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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Critical Thinking: Does A Woman Need To Seek Professional Help If She Believes That All Men Are Bad? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it appears to be perfectly acceptable for a woman in the public eye to bash men. She can say all kinds of things that will basically amount to men being less-than human and worthless, and absolutely nothing will be done. Now, that’s not to say that both men and women won’t ...
Views: 1079 - “The Individual Has Always Had To Struggle To Keep From Being Overwhelmed By The Tribe” - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperMany years ago, I heard the following quote from Friedrich Nietzsche, “The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe. If you try it, you will be lonely often, and sometimes frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning ...
Views: 1079 - Caught in the Story - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2018 from Sheryl PaulOur stories form a crystal cave of stalactites and stalagmites in our minds, a cool chamber that seduces us with the promise that if we spend enough time there we will divine our answers. How beautiful this cave looks! How many promises it offers! And how familiar this cave becomes when we’ve ...
Views: 1078 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Feel Inadequate Around People Who Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around the people in their life, they may find that they generally feel good about themselves. And through feeling this way when they are around them, it is likely to mean that they will feel good when their time together comes to an end. Another Outcome Yet, if this ...
Views: 1078 - Self-Worth: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Human Doings? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who have moments in their life when they take action and moments when they relax, there are others who are practically always doing something. As a result of this, it is going to mean that these people don’t experience life in the same way. One Outcome When ...
Views: 1078 - Self-Development: Are You Drawn To A Teacher Because Of What They Know Or Because Of How They Come Across? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one wanted to change something about themselves in the past, they may have ended up reading a book, for instance. Nowadays, one can end up going onto a search engine and watching a video. But if they were to read something, it could relate to what has been written on a blog. What this ...
Views: 1078 - Critical Thinking: Does Identity Politics Cause Some People To Suffer From Thinkaphobia? - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the main purpose of the education system is to give people the guidance that they need in order to be able to think for themselves. Along with this, it will be important for them to receive the tools that they need to stand on their own two feet. In an ideal world, that ...
Views: 1077 - I Went On A Hoffman Process Introduction Day - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperA little while ago, I ended up hearing about the Hoffman process and I was told that this was a powerful process. This was put forward as something that would allow someone to let go of the patterns in their life that are holding them back. I wanted to find out more about this process, and ...
Views: 1076 - The World Needs More Love! - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out the other day I saw a paper bag that said something like, ‘the world needs more love.’ This is something that is hard to deny, considering how much suffering and destruction there is. One only needs to watch the news or to pick up a paper to hear about something negative that ...
Views: 1076 - #1 Ways To Improve Intrapersonal Skills - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2020 from Rukayya ZirapurWhat do we want from life? Happiness right? Before asking for anything else, the one thing that remains constant is happiness. Without it, all of us are incomplete. No matter then how much rich, successful and settled we get. Happiness remains constant. But how do you know you are happy or ...
Views: 1075 - Critical Thinking: Can Religion Cause Someone To Have A Superiority Complex? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has an elevated view of themselves, it can be normal for other people to see them as deluded. This person is simply going to be another human being, but they will create the impression that they are different. It can be as though they are from another planet, with this being ...
Views: 1075 - Therapy: What Does It Say About Today’s Relationships When Some People Have To Pay Others To Listen To Them? - by Submitted on Nov 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to work with a therapist or a counsellor; in fact, it could be said that it is a fairly common occurrence. Even so, this doesn’t mean that someone won’t feel ashamed for needing to be assisted in this way. Yet even if they did feel ashamed at this ...
Views: 1075 - Emotionally Disconnected: Why Do Some People Disconnect From Their Emotions When They Are Around Others? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIdeally, someone will be in tune with how they feel when they are around others; the reason being that it will allow them to function as a whole human being. Through being aware of how they feel, they will be able to connect to how other people feel and to connect to their own emotional ...
Views: 1074 - The Poetry of Loss - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2018 from Sheryl PaulMy son and I are driving into town for our weekly Friday morning special time and Suzanne Vega’s song “The World Before Columbus” comes on. It’s a song she wrote for her daughter that I used to sing to Everest when he was a baby, and these lyrics made me cry every time: Those men who lust for ...
Views: 1074 - The Energy Of Election Years - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2008 from Dan LissRight now, of course, you cannot turn on your radio, TV or computer without hearing endless chatter about the elections. That is to be expected in an election year. Notice the energy right now. People who are advocating for their candidates are very intense, and that makes sense too. With an ...
Views: 1073 - The Media: Is The Mainstream Media More Deceitful Than Ever Before? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThere are, of course, a number of ways to find out about what is taking place in the world, and this is why it is no longer necessary to look towards the mainstream media. Someone can now find out about what is taking place by looking towards the alternative media. Old Habits Die Hard ...
Views: 1072 - Adrenalin: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Addicted To Adrenaline? - by Submitted on May 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone wanted to get an idea of what it is like to experience adrenalin, they could imagine what it would be like if ten people were running after them. Not only will their body be in fight or flight mode, they will also experience a surge of energy and feel alive. What plays a part in ...
