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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Want To Save The World? - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to act as though it is their purpose to save the world. The world is then going to be in a mess and it will be up to them to do something about it. This could be something that will consume their whole life, meaning that it will be hard for them to ...
Views: 1039 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some People Who Always Talk About Tolerance Act Intolerant? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf one uses social media, they may have come across people who talk about how important it is to be tolerant. This could be something that has taken place through reading what people write and through looking at the images they have shared. And, if one spends a lot of time online, this have ...
Views: 1959 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some Students Need Counselling After They’re Exposed To Different Viewpoints? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIt seems as though it is not uncommon for a speaker to be interrupted when they give a talk at a university. When this happens, it might have a small effect on what they have set out to achieve, or it could be far worse. During this time, someone like this could wonder what is going on and ...
Views: 1200 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some Vegetarians Eat Meat When They Are Drunk? - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, more and more people have turned their back on meat and other animal based by-products. In the past, it was often a rare occurrence to come across someone who lives in this way, but nowadays, it can be a regular occurrence. What has unboundedly played a part in all this is ...
Views: 914 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some White People Hate Their Own Race? - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRegardless of whether someone has spent time at university and/or on social media, they may have come across white people who hate their own race. This could be something that has made them scratch their head, so to speak, or it might not have simply gone over their head. When someone ...
Views: 1568 - Critical Thinking: Why Do Some White People Hate Themselves? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf one pays attention to the mainstream media and/or spends time on different social media sites, they may have come across at least one white person who blames their entire race for all the problems in the world. It is then going to be clear that they are ashamed of the colour of their own skin ...
Views: 1538 - Critical Thinking: Why Do We Keep Electing Idiots? - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn America, it is not hard to find someone who doesn’t like Donald Trump, or anywhere else in the world for that matter. Also, the mainstream media typically only has bad things to say about him. Compared with the last president, Barack Obama, Trump is often seen as being a poor ...
Views: 1030 - Critical Thinking: Why Does A Large Part Of Humanity Want A Powerful Leader? - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperIn most, if not all, countries around the world, there is a government that is in control of what happens. Or, according to some people in the world, just appears to be in control of what happens. Anyway, this government will have a main leader, and this person will be responsible for the ...
Views: 573 - Critical Thinking: Why Is A Large Part Of Humanity Over-Reliant On Experts? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to the current pandemic, a lot of people have been looking towards the mainstream media and the government for guidance. For a lot of these people, the aforementioned sources are seen as having all the answers. Therefore, as long as they stay up-to-date with what these two sources say, ...
Views: 538 - Critical Thinking: Why Is It Hard For Some People To Accept That Their Government Lies To Them? - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperThere are those that not only believe that their government, along with other governments around the world, would lie to them but who also have the evidence to back it up. This is then not going to be something that has just happened once; it will be something that takes place on a regular ...
Views: 617 - Critical Thinking: Why Is It So Easy For The Mainstream Media To Divide People? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperOne way to look at the current age would be to say that it is the age of division, due to how fractured so many countries have become. In the not-so-distant past, countries were primarily fighting each other and now, some people within countries are fighting each other. Although there has ...
Views: 507 - Critical Thinking: Why Is Russia And ‘Fake News’ Blamed For Everything? - by Submitted on May 05, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone keeps up to date with what is taking place in their own country and around the world, they are likely to have heard a lot about Trump and Brexit. But instead of the mainstream media being able to accept the fact that Trump won and Brexit took place and moving on, they have continued ...
Views: 935 - Critical Thinking: Why Would A Man/Woman Be Against Masculinity? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, a lot has been said about so-called ‘toxic masculinity’ and now, ‘traditional masculinity’ has been targeted by the experts at the American Psychological Association (APA). Masculinity is then a problem and, if a man has any masculine traits, it will mean that he is also ...
Views: 973 - Critical Thinking: Why Would A Woman Want To Put Fillers In Her Face? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, dermal fillers were only used by a small amount of women but, as time has passed, this has changed. Far more women use them than ever before and there are undoubtedly a number of reasons as to why this is. One important distinction that needs to be made here is the difference ...
Views: 1020 - Critical Thinking: Why Would Someone Believe That Another Person Has All The Answers? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across someone that had a deeper understanding of something, it doesn’t mean that they would end up putting this person on a pedestal. As a result of this, the other person will be seen as knowledgeable but one won’t perceive them as being better than they themselves ...
Views: 851 - Critical Thinking: Will It Be A Time Of "Healing" When The President Leaves The White House? - by Submitted on Nov 14, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor a little while now, numerous mainstream media sources have said that it will be a time of “healing” when the current president of America leaves the White House. This is also something that has been said by the person who is seen as being the next president of America. Or to be more ...
Views: 569 - Critical Thinking: Will The Drug Industry Love Danny Rose For Talking About His Depression? - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, an English professional footballer opened up about his battle with depression, and this ended up being big news in England. This was partly because he is a well-known footballer and partly because of what he spoke about. He said that there were three main reasons why he ended up in ...
