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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- HOW TO ”LET GO” …OF THE ROPE (Part 1) - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2018 from James Mapes“In the beginning, it is difficult letting go. But as you get into the swing of it, you will feel lighter and fresher and better able to see what you really need. That is what I imagine spring cleaning is truly about.” —SUSAN JEFFERS, END THE STRUGGLE AND DANCE WITH LIFE FYI: (The ...
Views: 1503 - How We Weaken Relationships or Strengthen Them - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2019 from Kare AndersonWhen things go wrong, we tend to blind ourselves to other’s feelings. We are more likely to fall into a destructive behavioral trap. Sadly, when we do, we cannot be empathic. We weaken that human bond that’s vital to re-grouping and resilience. These blinding mindsets make us feel dumb, ...
Views: 868 - How Your Memories Can Make You Angry And How You Can Manage It - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2014 from Frank HealyAnger and vindictiveness always comes from the belief that one is cheated and their life is unfair. For Eliott Rogers, it seems that the memories that he focused on were of two varieties which, in combination can cause anger and rage. The first type of memory is one that you are a nice person ...
Views: 2947 - How Your Thoughts Can Affect Your Happiness - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2011 from Rhonda RabowDid you know that the average person thinks 60,000 - 80,000 thoughts per day? Did you know that over 80% of these thoughts are negative and over 85% of the thoughts you think today are the same thoughts you thought yesterday, last week and last year? How do you think these negative thoughts ...
Views: 2668 - Human Chameleon: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause You To Be A Human Chameleon? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to be themselves, and while they can adapt, this is not something that always takes place. Not only do they have a sense of themselves, but more importantly, they will feel that it is safe for them to be themselves. At times, they’re going to understand the ...
Views: 1740 - Human Contact: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperDue to what has been taking place in recent years, it has meant that a lot of people have been starved of human contact. However, there are those who were in this position before all this was going on. For someone like this, spending time alone and away from others will just be what is ...
Views: 525 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Associate Human Contact With Death? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperNow, although someone can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship, it doesn’t mean that they won’t have ended up pulling away from at least one relationship. In fact, this may have been something that has taken place on more than one occasion. Either way, when this has taken place, ...
Views: 316 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Need For Human Contact? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone will be an interdependent human being, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. Instead, they can be happy spending time by themselves and rarely if ever be or reach out to others. If they are around others, it could be a sign that they are at work or out shopping. ...
Views: 355 - Human Contact: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To See Human Contact As A Threat To Their Survival? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAs someone is an interdependent human being, it is going to mean that it is important for them to experience human contact. This is something that will have a positive effect on their wellbeing. Nonetheless, although this is the case, it doesn’t mean that they will experience a great deal of ...
Views: 292 - Human Contact: Can Early Deprivation Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Need For Human Contact? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend a lot of time by themselves, having very little interest in being around others. This could be how they have been for as long as they can remember. Therefore, they might not wonder why they are this way or have the need to change their life. Then ...
Views: 290 - Human Contact: Can Someone Prefer Things Instead Of People If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is an interdependent human being and thus needs others, it doesn’t mean that they will act like one. They could spend a lot of their time by themselves and rarely if ever reach out to others. This could mean that they will have a job or a career that doesn’t involve a lot ...
Views: 370 - Human Contact: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some needs that human beings will need to have fulfilled in order to survive, there are other needs that can go unfulfilled without leading to someone’s death. This is not to say that it won’t have an effect on someone’s wellbeing though. For example: if one doesn’t receive ...
Views: 2083 - Human Doing: Can Childhood Trauma Cause Someone To Become A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, if someone is practically always on the go, it is not going to be difficult for them to find people who believe that they are living in the right way. One can be seen as someone who is taking life by the horns, as opposed to waiting around for things to happen. If one was ...
Views: 492 - Human Doing: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Being Able To Just Be? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperMany societies around the world are full of people who are more or less always on the go. This is how it has been for many, many decades and it is unlikely to change any time soon. When someone lives in this way, they are unlikely to believe that they are living in a way that is not ...
Views: 409 - Human Doing: Can Early Deprivation Turn Someone Into A Human Doing? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIt is part of the human experience for someone to spend time asleep and time awake. One way of looking at this would be to say that they will then spend part of their life being and part of their life doing. At the same time, this wouldn’t be completely accurate as there will need to be ...
Views: 318 - Human Doing: Can Someone Act Like A Human Doing If They Had An Unavailable Mother? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2025 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone is a human being and can, thus, be as well as do, it can be as if they only have the ability to do. They are then going to be more like a human doing than a human being. So, practically from the moment that they wake up until the moment that they go to sleep, they can be ...
Views: 119 - Human Doing: Can Someone Be A Human Doing If They Received Conditional Love During Their Childhood Years? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, if they were to reflect on their life is that it is normal for them to more or less always be on the go. So, from the moment that they wake up, until the moment they go to bed, they could generally be doing something. And, even when they go on holiday, that’s if they do ...
