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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Teaching in the 21st Century - A Call to Service - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2018 from Dr Ana GarciaI was a teacher at the age of 23. After many years of wanting to be an engineer, I finally managed to get myself into the engineering university only to find out that I had a problem with my back and had to be hospitalized for a few months to correct the unhealthy curvature of my spine. By ...
Views: 1257 - Boundaries: Can Someone End Up Being Walked Over When They Have The Need To Please Others? - by Submitted on May 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around the people who they are close to, they may find that they are able to be themselves. What this is going to show is that they won’t have to put on an act. Not only is one going to be in touch with their needs and feeelings, they are also going to feel safe enough ...
Views: 1256 - Self-Development: Can Someone Get Into Self-Development When They Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone doesn’t feel good about themselves, there are number things that can take place. One of the things they can do is to embrace how they feel, and to allow what is taking place within them to define their life. Disempowered When this takes place, one is going to spend a lot of ...
Views: 1256 - “I Was Completely Out of Touch With My Own Needs!” - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperOnce I had finished studying sport and leisure at college in 2003, I had absolutely no idea about what I was going to do next. I had only taken this course because I enjoyed working out and I didn’t know what else to do. So after it was over, I soon had to face what I had been able to avoid ...
Views: 1256 - Discrimination: Is Discrimination Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to hear about someone who is being treated unfairly, they could end up feeling angry about what is taking place. This could relate to someone who, because of their gender, was turned down from a job. Alternatively, this person may have read the job description and found out that ...
Views: 1255 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Experience Anxiety When They Don't Please Others? - by Submitted on May 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that one’s life can be an expression of their own needs or it can be an expression of other people’s needs. When it comes to the former, one is pleasing themselves; whereas when it comes to the latter, they are pleasing others. True Fulfilment In order for one to live a ...
Views: 1255 - "You Have To Kill Your Inner Parents!" - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperAt the end of 2016, I could see that I needed to work on my boundaries and to feel better about myself. When it came to the former, this wasn’t just about me saying no; it was also about me listening to my own needs and no longer trying to please others. As for the latter, I could see that ...
Views: 1253 - Emotionally Sensitive Body: Do Some People Have An Emotionally Sensitive Body? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was in a position where they spend a lot of time feeling drained, they might end up looking into what they eat. Along with this, they could take the time to see if they are getting enough sleep. The Logical Approach One way of looking at this would be to say that this is the kind ...
Views: 1252 - Loss: Can The Need To Be Loyal Stop Someone From Being Able To ‘Move On’? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that the loss of a loved one is one of the hardest things to experience on this earth. This can relate to a family member, a partner, a friend, and even a pet. When this takes place, someone can end up being mentally, emotionally and physically floored. It can be as if their ...
Views: 1251 - Scared to Life (vs. Scared to Death) - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2013 from Geoff LaughtonIt’s kind of a funny thing, that expression “It scared me to death.” [Recently discussed by Geoff at Debbie LaChusa's Money Success Happiness blog at www.moneysuccesshappiness.com] In my work with people, and in my own personal life, one of the biggest components of happiness, success, ...
Views: 1251 - Self-Worth: Can Someone Realise Their Value By Being Creative? - by Submitted on Nov 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who feel comfortable in their own skin, so to speak, there are others who don’t. When one does experience life in this way, they are likely to have a sense of their own value. Self-Worth Through being in touch with what they bring to the world, they won’t feel ...
Views: 1251 - Social Media: Why Are Some People Addicted To 'Likes'? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, images have been shared on social media where people are injecting and snorting ‘Likes’. These images have been created to emphasise the fact that some people are hooked on receiving ‘Likes’ from others. And in the same way that a drug addict might not mind where ...
Views: 1251 - “Are Open Borders A Good Idea?” - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperI had arranged to speak to Errol again and before our call, there was something that I wanted to talk to him about. What I wanted to know was what his views were on open borders and if he thought we no longer needed them. This topic was on my mind due to what someone had shared on social ...
Views: 1251 - Addiction: Is A Lack Of Connection The Root Cause Of Addiction? - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a video online titled, ‘Could the Root Cause of Addiction actually be a lack of Connection?’, and this video posits that a lack of connection causes addiction. It also says that “not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but they can all be traced to a painful ...
Views: 1250 - Critical Thinking: Can A Weak Sense Of Self Cause Someone To Be Drawn To A Political Movement? - by Submitted on Dec 20, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone is at university, or has been to one in the past, they could be part of some kind of movement. When it comes to someone who is still studying, they may be part of at least one society. A Big Interest This could be something that is a big part of their life, which could mean ...
Views: 1250 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Criticise Their Friends? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone can spend time with people that they appreciate, they can also spend time with people who irritate them. As a result of this, not everyone is going to feel the same when they are around their friends. When it relates to the former, one could find that they have the same values ...
Views: 1250 - Support: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Believe That Support Is Conditional? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf it wasn’t for one’s bones, muscles and joints, it would be possible for them to do anything. Through the support that each of these provides, it is possible for one to move their body. However, even though one feels physically supported, it doesn’t mean they will feel supported when it ...
