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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Empathy: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Having Empathy? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one has the ability to empathise with another person, they will be able to put themselves in their shoes, so to speak. This is not to say that they will have the same experience, but they will have a sense of what the other person is going through. Understood As a result of this, the ...
Views: 1608 - Walking on Thin Ice, is Your Career Secure - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2009 from Harlan GoergerEarlier this morning I commented on a debating blog about true security. By the time I was done with my rant the realization was, here is an article with some punch. Does life limit us? Do we limit us? Does positive or negative thinking limit us? Do others limit us? When you think of ...
Views: 1608(1 vote) - What is the secret to happiness? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2014 from Larry CraneIn truth, many of us still believe that happiness is a secret. First of all, opposite of what most people believe, happiness is available to everyone–at all times. No one is excluded. Every person, regardless of their age, nationality, level of education or success, is naturally capable of ...
Views: 1608 - Aggression: What Can Happen When Men Reject Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come across as happy, they are likely to be accepted by the people around them. However, if they were to come across as aggressive, they may not receive the same level of approval. Now, this is not to say that this is black and white as it can all depend on the context, but ...
Views: 1605 - How to Get Job Interviews - by Submitted on May 20, 2011 from Etienne CharlandI get computer programming job offers every week, which pay 80000$/year as salary or 100000$/year as independent contractual worker. I thought it was because of my extensive programming experience and expertise, but there might be more to it. One of my coaching clients got 3 job interviews ...
Views: 1604 - Meaning: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To A More Meaningful Life? - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough pain is part is life and can’t be avoided, the western world and the countries influenced by it, are largely focused on eradicating pain. Pain is then something that has no purpose or reason for existing and therefore has to be removed. There are all types of pain that one can ...
Views: 1604 - The Inclusion of Emotional Learning in Our Schools - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2011 from Norma CasasTragic events related to the lack of emotion or emotional control has been making the news, very bad news, in our schools for years. Who doesn’t remember Columbine or Virginia Tech? However, many of the struggles educators deal with on a daily basis, rarely reach the headlines. Behavior problems ...
Views: 1604(1 vote) - The Language of Dreams - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Dr Ana GarciaToday’s busy lifestyles make it very hard for people to find a moment to disengage from daily frantic activity and find some meditation or reconnection time, a time to regroup or reintegrate one’s energies. However, Spirit has found the perfect solution to this problem: if it is efficiency ...
Views: 1603(1 vote) - SEVEN COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2015 from William CottringerSEVEN COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS By Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. Communication, like time, is one of our most important resources, but is becoming less cost-effective in usage by the minute, ...
Views: 1601 - Secret Keys To Success - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2010 from Aleks SrbinoskiThe secret key to success is failure! It's sounds, strange, it sounds counterintuitive but it is the secret to success. Ask yourself how many times have you failed in your life? I'm sure the answer is more than you care to remember. Then think of someone you admire, a role-model who you ...
Views: 1600 - The Thrill Of Emotion - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2007 from Mark Ivar MyhreWhen something happens in your life, it tends to bring up a certain amount of feeling. Someone cuts you off in traffic, and it brings up anger or perhaps fear. That anger and that fear have a certain amount of volume to it. Or perhaps you're grieving for the loss of a loved one. You have a ...
Views: 1597 - Criticising Others: Do Some People Criticise Others To Make Themselves Feel Better? - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperThere are a number of things that someone can do to change how they feel, and it could be said that some of these things are going to be better than others. For example, if one was to reach out for chocolate whenever they need to change their mood, it could set them up to experience negative ...
Views: 1596 - Happiness: Do Some People Criticise Others When They Are Unhappy? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is happy, they can feel the need to share how they feel with others, and this can take place in a number of ways. Perhaps one will be more complimentary than they usually are. It can then be normal for them to say how good someone looks, or they might talk about how they appreciate ...
Views: 1594(1 vote) - Critical Thinking: Do Some Feminists Need Therapy? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf a woman was asked to talk about what she thinks holds women back in life, she may say that it is themselves. What this might then show is that she has an internal locus of control. On the other hand, another woman could be asked the same question, and she could say that it is men. As a ...
Views: 1592 - Teaching: Do Some People Become Teachers In Order To Feel Superior To Others? - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that everyone on this planet is a teacher on one hand and student on the other. Based on this, it is a two way process, and if one doesn’t have this outlook, they are likely to be out of balance. In this case, one could believe that other people are here to learn from them ...
Views: 1591 - Relationships: Can Rescuing Others Stop Someone From Experiencing Intimacy? - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one feels comfortable with their own feelings, it will give them the ability to open up to others. In fact, it could be said that it will be normal for this to take place, and this is going to mean that their relationships are likely to be far more fulfilling than they would be if this ...
Views: 1590 - Sexualised Behaviour: Does Women’s Sexualised Behaviour Cause Aggression In Men? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some things have stayed the same over the years, there are other things that have radically changed. For instance, it could be said that today’s world is far more permissive than it used to be. And this can be seen with how children are raised and how sex is generally viewed. It wasn’t ...
