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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Control Freaks: Why Are Some People Control Freaks? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to describing someone who has the need to have complete control over every part of their life, the term control freak is often used. To experience a certain amount of control is not enough, the only thing that will do is having complete control of everything. And while control ...
Views: 2441 - Self-Esteem: Can Toxic Shame Cause Low Self-Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes across something that grows into the ground and has a big trunk, there is only going to be one word to describe what it is – and that is a tree. And the same can be said when it comes to describing other things on this planet. However, when it comes to how one sees themselves, ...
Views: 2440 - Emotional Regulation: What Happens When Someone Can't Regulate Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world there are all kinds of challenges that people are having to face. And some of these are relatively easy to handle, while others can seem to be more or less impossible to solve. These can range from global, societal and personal problems. In a way, they can all affect each ...
Views: 2439 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Say No? - by Submitted on May 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf it often sad that if one can’t say no, then their yes doesn’t mean anything. And while having the ability to say yes is clearly important, so is being able to say no. They both have their uses and this will often depend on the context that one is in. To say yes can become a habit and ...
Views: 2437 - Emotionally stuck: Does Society Keep People Emotionally Stuck? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years now it has been said that women grow up faster than men. And in some cases, they say that men are about ten years behind when it comes to emotional development. This is obviously not the case for all men, but there is often clear evidence to support this viewpoint. Now there ...
Views: 2437 - Depression: Can Living In An Oppressive Environment Cause Someone To Be Depressed? - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who have lived in the same environment for their whole life, there are others who have moved around. When one has moved around, they might not have stayed in the same place for very long. This could be a sign that one has a job that requires them to move around, ...
Views: 2427 - What Does Passive-Aggressive Mean? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2011 from Len SonePassive-aggressive means that you first do something passive and then you do something aggressive. In other words, first you do something you don’t want to do, then you do something hostile. Let me give you an easy example first. Your friend tells you to wash her dishes. If you wash the ...
Views: 2423(2 votes) - Self-Worth: Do Some People Lack A Healthy Sense Of Entitlement? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has an entitlement mentality, it can cause them to behave in ways that will have a negative effect on others. Through being this way, one of their main priorities will be fulfil their own needs. One-Sided These are likely to be needs that are seen are being more important ...
Views: 2419 - The Big Night: 5 Ways to Cultivate Patience - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2013 from Rob WhiteOK, this is an old joke, so forgive me if you've heard it. A psychologist is giving a talk and describes how every couple has its own unique frequency of making love. She then asks people in the audience to state how often they have sex. Hands shot up as she called out "Once a day?" "Several ...
Views: 2417(3 votes) - Your Big Experiment - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2010 from Paul Dalton“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result.” - Albert Einstein Over the years it has become apparent to me that for many people on a journey of personal development or spiritual path, the subject of science often doesn't sit very well. ...
Views: 2412(2 votes) - Self Worth: What Is Self Worth? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many different terms that one can use to describe having value and worth. These can be self esteem, self confidence and self belief for example. And self worth is a phrase that I believe encompasses all of these aspects. Self worth is something that is inherent and based on what is ...
Views: 2405 - Irritation: Why Do Some People Irritate Us? - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperDue to the amount of people on this planet, it is clear that one is not going to get along with everyone. There will be some people that one completely clicks with and therefore experiences very few instances of conflict and disharmony. And there will be others, on the other side of the ...
Views: 2403 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Unattractive When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe desire to feel attractive is normal and something that the majority of people want to experience. Here, one can then feel a sense of healthy control when it comes to attracting the kind of man or woman that they desire. And this is also likely to lead to one feeling accepted and approved of ...
Views: 2403(2 votes) - Social Media: Can Social Media Create Apathy? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one uses social media, they can have one thing in mind or a number of things. For example, one might use it to send someone a message, or they could use it to share an update. In this case, they are going to have one thing in mind and then they could come off it. However, even though ...
Views: 2402 - The Crack Addict Secret to Success - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery SatterwhiteThe other day a friend asked me how I help people. I told her, very simply, that I teach people how to crack their world open to reveal thrilling new possibilities and opportunities that they couldn't see before. She laughed and said I encourage people to become Crack Addicts. HA! In that ...
Views: 2401 - Motivation: Can Trapped Grief Cause A lack Of Motivation? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are always doing things, there are others who rarely do anything. Just as there are going to be people who are fairly active, but not the degree that they fall on either side of the spectrum. However, even though there will be people who can relate to this, it ...
Views: 2399 - Relationships: Do Some Men’s Childhood's Set Them Up To Put Women On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that in order for one person to have a relationship with another person, they will need to be able to relate to them as another human being. If they see them as being above or below them, it is going to make it harder for them to truly connect to them. When it comes to the ...
