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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel Guilty For Living Their Own Life If They Had A Manipulative Parent? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone takes a step back and reflects on their life, what they can see is that they often do things that they don’t want to do. So, they can have the tendency to say yes when they would rather say no. As a result of this, they are going to spend a lot of time doing things that don’t serve ...
Views: 279 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel Guilty For Putting Their Needs First If They Were Brought Up By A Self-Absorbed Parent? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of the human experience but that doesn’t mean that everyone feels comfortable with their needs. When someone is in this position, it is likely to be normal for them to overlook their own needs. In fact, they might not even be aware of most of their needs and so they are ...
Views: 332 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Hate Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, one may find that it is a challenge for them to feel good about themselves. Their time on this planet is then going to be anything but fulfilling. In fact, it could seem as though they are in hell as opposed to hell being somewhere ...
Views: 787 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have A Dysfunctional View Of Relationships If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperRight now, someone could be in a relationship that is anything but nourishing and life-affirming. What can be normal is for them to ignore their own needs and do what they can to please their partner. They can then typically go along with what they want and not speak up if they don’t agree ...
Views: 203 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have The Need To Always Be On The Go If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can be normal is for someone to spend most of their waking hours on the go. So, from morning until night, they are seldom going to just be, and, even if they were to sit down, they might not be able to simply relax. To settle themselves down, they might need to have something to drink or ...
Views: 316 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have The Need To Be Perfect If They Had A Highly Critical Parent? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was brought up in an environment that was extremely conditional and there was very little love on offer, it doesn’t mean that this is something that they will be aware of now that they are an adult. In fact, if they were to think about this stage of their life, they might not be able ...
Views: 295 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have The Need To Stay Small If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone can be free to express themselves, it doesn’t mean that they will do so. Instead, based on how they typically behave, it can be as though they are in an invisible prison. However, if this is just what is normal, they might not realise that they are living in a very ...
Views: 283 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have Trouble Moving Forward If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the human body, it could be said that it is designed to take someone forward. Of course, they can walk back but it is not as easy as it is for them to walk forward. Now, although going forward, not backwards is what is supposed to take place, it doesn’t mean that someone will ...
Views: 813 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Isolate Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone could live in a country and an area that is relatively safe, based on how they live, it will be as though this is not the case. This is because they could have the inclination to isolate themselves from others. If so, they could only go out when they need to do so, such as ...
Views: 568 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Live In Different Survival Modes If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperAs a child, one would have been powerless, dependent and not equipped to deal with their emotions or too much arousal. This is why they needed caregivers who were loving, caring, and emotionally in tune. Yet, as they were abused at this stage of their life, they wouldn’t have received what ...
Views: 784 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Live In Their Head If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that someone can live in a building that has many levels and spend most of their time on the top floor, they can also inhabit a body and spend most of their time up top. As a result of this, they will generally be unaware of what is taking place in their body. The outcome of ...
Views: 322 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Move On From An Abusive Childhood If They Just Forgive Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that their early years were not very nurturing, it could take a little while until they feel ready to share what happened with others. As for why it has taken them a little while to see this, this will most likely be due to their conscious mind forgetting all about what ...
Views: 466 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Suffer If They Don’t Face What Happened When They Were Younger? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for something to develop in the right way, it will need it to receive the right things. If this doesn’t take place, it might still grow but it is not going to grow in the same way as it would otherwise. Nature For example, if a tree was planted in the shade, it is not going to ...
Views: 1678 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Treat Themselves Like An Object If Their Parents Treated Them Like One? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough someone is a human being that has a number of needs, feelings and inherent value, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they could treat themselves like they are nothing more than an object that only has a few basic needs, no feelings and no value and purely exists to ...
Views: 300 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Unconsciously Recreate Their Early Years If They Were Abused And Neglected? - by Submitted on May 19, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone’s life is not very fulfilling and they were to take a step back and reflect, a number of things could enter their mind. So, they could see that their relationships are not very nurturing and that it is normal for them to be ignored, put down and treated badly. Due to this, they are ...
Views: 326 - Child Abuse: Can Someone’s Need For Validation Stop Them From Being Able To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on May 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf, after being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone was to get to a point in their adult life where they realised that this is what took place, they may experience a strong need for their experiences to be validated. It might seem strange as to why it took them so long to realise that ...
Views: 809 - Child Abuse: Can Someone’s Need To Protect Their Parents Stop Them From Being Able To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a harrowing experience as a child, the best thing will be for them to reach out for support now that they are adult. At the same time, it could seem as though what they went through as a child is all in the past, so there is no need for them to worry about what ...
Views: 737 - Child Abuse: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone Who Was Abused As A Child From Getting The Help That They Need? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn an ideal world, perhaps every child would receive the level of care that the need in order to develop into a well adjusted adult. Still, this is not to say that genetics don’t play a part; what it comes down to is that is that it will be a lot easier for someone to develop in the right way ...
