it or for people who hear about it. It could also be described as a modern day taboo, with people often wanting to avoid the whole thing. However, what is clear is that depression is not ...
Views: 2190 - Your Board of Directors - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2010 from Zoe RouthSo the poop has hit the twirly thing and you're feeling kind of narked about life and all. Who do you turn to for advice? Better question, who is worth turning to for advice? If you've got a sage and sober wizened old soul in to ring up, then kudos to you. Maybe you've got a wise old dad ...
Views: 2186(4 votes) - Instant Gratification: Our Centuries' Achilles' Heel - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2012 from Richard AkhmerovThroughout the ages our population has survived a number of wildly different epidemics. From smallpox to cholera, an epidemic of various infectious diseases on this human planet is nothing new. But an epidemic can also happen in a variety of forms, it doesn't just have to be a deadly disease. ...
Views: 2175 - Needs: Why Do Some People Always Put Other People's Needs Before Their Own? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of being human and this means that they can’t be overlooked or denied without certain consequences arising. This doesn’t mean that one will always have their needs met; this is not going to be possible. But if one’s life has taken on a pattern where their needs are ...
Views: 2168 - Self-Talk: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Have Negative Self-Talk? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere is how one is spoken to by others, and then there is how one speaks to themselves. And what is taking place internally can often be known through what is taking place externally. This means that how one allows other people to talk to them is often a reflection of how they talk to ...
Views: 2164 - Child Abuse: What Happens When A Child Is Invalidated? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to raising a child that is mentally and emotionally healthy and has a strong sense of self, it is imperative that they are validated. This is not to say that they have to be validated at all times in order to become a functional adult, but in most cases, it is vital that this ...
Views: 2159(2 votes) - Family: Are Family A Gift Or A Curse? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some families in the world that are filled with love and connection. These families’ work together, to support and assist each other and not because they have to; but because they want to. To them, family means much more than just a word or the DNA that may connect them to each ...
Views: 2158 - Ho'oponopono - Letting Go of Fear - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2010 from Mabel KatzOur reality includes all our programs, memories, beliefs, attachments, emotions, and expectations. These have been gathered through many years. We have been blind and deaf for eons of time. We are completely drugged, looking for love, approval and appreciation in the wrong places and from the ...
Views: 2156 - Relationships: Is It Important To Understand The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperQuestions such as: what does it take to keep a woman happy and what does it take to please a man, have been around for many years. And sometimes people come up with answers and sometimes people give up trying to find answers. The great psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud even pondered this question ...
Views: 2156 - Caution! Word's Don't Disappear into Thin Air! - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2009 from Azriel WinnettTry an experiment. Start a conversation on any topic with your spouse or best friend. After you've been talking together for a few minutes, interject with something along the lines of: "Hey, what are you talking about? You're a real idiot!" Next, hasten to explain to your partner that of ...
Views: 2151 - Abused Children: Why Do They Have Boundary Problems? - by Submitted on May 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis article has the description abused children and therefore gives the impression that it is going to be all about children. However, this will be about adults who were abused as children and as a result of this now have a real challenge with boundaries. When it comes to child abuse, there ...
Views: 2148 - Thoughts: Do Our Thoughts Create Our Feelings? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent times, people have become more aware of how powerful their thoughts are and while the power of one’s thoughts is nothing new, it was not something that was as well known in the past. And the reason more people are aware of the power of their thoughts is partly down to the internet. ...
Views: 2147 - Success: What Does It Mean To Be Successful? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe word success is widely used in today’s world and it is something that is sought after by many people. People from all backgrounds and walks of life are driven to attain success. And through the media and other means, we are constantly exposed to people who are successful in certain ...
Views: 2143 - Don’t Let Emotions Bully You – Reroute Them! - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2019 from Dr. Bradley NelsonMost of us were not taught how to understand or deal with our negative emotions appropriately. This may be because we just haven’t known that our feelings have a purpose, or that we can exert control over them. Old habits and lack of emotional skill may cause us to become overwhelmed by a ...
Views: 2142 - What to Do When You Run Out of Things to Say - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2013 from Eduard EzeanuSometimes in conversation, you’ll run out of things to say. This is especially true if you’re kind of shy or you’re not a very good conversationalist. At certain points, you just won’t know what to say next. But you can overcome this situation quickly enough. There are a few effective ...
