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You must have heard about hundreds of success stories of average people or not so intelligent people achieving great heights in their careers. It is not only their hard skills but their soft skills (Emotional Intelligence) also have a deciding role in it. Emotional Intelligence or EQ in the ... Views: 987
The technology era has been gaining pace at a galloping speed and have been finding ways to make life easier all the time. And it seems finding Internet could have been the best of the innovations that ever changed the life of man on earth. Internet has made life a lot easier for the human ... Views: 1307
Although someone may have attained a certain level of success, it doesn’t mean that they will feel comfortable with it. Based on how they often feel, it could be as if they have stolen this success from someone else.
They could be doing well in their career and a number of other areas of ... Views: 323
Just because someone has worked hard to achieve something, it doesn’t mean that they feel as though they deserve it. The ideal would be for someone to feel as though they are worthy, no matter what they accomplish.
However, there are some people who are unable to accept their achievements. ... Views: 1798
If someone were to take a step back and reflect on their life, one thing that might end up standing out is that they have the tendency to act without thinking. As a result of this, they won’t think about the consequences that may arise if they do something; they will just take action.
They ... Views: 269
In and Out of Ruts
by
Bill Cottringer
“It takes guts to get out of the ruts.” ~Robert H. Schuller.
First of all, here are the two main elements of a “rut” that can help us arrive at a common understanding of what we are talking about here.
• Being somewhere where you don’t want ... Views: 488
We hear a lot about the power of fear these days, and the way we culturally/psychologically talk about it speaks to our beliefs that there are forces “out there” that are dark or evil that we need to overpower. In the early days of my work, I also spoke of fear in these terms, but over the years ... Views: 1272
When it comes to moving forward in life, it is going to be important for someone to be able to make decisions. This doesn’t mean that this will allow them to always make the right decisions, but it will give them the chance to make the right ones.
If, on the other hand, they didn’t make any ... Views: 1701
When you are about to do something unique and aimed to achieve something great,then you end up achieving all that by your own alone. It may happen that you lose the support from the others and there’s only you who have to go through it. In this case, you have not given up and accepted the ... Views: 842
In today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to describe themselves as ‘independent’. When they say this, they could say it as if they are talking about something that is a normal part of life, or they could say it with a sense of pride.
Normal
In the first case, one may have ... Views: 1579
If you’ve traveled with a friend or with your family you know the joy of sharing the holiday experience with others. It’s not just the camaraderie but you are sometimes persuaded to see and do things you wouldn’t normally do. Traveling solo doesn’t mean you need to compromise the joy and ... Views: 500
Although someone will be physically separate from others, it doesn’t mean that they will be emotionally separate from them. What this means is that they may find that their emotional state is typically defined by what is going on around them.
Therefore, if they are in a relationship and their ... Views: 602
Just because someone acts as though they are an extension of others, it doesn’t mean that they will be consciously aware of this. Furthermore, even if they were to become aware of this, it doesn’t mean that they would be able to simply change their behaviour.
Through being in this position, ... Views: 404
Physically, someone will be separate from others, but that doesn’t mean that they will act as though they are separate from them. Instead, they could have the tendency to act like an extension of others.
What this means is that they will typically be a follower as opposed to a leader and will ... Views: 585
Undoubtedly, if someone has the ability to not be caught up in what is going on around them, their life will be far better than it would be otherwise. They will be able to stay centred and to be the ‘calm in the storm’ so to speak.
This will allow them to stay focused on what matters and to ... Views: 586
Once someone has left home, it could be said that they will be their own person. Undoubtedly, what they learnt during their time in their caregiver/s presence will have influenced who they are but now they will be free to express themselves.
If they have trouble expressing themselves or ... Views: 621
When someone is born, they will have a separate body but that will be as far as it will go. Not only will they be unable to see that they are separate from everyone and everything, they will also lack a sense of self.
This is why it has been said that each human being needs to go through two ... Views: 652
If someone was to take a step back and to look at their life, they may see that they have the tendency to please others. Therefore, instead of paying attention to their own needs and acting as an individual, they will act as though they are merely an extension of others.
After having behaved ... Views: 583
If someone is in a position where they don’t feel capable and see themselves being less than others, it might not occur to them that this could be due to what took place whilst they were at school. There is even the chance that they are not consciously aware of this, with it being something that ... Views: 465
While there are some people on this planet who believe that they above others, there are also people who believe that they are below others. And this can be something that one is aware of or it could be an outlook that is outside of their awareness.
However, regardless of whether one is ... Views: 1787
If a man is in a position where he finds it hard to assert himself, to take action and to handle his own emotions, there is the chance that he will want to find a way to change his life. This will show that part of him believes that his life can be different.
Then again, how he experiences ... Views: 599
Although one can have the desire to achieve something, it doesn’t mean that they are able to take the first step. Or if they do, they might not be able to keep going, and this is going to mean that they will only get so far.
Now, if this only related to one area of their life it might not ... Views: 1520
Although there are people that generally feel strong and as though they have control over their life, there are others that don’t. Consequently, these people are likely to have a very different experience on this earth.
Not only will their inner world be different, their outer world is also ... Views: 814
If one has mental and emotional challenges, or if they have relationship problems, they can end up looking for ways to work on their inner child. This is going to be a sign that they have come to the conclusion that their childhood is having an effect on their adult life.
The reason they ... Views: 1563
If someone’s life isn’t very fulfilling and they want this to change, they could end up looking for answers. After doing this, they could end up taking a closer look at what is going on in their mind and focus on their behaviour.