Views: 1071 - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Condition People To Believe That Everything Is Black And White? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to being informed about the world, it is not uncommon for someone to look towards the mainstream media. There is a strong chance that this is something that has taken place for most of their life. They could find that the people they spend time with also have the same approach, ...
Views: 1071 - “Neurosis Is Always A Substitute For Legitimate Suffering” - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the term ‘legitimate suffering’, it might not make any sense to them. But, if they were to hear the word ‘neurosis’, they might have a rough idea about what it means. This could be seen as a normal part of living in a society that encourages the avoidance of pain and ...
Views: 1071 - Critical Thinking: Will The Drug Industry Love Danny Rose For Talking About His Depression? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, an English professional footballer opened up about his battle with depression, and this ended up being big news in England. This was partly because he is a well-known footballer and partly because of what he spoke about. He said that there were three main reasons why he ended up in ...
Views: 1070 - Relationships: When Someone Tells Other People How To Live Their Life Does It Show That They Lack Empathy? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time with the people they are close to, they may find that they are happy to listen to them. This is likely to show that they are there to support them, and their life is then going to be a lot easier than it would be otherwise. The Perfect Scenario Through being treated ...
Views: 1070 - TO-DO LISTS - REMEMBER WHO'S IN CHARGE (Part2) - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2013 from Alan KeyseIn the Part One of this blog I discussed the problems that can be posed by attitudes to ‘To Do lists’, especially in the workplace, when people find themselves labouring under the burden of excessive stress. We looked at the possible adverse reactions and counter productive effects that the ...
Views: 1070 - Critical Thinking: Are Certain Celebrities Causing Women To Sexually Objectify Themselves? - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperUnless someone has been living under a rock for a number of years, they will have most likely heard about a certain family that receives a fair amount of media exposure. In this family, there are a number of daughters who routinely strip off for different magazines. That is, of course, when ...
Views: 1069 - Critical Thinking: Why Do So Many Celebrities Support Open Borders? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to look towards a celebrity for guidance. Consequently, it won’t matter if a celebrity is a good singer, actor/actress, or any else for that matter, as they will be seen as an authority on just about everything under the sun. Now, if someone has ...
Views: 1069 - Defence Mechanism: What Is Splitting? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences emotional pain, and this pain is too strong for them to handle, their mind can end up using a defence to keep it at bay. In this sense, a defence is very much like a water dam, inasmuch as it is there to stop something from flooding in. After a little while, it will ...
Views: 1069 - Feeling Hopeless Can Be A Good Thing! - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone feels hopeless, it can cause them to feel down and as though they have no control. And, unless something changes, they could end up feeling even worse - sinking even further down into themselves. It can then seem as though there is no way out, and they may come to believe that the ...
Views: 1068 - The Secret of Success - You - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Marty WardIt is the end of January – almost Super Bowl time – the year is ticking by. You asked yourself what you’re doing differently; what happened to those New Year’s Resolutions; that motivational seminar….??? Now it’s almost February, then March, soon you feel the warmth of April…. What the hell ...
Views: 1068(2 votes) - The Secret of Success - You - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2011 from Marty WardIt is the end of January – almost Super Bowl time – the year is ticking by. You asked yourself what you’re doing differently; what happened to those New Year’s Resolutions; that motivational seminar….??? Now it’s almost February, then March, soon you feel the warmth of April…. What the hell ...
Views: 1068(2 votes) - Victim Mentality: Do Some People Only Feel Loved When They Act Like A Victim? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to someone’s self-image, there is the chance that it is having a positive effect on their life. How they see themselves is then going to allow them to feel good about themselves and to fulfil their needs. Two Parts What this shows is how much of an effect one’s view of ...
Views: 1068 - “My Life Had No Meaning!” - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember lying in bed as a child feeling overwhelmed by my emotions and wanting my life to end. This wasn’t a one-off, though; as this was something I went through on numerous occasions. I had a father, mother, and a sister, but I felt as though I was all by myself; that’s not to say that ...
Views: 1068 - Cold War Take Two: Top 8 Season 2 Guns for All Players - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2021 from jitender jaggaSeason 2 has arrived, which means that now is the perfect time to see what kind of meta builds and weapons are the best-performing in the current season. Coming up next, LFcarry’s guide on top-tier Season 2 guns and why you need to add these titles to your collection right now. Top 4 Call ...
Views: 1067 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Believe That They Have To Do What Other People Want In Order To Be Accepted? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that it is part of human nature to want to be accepted, and this is something that human beings need during the beginning of their life. When this takes place, it is likely to be a lot easier for them to function when they are older. Self-Acceptance The reason for this is ...
Views: 1067 - Why We Read Our Daily Horoscopes - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Roseanna LeatonThere are some things in life, which we would like to happen, but which we at the same time feel uncertain about. The majority of us like to know, and to be assured, about important things, but it would seem that part of our learning curve in this life is to discover ways in which to deal with ...
Views: 1067 - Caring What Other People Think - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2018 from Sheryl PaulHow would your life be different if you didn’t care what other people thought? How might your relationship, your job, and your day-to-day functioning be different if you weren’t weighed down by others’ opinions? How might you peel and crack out of the shells of your insecurity and arrive more ...