Views: 1589 - ***Are Outrageous Outbursts Now an Effective PR Tool? Oh My! - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery Satterwhite"Lions and tigers and bears, oh my!" - Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz The media is filled with bizarre tales of rude and downright bizarre behavior that was once exhibited by self-loathing attention seeking narcissists and now may be used as a clever inexpensive tool for massive publicity. In ...
Views: 1588(3 votes) - Letting Go: Is Grieving An Important Part Of Letting Go? - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs soon as something ends, there is the chance for something to begin; just as when something begins, there is the chance for something to end. This is the cycle of life, and something that will continue until the time that one passes on. However, this is not something that always takes ...
Views: 1587 - Are Employees Crying to be Heard? - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2015 from Dawna JonesAn intriguing discussion popped up on social media. It all started with a question: “Is crying in the workplace okay? Does it show you are genuinely human or weak or overly sensitive or ______________(fill in the blank)?” Underneath a question like that is the proverbial value assessment: ‘Is ...
Views: 1586 - Child Abuse: Do Some Parents Try To Live Their Lives Through Their Children? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are certain things that children need in order to develop into well-functioning adults, it doesn’t mean that they will always receive these things. Now, it could be said that it is not always going to be possible for a child to get their needs met. However, this is not going ...
Views: 1586 - Customer Service: Is It Important To Smile? - by Submitted on May 22, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to come into contact with someone they know, they could end up receiving a smile and then a few words. At the same time, they might not offer them a smile and only a few words could be spoken. When the former takes place, it is likely to be a sign that one is close to the other ...
Views: 1586 - Let Me Help You, Please! - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardWhen we think about the Socializer Striving Style, with their predominant need to be connected, the Barbra Streisand song "People” (People Who Need People) comes to mind. Socializers are the “Weavers of the Social Fabric” in families, the workplace and in communities. They easily build and ...
Views: 1586(1 vote) - Needs: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause You To Put Other People's Needs First? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is a challenge for some people to put their needs first and this is going to mean that they have a pattern of putting the needs of others first. This may mean that one takes care of their needs after, but it could also mean that one’s needs are not met. And while being selfless is often ...
Views: 1586 - Social Media: Are Some People Emotionally Dependent On Social Media? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked about how social media benefits their life, they may say that it allows them to connect to others. This is likely to be the kind of answer that a lot of people would give them. And as it is so easy to connect with other people through using it, it is to be expected that ...
Views: 1586 - Fear of Loss: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Have A Fear of Loss? - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that there are a number of things in life that one can’t avoid and experiencing loss is one of those things. No matter what one looks like, where they are from, or what their gender is, for instance, it is not going to be possible for them to avoid this experience. However, ...
Views: 1585 - Personal Power: Why Do Some People Believe They Have No Effect On Their Environment? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile having complete control of one’s environment would be practically impossible, what is possible is for one to have some control over their environment. And in some ways, the more control one has, the more empowered they will feel. Control is often seen as something negative and as ...
Views: 1585 - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Only Feel Worthy When They Are Successful? - by Submitted on May 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can feel worthy as a result of they are, other people can only feel worthy as a result of what they do. In the first case, ones worth has been internalised, and in the other, their worth is based on external factors. So the first person can just be and feel valuable without ...
Views: 1584 - Emotional Strength: Can Someone Develop Emotional Strength By Working On Their Mind? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about someone who is emotionally strong, they may start to think about someone who always comes across as though are unaffected by their emotions. This can then mean that they will picture someone who is rarely, if ever, angry or sad, for example. Alternatively, they may ...
Views: 1583 - Do I Need an Anger Management Course? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2010 from William F SmithAnger is part of life, as real and important as happiness, sadness and joy. But when anger spins out of control, we suffer. Work, relationships and health are a few of the areas where too much anger can hurt us. I would like to share three measurements that can help you quickly determine if you ...
Views: 1582(2 votes) - Kindness and Discomfort, A How-to - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2015 from Jeff SandersMy stepfather Dick (not a pseudonym) is incredibly kind. He is so kind it often makes others around him uncomfortable. His kindness enervates a room and can trigger others to tease or to create an opposing position. He is regularly, persistently and unceasingly complimentary. He sees the ...
Views: 1582(1 vote) - Relationship Selling, So What Is A Relationship - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2009 from Harlan GoergerIt seems that anywhere I turn there is a conversation, blog, discussion or new book on Relationship Selling. You may also be seeing and hearing the banter. I have no problem with the idea of "Relationship Selling", my only question is. "What is this relationship?" can it be described or ...
Views: 1581(2 votes) - Critical Thinking: Do Some People Say That People Have A Phobia To Control Them? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one comes across information that goes against what they believe, they can take the time to look over it. And if they were to meet someone who has a different outlook, they could also listen to what they have to say. What this can show is that they have an open mind, and this is then ...
Views: 1580 - What is Emotional Intelligence and Why Should you Care? - by Submitted on May 22, 2012 from Sara FletcherEmotional Intelligence (EQ) is a concept familiarized by Daniel Goleman, an internationally known psychologist, which is defined as one’s ability to understand and manage his or her emotions as they happen in themselves and others, while using this awareness to manage relationships effectively. ...
