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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Caught in the Story - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOur stories form a crystal cave of stalactites and stalagmites in our minds, a cool chamber that seduces us with the promise that if we spend enough time there we will divine our answers. How beautiful this cave looks! How many promises it offers! And how familiar this cave becomes when we’ve ...
Views: 1085 - Two Healing Words - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from Sheryl PaulLast week, I had the blessed opportunity of having a closure session in person with a beautiful woman with whom I’ve worked for almost six years. As we sat face-t0-face (as opposed to screen-to-screen) and the session’s minutes clicked toward the end of our hour together, I told her that I ...
Views: 1168 - In Bed With Fear - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWe hear a lot about the power of fear these days, and the way we culturally/psychologically talk about it speaks to our beliefs that there are forces “out there” that are dark or evil that we need to overpower. In the early days of my work, I also spoke of fear in these terms, but over the years ...
Views: 1271 - To Be Human - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from Sheryl PaulTo be human is to know that we are imperfect and whole: we will hurt and be hurt; we will feel disappointed and will disappoint; we will stumble and fall and get back up again. To be human is to remember that this being human is an experiment without a goal or destination but with a plan that ...
Views: 963 - “I Ended Up Getting Defensive!” - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst I was helping a friend to move house a number of years ago, I ended up meeting someone there who was into self-development. It didn’t take long for me to see that we had a lot in common. Not only this, he also worked as a photographer and made videos. I thought that everything was ...
Views: 1185 - “There Is A Reason Why We Project Our Issues Onto Others!” - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years, I thought that the reason we projected our inner world/issues onto others was due to a lack of awareness; therefore, this wouldn’t take place if someone was self-aware. This was something that I was fairly convinced of. I think I even wrote a number of articles where I ...
Views: 1157 - Critical Thinking: Why Did Some 'Feminists' Want To Ban ‘Grid Girls’ and ‘Walk-On Girls’? - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a darts organisation decided to no longer have ‘walk-on girls’, and, shortly after this, the F1 decided to stop using ‘grid girls’. Unsurprisingly, not everyone is happy with what has taken place. One Assumption It would be easy to assume that women are happy with what has ...
Views: 1447 - Guilt and Regret - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2018 from Sheryl PaulLet’s imagine that there are invisible tracks streaming like ribbons in the ether of psyche. Some of these tracks resonate at a higher vibration and some move at a lower vibration. The tracks of higher vibration carry the feelings that emanate from the source of ourselves: sadness, joy, ...
Views: 1297 - Feelings Are Messy - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAs humans in an uncertain world, we seek certainty in a variety of ways. We ask questions that are fundamentally unanswerable. We ruminate and obsess on a single thought (otherwise known as intrusive thoughts). We Google and text and seek reassurance in a variety of increasingly technologically ...
Views: 1281 - The Life You're Meant to Live - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2018 from Sheryl PaulSomewhere along the road of childhood into adolescence, a belief is transmitted that says: Follow the roadmap that culture presents and you will find a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. This roadmap looks like: Graduate from a 4-year university, land a corporate job then climb the ladder, ...
Views: 1658 - "This Guy Is An Expert At What He Does!" - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of last year, I was introduced to someone called Collin Smith, who is also known as ‘The Listener’. Now, this not merely a fancy term that he uses; it relates to what he is actually like. He is one of the best listeners I have come across, and I don’t say this lightly. ...
Views: 1393 - Risk Aversion and Anxiety - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulI’m standing on the edge of my life, as if on the shores of a cold but beautiful lake. I want to dive in but I’m scared, only the fear doesn’t sound like fear as much as doubt, anxiety, uncertainty, and ambivalence. What if I make a mistake? What if the water is too cold and I can’t breathe? ...
Views: 1172 - Birth Trauma and Anxiety - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhen working with anxiety and intrusive thoughts, the essential component is to resist the gravitational and habitual pull to attach onto the stories that appear like planets in our inner galaxy and assume that they’re true. The story of the day – whether it centers around your relationship, ...
Views: 1524 - 10,000 Hours of Love - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAlongside the adolescent view of love we hold in this culture that says that love is a feeling, we also believe that love should be easy. Of course, this attitude of effortlessness and ease extends far beyond the bounds of love; more and more, people seem to believe that life itself should be ...
Views: 975 - Communication: Is It A Good Idea To Have Positive Expectations? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to order their favourite meal, and this was at a restaurant that they have been to before, there is a storing chance that they will be looking forward to the moment when this food arrives and eating it. In this example, it could be said that their expectations won’t have much of an ...
Views: 1678 - “This Woman Is An Inspiration!” - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, I was doing a bit of research online for an article that I was going to put together. I was going to write an article about how women are being conditioned to see themselves as victims. During this time, I came across an article titled: 'Victimhood narrative' taught in ...