Views: 2142 - Rejection: Why Do Some People Fear Rejection? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many fears that human beings can have and some of these are classed as real and parts of one’s ability to survive and others are seen as self made and have very little to do with ones survival. And the fear of rejection is often classed as a fear that is irrational and not based in ...
Views: 2140 - Defence Mechanism: Repression - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRepression, as I see it, is denying a situation of any expression or exposure, until it has gone from our awareness or rarely takes up too much of our attention. This can be brought about in two ways, which depend on the subjective severity of the experience. The first one is by the use of ...
Views: 2137 - A Weeping Man - by Submitted on May 29, 2007 from Steve RyalsPresident Harry Truman said that, "a weeping man is an abomination." Truman was president from the close of World War II into the early 50s. I saw this quote just the other day, and was reminded of my grandfather, Oren Ryals. Oren was my father's father, and when I was a boy I idolized him. He ...
Views: 2134 - How to Discover and Live your Life’s Purpose and Heart’s Desire - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2011 from Alfred HeathThe terms “life’s purpose” and “heart’s desire” are loaded ones to many people: most think of a singular calling and an overriding passion, the stuff of dreams, and to the pragmatists, pipedreams. For some, life seems not worth living without the hope of fulfilment through a career or an ...
Views: 2134(1 vote) - Man Up: Is Saying 'Man Up' Sexist? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there is far less pressure on men and women to conform to certain roles, and this has made it easier for them to be themselves. However, change doesn’t happen overnight, and while so much has been archived, there is still work to be done. In the past, men had to be ‘strong’ ...
Views: 2128 - The Media: Creating The Illusion Of Perfection - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAbusive behaviour can include all that makes one feel compromised, undermined and taken advantage of. It can be in the relationships one has with: friends, family, colleagues and in intimate relationships. The type of environment it is, or whether one is male or female, the race or the ...
Views: 2128 - Three Elements Of Trust - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2008 from Julie DonleyA key element in creating a team is establishing trust. Most people are familiar with environments where trust is absent where you cannot simply be yourself for fear of reprisal or ridicule. So instead, you shrink, hide your true self and create a façade, play the game and work the political ...
Views: 2127 - What unbearable conflict is your acid reflux trying to get you to solve? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2009 from Dr. Jeanette RaymondAchieving her goals was a bit too easy for Nadine Thirty-five year old writer and director Nadine got three clients as soon as she put the word out about her new venture as an acting coach. Her script for a TV show was accepted and she was hired to direct the production. She was amazed at ...
Views: 2127(2 votes) - People Pleasing: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Please Others? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is into self-development, they may have heard about how important it is for them to live their own life and not to please other people. As if they were to do what they can to please others, it is going to stop them from being able to fulfil their own needs. Therefore, instead of their ...
Views: 2126 - Are willing to risk your life? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2010 from Wayne KehlOn Remembrance Day and Veteran’s Day it is important for us all to reflect on the sacrifice and devotion to duty shown by so many of our brave men and women all over the world. But, what does the observation of past and present wars mean to you? November 11th is not about poppies, wreaths ...
Views: 2125(2 votes) - Healing: How Does Healing Work? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperMy current outlook to healing and processing is that, along with the individual's willingness to process their past, the other important element to releasing our patterns is to be assisted by someone who has achieved a certain level of presence. And that the processing (healing) technique alone ...
Views: 2125 - Closing Westgate Hall: The Psychological Consequences - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThe fact that the Westgate Hall in Canterbury is under threat, is not news to me. I have known this to be the case for over 6 months or more, and I will admit that I didn’t think much of it at first. So, you may be wondering at this point, what has made me finally take notice and reflect on the ...
Views: 2120 - How to Use Influence Principles For Personal Success - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2011 from Hal WechslerHow to Use Influence Principles For Personal Success And Win Big She was a ten-year old girl scout selling their annual stale cookies. Cut to the chase - she looked up at me and said, "Would you please make a $300 donation to the Girl Scouts of America?" If she were an adult salesperson ...
Views: 2113(3 votes) - 5 Ways to Develop More Charisma and Rapport with Clients - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2016 from Rachael MurpheyWhen small business proprietors build rapport with clients, they communicate easily and become highly influential. Customers will trust you and take your recommendations seriously. Charisma boosts your likability and helps create lasting friendly relationships with clients, which will add value ...
Views: 2112 - Emotional Eating: What Is Emotional Eating? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn Today’s world there is an intense focus on what we eat and on the importance of exercise. If one eats the right foods and eats them at the right time, along with the right amount of exercise; then one is likely to end up in physical shape. Now, for some this may work and for others this will ...
