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Although someone will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will feel like one. The main reason for this is that they could find it hard to be by themselves, with this being a time when they typically feel all at sea emotionally.
If they are around another or others, ... Views: 446
What is clear is that if a house doesn’t have strong foundations, it probably won’t stay in place for very long. Or, if it does, it will be in for a rough ride as will the people who live in the house.
Another example would be the difference between someone being on a rubber dinghy and being ... Views: 519
What can be normal is for someone to feel all at sea internally or to be in a shut down state and unable to feel anything. Experiencing life in this way is likely to make it hard for them to appreciate their time on this planet.
Due to how unstable they often feel, then, their need to feel ... Views: 319
If someone was able to take a step back and reflect on their life, what might soon stand out is that they spend a lot of time trying to settle themselves down. This is going to show that they find it hard to feel at ease.
But, even if this is not something that they are aware of, what is ... Views: 327
What someone may find is that they often end up being knocked down by life and feel helpless as a result. When this does take place, it could take a while for them to get back on their feet.
This could be something that takes place on a regular basis. Due to how often it takes place, they ... Views: 375
The narcissist constructs a narrative of his life that is partly confabulated and whose purpose is to buttress, demonstrate, and prove the veracity of the fantastically grandiose and often impossible claims made by the False Self. This narrative allocates roles to significant others in the ... Views: 3374
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Healthy relationships can become dysfunctional if they prohibit one from "marching to the beat of a different drum," the one uniquely designed for only one set of ears. Peer pressure is an intangible force leading to either positive or negative outcomes, depending on how it is ... Views: 1334
We all start perfectly successful. We all start complete. We acquire failure.
Real success is based on who we are within rather than anything we come by externally. The willingness to look at ourselves in a light of perfection, success, inclusion and completion provides a real opportunity to ... Views: 1483
For the seeker of enlightenment, there is much to learn and nothing to fear from the secrets of neuroscience.
Brain tricks — sometimes called hacks — are mental "shortcuts" designed to enhance life's success.
What follows is a stack of reliable insights known to boost all areas of life: ... Views: 1066
Obviously, those who live and drive in Europe are probably quite familiar with speed Cameras (blitzers) used by the police to catch speeders. Most of the countries in Europe are incorporating their roads with traffic monitoring systems. Those locations that are particularly subject to accidents ... Views: 1120
The term ‘instant gratification’ is widely known and widely used in today’s society. Having something tomorrow or having to wait any longer than now, is often far too long in today’s culture.
Instant gratification can be observed throughout all ages and in numerous situations, it is not ... Views: 7480
In the previous article we talked about instant gratification and how it manifested into an epidemic. We also discussed the psyche and how it is affected by things that try to satisfy long-term problems with short-term solutions. Now we'll dive a bit deeper, and examine the two different types ... Views: 1301
In today’s world, people not only want to have something straight away, they are also encouraged to have this outlook. It would be easy to see these two aspects as being separate, but part of the reason why people have this outlook is because of the society they live in.
When it comes to ... Views: 1568
Throughout the ages our population has survived a number of wildly different epidemics. From smallpox to cholera, an epidemic of various infectious diseases on this human planet is nothing new. But an epidemic can also happen in a variety of forms, it doesn't just have to be a deadly disease. ... Views: 2267
International travel for the retired is here and booming! As a consequence so is the need for International Travel Medical Insurance. But whether you are 6 or 60 the need for international travel medical insurance is true for everyone, regardless of age or length of time abroad. Suppose you fall ... Views: 513
When one is attracted to someone in the real world, it can be due to a number of different factors. On one hand, how they look could play a part, and on the other hand, it could be the result of how one feels in their presence.
There is also the chance that how one feels in the other ... Views: 1409
One can often watch a film with an ending that is unclear and come up with an interpretation that is completely different to another person. Or perhaps there is a cloud in the sky; one sees it to be a certain shape and another person sees another shape or cannot see this shape at all.
Then ... Views: 2034
One thing that can be said about human beings is that we all want to feel good. This need is something that can enhance one’s life, and at the same time, it can also create problems. It can cause someone to grow and to evolve, and it can also cause them to stay stuck or to regress.
For ... Views: 1674
If a man were to take a step back and reflect on his life, what he could find is that he generally acts as though he doesn’t have the need to connect to a woman. As a result of this, a number of his needs are typically not going to be met.
So, his need to be seen and heard by a woman, ... Views: 280
If a woman is in a relationship, she may have found that the man that she is with has become less available as time has passed. So, during the early stages, he might have soon replied to her messages, called her, generally been available to meet, been affectionate and expressed his inner world, ... Views: 153
What someone may find, if they were to end up in a relationship, is that it is far harder than they expected it to be. There will then be what they thought it would be like and what their experience is actually like.
Now, this is not to say that they won’t have had a relationship before, ... Views: 731
If someone was to think about the relationships that they have been in, they may find that they have generally not been very nurturing or full of love. In most of their relationships, they may have experienced a lot of pain and might not have been long before they felt the need to cut their ties ... Views: 304
Although someone has the need to experience both physical and emotional closeness with another, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable fulfilling this need. This could be something that is only an issue when it comes to being in a romantic relationship.
Then again, this could be ... Views: 368
It’s a thought that arises frequently for those struggling with relationship anxiety: “I have to be single in order to heal.” Offshoots and extrapolations of this thought sound like:
• “I have to backpack by myself across Europe.”
• “I have to live in a loft in New York.”
• “I haven’t ... Views: 1121
Intuition like love emerges from the depths of the soul. Simply defined as knowing something without knowing how you know it, intuiton may be one of your greatest allies in attracting and maintaing successful and loving relationships. Have you ever noticed how feelings of love and attraction ... Views: 2543
Although someone can be used to being physically seen by others, it doesn’t mean that they will feel seen. In general, they can feel as though they are not seen and even question if they exist.