Views: 355 - Human Doings: Does Toxic Shame Turn People Into Human Doings? - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf an alien came to planet earth and asked someone who they are, one is likely to say that they’re a human being. But without needing an alien to land on the earth, this is the description that one could use. However, although one is a human being, it doesn’t mean that one acts like one. ...
Views: 1659 - Human Touch: Can Developmental Trauma Cause Someone To Have A Strong Need For Human Touch? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has a strong need for human contact, it can seem as if they would be aware of it. However, even if they do, this could still be something that they are typically unaware of. What this means, then, is that this need will generally be outside of their conscious awareness. But, while ...
Views: 409 - Humanity: Is Humanity Failing? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne doesn’t need to look very far to become aware of what is taking place in the world and this is because of how connected the world has become through technology. For instance, one only needs to turn a TV or a computer on or to look at their phone. Here, one will have the chance to consume ...
Views: 3105 - Humans Beings Have Been Conditioned To Be Submissive - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFrom a very young age most of us were taught to respect authority; it started with our parents, then went onto include our teachers, and continued with the people we worked for. There will also have been the government, the media, and there might have even been different religious leaders. ...
Views: 1140 - Humble: Is Being Humble Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone achieves something, they could tell other people about it or they could simply carry on with their life. As a result of this, there is the chance that everyone they know will find out about what has taken place, or there is the chance that no one will. A Closer Look Now, if ...
Views: 1917 - Humor Affects Our Psyche - by Submitted on Mar 06, 2012 from Carter LeeHumor and laughter are some of the most enjoyable and powerful emotions that we experience in life. It has the power to bond us together as people, regardless of our differences. Humor is a bonding language that all of us across the world share. While handshakes, hugs, and bows all have ...
Views: 1294 - Humour: Do Some People Use Humour As A Defence Mechanism? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that make life easier to handle on this planet, and being able to laugh is one of them. This ability serves a similar purpose to oil; it allows life to flow that little bit easier. Without oil, a machine would soon end up seizing up, but while the world probably ...
Views: 850 - Hurrying And Worrying - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2008 from Brock HansenA discussion about worrying and anxiety on a recent talk show pointed out an interesting paradox. Most folks reading this article are healthier, safer, and wealthier than people have been at any time in the world's history, and yet research indicates a significant increase in worrying and ...
Views: 1703 - I Believe in the Power I AM - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2014 from Betska K-BurrI was coaching a little boy today … he is 47 years old. ‘Peter’ is a brilliant man having achieved a very senior level in his organization and pretty much destined for the very top job. So why did I refer to him as a ‘little boy’? While Peter has an IQ score which is off the charts, ...
Views: 1212 - I Believe In You - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperPerhaps you are going through a challenging time right now or maybe your life has been tough for a while. Either way, a big part of you may wonder if you have what it takes to move forward. So even if a small part of you believes that you do have what it takes, this part of you won’t exert ...
Views: 1056 - I Feel Like I'm Lying When I Say I Love You - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2015 from Sheryl PaulThese are statements I hear quite often in my practice: I feel like I’m lying when I say I love you to my partner. I feel like a fake, an imposter, like I’m leading him/her on. If I don’t feel love, how can I say it? And I’m not always feeling it. In fact, it seems like more often than not I’m ...
Views: 1756 - I Love You Go Away - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulAmong the many misconceptions that people have about love – that it’s only a feeling, that the feeling of being “in love” should exist from day one, that attraction is static and based on external attributes – the faulty belief that often gets swept under the rug more than any other is that ...
Views: 3063 - I Met A Special A Dog - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out walking the other day, I ended up seeing someone who I usually talk to. Usually, I speak to him outside his house while he is working in his garden but this time he was out walking his dog. The last time I remember seeing the dog was when he was running around a field, ...
Views: 434 - I Ran A Half Marathon - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperTowards the end of September, whilst I was out I came across a sign that said there would be a half marathon taking place soon and, on this day, the road would be closed. When I saw the sign, it was just under three days until the race. This event pulled me in and I instantly started to think ...
Views: 428 - I Wanted To Embrace The Swedish Culture! - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOnce I knew that I would be going to Sweden, Stockholm, I started to think about what it would be like. Going away didn’t consume my mind, though, as I was engaged with what was taking place in my life. I wanted to go away, no doubt about it; but I wasn’t in a position where I needed to ...
Views: 1104 - I was talking to Bill Cosby yesterday... - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2011 from Steven BarnesYesterday I watched an absolute master. Bill Cosby performed at Georgia Tech university, and I was in the front row, not eight feet away from him, as he held an audience of thousands spellbound, just sitting in a chair telling stories. He had us howling, crying, nodding, laughing, ...
