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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Everything Is A Test - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2013 from Lars KingThis is a short but sweet mindset shift that can dramatically improve your life. It definitely has changed the quality of my life for the better. Normally, people go through their lives and get pushed and pulled around by their emotions, causing their moods to be a direct result of what ...
Views: 1742(2 votes) - Overcoming Procrastination - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Tara SpringettThe following case-study about procrastination help demonstrates what can be achieved by practicing the simple self-help practice of higher-consciousness healing as described in Tara’s book The Five Minute Miracle. George came to see me because every year his business lost large amounts ...
Views: 1742 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who get angry from time to time; there are others who are angry almost all the time. Yet this is not to say that there are only two categories, as there are going to be others who are rarely, if ever angry. When one experiences life in this way, they could believe ...
Views: 1741 - Personal Development: What's the 'Self' in Self-Actualization? - by Submitted on May 29, 2013 from Valencia RayI was listening to a video by an author where he defined 'self-actualization' in terms of ego or selfish individualism - a type of narcissism. This goes to show the limitations of language and how meaning can be confused. The 'self' in self-actualization, in my mind, is just the opposite. It is ...
Views: 1741(1 vote) - Uncontrollable - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2012 from Anastacia BriceBetween the wish and the thing life lies waiting. -- Unknown When you're stuck in a situation you can't control, how do you handle it? Really think about that. When you have to sit in traffic on the highway for two hours because a truck overturned up ahead and there's no way ...
Views: 1740(1 vote) - *** Stuck in a Powerless Comfort Zone? How to Reclaim Personal Power - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Valery Satterwhite"'People will suffer almost anything as long as it means they don't have to change." ~ Deepak Chopra Life is a series of ups and downs, twists and turns. You can approach the roller coaster of life with arms high in the air; willingly and ready for whatever comes next. Or you can grip the ...
Views: 1738 - Negative Thoughts: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Negative Thoughts? - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe term ‘negative thoughts’ has become very well known in today’s world and this is true for people who are into self development and people who are not. Thoughts are generally the primary focus in the area of change and personal transformation. These are said to control how one behaves, ...
Views: 1737 - The Benevolent Business Person Phenomenon - by Submitted on May 18, 2011 from Michelle CubasToday's chaotic world produced a phenomenon—the benevolent business person. The wealthiest people on the planet like Bill and Melinda Gates and Warren Buffett are giving away their fortunes through their foundations. On a smaller scale, you may be considering to offer your time and expertise ...
Views: 1736 - Emotional Awareness: Is Emotional Awareness An Important Part Of Being Able To Take Responsibility For How We Feel? - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEach experience that one has in life is going to play a part in how they feel. In some cases, how one feels will reflect what has taken place and at other times, it won’t. And this is because what has happened externally has triggered feelings from the past. This inner experience could ...
Views: 1735 - The Media: Does The Media Create Discontentment? - by Submitted on May 11, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are so many things that can take place through exposing oneself to the mainstream media. And let’s face it, due to the power and influence that it has, it is more or less impossible to not be affected by it. For some people, their whole meaning of life, what’s going on in the world and ...
Views: 1735(1 vote) - The Warrior Woman - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2010 from Ann Marie O'DellWhen young girls are replaced by the birth of a son, or feel their fathers wish that they were a boy, it isn’t uncommon to try to become a man for Dad. They can be the Combat Flyer, the Executive, a Madam, Race Car Driver or the ...
Views: 1735(1 vote) - Human Chameleon: Does The Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause You To Be A Human Chameleon? - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to be themselves, and while they can adapt, this is not something that always takes place. Not only do they have a sense of themselves, but more importantly, they will feel that it is safe for them to be themselves. At times, they’re going to understand the ...
Views: 1733 - Mindfulness: Can Mindfulness Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on May 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one reacts to what is going on externally or to what is going on internally, they are not experiencing self control and at times, this is to be expected; human beings are not robots after all. However, when one experiences no self control whosoever, they are going to find it difficult to ...
Views: 1733 - Offended: Do Some Peoples Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Offended By Others? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world, it could be said that there are a lot of sensitive people, and through being this way, they can find it hard to handle day-to-day life. However, this is not to say that everyone who is sensitive responds to life in the same way. Two Types What this comes down to is that ...