Views: 1079 - Critical Thinking: Will The World Only Change If People Become Aware Of What Is Going On ‘Out There’? - by Submitted on May 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIn addition to what has been said about the contagion that has both directly and indirectly had a big effect on the world, there has been an increasing focus on what is going on ‘behind the scenes’. Videos have been made and articles have been written that go into things that the mainstream ...
Views: 618 - Critical Thinking: Will The World Only Change If People Become Aware Of What ‘The Elites’ Are Doing? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperFor many, many years now, it has been said that the world is ruled by a small group of people. Some of the people who have been talking about this for decades have even become household names. This can be seen as largely the result of the platforms that are now available online and how easy ...
Views: 474 - Critical Thinking: Would Most Religions Die Out If It Wasn't For The Indoctrination Of Children? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are children who, practically from the moment they were born, were made to support a certain sports team. This is likely to be a team that one of their family members also supports. Perhaps this family member ended up supporting this team because one of their family members behaved in ...
Views: 818 - Critical Thinking: Would The World Be Better If It Was Run By Women? - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, numerous people have said that the world would be a far better place if it was no longer run men. In their eyes, a world run by women would lead to a world that is far better for everyone. When someone has this view, they can see men as being one way and women as being ...
Views: 845 - Critical Thinking: Would The World Be Different If “Conspiracy Theorists” Focused On Creating A Better World? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2021 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, there are a lot of people who spend a fair amount of their time looking into what appears to be taking place behind the scenes. Thanks to modern-day technology, there is no shortage of information when it comes to this topic. The only thing that someone like this will need is a ...
Views: 358 - Critical: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Be Critical Of Others? - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look back on their life, they may find that they have come across at least two types of people. One on hand, this could relate to people who are supportive, and on the other hand, it could relate to people who are not. When one thinks about the former, they could think about a ...
Views: 1536 - Criticising Others: Do Some People Criticise Others To Make Themselves Feel Better? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that someone can do to change how they feel, and it could be said that some of these things are going to be better than others. For example, if one was to reach out for chocolate whenever they need to change their mood, it could set them up to experience negative ...
Views: 1604 - Criticism: How To Make It Work For You. - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2008 from Brock HansenGiving and accepting criticism gracefully can be a tricky business. Many a friendship or family relationship has foundered on the shoals of major, minor, or even anticipated criticism. Performance evaluations at school or work are minefields of misunderstood criticism. What makes criticism ...
Views: 2028 - Crying: Is Having The Ability To Cry Important? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is made up of moments that are pleasurable and moments that are painful, it doesn’t mean that someone is able to accept each side. There are going to be people who do everything they can to embrace pleasure and avoid pain, and, there are going to be others who renounce pleasure and ...
Views: 1886 - Cultivating a Winning Mindset for Forex Trading: Strategies for Success - by Submitted on May 04, 2024 from hassam khIn the high-stakes world of Forex trading, success often hinges not just on technical prowess and market analysis but also on the mindset of the trader. Developing a winning mindset is essential for navigating the unpredictable terrain of the foreign forex robot exchange market and achieving ...
Views: 388 - Cure Your Own Depression - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2015 from Dr. Wendy TreynorIn the past, my reference group told me that if I did what they said in the present, they would Love me in the future, which means they were withholding Love from me now—which means they were withholding Love from me always! No wonder I felt worthless. They were giving me conditional ...
Views: 952 - Customer Service: Is Being Present Important? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was going to meet a friend, there is a strong chance that they would expect them to show up not only physically, but also mentally and emotionally. Another way of looking at this would be to say that they expect them to be present. However, if this wasn’t the case, it could be because ...
Views: 2108 - Customer Service: Is It Important To Smile? - by Submitted on May 22, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come into contact with someone they know, they could end up receiving a smile and then a few words. At the same time, they might not offer them a smile and only a few words could be spoken. When the former takes place, it is likely to be a sign that one is close to the other ...
Views: 1592 - Customer Service: Why Is Eye Contact So Bad? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to apply for a job, they are likely to hear about how important customer service is. That is, of course, unless they are applying for a position that doesn’t require them to deal with customers. This could be something that doesn’t faze them, which could come down to the fact ...
Views: 1384 - Dalai Lama Torch Relay And Compassion - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2008 from Jenni WrightMs Jenni Wright from http://www.emotionalintelligenceaus.com talks about the Dalai Lama the torch relay and compassion. The Dalai Lama has recently attended a five-day Seeds of Compassion conference. The conference featured dozens of workshops on various subjects, beginning with a panel ...
Views: 1576 - Dare To Dream - by Submitted on Apr 03, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardWho Am I Meant to Be? Few people dare to dream. To live their lives striving to achieve their potential and become the person they were meant to be. Most people live in survival, as though they have to constantly protect themselves from unseen dangers, even though they don’t exist. Sadly, ...
