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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Letting Go Of The Fear Of Being Seen Won’t Happen Overnight - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone may find, after being on the path of self-discovery for a little while, is that they have a fear of being seen. This is not to say that they will isolate themselves from others and never leave their home. No, what it is likely to mean is that they will spend time around others ...
Views: 958(1 vote) - “Did You Watch The Royal Wedding?” - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA few weeks ago, while I was waiting for something in a city nearby, I was asked by someone if I had watched the royal wedding. But before I go into what happened next, I want to go into what it was like for me before it took place. The media spent a lot of time talking about what it would ...
Views: 958 - Being Seen: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Live In Other People's Shadow? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough human beings have their own needs and feelings and, therefore, have their own life to lead, it doesn’t mean that everyone on this planet will have their own life. Instead, some people will have the tendency to fade into the background. When someone experiences life in this way, they ...
Views: 957 - How to regain the importance of civic sense in society for a better future? - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2019 from Strengths TheatreCivic sense is another term for social ethics that means to have clean roads, clean parks, and clean public gardens. Not only a clean environment is the present need to but also how people react to those public incidents includes civic sense. Nowadays the importance of civic sense in society has ...
Views: 957 - Loss: Why Is It Harder For Some People To Handle The Loss Of A Parent? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that getting older is generally part of life, experiencing loss is also part of life. And while getting older can be difficult, experiencing loss can be something that is even harder to handle. This can be put down to the fact that aging is a slower process, which allows ...
Views: 956 - Boundaries: Why Would Someone See Other People As An Extension Of Themselves? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there can be moments in just about everyone’s life when they act as though another person is an extension of themselves, there are some people that act in this way practically all of the time. This could be seen as the difference between not having a disorder and having one. The ...
Views: 955 - Critical Thinking: Is Ancestral Trauma Dividing Men And Women? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the things that the mainstream likes to is to do portray all women as victims and all men as perpetrators. There are men and women who are happy to go along with this and there are men and women who are not. And regardless of whether someone is happy to go along with how the ...
Views: 955 - Emotional Awareness: Do Some People's Childhood Set Them Up To Ignore Their Own Pain? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a light will usually appear on the dashboard of a car when something isn’t right, someone will usually experience pain when something is not right. Through paying attention to this pain, they will be able to do something about it. On the one hand, there will be physical ...
Views: 955 - Self-Rejection: Can Someone's Inner Critic Cause Them To Reject Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is clear is that in order for someone to feel comfortable in their own skin, and to even experience inner peace, it will be important for them to accept themselves. If they are able to do this, their life is likely to be a lot easier than it would be otherwise. But, although someone can ...
Views: 955 - Struggling To Overcome Low Self-esteem? 10 Actions You Can Start Today - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2016 from Mike McClementLow self-esteem is something you can overcome. It does require a plan though; courage too. These 10 actions make it possible. Quick tip - Start gradually. Don’t do everything all at once but do try at least one thing every day. 1. Be aware of your gremlin If you’re struggling to ...
Views: 955 - “I Married the Wrong Person” - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhenever a theme arises in my weekly work with clients I know it’s important to write about it here. Last week the theme was: “I married the wrong person” or “It would have been easier with someone else.” One of the most important tasks for those on the road to awakening is to notice all of ...
Views: 955 - Mother Wounds: Does A Man Re-experience The Issues That He Had With His Mother When He’s In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is currently in a relationship, he could be with a woman who is often cold, distant and dismissive of his feelings. As a result of this, he could often feel angry and even hateful and low, invisible and worthless. Now, this might not be the first time he has been with a woman like ...
Views: 954 - “The World Is Designed To Depress Us!” - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I came across a post that had been shared on a social media site that went into how ‘the world is increasingly designed to depress us’. This was something that had been written in a book and the page that this had been written on had been shared. It went on to say that ...
Views: 954 - “You Only Like Me Because I’m Famous!” - by Submitted on May 31, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA number of years ago I had the chance to meet a DJ and producer, and I ended up seeing them perform afterwards. This was an incredible night and a time in my life that I will never forget. At the time it was surreal, I couldn’t quite get my head around how this was taking place; I didn’t ...
Views: 953 - Cure Your Own Depression - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2015 from Dr. Wendy TreynorIn the past, my reference group told me that if I did what they said in the present, they would Love me in the future, which means they were withholding Love from me now—which means they were withholding Love from me always! No wonder I felt worthless. They were giving me conditional ...
Views: 952 - Self-Worth: Can Childhood Trauma Stop Someone From Developing Self-Worth? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and to reflect on when they feel good about themselves and when they don’t, they may notice a pattern. What they may start to see is that when they receive positive feedback from others, and shortly after this has taken place, they feel good. Yet, if they ...
Views: 952 - Critical Thinking: Did The Establishment Set Up The Alternative Media? - by Submitted on Jul 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wants to find out about what is going on in the world, they might end up looking towards the alternative media. This can be seen as the only news source that does what it is supposed to do – to report on what is actually going on. It might then be accurate to say that this person ...