It could seem strange as to how they could be seen by others and at the same time, not feel seen. ... Views: 294
During someone’s early years, a time when they needed to be seen and heard in order to grow and develop in the right way, they might have largely been ignored. This would then have been a time when their basic needs might have typically been met but their emotional needs wouldn’t have.
One or ... Views: 293
Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing there is a field.
I’ll meet you there.
When the soul lies down in that grass
the world is too full to talk about.
Rumi
When we’re being asked to unpack a new layer of wound that will lead to healing, it can feel daunting, overwhelming, and ... Views: 917
If someone finds it hard to be seen and they were to share this, another person might find it hard to understand. They could say that they can see them, so there is no way that this could be an issue for them.
However, being physically seen is unlikely to be the real issue; what they will ... Views: 330
Having the desire to be seen is part of being human and as human beings are interdependent, it is a vital part of not only being able to survive, but to thrive. If human beings were inherently independent, then it wouldn’t matter if they were seen by others or not.
One’s ability to survive ... Views: 1696
When it comes to feelings, there can often be a disparity between how one feels and how something actually is. And feeling invisible is the perfect example of this. Part of being human is to have a physical body and yet at an emotional level, one can feel that this is not the case.
One can ... Views: 16848
Being members of Selfgrowth puts us in a unique position of appreciating the power of social networking, and networking sites like Ecademy, LinkedIn, and Facebook. So what is the power of social networking?
Well those in the know say it is about forming relationships. OK then what? Well then ... Views: 3469
After living a life that is anything but fulfilling for a number of years, someone could come to the conclusion that they need to do something about it. Perhaps something that they have seen on TV or read online has played a part in this.
For quite some time, they might have got a sense that ... Views: 467
Just because one feels a certain way, it doesn’t mean these feelings reflect what is currently taking place in their life. One can then come to the conclusion that their feelings are irrational.
This could be something that one experience from time to time or it might be a regular ... Views: 2534
For a little while, someone may have experienced thoughts that are having a negative effect on their wellbeing. Along with these thoughts, there can be feelings that also arise.
These thoughts and feelings are then not going to be positive and empowering; they will be negative and ... Views: 306
Due to the amount of people on this planet, it is clear that one is not going to get along with everyone. There will be some people that one completely clicks with and therefore experiences very few instances of conflict and disharmony. And there will be others, on the other side of the ... Views: 2403
If your entrepreneurial mind is combined with a love of travel, you may want to consider a travel franchise. Cruise franchises can be particularly lucrative as evidenced by these data:
Last year, the Cruise Lines International Association (CLIA) reported that the North American cruise ... Views: 641
In some people’s eyes, it is someone’s formative years that will have had the biggest effect on what they are like. For others, someone’s DNA that will have had the biggest effect on how they turned out.
There are then those that believe that it is not one or the other, it is actually both. ... Views: 893
Recently, I have come across a number of people who will be moving to Dubai, and this has made me think about the place. I have never been there, but I have seen pictures, videos and heard stories about it.
On the surface, it seems as though it is paradise on earth; everything looks perfect ... Views: 838
One of the common questions among the aspirants who want to pursue engineering as the higher study option is if it is a perfect domain to build up a career in? Indeed, engineering is an incredible opportunity to get into a respectable profession. Engineering courses are identified with STEM, ... Views: 677
Lao Tzu wrote in the Tao Te Ching; ‘...To have harmony in the kingdom, keep the people’s belly full and bed warm.’ He was speaking of how to keep the country running peacefully through accepting the reality that if people are in want, they will react violently, even if that is ... Views: 1206
After becoming clear about what it is that they want to attain, or experience, someone may believe that the next step will be for them to have the right thoughts. Through ‘thinking positive’, what they desire will show up.
If they have this outlook, it is likely to show that they have been ... Views: 533
A few days ago I watched a short video about someone who lived a very lonely existence even though they were extremely popular. On the outside, they looked happy and as though they were connected to life, but when they were by themselves, they felt unhappy and disconnected.
The image that ... Views: 1054
Whenever I have looked through a paper or a news website over the years, I have often come across news stories that go into how so many people are suffering mentally and emotionally. What often comes up is that these people’s lives are being derailed by anxiety, depression and/or suicidal ... Views: 1231
“Whenever you find yourself on the verge of losing your temper or falling into a bad mood, ask yourself, ‘Is this how I want to spend my day? Is it worth it to let this___________ (Fill-in-the-blank; person, situation etc.) take control of my day? Really?” – Margaret Meloni
You are probably ... Views: 1394
The Law of attraction does not discriminate between good or bad, kind of vicious, false of imagined. An event like that of Italy is no different that what is happening all over the world.
If you perceive the law of attraction as a 'being' who ought to reward or punish his or her community, or ... Views: 1843
A number of years ago, a few articles were written about how trauma from slavery and the holocaust can be passed down. What this means, then, is that it doesn’t matter how many years have passed since these things took place, as what happened can have an effect on their descendents.
Hard to ... Views: 1271
The other day, when I was walking around a city, I saw a number of street names that reflected its medieval past. This was in addition to all of the buildings from this period that were dotted around.
What played a part in me noticing these names and the builders is my interest in medieval ... Views: 287
When I was working with a therapist in 2007, I thought that I was working through lot of pain that was from my past lives. However, after working through this pain, my life didn’t really change.
As time went by I came to believe that dealing with past life issues was a waste of time and I ... Views: 876
Earlier on, whilst I was reading a paper, I came across a story about someone who said that they became a sex addict thanks to social media. This person said that they had got sucked into a social media site and this caused them to go down a path that they wouldn’t have gone down ... Views: 737