Views: 1474 - Child Abuse: Did A Highly Critical Parent Externalise Their Inner Critic? - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperDuring someone’s formative years, they may have had at least one parent who was very harsh. If so, it would have been normal for them to be put down by this parent and treated like they were nothing. Therefore, even if there were moments when this parent did treat them differently, it ...
Views: 344 - Child Abuse: Did An Abusive Parent Blame Their Child For What Their Abusive Parent Did To Them? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could struggle to get their head around, if they were abused as a child, is why their parent treated them in this way. The person who was supposed to love and cherish them wouldn’t have done so. If they had been harmed by someone at school or a stranger, for instance, it would ...
Views: 339 - Child Abuse: Did An Abusive Parent Consciously Choose To Harm Their Child? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone can believe, if they were mistreated during their early years, is that their parent or parents did this on purpose. They then did what they could to undermine their child as opposed to doing what they could to build them up. Assuming that it was one parent who did this; they ...
Views: 316 - Child Abuse: Did An Abusive Parent Lose Touch With Reality During Their Childhood? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their formative years, they might soon find out that the parent that abused them is not willing to acknowledge what took place. Assuming it was one parent, they might have been told, on numerous occasions, that what they say happened didn’t happen. It then ...
Views: 317 - Child Abuse: Did Your Parents Make Out That You Were Perfect? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to talk about what takes place when a child is abused, they could say that they will be physically harmed or verbally put down. Alternatively, they could say that they will be neglected. Then again, one could mention all of these things, meaning that it won’t just relate ...
Views: 818 - Child Abuse: Do Some Parents Try To Live Their Lives Through Their Children? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are certain things that children need in order to develop into well-functioning adults, it doesn’t mean that they will always receive these things. Now, it could be said that it is not always going to be possible for a child to get their needs met. However, this is not going ...
Views: 1586 - Child Abuse: Do Some People Go From Being Abused By Their Parents To Abusing Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that not everyone is brought up by parents who treat them in the right way, and this can have a big effect on how they will experience life as an adult. For some people, this would have been a time when they were abused on a regular basis, for others, this would have taken place ...
Views: 1469 - Child Abuse: Does A Child Need To Be ‘Physically Disciplined’? - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperThere is a video circulating online where two police officers visit a home, after being informed that a child is being abused. It starts with a police officer saying to a woman, “We’re here to investigate a child abuse complaint”. The woman then responds with, “I didn’t call the police”. Soon ...
Views: 296 - Child Abuse: Does Child Abuse Cause Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, it has been said that there are a lot of people who are not in a good way internally. When something like this is spoken about in the media, the words ‘depression’, ‘anxiety’ and ‘suicidal’ are often mentioned. It can then seem as though this is a fairly new problem ...
Views: 915 - Child Abuse: Does Low Self-Worth Get Past From One Generation To Another? - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to whether or not someone has a felt sense of their own worth, it can all depend on what their early years were like. Now, this is not to say that if someone’s early years were not very nurturing, it won’t be possible for them to develop it as an adult. The truth is that this is ...
Views: 610 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Have The Right To Hurt Their Parents If They Were Abused By Them? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that someone can experience, that’s if they have come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, is a lot of rage. In fact, they can feel so mad that ending one or both of their parent’s life could enter their mind. Due to how they feel, it could be as if they ...
Views: 360 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Develop An Adult Self In Order To Move On From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused during their early years, they may find that it is not possible for them to put the past behind them. A number of decades may have passed since that time in their life, but it could be as if very little time has passed. And although their caregivers didn’t treat them ...
Views: 854 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Forgive Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone may see that they were abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that this is something they have realised for very long. If they have been aware of this for a little while, it doesn’t mean that they were very young when this became clear. The main reason as to why it would have ...
Views: 684 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Realise Their Abusive Parents Were Deeply Wounded In Order To Move Forward? - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to see that they were abused during their formative years, a number of things could be on their mind. They could want to know why their parent/parents harmed them, for them to validate what they went through and to apologise. However, although they will want to progress ...
Views: 409 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To ‘Stop Blaming Their Parents’ If They Were Abused? - by Submitted on Dec 28, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAt this point in time, one could be in a position where they believe that their parents are to blame for what they are going through. This could show that their life is in a mess and they may have mental and emotional problems. Perhaps they have only had this outlook for a short while, or ...
Views: 577 - Child Abuse: How Can Someone Be Compassionate Towards The People Who Abused Them? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was treated badly during the beginning of their life, by the very people who were supposed to love and protect them, the last thing on their mind can be to show them compassion. In fact, what they could think about is how they would like to get revenge for what was done to them. ...
Views: 1149 - Child Abuse: How Can Someone Develop A Sense Of Safety And Security After Being Abused? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a house will need strong foundations, a human being will also need strong foundations. When strong foundations are laid down for a house, this part will be strong enough to handle the other levels that are added, and, when it comes to a human being, strong foundations will ...