Views: 1052 - Critical Thinking: Is Someone Self-Absorbed If They Are Always Outraged? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are plenty of people who are offended just about every time they go online, and, the same thing can take place when they are in the real world. This can be because they have seen something has had an effect on them directly, or it might be due to another reason. Two ...
Views: 1345 - Critical Thinking: Does A Woman Need To Seek Professional Help If She Believes That All Men Are Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it appears to be perfectly acceptable for a woman in the public eye to bash men. She can say all kinds of things that will basically amount to men being less-than human and worthless, and absolutely nothing will be done. Now, that’s not to say that both men and women won’t ...
Views: 1084 - "I Was Full Of Self-Doubt" - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I started writing articles, I had been on the path for around seven years. During this time, I had put a lot of effort into trying to understand myself and why my life was the way it was. So, when I started writing, it wasn’t as though I just woke up one day and thought that I would ...
Views: 1321 - 12 Ways to Complain Without Being Rude - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2018 from Marilyn VinchyChances are good that at some point, you’ll want to complain about something. It could be a cold meal, a faulty touch-screen or a holiday from hell. Whatever the reason, there’s no point in doing it unless you’re going to win. We’ve put together these tips to show you how. Follow these tips ...
Views: 2095(1 vote) - “I Wanted To Convert People!” - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I had been into self-development for a few years, in the middle of 2005, I learnt about the effect that our thoughts, emotions and beliefs have on how we experience life. I think the first time I had heard about his was when I read ‘The Power of the Subconscious Mind’, by Joseph ...
Views: 1093 - Ready to Blow Up? 6 Tricks to Stay Calm in Any Situation - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2018 from Alice BergVery often we find ourselves in situations that make us get angry. Imagine someone driving in front of you at 30 in an 80 mph lane, or an encounter with a rude customer care agent, or even harassment from a harsh supervisor? How do you deal with the pressure or stressful situations? Most ...
Views: 931 - Critical Thinking: Does Someone Need To Develop The Ability To Observe Their Mind If They Are Always Offended? - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDuring one’s time at school, they are likely to have noticed that not everyone responded in the same way when it came to being told off by a teacher. There may have been people who just generally shrugged when this happened, while there may have been others who typically lost control. A Clear ...
Views: 1039 - Tips How to Improve Performance, Sales and Customer Service of Retail Staff - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2018 from Tori UtleySince your customers first come in contact with your retail staff, it is imperative that these groups of employees are properly trained to have professional interaction with your customers. The goal should include helping them to make a choice and pointing out the value they will get after using ...
Views: 744 - Anger: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a number of people were asked what they think about anger, some of them might say that it is a ‘bad’ emotion. This is then going to be something that is black and white, meaning that it is not open for debate. Someone like this could talk about how this is an emotion that only causes ...
Views: 1245 - “He Is A Great Teacher!” - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, I got together with a friend and he spoke about a video that he wanted to make on domestic violence. This was one of many that he was looking to put together. I think that the video he made after this was on knife crime, with the next one being about the masks that we ...
Views: 1295 - “I Learnt How Dangerous It Was To Have A Closed Mind!” - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I first got into self-development, about a year I left school, I wanted to share what I had learnt with my family. But although I was extremely curious and wanted to find out as much as I could, my family were not really interested. After talking about what I had learnt and being put ...
Views: 990 - Critical Thinking: Do Some People Alternate Between Being A Victim And A Perpetrator? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the words ‘victim’ and ‘perpetrator’, they might have a good idea about what these words mean. Perhaps one of their friends has been in a relationship where they were victimised, for instance. Closer to Home Then again, they might know someone who has victimised ...
Views: 1382 - "I Walked On Eggshells As A Child!" - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf I wanted to ask my mother something when I was younger, I would often wait until there were guests around. The reason for this was that I knew that there was less chance of my mother raising her voice or losing her temper. Through having other guests around or oven just one person, it ...
Views: 1474 - “I Didn't Know What It Was Like To Lose Someone!” - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of my time at school, I would work at a crematorium whenever I didn’t have to go in. There were times when I would tell people about what I did and their responses said a lot about the kind of job that I had. Of course, it wasn’t that these people found it strange that I was ...
Views: 1570 - Grief Neutralizes Thought - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWe are addicted to our stories. The thoughts come in and take us away on their magic carpet promise of arriving in a land of certainty, where the vulnerability and pain of life can’t touch us. We learn early to climb aboard this carpet because, as young people, we usually don’t know how to ...
Views: 1171 - The Cycle of Healing - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWe learn and heal in ebbs and flows, spiraling around the center of ourselves where our true Self dwells. When we’re in a cycle of growth, we burn through layers of ego fears and touch into that core place of wellness where peace and clarity reside. Our hearts are open and alive and we can ...
Views: 1091 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Believe That They Need To Please Others In Order To Survive? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the start of someone’s life, their survival would have depended upon their caregivers. As a result of this, they wouldn’t have had much control during this stage of their life. A Different Scenario However, as the years passed and they grew into an adult, their survival would no longer ...