Views: 1658 - Dating...Who Hypnotizes Whom? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Jack EliasYou can learn to enjoy yourself pursuing relationships if you know the secrets to relating and practice them. Beyond a common sense clean physical presentation (you should know most women like this), the essential secret is to be yourself. When you hear this, do you usually start imaging how ...
Views: 1766 - Dating: Will A Man Suffer If He Puts A Woman On A Pedestal? - by Submitted on May 13, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a man has only just met a woman, he may have the desire to find out more about what she is like. In this case, he will find her physically attractive but that is not going to be enough to seal the deal, so to speak. If he just wanted to share his body with her, it could be said that ...
Views: 1146 - Dear Dr. Romance: I Cry upon a disagreement - by Submitted on May 18, 2016 from Tina TessinaDear Dr. Romance: Your article on "Fair Fight Guidelines" is wonderful!!! My major issue is that I cry upon a disagreement. This prevents me to think clearly, act maturely and interact directly. Would you please address this issue? Dear Reader: Thank you for the ...
Views: 1255 - Death: Can Someone Have An Irrational Fear Of Death If They Experienced Developmental Trauma? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to step back and reflect on how they experience life, what they may find is that they experience a fair amount of anxiety. Along with this, they could often experience panic and even have panic attacks from time to time. At other times, they could be overwhelmed with fear and ...
Views: 731 - Deceit: Why Are Some People Easily Deceived? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who believe just about everything that another person says. And then there are others who go to the other extreme, who question and doubt everything they hear. With other people having a balance between the two; so they don’t believe everything that comes out of other ...
Views: 4381 - Decisions: Can Childhood Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Make Decisions? - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone is not aware of the fact that they experienced trauma during their early years, what they may be aware of is the fact that they find it hard to make decisions. It might not matter if it is a big or a small decision as it could still be a challenge. As a result of this, they ...
Views: 663 - Decisions: Can Developmental Trauma Make It Hard For Someone To Make Decisions? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to take a step back and reflect on their life, what they may find is that they find it hard to make decisions. Therefore, when it comes to deciding what to do, their mind could go blank. By being this way, it is likely to be a challenge for them to move forward in a number of ...
Views: 332 - Decorate your car with vinyl decals - by Does your car still have the same shiny, pristine appearance as the day you bought it? You can never expect the same freshness and shine even after a few months of use. Have you ever thought about protecting your car from external interference like scratches and bad weather? Well, you don't ...
Views: 151 - Defence Mechanism: Denial - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperDefence mechanisms are used to stop the ego mind from becoming overwhelmed, as if they were not utilised, the mind may not be able to cope with the pain that is arising. So they are not good or bad or right or wrong, they simply there to ensure that one survives. Denial will be used during ...
Views: 1966 - Defence Mechanism: Displacement - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThis is a defence mechanism that is no different to any other, in that it allows the ego mind to ensure its own survival. If there is a situation where the ego mind perceives that it is unsafe to express an emotion or to behave in a certain way; the ego mind will have to suppress what is ...
Views: 2584 - Defence Mechanism: Justification - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter what defence mechanism is being utilised, they all have the same purpose. And that is to stop one from being overwhelmed by what they are experiencing. They are used when the pain that is arising is too much for someone to handle. And as pain is part of life and therefore can’t be ...
Views: 2447 - Defence Mechanism: Repetition Compulsion - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences pain and it is not possible for them to face the pain that they’re experiencing, they’re going to end up using a number of defence mechanisms. This could be due to how traumatising the experience is or because it would be too much for them to face how they feel. A ...
Views: 3451 - Defence Mechanism: Repression - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperRepression, as I see it, is denying a situation of any expression or exposure, until it has gone from our awareness or rarely takes up too much of our attention. This can be brought about in two ways, which depend on the subjective severity of the experience. The first one is by the use of ...
Views: 2230 - Defence Mechanism: What Is Splitting? - by Submitted on Jan 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone experiences emotional pain, and this pain is too strong for them to handle, their mind can end up using a defence to keep it at bay. In this sense, a defence is very much like a water dam, inasmuch as it is there to stop something from flooding in. After a little while, it will ...
Views: 1074 - Defense Mechanism: Dissociation - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperDissociation is the result of trauma we have experienced in our life. And by dissociating from the intensity of the trauma, we can minimize the suffering caused. With these experiences being subjective in nature and usually extremely overwhelming for the individual, they may however seem ...
Views: 4157 - Definition: Alexithymia - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2007 from Debbie MolisAlexithymia from the Greek words λεξις and θυμος (literally "without words for emotions") is a term coined by Peter Sifneos in 1973[1][2] to describe a state of deficiency in understanding, processing, or describing ...
Views: 3190 - Definition: Emotional Balance - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2007 from Debbie MolisMost people experience life as a roller-coaster of different emotional states, accepting without question that emotions are something that just happen in response to life events. In any given day, you may experience a range of states, some positive and some that are negative or distressing. The ...
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