Views: 951 - Masculinity: Do Some Men’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Reject Their Masculinity? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that more men need to get in touch how they feel and to feel comfortable enough to express what is taking place within them. Said another way, they need to embrace their feminine side. However, while this is what is often said, it doesn’t mean that this is the only challenge ...
Views: 951 - Self-Knowledge: Does Society Stop People From Developing Self-Knowledge? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s early years, there is a strong chance that they spent a lot of time being told what to do and what to think. There would then have been the conditioning that they received while they were in the education system. A Few More Years After this, one may have got a job, ...
Views: 951 - Trauma: How Can Someone Make It Easier For Them To Sleep If They Have PTSD? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone has PTSD, it is likely to be a sign that they have experienced something that has overwhelmed their system. Or if it doesn’t relate to one thing in particular, it could show that a number of things had this effect on them. Either way, due to how overwhelmed they were by what took ...
Views: 948 - Being Present: Can The Fear Of Being Seen Stop Someone From Being Able To Be Present? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNumerous books have been written about the importance of being present and how to be present. These kinds of books can go into how the body is always in the moment but the mind, on the other hand, is always trying to be somewhere else. When someone is in the present moment, there is nothing ...
Views: 947 - If You Have Fallen, You Will Rise Again - by Submitted on May 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day, I was thinking about the moments in my life when I have had setbacks and what has often gone through my head when this has taken place. When I think about what happens, it’s a bit like I’m in one season. During this time, and irrespective of what season it is, part of me ...
Views: 947 - What Is Inner Baby Work? - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor a number of years now, I have been doing inner child work, and the term ‘inner child’ may have been something I first heard when I read one of John Bradshaw’s books. I think that his books are terrific. Anyway, when I first started doing this work I would get in touch with the parts of ...
Views: 947 - Black Panther: Did ‘Black Panther’ Emphasize How Important It Is To Heal Ancestral Trauma? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen ‘Black Panther’ came out earlier on in the year, I heard that it was a really good film. A few friends of mine said it was good and one of them said that they were willing to see it again if I wanted to go. I didn’t go to the cinema in the end and I ended up forgetting all about the ...
Views: 946 - Does The Film ‘Night School’ Show How Destructive Shame Can Be? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThe other night, whilst I was at a friend’s, I ended up watching a film called ‘Night School’. This is a film with Kevin Hart in and, like most, if not all, of his films, it is a comedy. At the beginning I thought that the film was a bit stupid, but as time went by, I gradually got into ...
Views: 946 - Critical Thinking: Do Some Celebrities Have To Go Along With The Agenda To Stay Relevant? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the outside, it can seem as though certain celebrities have it all. This is because the average celebrity can be talented, good looking, have plenty of money and millions of people all over the world can admire them. And when it comes to a celebrity like this, one can believe that ...
Views: 945 - Critical Thinking: Does The Establishment Want To Divide Men And Women? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of elements that need to be in place in order for a society to not only grow, but to simply exist. For one thing, the people in the society need to have similar values, and they need to be able to stop certain parts of themselves from being expressed freely. So, their ...
Views: 945 - Emotional Awareness: Are Your Split-Off Parts Controlling How You Feel? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperEmotions are often seen as an inconvenience - as things that do more harm than good. And, when someone has this outlook, they are likely to experience a lot of ‘negative’ emotions. Consequently, they may alternative between being overwhelmed by how they feel and disconnecting from how they ...
Views: 945 - The Media: Is Someone Naive If They Believe That The Mainstream Media Exists To Inform People? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what the purpose of a supermarket is, they may say that it is to sell people food. This could be seen as a fairly accurate assessment, and what they could add is that these places often sell house related items. It Goes On Alternatively, one could think about ...
Views: 945 - True-Self: Can Being Agreeable Cause Someone To Lose Touch With Their True-Self? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the ability to go along to get along, it can be a lot easier for them to get on with others. By not having the desire to rock the boat, so to speak, they are unlikely to rub other people up the wrong way. This is likely to mean that they will have a number of friends, and ...
Views: 945 - Are You Wasting Your Life On Social Media? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was walking past a few shops a number of weeks ago, I saw that there were plenty of people on their Smartphone’s. As it wasn’t busy, these people were busy using their Smartphone’s. I ended up wondering how many books people like this could read if they didn’t use their phones as ...
Views: 944 - Emotionally Disconnected: Do Some Men's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough both men and women can be out of touch with how they feel, it is undoubtedly something that impacts a lot of men. Therefore, it would be easy to say that more men than women are affected in this way, but that would possibly be a matter of conjecture. With that aside, when a man has ...
Views: 944 - Neglect: Can Childhood Neglect Cause Someone To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet that have a sense of their own value and then there are those that don’t. It can be as though some people were born with this in place, while others weren’t. Still, even though it might seem as though this is something that someone is born with, there is far ...
Views: 944 - What Can Someone Do To Be Highly Stressed? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt might seem as strange as to why I used the title above as it is not as though anyone would consciously look for a way to become highly stressed. Even so, this doesn’t mean this won’t take place unconsciously. Without realising it, someone can do just about everything that they can to ...