Views: 1240 - Critical Thinking: Does Identity Politics Disempower People? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s political climate, there appears to be a greater focus on what would be good for people who belong to a particular gender, race, religion or sexual orientation. As a result of this, what would benefit people in general no longer has the same level of importance. An Obsession It ...
Views: 1476 - Free Speech: Is It Dangerous For Someone To Think Critically In Today's World? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone goes along with the status quo, it is unlikely that they will have to worry about saying the wrong thing. Through accepting what they have been told by the mainstream media, politicians, and what they have learned whilst they were in the education system, amongst other things, they ...
Views: 975 - Critical Thinking: Is Being Outraged Another Way For Someone To Receive Attention? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who is outraged about something. But while this is nothing new, there is something that is new, and this relates to the kind of things that people get worked up about. A Mountain Out of a Mole Hill If someone got worked up about ...
Views: 1064 - “I Started To Develop Boundaries!” - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAround 2014, I no longer wanted to say yes all the time and to go along with what other people wanted. Not only this, there were times when I could stand my ground and say no. For a little while before this, I could see what was talking place but I wasn’t able to do anything about it. I had ...
Views: 1264 - “I Thought I Just Lacked Confidence!” - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was younger, I often found it hard to behave how I wanted to behave, and I was often described as being ‘shy’. This was something my mother would say, and there were moments when other people would say the same thing. During this time in my life, my emotions were frequently out of ...
Views: 1038 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Only Say Nice Things About Their Parents After They Have Passed on? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be a number of people out there who not only have plenty of good things to say about their parents now that they passed on, but who had good things to say about them when they were alive. When something like this takes place, it could be said that someone valued their ...
Views: 1829 - “I Couldn't Believe That He Wasn't Sharing His Views With The World!” - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I met Wain in 2015, I thought that our paths had crossed in order for us to make videos together. For a little while before this, I had been looking for someone who made videos. Not just anyone would do, though, as I was looking for someone who would be able to relate to where I was ...
Views: 1032 - “What Is Legitimate Suffering?” - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago, it must have been around 2013, I came across a term that fascinated me. I can’t remember how I came across this term, but what I do remember is that I was part of a quote by Carl Jung. I even ended up writing an article about it around the same time. This was the ...
Views: 3172 - “I Didn't Realise They Were So Insecure!” - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperBefore I went to Mexico, in the middle of 2014, I ordered a few copies of ‘A Dialogue With The Heart - Part One: A Collection Of Poems And Dialogues From The Heart’. This was a book that I released towards the end of 2013. The reason for this was that I thought it would be good idea to leave ...
Views: 1127 - “I Was No Longer As Motivated!” - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years, I felt extremely motivated when it came to writing articles, and I had a strong need to become a successful author. There was no middle ground; it was a case of hitting the big time or nothing at all. When I was able to take a step back and to look into why I was ...
Views: 1460 - ”You Have To Be Careful What You Focus On!” - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was with a friend last year, I remember touching upon what was going on with the presidential election in America. I had been paying attention to this, but this friend hadn’t been doing the same thing. I said that it was hard to work out what was going on and he said that there was no ...
Views: 1035 - “This Guy Gets To The Root Of The Issue!” - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn a previous article, I mentioned someone who I met after I helped a friend move house. This was someone called Wain, and since our paths crossed in the middle of 2015, a number of thought-provoking conversations have been had. It doesn’t end there, though, as what I think about after we ...
Views: 1098 - “I Came to Accept People From Other Cultures!” - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen our family guest had only just been opened, a lot of the people who stayed were just passing by or on holiday. Yet, as the years went by and our guest house became more well-known, we started to have people stay from all over the world. This also meant that we had students stay ...
Views: 1016 - “I Learnt The Importance Of Self-Discipline!” - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI grew up in a guest house, and this meant that I had to help my family by doing different jobs. However, it wasn’t uncommon for me to stop doing a job and then to go to my room or somewhere else. This was partly due to me not being given much time to do what I wanted and partly due to me ...
Views: 1225 - The Difference Between Empathy And Sympathy. - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2017 from Ronny PrasadDo you know the meaning of Empathy? How about the meaning of Sympathy? Quite often Empathy and Sympathy are confused, or taken to have the same meaning. Let’s discuss in detail what each word means. More importantly, we will explore how each word and its meaning can help you in ...
Views: 1163 - Social Media: Can Someone Be Addicted To Social Media? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon too see someone who is glued to their Smartphone, and this is something that can take place in just about every context. So, if one was to go into a public area, they are likely to see people of all ages looking down at their device. Tuned Out When this ...
Views: 923 - “What Qualifications Do You Have?” - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of last year I had a few videos made, and one of those videos was about what qualifications I had. What inspired me to make this video was an email that I had received around that time. In this email someone said that they liked my work or that they liked an article, but ...
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