Views: 1579 - Relationships: What Can Happen When A Woman Rejects Her Feminine Side? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperMen and woman look different, but that doesn’t mean that they haven’t got anything in common. First and foremost, they are human beings; thus, despite their differences, they have a lot in common. A Closer Look Due to how they look, it could be said that men are an expression of the ...
Views: 1578 - Is Your Job Making You Sick and Cranky? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Gael DrumWe know that living in the 21st century can be similar to sitting on a rollercoaster zooming along at an incredibly frantic pace. It can be a challenging task to pull on the brakes and slow the rollercoaster down, refuel it, and attend to its maintenance, so it can run at its optimum level. Work ...
Views: 1577(3 votes) - When Sexual Desire Covers Up Self-Sabotage -- We Can Easily Get "Turned On" by People Who Spell Trouble Down the Road - by Submitted on Nov 03, 2011 from Peter MichaelsonWhat are some important features of human sexual desire? Two neuroscientists falter badly in their attempt to answer the question in their book, A Billion Wicked Thoughts: What the World’s Largest Experiment Reveals About Human Desire (Dutton, New York, 2011). Scouring internet data, the ...
Views: 1577 - An Introduction to Value Science - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2008 from Julie DonleyYou have thousands of thoughts that float through your mind all day every day. How do you sort through them all to determine which thoughts are good ones? In other words, how do you know which thoughts will lead you to good outcomes? It’s hard to know. You can become attached to certain ...
Views: 1576 - Anxiety: Can The Fear Of Rejection Cause Someone To Experience Anxiety? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who experience anxiety from time to time, there are others who experience it on a regular basis. There is then going to be a big difference when it comes to their day-to-day life. An Anomaly Now, if one doesn’t have anxiety problems, they could end up seeing ...
Views: 1576 - Self Worth: Do You Alternate Between Feeling Really Good And Really Bad? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the ideal might be for one to experience a balanced sense of self worth, this is not always what takes place. Instead, one might experience life in such a way that they feel up one moment and down the next. This is not to say that one won’t have moments where they don’t feel up or ...
Views: 1576 - Vulnerability: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Vulnerable? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are inherently vulnerable, and this is something that can’t be denied. Yet, this doesn’t mean that one is able to embrace this; as they can end up doing everything they can to come across as though they are invulnerable. The image that they present to the ...
Views: 1576 - Communication: Is It Easier To Start A Conversation When We Focus On What We Can Give? - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one knows someone, it can be easier for them to talk to them, and this could be because they know how the other person will respond to them. As a result of this, they are less likely to think about what they are going to say. It is then going to be possible for them to have a ...
Views: 1575 - Therapy: Is Your Therapist Keeping You Stuck? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is experiencing some kind of challenge, and this could be an inner challenge and/ or an outer challenge, it could cause them to reach out for support. This may mean that they go and buy a book or they might even go on a course. Another approach would be for them to find a coach, ...
Views: 1575 - Angels All Around Us - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2014 from Sheryl PaulThere is so much pain in this world. There’s personal pain that often takes the form of anxiety, depression, addictions, and intrusive thoughts. There’s the physical pain of illness, injury, and disabilities, both short-term and chronic. There’s relationship pain when we endure conflict with ...
Views: 1574 - Child Abuse: Why Do Some People Disown Their Parents? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are people in the world who have a close connection with their parents, there are others who don’t. And if one is close to their parents, it might be hard for them to understand why someone wouldn’t experience life in the same way. This could mean that one lives in the same ...
Views: 1574 - Relationships: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Treat Others How They Would Like To Be Treated? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to treat someone with respect, there is the chance that they will get a certain response. Whereas if they were to treat someone with disrespect, there is the chance they will get a completely different response. When it comes to the first example, one might expect another person ...
Views: 1574 - Learn How to Be Happy - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2009 from Julie Donley“He's simply got the instinct for being unhappy highly developed.” ~ Saki, British author (1870 - 1916) Happiness is not about what you own, who you married, or what you collect. Happiness is feeling good – not having your life look good – and it can only be felt right now, in this moment. It ...
Views: 1572 - Independence: Is Independence An Illusion? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it is not uncommon for someone to describe themselves as ‘independent’. When they say this, they could say it as if they are talking about something that is a normal part of life, or they could say it with a sense of pride. Normal In the first case, one may have ...
Views: 1571 - Dalai Lama Torch Relay And Compassion - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2008 from Jenni WrightMs Jenni Wright from http://www.emotionalintelligenceaus.com talks about the Dalai Lama the torch relay and compassion. The Dalai Lama has recently attended a five-day Seeds of Compassion conference. The conference featured dozens of workshops on various subjects, beginning with a panel ...
Views: 1570 - Can I Overcome Shyness? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Eduard EzeanuIf you’re shy and you’ve tried multiple ways to change without success, then you may be wondering if it’s even possible to overcome shyness. This articles answers that question. Shyness is very common. Some people manage to beat their shyness and gain more social confidence, but many seem to ...
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