Views: 944 - How To Stay Humble - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEarlier on, whilst I was out shopping, I saw an image of a famous athlete with the words “stay humble” written on it. This is someone who is at the top of their game and is known all over the world. It is clear that this person realises how important it is for them to keep their feet on the ...
Views: 942 - 4 Little Ways to Improve Your Well-being and Happiness at Home or at Work - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2018 from Brendan Cahill1. Inside Out What you say to yourself on the inside will have an impact on how you act on the outside. So, try to be your own coach by advising yourself in the way a good friend would talk to you. If you were advising a good friend, you would use positive words and ‘big them up’ because you ...
Views: 941 - Fear: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Experience Too Much Fear? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that while some people in the world are controlled by fear, there are others who aren’t. Consequently, these people are likely to live lives that are radically different. Therefore, although these people will live on the same planet, it will be as though they live on two ...
Views: 941 - Social Anxiety and the Cocktail Party - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulWhile flipping through one of my favorite bedside stand-bys, Reflections on the Art of Living: A Joseph Campbell Companion, I came across the following passage and chuckled out loud: “My experience is that I can feel that I’m in the Grail Castle when I’m living with people I love, doing what ...
Views: 941 - Trauma: Can Someone Project Their Past Onto Their Present If They Experienced Trauma As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of reasons as to why someone would reach out for the support of a therapist or a counsellor. Still, if someone was to take this step, it could show that they are going through tough a time and can no longer handle what is going on. Perhaps they are experiencing a fair ...
Views: 941 - Heartbroken Not Broken - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulShame is often a placeholder for powerlessness and a protector against grief. Instead of feeling the rawness of grief, the mind latches onto a shame story that says, “I’m broken.” Instead of surrendering to the powerlessness of painful situations that had nothing to do with you, like your ...
Views: 939 - Self-Love: Can Someone’s Inner Critic Make It Hard For Them To Feel Good About Themselves? - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is able to talk to themselves in a positive manner, it is going to be a lot easier for them to feel good. This is similar to how one is likely to feel better if they are in the company of someone who treats them well. Through being around this person, they can feel good in their ...
Views: 939 - True-Self: Is It A Surprise For Someone Who Acts Strong To Feel Weak On The Inside? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOn the one hand, there is going to be how someone behaves and, on the other; there is going to be how someone feels on the inside. At times, what is taking place within them will be expressed through how they behave. An Authentic Human Being In this case, one is generally not going to put ...
Views: 939 - Social Media: Has Social Media Made It Harder For People To Deal With Conflict? - by Submitted on Nov 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that have changed since the advent of social media, and one of the things that it has done is changed how people communicate with each other. Instead of having to be around others, one can now ‘socialise’ online. One can then message someone who lives just down ...
Views: 936 - Turn Someone’s Anger Into Ease with You - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2020 from Kare AndersonWhen you most want to smash someone in the face or run out of the room, remember this irony. Cooling off someone else’s anger can be a way to actually bring that person closer. Warning: Don’t add fuel to the fire by suggesting that they calm down. Here are five ways to not only dampen their ...
Views: 936 - “Shame Is A Soul Eating Emotion” - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhile I was looking through some of Carl Jung quotes, one that stood out was ‘“Shame Is A Soul Eating Emotion”. When I saw this, it reminded me of something that I said about toxic shame a number of years ago. In at least two articles, I said that in the same way that acid destroys things, ...
Views: 936 - Critical Thinking: Why Is Russia And ‘Fake News’ Blamed For Everything? - by Submitted on May 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone keeps up to date with what is taking place in their own country and around the world, they are likely to have heard a lot about Trump and Brexit. But instead of the mainstream media being able to accept the fact that Trump won and Brexit took place and moving on, they have continued ...
Views: 935 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a problem to be solved, two things need to take place. Firstly, it needs to be clear that there is a problem, and secondly, it needs to be clear what the problem actually is. For example, ones car might not be running properly but, until they become aware of this absolutely ...
Views: 934 - Femininity: What Can Happen When A Man Rejects His Feminine Nature? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA lot has been said recently about the attack on masculinity and even about how men in general are being undermined. When it comes to masculinity, it is often made out that men are the only ones who have this element, which is then why men end up being seen as bad. This is, of course, not ...
Views: 934 - Relationships: Can A Man’s Unmet Childhood Needs Make Him Want To Sleep With A Lot Of Women? - by Submitted on Dec 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some men who generally have relationships, while there are others who have absolutely no interest in having one. But even if a man doesn’t want to have a relationship, it doesn’t mean that he has always been this way. No Longer the Same If there was a point in their life when ...
Views: 934 - 8 Easy Things That Will Boost Your Self-Confidence - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2014 from Kayla MatthewsWhen you want to grow as a person in any aspect of your life, you need to first focus on boosting your self-confidence. Without a high self-worth, you won’t be able to motivate yourself properly or even feel as if you are capable of achieving any goal that you may set. And garnering a greater ...
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