Views: 1131 - Child Abuse: How Can Someone Move On If They Have An Emotionally Unavailable Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat one may have come to see is that their parent wasn’t emotionally available during early years and, now that they are adult, this parent is no different. As a result of this, the pain that they experienced as a child could continue to this day. It then won’t be a case of what took place ...
Views: 816 - Child Abuse: If Someone Wasting Their Time If They Are Trying To Be Seen By An Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone was brought up by at least one parent who was unable to truly see them and is still unable to do so, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to accept this. Due to this, now that they are an adult, they could spend a lot of their time and energy trying to be seen by this ...
Views: 329 - Child Abuse: Is An Abusive Parents Inability To Acknowledge Their Abusive Behaviour A Sign Of How Damaged They Are? - by Submitted on May 10, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAfter suffering for many, many years, someone may have come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years. Therefore, it is not that they were born this way and/or simply can’t get it together. No, it is that they were deprived of the love that they needed in order to grow and ...
Views: 326 - Child Abuse: Is An Abusive Parents Lack Of Self-Awareness A Defence Against Pain? - by Submitted on May 05, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperWhat someone could find, if they were to speak to the parent who mistreated them during their formative years – assuming it was only one - is that they are unable to make much headway. Based on how this parent responds, it could be as if they are talking to someone who wasn’t actually there ...
Views: 315 - Child Abuse: Is Child Abuse A Form Of Indirect Revenge? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by one or both of their caregivers during their early years, it can be hard for them to understand why this was. One question that can enter their mind is: why would the people who were supposed to love and care for me treat me so badly? This can be a question that they ...
Views: 841 - Child Abuse: Is Child Abuse One Of The Reasons Why So Many People Have Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people that are not in a good way mentally and emotionally. Alongside this, a number of solutions have been put forward. One thing that is often recommended, if someone is not in a good way, is that they open up to friends or family ...
Views: 1113 - Child Abuse: Is It A Form Of Indirect Revenge When A Parent Abuses Their Child? - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to see that they were mistreated during their formative years, they could find it hard to get their head around what happened. But, as their own parent or parents will have been the ones who didn’t treat them well, this is not going to be much of a surprise. This person ...
Views: 292 - Child Abuse: Is It A Good Idea For Someone To Find Out About Their Parents Childhood If They Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on May 22, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperThanks to the ability that someone’s brain has to block out pain and then for their conscious mind to forget about the past, it can take a while for them to realise that they were abused. As a result of this, their life can be one big challenge but they won’t be able to join the dots, so to ...
Views: 359 - Child Abuse: Is It A Surprise That Some Parents Deny They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone comes to see that their early years were a time when they were not treated very well, there are a number of things that can take place. Firstly, they can start to think about what they can do to heal the damage that was caused, and, secondly, they can have the need to talk about what ...
Views: 1039 - Child Abuse: Is It Clear To See That Abusive Parents Were Also Abused By Their Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were abused as a child, they can struggle with two questions. Firstly, they can wonder why their own parents treated them so badly, and secondly, they can wonder why their parents would repeat what was done to them. These two questions can consume their mind a ...
Views: 763 - Child Abuse: Is It Normal For Someone To Idealise One Parent And To Demonise The Other? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, it doesn’t mean that they will be aware of this. Due to how much time has passed and the defences that they have in place, they might not be able to remember what took place at this stage of their life. Then again, they might ...
Views: 577 - Child Abuse: Is Someone Engaging In Repetition Compulsion If They Are Looking For Their Abusive Parents To See Them? - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone grew up with at least one parent who was unable to truly see them, they are likely to have a strong need to be seen now that they are an adult. In addition to this need, though, they can also have a fear of being seen. When it comes to their need to be seen, this will relate to ...
Views: 337 - Child Abuse: Is Someone Engaging In Repetition Compulsion If They Are Looking For Their Parents To Acknowledge They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on May 01, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperAfter coming to see that their early years were anything but nurturing, someone could spend a fair amount of time trying to get through to their parent/parents. This could be something that hasn’t been going on for very long. Then again, this could be something that has been taking place for ...
Views: 387 - Child Abuse: Is Someone Wasting Their Time If They Are Trying To Get Through To Their Abusive Parent? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2024 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was mistreated during their formative years, they might not be in a good way now that they are an adult. In fact, their life could be one big struggle, with them wondering if they even want to be alive. However, even if they are not in a good way, it doesn’t mean that they will ...
Views: 415 - Child Abuse: Someone Be Emotionally Disconnected If They Had A Parent Who Was Emotionally Blind? - by Submitted on May 21, 2023 from Oliver JR CooperAs an adult, someone may be in a position where they don’t have a strong connection with their feelings. If this is the case, they are going to miss out on a lot of valuable information. The reason for this is that this part of them is there to provide them with feedback. This feedback will ...
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