Views: 2395 - Success and Identity - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Geoffrey CanavanWe have all already established an identity. Don’t be afraid to let this identity be up for change. In many instances we find ourselves adapting to situations, almost like being different characters in a play. This gives rise to the many faces of the one person, acting out different roles in ...
Views: 2390(11 votes) - Unresolved Emotions and Feelings: Getting Familiar with your Past - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2007 from Kathleen HoweThe older we get – the more we forget – or so it seems. When I began my personal growth journey for recovery I began remembering the most traumatic events that transpired when I was a child. After researching information concerning memories, I realized that some of the things I was remembering ...
Views: 2379(1 vote) - Secondary Gain: What Is Secondary Gain? - by Submitted on May 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn the world of psychology and personal development, there is a term that is often used called secondary gain. This is a gain that is often hidden and unknown at a conscious level. And although the word ‘gain’ is typically used in a positive manner, in this instance, it is not a positive ...
Views: 2377 - Emotional Healing: Why Don't Some People Heal? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to healing or moving on from the past; some people progress a lot faster than others. There are also other situations where some people are perpetually caught up in their past and feel as if nothing is changing. Now, the past that one has had and the pain and trauma that may ...
Views: 2374 - How to Master and Control Your Emotions - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2017 from Hussein TalebEmotions are pesky creatures. They can creep up on you when you least expect it and throw your whole day into a tailspin. They can be good, bad or somewhere in between, but often come up unexpectedly. Understanding your emotions is the key to personal development as they are often a window to ...
Views: 2374 - How to Keep Your Friends Close - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Eduard EzeanuOnce a friendship is built, it often doesn’t keep going just like that. You need to keep it going by keeping your friends close and interacting with them on a continual basis. A friendship is like a flower. It needs sun, water and various nutritive substances in order to grow and blossom. ...
Views: 2373(1 vote) - Associations: Do Our Associations Create Our Reality? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAssociations have incredible power and they are occurring in many areas of life. Ones relationships with: family, friends, lovers and professional relationships are all being affected by associations. As well as ones experience with the world and to material things. Brands rely heavily on the ...
Views: 2365 - Relationships: Can Sex Create The Illusion Of Love? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world the general approach towards sex has changed and instead of it being something that one engages in after a certain time, it can take place without too much time having passed. And like most things in life, there are pros and cons to this type of behaviour. For some people, ...
Views: 2360 - How Emotional Pain Starts - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2007 from Mark Ivar MyhreThe obvious - but often unspoken - premise of most emotional healing lies with finding a way to rid yourself of those so-called bad emotions. Any way you can. Because some feelings are good, and others are bad. Even little kids knows that. We develop a hierarchy of good and bad emotions: ...
Views: 2359 - Astrology: What Does Astrology Mean To You? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI do not claim to be an expert on astrology or someone that see's astrology as the be and end all. For me, it is another point of interest and something that can be used as a mirror; to assist in self awareness and awareness of others. What I am going to take a closer look at here is how the ...
Views: 2356 - Addiction: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Addictive Personalities? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to drink alcohol or even take drugs without their whole life being taken over, there are others who are not able to exercise the same level of self-control. If they were to drink or to even take drugs, they would soon find that their life has been taken over. One ...
Views: 2352 - Relationships: Should Someone Try To Rekindle A Friendship? - by Submitted on Sep 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that one’s friends are the family they choose, and this is why someone can feel as close to their fiends as they can to their family. In some instances, the connection one has with their friends could be greater than the connection they have with their family. When this ...
Views: 2350 - How Do You React to Being Told Off? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Roseanna LeatonSome things stick in your mind as if they happened only yesterday, whilst others simply fade into insignificance. Inevitably those which stick are the ones which triggered the strongest emotional reaction. One of the learning curves of growing up is that of dealing with criticism. Parents ...
Views: 2347 - Gravity: My Interpretation Of The Metaphors - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe trailer to this film really caught my eye and stood out like very few films do. And while some are quiet engaging and interesting, this was gripping and instantly pulled me in. It soon became apparent that George Clooney and Sandra bullock were in the film. After watching it, I mentioned the ...
Views: 2345 - Dependent: Why Are Some People Dependent? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people talk about what it means to be an adult, being independent is never too far away. Here, one will be empowered to live their own life and to support themselves. So whereas a child is dependent on their caregivers to survive, an adult is not dependent on anyone in particular. And so ...
Views: 2343 - Self Harm: Can Toxic Shame Lead To Self Harm? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear how important it is to be kind to others and while this is important, it is also important for people to be kind to themselves. In fact, if one is kind to themselves, they‘re more likely to be kind to other people. The reason there is a greater focus on how someone ...
Views: 2342 - Abusive Relationships: Why Does Abuse Make People Feel Uncertain? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the consequences of abuse, there are many and some will be more severe than others. One of these consequences is that it usually creates uncertainty in the victim. And this has the potential to create all kinds of problems, because to the degree that one feels uncertain ...