Views: 1111 - I Watched 'Ready Player One' The Other Night - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFirstly, if you haven’t watched 'Ready Player One' and you plan to watch it, it might be a good idea to read this article at a later date. The reason for this is that I don’t want to give any of the film away or to influence how you perceive it. I had heard about this film a number of years ...
Views: 1177 - I Went On A Hoffman Process Introduction Day - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, I ended up hearing about the Hoffman process and I was told that this was a powerful process. This was put forward as something that would allow someone to let go of the patterns in their life that are holding them back. I wanted to find out more about this process, and ...
Views: 1083 - I Went To Sweden For A Few Days - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the end of March, I ended up going to Stockholm, Sweden for a few days and this was somewhere where I had never been before. As a result of this, I wasn’t quite sure what to expect. Having said that, what I did know is that it was going to be fairly cold and that it was supposed to be ...
Views: 1129 - Idealisation: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Idealise Others? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst there are some people who are in the public eye, there are others who are behind the scenes. One could be in the public eye because of what they do or it could be because they just wanted to be famous. Therefore, it is something that takes place directly or it is something that takes ...
Views: 1633 - Identification: Can Someone Hold Onto Their Story If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the reasons that someone can look for answers and reach out for support is because they are unable to move forward. What this could mean is that they don’t feel worthy and deserving of having what they desire. There is then going to be where they are and where they want to be, but ...
Views: 355 - If Babies Ruled The World - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2011 from Wayne KehlOn April 2, 2011 my daughter gave birth to a bouncing baby girl. I put a photo of the little darling on my Facebook page with the caption, “This is my new granddaughter. Cute Huh?” Within seconds the comments and “likes” started coming in. Within 24 hours I received dozens of complimentary ...
Views: 1513 - If We Only Focus On What People Have Achieved, We Will Overlook What They Have Overcome! - by Submitted on May 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the beginning of last year, I shared a quote about how someone can overlook what another person has overcome if they only focus on what they have achieved. The main reason I had created this quote was due to how people had responded to me, when I went into what I did in the past. After I ...
Views: 1116 - If You Don’t Face Your Pain, You’ll Take It Out On Someone Else! - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was at school I was friends with someone who wouldn’t put up with being treated badly by others, and this meant that he ended up having a lot of fights. It didn’t even have to get to this point for him to harm someone though, as he would end up doing this even if he thought that they were ...
Views: 921 - If You Have Fallen, You Will Rise Again - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day, I was thinking about the moments in my life when I have had setbacks and what has often gone through my head when this has taken place. When I think about what happens, it’s a bit like I’m in one season. During this time, and irrespective of what season it is, part of me ...
Views: 947 - If You Were Rescued, You Wouldn’t Develop Your Strength - by Submitted on May 20, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is finding it hard to handle life or a certain area of their life is a challenge, they can have a strong need for another person to come and make it better. They could spend a fair amount of time thinking about what their life would be like if this was to take place. When this ...
Views: 386 - Illness: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Illness? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is very little attention given to emotions and feelings in the western world and the role that these play in whether the body is in a place of balance or imbalance. The typical approach is to look at things in isolation and what happens to the body is then a random occurrence. And ...
Views: 1851 - Illness: Do Some People Believe That They Need To Be Ill In Order To Receive Attention? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn general, it is believed that if someone gets ill it is not because they want to be ill. What this then means is that not one part of their being will want to experience life in this way. If someone wanted to prove that this is the case, they could put forward at least two reasons. Firstly, ...
Views: 908 - Image Obsessed: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Image Obsessed? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked what comes to mind when they think about social media, they might say ‘Selfies’. These are rarely pictures that people just take and then share; they are pictures that are usually altered so that they look right and after this has taken place, they are shared with their ...
Views: 1860 - Image-Obsessed: Can Someone Try To Look Perfect When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman wanted to change her appearance in the past, she may have had a boob job. Nowadays, this is just one of a number of procedures that a woman can have to change how she looks. Plenty of Options If she isn’t happy with her weight, she could have fat removed, and this will mean ...
Views: 1058 - Imagination: Why Would Someone Have The Tendency To Imagine ‘Negative’ Scenarios? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to observe their thoughts for a little while, they can find that they often think about bad things happening in the future. Consequently, they are likely to experience a fair amount of fear and anxiety. And, if they were to talk to a friend about what is going on for them, they ...
Views: 326 - Imagining a Life with Robots - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2019 from emotix Emotional intelligenceResearchers and organizations world over are trying to change the way humans and machines interact with each other with the help of Artificial Intelligence, Machine Learning and NLP. How it is going to shape our future is a question that has mixed opinions world over. Let’s have a ...
Views: 572 - Immobilized Leaders - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Yvette BethelA Manager recently exclaimed in a discussion, “Leadership theory is fallacious!” Based on her experience, it seems to be impossible to be a leader in her organization which she characterized as dishonest, abusive and highly controlling. From her perspective, her attempts at being an effective ...
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