Views: 1250 - Self-Trust, Red Flags and Relationship Anxiety - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2019 from Sheryl PaulJust as there are no rules for life, there are no rules for relationships. That statement can be triggering for the ego, the part of us that insatiably demands definite answers and craves formulas. “Tell me how to live and how to love and then I’ll know that I’ll be okay!” the ego thinks, then ...
Views: 1249 - Therapy: Does Someone Need To Be Perfect In Order To Assist Others? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has the desire to assist others, they can end up taking the next step. At the same time, they can also experience inner conflict, and this can then stop them from taking action. In this case, one could believe that every area of their life needs to be going in the right ...
Views: 1249 - Vulnerability: Why Do Some People Feel Extremely Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel as though it is safe them to exist, there are others who don’t. Even so, this could be something that someone is not consciously aware of; how they experience life could just be what is normal. Part of Life However, if they were asked about what they do each day, ...
Views: 1249(1 vote) - “It Wasn't Safe For Me To Express My Emotions!” - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was about 12 years old, I remember being told to “stop moaning” by my mother. And based on how she responded in this moment, it was as though I was actually making a fuss over nothing. However, this couldn’t have been further from the truth; I was simply speaking out about something. ...
Views: 1249 - Do You Pull The Plug On Your Own Productivity - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Sharon MelnickAs you know, you have approximately 60,000 thoughts a day, but a single one can pull the plug on your productivity for the whole day (or week). For example, I had a client who who sold insurance. He got a referral to meet with the person who heads a big union. Can you imagine, get to ...
Views: 1248(2 votes) - EQ...Hype or Hope? - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2013 from Les LentEQ or Emotional Intelligence isn’t really new—the Time Life cover shown dates back to the early 90′s. The subject continues to gain attention as more companies (and individuals) look for a competitive edge. In this post I’ll attempt to demystify the concept of EQ and offer some guidelines on how ...
Views: 1248 - False-Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Confident When They Are Playing A Role? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for one to be themselves, it will be necessary for them to feel confident enough to do so. Therefore, if this is not in place, it is not going to be possible for one to express their true-self. One way of looking at it would be to say that one’s true-self is the top of a table, ...
Views: 1248 - Hollywood: Do Hollywood Actors No Longer Exist To Distract People? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone wants to relax, they could end up looking for a film to watch, and there are going to be a number of ways for them to do this. For one thing, one could go and watch something at the cinema. This may then mean that they will have to wait a little while, and this could be because ...
Views: 1248 - Optimism Optimizes Your Performance - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2013 from Valencia RayUnderstanding optimism is important to elevating your performance. Finally, the power of feelings and emotions are beginning to be openly discussed within the context of science, business, and leadership. Historically, the term "touchy feely" has been used to dismiss important aspects of ...
Views: 1248(1 vote) - Dear Dr. Romance: I Cry upon a disagreement - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Your article on "Fair Fight Guidelines" is wonderful!!! My major issue is that I cry upon a disagreement. This prevents me to think clearly, act maturely and interact directly. Would you please address this issue? Dear Reader: Thank you for the ...
Views: 1247 - Do You Put Up With Bad Service? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThe time had come for me to see my friend Wain again, and I was looking forward to telling him about my time in Stockholm, Sweden. But, I knew that this wouldn’t be a time when we would simply talk about what we had been up to. I knew that we wouldn’t talk about ‘normal’ things, and this ...
Views: 1247 - Fire your client! - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2012 from mandie crawfordWhat do you mean, fire the client? It seems hard enough to find a client – now you want to fire them? However many people take on just any client because they think that they must - to stay in business. But not every client is the right client. How can there be a wrong client? A good ...
Views: 1247 - Their Arm Was Covered In Cuts! - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen I was out the other day, I saw someone who had all these cuts on their forearm and I thought that this person must self-harm. Over the years, I have seen a number of people with arms that have received a lot of harm. But, whenever I see something like this, I usually feel pain through ...
Views: 1247 - Anxiety: Does Someone Have Mental Health Problems If They Experience Anxiety? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there is a strong chance that someone will reach out for support if they have mental and emotional problems, and there are at least two reasons for this. Firstly, it is more acceptable to talk about these kinds of things. This is not to say that everyone who they come into contact ...
Views: 1246 - Therapy: Does Someone Need To Work With A Therapist If They Have Good Friends? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has mental and emotional and/or relationship challenges, they can feel the need to reach out for external support. This could be seen as the best approach for them to take in order to change their circumstances. Through having this outlook, the next step will be for them to find ...
Views: 1246 - True-Self: How Can People Respond When Someone Lets Go Of Their False-Self? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to how one behaves around others, there is the chance that their behaviour generally matches up with their true needs and feelings. What this will then mean is that they won’t have the inclination to put on an act around others. Therefore, if the people they are close to were ...
Views: 1246 - "This Guy Has Good Boundaries!" - by Submitted on Sep 17, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperAs I look back on my journey, I can see that there have been a number of moments when what I was doing no longer worked. And, when this has happened, it has caused me to look for something else. One of the moments that comes to mind is in the middle of 2009, as this was a time when what I ...