Views: 2334(1 vote) - The Professional vs. the Amateur Life Coach - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2011 from Jason WestlakeTo attract clients in your life coaching practice, you have to be a professional. You can’t be an amateur life coach and expect to earn money. I see many people who dream of being life coaches, who dream of running a successful business, but their actions starkly contradict their dreams. ...
Views: 2331 - Smartphones: Can Smartphone’s Cause People To Be Self-Absorbed? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to use the internet, they no longer need to sit in front of a computer; the only thing they need to do it to use a Smartphone. This means that one can go online no matter where they are or what they are doing. As a result of this, going online has become a normal part of ...
Views: 2330 - Victim Mentality: Is There A Benefit To Being A Victim? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of ways in which someone can see themselves, and while some of these ways are empowering there are others that are not. For example, if one was to see themselves as someone who is successful, it is likely to have a positive effect on their life. However, if they were to ...
Views: 2330(1 vote) - Book Review: The Emotionally Intelligent Manager: How to Develop and Use the Four Key Emotional Skills of Leadership - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2007 from Debbie MolisThis book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Emotional Intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups. Emotional Intelligence is often measured as an Emotional ...
Views: 2328 - Boundaries: Can Skin Problems Be Caused By A Lack Of Boundaries? - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one saw perfect skin in the past, it may have been because they were looking at images in a magazine; however, if one was to come across perfect skin in today’s world, it could be because they are using social media. And as one can use social media whenever they like, it also means that they ...
Views: 2325 - The Demise of Empathy at Home and in the Family and the Role of Technology - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2012 from Sam VakninEmpathy is on a precipitous decline in the family and home environments. Technology is partly to blame, but so are other social and economic trends. On June 9, 2005 the BBC reported about an unusual project underway in Sheffield (in the United Kingdom). The daily movements and ...
Views: 2325 - Entitlement Mentality: Has The Internet Created An Entitlement Mentality? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one liked a certain song in the past, they would either have had to wait for it to be on the radio or they would have had to go and buy it. However, in today’s world, one no longer needs to buy a song; the only thing they need to do is to go onto the internet and to do a search. And after ...
Views: 2324 - Regret: Are Regrets Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is rarely black and white, it doesn’t mean that some people won’t see it as being this way. And while most people are going to see it this way from time to, there are going to be others who are unable to see it differently. They are then on one side or they are on the other and ...
Views: 2320 - Body-Shaming: Why Do Some People Who Exercise Shame People Who Don't? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, a gym membership was not something that many people had, and while this was partly because of the cost, it was also due to the fact that there wasn’t as much pressure on people to exercise. This is not to say that people have only recently been encouraged to exercise; what it comes ...
Views: 2318 - Critical Thinking: Is ‘Toxic Masculinity’ The Reason Why Some Men Don't Express How They Feel? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man behaves in a negative or destructive manner, it is often put down to ‘toxic masculinity’. This is something that a feminist on TV can come out with, as well as someone who isn’t a feminist. Now, it could be said that this is because feminists have a good understanding of what is ...
Views: 2316 - Your Board of Directors - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2010 from Zoe RouthSo the poop has hit the twirly thing and you're feeling kind of narked about life and all. Who do you turn to for advice? Better question, who is worth turning to for advice? If you've got a sage and sober wizened old soul in to ring up, then kudos to you. Maybe you've got a wise old dad ...
Views: 2315(4 votes) - Isolation: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Isolate Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere will be times when one will want to spend time by themselves and there will be times when they want to be around others. This is not to say that one will spend the same amount of time with others as they will by themselves; as it is not black and white. How one spends their time will ...
Views: 2314 - Back Pain: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Back Pain? - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is the potential for one to experience pain in all areas of their body. These can relate to one having a headache, stomach problems, tension in their shoulders and/or their lower back for instance. With it being highly likely one has experienced at least one of the above this year, let ...
Views: 2310 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abused Children Idealise Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there is no such thing as a perfect childhood, that doesn’t mean that everyone is treated in the same way. There are going to be some people who were treated well on most occasions and there are going to be others who had the opposite experience. In this case, one would have been ...
Views: 2310(1 vote) - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Focus On Celebrities To Distract People? - by Submitted on Feb 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one pays attention to the mainstream media, they are likely to see that they give a lot of exposure to celebrities. But even if this wasn’t the case, they would only need to pick up a paper to realise this. This is not to say that all news sources give them the same amount of exposure ...
Views: 2308 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Blame Others For How They Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one takes responsibility for how they feel, they are going to be seen as mature and self aware. And yet when one doesn’t take responsibility for how they feel in the majority of cases, they are likely to be seen as lacking awareness and being undeveloped. But while an outside observer ...
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