At this point, they can believe that changing what is going on ... Views: 560
After many, many years of pain, one could find that they have the need to keep people at a distance. At this point, it will be clear that it is not other people; it will be the person who they see whenever they look in the mirror.
But, although they will now understand that they are the ones ... Views: 697
If someone was to take a look at their life, they may see that there is at least one area that is frustrating them. This area won’t be going as they want it to go and it may have been this way for as long as they can remember.
They may want to find someone who is emotionally available and ... Views: 569
If someone was to take a step back and to reflect on their life, they may find that there are a number of areas of their life that are not how they want them to be. For example, they may find that most of their relationships are not very functional and they might not have been able to make much ... Views: 563
In order for someone to be able to fully show up and to embrace the life that they have been given, they will need to have a good connection with their emotional self. This part of them will provide them with the ability to take life in and, of course, to feel things.
Further, it will give ... Views: 528
Although someone may want to move forward, they may find that it is not possible for them to do so. Quite simply, there will be where they are and there will be where they want to be.
If they were to look back on their life, they may find that is has been this way for as long as they can ... Views: 536
Although there are those that are full of life and embrace the life that they have been given, there are that aren’t and are unable to so. However, this is not to say that the former will always be on the top of the world or the latter will always be down in the dumps.
What it does mean is ... Views: 717
For people who are into self development, the term ‘inner child’ could be something they are familiar with. And not only could they be familiar with this term, but they might also feel comfortable with it.
When it comes to people who are not into self development, the whole thing could sound ... Views: 1931
Although someone might not be aware of their inner child, it doesn’t mean that it won’t be having an effect on their life. Their inner child, or their inner children to be more precise as there is more than one child, can be causing them all kinds of problems.
And if one is aware of the term ... Views: 875
One of the ways that someone can change their behaviour, what is taking place within them, and their relationships, is to heal their inner child. Or to be more precise; to heal the inner children that are within them.
What this comes down to is that although many, many years may have passed ... Views: 1155
Naturally, if someone is carrying a deeply wounded infant inside them, it is going to be a challenge for them to fulfil their adult needs. In a lot of cases, this part of them is going to stop them from having what they truly desire.
However, although this is what will be taking place, they ... Views: 374
When one knows exactly what they want to achieve or to experience, there will be clarity. And as result of this, one will be able to take the steps that they need to take to make their goal a reality.
This doesn’t mean that it will be a straight forward process though; as there are likely to ... Views: 1676
The ideal would be for someone to get a clear idea about what they want to achieve and then to go about achieving it, without there being anything within them that would hold them back. After all, they will have enough to deal with externally without there being anything internally to ... Views: 813
What someone could find is that they are often in a position where part of them has the need to do one thing whilst another part of them has the need to do something else. Naturally, this is going to cause them to experience a lot of unnecessary stress and confusion.
Not only this, they could ... Views: 363
If one wanted to go somewhere and they were going to go there by foot, it is going to be important for them to walk forward. Through doing this, it is only going to be a matter of time before they reach their destination.
Now, if one was to take a few steps forward and then to take a few ... Views: 1451
If one wanted to go on holiday somewhere and they had to save a certain amount of money in order to go, it would be important for them to keep their spending down until they have saved the amount they need. It could be said that this is common sense, and while there is no denying this, it ... Views: 1419
While there are some people who experience inner conflict from time to time, there are others who experience it far more often. As a result of this, they could find that it is a challenge for them to move forward in life.
Whereas if one experienced this from time to time, they may find that ... Views: 1554
When someone is free from inner conflict, they are going to be able to experience inner peace. Not only this, but they will also experience a sense of clarity and this is going to make their life a lot easier. One could find that it is relatively easy for them to make decisions and for them to ... Views: 2055
If someone was able to record how they talk to themselves and then play it back through speakers, they could find that they are typically not very kind to themselves. By having externalised what is going on for them internally, it will have been easier for them to see what is going ... Views: 316
If someone’s inner world was a climate, it might be somewhere that is typically extremely cold. The reason for this is that they might rarely talk to themselves in a kind manner and they could often experience ‘negative’ feelings.
Therefore, when they do have moments when they talk to ... Views: 268
When it comes to self-development, a lot is often said about the importance of being positive. The impact that this will have on how someone feels, their relationships and their ability to attain what they desire is typically mentioned.
With this in mind, if someone is into self-development, ... Views: 307
It has been said that planet earth is the plane of duality and this can be noticed by the fact that there are usually two parts to everything. For example, there is hot and cold, up and down, and fast and slow.
There is also “good” and “bad” in the world, and, just as these two things exist ... Views: 360
Just as a group of individuals will be able to make more progress when they work together, someone will also be able to make more progress when they are able to work with themselves. Of course, unlike a group of people, they are one person but they will be made up of many different parts.
As ... Views: 369
One way of looking at someone’s development would be to say that at the beginning of their life, they only had a feminine aspect, and, as time passed, their masculine aspect was built on top of it. They were then not born with both aspects and this will be the case regardless of whether they are ... Views: 478
If the average man was told that he has an inner feminine, a big frown might appear on his face. After this, he could make it clear that this is not something that he possesses and that there is nothing feminine about him.
He could even say that this is something that is airy-fairy and only ... Views: 740
It can be easy for someone to believe that they wouldn’t know anything if it wasn’t for their time in the education system. The information that they were fed during this time in their life would then have played a big part in who they are today.
Taking this into account, it would have been ... Views: 972