Views: 1066 - Positive Thinking: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Being Positive? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was given the option of experiencing extreme joy or extreme sadness, there is the chance that they would go for the former. It feels good to feel good; whereas it feels bad to feel bad. Based on this, it could be said that it is easy to see why someone would want to feel good all ...
Views: 1066 - “I Want To Be With Someone Who Makes Me Look Good!” - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years I have heard people say that they want to be with someone who will make them look good. Additionally, there have been people who have wanted to take their partner out to “show them off”. There have even been moments in my own life when I have thought that being with woman ...
Views: 1066 - “You Shouldn’t Have Asked!” - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn early 2000, I started to learn a martial art, and for a little while before this I had thought about doing something. What had a played part here was that I had been watching films with Jean-Claude Van Damme in. And while I ended up learning a different marital art to the one I had in ...
Views: 1066 - Feelings: Tools to Expand Our Lives - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2009 from Deborah HillFeelings are very underrated. In my book, Unlimited Life: Limiting Beliefs and Belief Busting Power Truths, I discuss how our beliefs define us. I discuss in the book, and in past articles how limiting beliefs prevent us from creating the life that we desire. A question that comes up often is, ...
Views: 1064 - Travelling Is Great For Self-Development! - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAfter I went to Stockholm, Sweden, I was reminded of how good it was to travel, and the experience was very similar to how I felt when I have travelled in the past. When I went away last time, I came back feeling alive. In addition to this, I saw myself differently and a lot of my thoughts ...
Views: 1064 - Empathy Is No Better Than Anger! - by Submitted on May 04, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was at a bar the other night there was a scuffle; fortunately, no one was injured. I thought that this is what can happen when some people get drunk, they lose all self-control. Instead of being able to think about what they are doing and the consequences that may arise, they end ...
Views: 1064 - What is the Work of Breaking Free from Relationship Anxiety? - by Submitted on Oct 31, 2018 from Sheryl PaulA coaching client recently said to me, “You talk a lot about doing “the work”, and I wondered for so long what “the work” was. I thought that if I understood anxiety intellectually I would feel better. And the first time I went through the course I did feel better for a while, which I know is ...
Views: 1063 - Social Media: Why Do Some People Keep Their Views To Themselves On Social Media? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to social media, it is often seen as something that people use to express themselves. Here, they can talk about what they have been doing with their life, and they can share their views on certain topics. And, when one does this online, it is going to allow their ‘friends’ to ...
Views: 1061 - Critical Thinking: Are Some People Injustice Collectors? - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear about people who have experiences each day where they feel taken advantage of or harmed in some way. As a result of this, it can be normal for someone like this to feel oppressed and/or victimised, along with feeling offended. And, it might not matter if they are ...
Views: 1060 - Critical Thinking: Is Being Outraged Another Way For Someone To Receive Attention? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon to hear about someone who is outraged about something. But while this is nothing new, there is something that is new, and this relates to the kind of things that people get worked up about. A Mountain Out of a Mole Hill If someone got worked up about ...
Views: 1060 - GETTING TO YES! - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Joel Bryant, Ed.D.A book entitled, Getting to Yes, appeared several years ago. It focused on the art and science of negotiation, and how to make beneficial compromises as we each pursue our peculiar aims. As used in this article, however, getting to yes implies mastering the steps needed to experience the ...
Views: 1060 - Makeup And The False-Self - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe other day I saw a picture of a woman’s face on social media and this picture had received a fair amount ‘likes’. That wasn’t it though, as she had received a number of positive comments. One of these comments went into how good she looked and there were others that went even further, ...
Views: 1060 - Critical Thinking: Was Everything Fine Before Trump Became President? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperDue to Trump’s visit to England, he has received more media coverage than usual, and this has also meant that certain people have spent more time talking about him than they usually would. It is as though some people can’t stop thinking about Trump; their whole life appears to revolve around ...
Views: 1059 - Don't Worry, Be Happy (Managing Stress) - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2018 from Kare AndersonHere are five fairly simple to take some of the stress out of your life. They don’t always work, yet what does? 1. Problems seldom exist at the level they're expressed. To resolve some conflicts, look for the problem that underlies what you're discussing. Ask yourself where the actual ...
Views: 1059 - Know Proven Ways To Control Your Mind - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2019 from Sri TulasiMany types of thoughts keep coming to mind. The mind does not become shunya (zero, thought-free). Thoughts keep on coming. In terms of thoughts, the fact is that the mind gives you information. ‘This is good, this is fearsome… this is like this…, this is like that.’ Thus, it is carrying out its ...
Views: 1059 - Insights for Success from Neuroscioence - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2019 from John DiPreteFor the seeker of enlightenment, there is much to learn and nothing to fear from the secrets of neuroscience. Brain tricks — sometimes called hacks — are mental "shortcuts" designed to enhance life's success. What follows is a stack of reliable insights known to boost all areas of life: ...
Views: 1058 - We Are All On Our Own Path! - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI was talking to someone the other day who was finding it hard to get through to another person in their life. They could see that this person was unable to make progress in an area of their life and this caused them to offer their advice. But while it was their intention to assist them, ...
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