Views: 1244 - Free Won't: 5 Steps From Impulsive to Intelligent Behavior - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2012 from Judy RingerThe capacity to withhold an action that we have prepared but reconsidered is an important distinction between intelligent and impulsive behavior. ~ Marcel Brass, of the Max Planck Institute for Human Cognitive and Brain Sciences and of Ghent University. Several years ago, I related a Ki ...
Views: 1244 - Masculinity: Why Do Some Men Have A Strong Need To Be Desired By Women? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf a man is straight, it could be said that it will be normal for him to have the need to be seen as desirable to the opposite sex. And while this could apply to women in general, it could have far more to do with the type of women that he finds attractive. Through being seen as desirable, a ...
Views: 1244 - Migrant Crisis: Do Some Celebrities Lack Empathy When They Talk About The Migrant Crisis? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt seems that not a day goes by without a celebrity sharing their views on something that is not related to their profession. And like everyone else on this planet, it could be said that they are entitled to their own opinion. The Truth However, when a celebrity says something it can have ...
Views: 1244 - Celebrities: Do Certain Celebrities Normalise Attention Seeking Behaviour? - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, there are a number of ways for someone to become famous, and this has opened the door to people from all walks of life. Said another way, it is no longer necessary for someone to have real talent; they can end up in the public eye for other reasons. Reality TV What has ...
Views: 1243 - It's OK To Have Doubts - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Roseanna LeatonEveryone has an element of the "Doubting Thomas" within their personality. For some people this doubting and fearful part of their character has a high profile and filters everything through these potentially negative lenses. Others suppress this part of their focus and virtually turn a blind ...
Views: 1243 - Women Golfers Tend To Get More Nervous Than Male Golfers - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2011 from Roseanna LeatonI don't mean to sound sexist here. Rather, I'm talking about facts. I have always noticed that female golfers have more trouble with self-belief in terms of trusting their alignment or their reads of the putting green. Women golfers also seem to suffer more from tournament pressure. I ...
Views: 1243 - Six Steps to Attract Clients by Facing Your Fear - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2011 from Jason WestlakeOne of the key components that holds you back from attracting clients in you life coaching business is fear and limiting beliefs. You don’t think clients will pay you. You feel like you’re not good enough. You don’t know how you could double the number of clients you already bring in. You ...
Views: 1242 - Follow Your Bliss - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2013 from Layne SchmidtFollow your bliss, words attributed to Joseph Campbell philosopher, writer, explorer and a man way ahead of his time. I’ve always loved the sentiment – but sometimes; bliss feels like its a million miles away and it’s pretty hard to follow at that distance. For years now I’ve been intent on ...
Views: 1241 - Letting Go: Do Some People Only Know Who They Are When They Are Holding Onto The Past? - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one can drive, they will know that they can either go forwards or they can go backwards; what they can’t do is to go in both directions at the same time. In the same way, one can either stay stuck in the past or they can embrace the present. Therefore, in order for one to be able to live ...
Views: 1241 - Leadership: The Courage to Actually Lead - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2013 from Valencia RayReal leadership is about having the courage to inspire change and engage the heart of others to take action. Not just action for the sake of action; there also needs to be clarity of ‘why’ you are choosing a given course of action. What are you as a leader doing that is different than you did ...
Views: 1240(1 vote) - Rampant Rudeness: What's the Real Cause? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2009 from lisa mcleodOutbursts in Congress, cursing on the tennis courts, and grabbing the mic from a young award winner; everyone is lamenting our loss of civility as more and more public figures continue to behave badly. To quote my grandmother, "I think someone has forgotten their manners." It would be ...
Views: 1240(1 vote) - Anger: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a number of people were asked what they think about anger, some of them might say that it is a ‘bad’ emotion. This is then going to be something that is black and white, meaning that it is not open for debate. Someone like this could talk about how this is an emotion that only causes ...
Views: 1239 - Boundaries: Does Someone Need To Embrace Their Masculine Nature If They Are Unable To Say No? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one is asked if they would like to do something, they could end up saying yes. This could show that they actually want to do what the person has suggested, and there will then have been no reason for them to say anything else. A Wonderful Experience This could then be a time when one ...
Views: 1239 - How To Become Stronger - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2011 from Roseanna LeatonYou are in all likelihood a lot tougher than you think you are. Most of us don't realize the real extent of our strength until we are tested by life events. When difficult situations evolve, we almost always rise to the occasion. We think that we couldn't cope with many a circumstance, ...
Views: 1239 - The Most Powerful Medicine to Soothe a Rupture of Anxiety - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2019 from Sheryl PaulLife moves along in flows and eddies. The more you attend to your inner world and heal the long-standing and deep-seated pain and trauma that live at the root of intrusive thoughts, the longer the stretches of eddies and the time you’ll stand amongst the reeds, flowing with the small moments of ...
Views: 1239 - Entitlement Mentality: Can Someone Develop An Entitlement Mentality After Being Told That They 'Deserve It'? - by Submitted on Jan 11, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not going to be uncommon for someone to be told that they deserve it. But if this is not the case, then there is a strong chance that they have come across this expression when they have been online. Uplifting If one was to hear this, it is likely to be something ...
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