Views: 2104 - Has Someone Burst Your Bubble? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2009 from Christine SherborneWe all have dreams, particularly when we are young and vulnerable. Have you had the experience of telling someone about dreams that you have in your heart, only to have them shoot them down in flames? They tell you all the reasons why you will fail, or that it can’t be done and will never ...
Views: 2099(2 votes) - Child Abuse: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can have grown into an adult and therefore left their childhood behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have completely moved on from those early years. Ones childhood influences them in ways that are obvious and in ways that are more or less oblivious. It is a time that plays a ...
Views: 2097(1 vote) - Attraction: What Do People Find Attractive? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe definition of what it means to be attractive is not always the same for one person as it is for another. There are general things that are recognised as being attractive in women and attractive in a man. Science often comes up with what these qualities are. However, what is found to be ...
Views: 2093 - Motivated to Change - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2011 from Julie DonleyYou talk about how you want something different in your life – a new house, a better relationship with your spouse (or to find a spouse), get out of debt, or lose weight – but nothing changes. You find that you spend (waste) a lot of time talking about it, but not doing anything about it. How ...
Views: 2093(2 votes) - Entitlement Mentality: Is It Caused By A Lack Of Emotional Growth? - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many problems in today’s world and one problem is the much talked about entitlement mentality. And this is a mentality that is seen amongst people of all ages and backgrounds. Two people who have this mentality could be observed and what they believe they are entitled to may vary. ...
Views: 2090 - The secrets of success they don’t teach you at school - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2010 from Ralph BrownLife can be a slow and inarticulate teacher. Yet a few simple, proven ideas can give us all far more control over our lives. Researchers who observe people who succeed in business, study, sport and relationships are revealing some valuable information about the way top achievers think. For ...
Views: 2089(3 votes) - Agitation - 60 Critical Seconds - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2011 from Marnie SwedbergBlood rushes to your face, every hair stands on-end, and if you could scream, you would! You are being agitated. Maybe your spouse, child or boss just poured salt on a gaping wound, or possibly an enemy coup just cost you your family, home or health. In its every form, agitation incites an ...
Views: 2088(2 votes) - Responsibility: The Taboo Of Responsibility - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe title of this article might seem out of place and even slightly unnecessary. You might be wondering how a word of such meaning, can be used to describe something as normal as responsibility. There might also be the chance of your thoughts being along the same lines as what I am about to ...
Views: 2087 - Loss: Why Can Loss Hurt So Much? - by Submitted on May 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that can affect someone in many ways and as a result of many things. Some losses can simply be ignored and forgotten about and then there are others can are harder to forget. One can also lose something and never forget the loss; regardless of how much times goes by or what ...
Views: 2084(1 vote) - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear Being Alone? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can be by themselves, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they will feel lonely. To be on their own and away from others could be something that they enjoy; with one feeling energised by it. However, there are other people who can be by themselves and this makes them feel ...
Views: 2080(2 votes) - Hoarding: What Causes Hoarding? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is something that has surely been around for many, many years. In the very beginning of human evolution it was probably only food that was hoarded for those moments when it would be in short supply. However, in the modern day world, this can relate to just about everything on this ...
Views: 2076 - Do Not Fear! - by Submitted on May 04, 2010 from Wayne Kehl“Do not fear. Only believe. All things are possible to him who believes.” The above noted quote is for every human being on earth. Do you find yourself hesitating while on verge of making a decision or before doing something wonderful? Do you put things off because you are afraid to take a ...
Views: 2071 - How to Think Quickly And Why It makes You Happier - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2011 from Hal WechslerHow to Think Quickly And Why It Makes You Happier If you know this – you are one-in-two-million. What? If you are feeling depressed (discouraged, disheartened or distressed), you own a tool that works 100% of the time to extinguish the four Ds within 10-seconds. If you pay attention ...
Views: 2071(3 votes) - True Self: Why Is It Hard To Reveal Our True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRevealing who one is to others is not always easy and I believe that this can be due to two reasons. Firstly this can come about through not knowing who one is and secondly through the feeling that it is not safe for one to reveal who one is. Both of these reasons can be the result of ones ...
Views: 2071 - The Heart: Is It More Than A Muscle? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis article will look at the different aspects of the heart; this will include empathy, emotions and feelings. I will also explain my current understanding of what leads to an absence of empathy and an ability to feel. Inspiration I was also inspired to write this after seeing the Alfa ...
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