Views: 1733 - Are You Still a Learning Machine? - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2011 from Hal WechslerAre you STILL a Learning Machine? If you are finished with school, for 95% of us, we quit learning. The problem with that is a static brain begins to unravel and invites deterioration like Alzheimer’s. You know the expression, ‘Use it or Lose it’. Put your arm in a cast for 6-weeks and the ...
Views: 1732 - Be open to change - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2011 from Angela Schulz-HenkeOur task is now to change and to transfer our mental consciousness into the heart consciousness. This change has already begun. As long as we deny the change, we get in trouble: stress, sickness, accident, depression etc. Mother Earth is sacred to all beings. And we do not have the permission ...
Views: 1731(1 vote) - Shameless: Can Toxic Shame Make Someone Shameless? - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it is possible for an emotion to enhance one’s life, it is also possible for an emotion to have the opposite effect. If one feels angry, it could be a sign that they have been violated, but if they always feel this way it shows that something isn’t right. It could mean that one is ...
Views: 1731 - Anger: Can Repressed Anger Cause Skin Problems? - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt has been said that every emotion has a purpose, and this means that it is going to be important for one to pay attention to all of them. However, even though this is the case, it can be easier said than done. What this comes down to is that while they might be able to embrace certain ...
Views: 1730 - Receiving: Do Some People's Childhoods Stop Them From Being Able To Receive? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people in the world who are not only able to give, they are also able to receive, and as a result of this, they are not going to be accustomed to running on empty. On the other hand, there are people who going to be used to running on empty, and this is because they are unable to ...
Views: 1730 - “I Felt Guilty After My Father Died!” - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen my father had to go into hospital for a heart operation in 2011, I dropped him off at the hospital. And although there was a greater risk due to his age, I thought that he would soon be out. Before he went into hospital, it was clear that he wasn’t in a good way, but as he had been ...
Views: 1730 - Anger: Can Someone Use Boxing/Martial Arts To Deal With Their Anger? - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are plenty of people who suffer from depression, there is also no shortage of people who have anger problems. Still, this is not to say that someone can either have one of the other, as it is unlikely to be this black and white. A Different Experience For example, one could ...
Views: 1729 - Bad Company - by Submitted on May 29, 2012 from Margaret Meloni“It is better to be alone than in bad company.” - George Washington Other people do form opinions about you based on your group associations. This is also why good employees leave bad teams. They simply do not want to be associated with a group that has a bad reputation. They rarely hang ...
Views: 1729 - Boundaries: Can A Lack Of Boundaries Cause Someone To Be Walked Over? - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to lie down in a crowded place, there is a strong chance that they would end up being walked over. And it wouldn’t matter whether someone wanted to walk over them or not, as they wouldn’t have much choice. However, this is not to say that one needs to do this in order to be walked ...
Views: 1729 - How to Do Optimism - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2010 from Paul Dalton“I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” - Jimmy Dean When I was a kid I would imagine that I could make things happen just by thinking about them. For example, if my best friend was coming over to play I’d look out for him from ...
Views: 1728(12 votes) - Indifferent: Is It Good Or Bad To Be Indifferent? - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that the opposite of love is hate and, therefore, if one doesn’t love someone, they are going to hate them. This is then going to be something that is black and white, and that will be the end of it. A Closer Look However, if one was to take the time to think about how ...
Views: 1728(1 vote) - Boundaries: Why Do Some Therapists Take On Their Clients Problems? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile people often do everything they can to protect their property, the same can’t always be said about themselves. In the collective consciousness, there is a general understanding that one needs to protect their property. And this is not because people can’t be trusted or that everyone ...
Views: 1727 - Five Questions We All Have At Work - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2014 from William CottringerFive Questions We All Have At Work By Bill Cottringer “All good work has magic in it, and addresses the mind in a subtle way.” ~Duane Michals. There are five questions we all have at work which need reasonable answers to, as guided by effective management. These questions were ...
Views: 1727 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always End Up With People They Can Control? - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to read a description about what it means to have a healthy relationship, they are unlikely to come across the importance of one person controlling the other. If they were to come across the word ‘control’, they may hear about the importance of self-control. This is because there ...
Views: 1727 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Stop Others From Showing Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to feeling connected to other people and having a sense of being understood, it is vital that one is not only honest with themselves about what they are going through, but that they are honest with others to. Now, this is going to be more relevant with the people that one is ...
Views: 1726(1 vote) - Why You Shouldn't Bother to Be Interesting - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2010 from Royane Real“There’s nothing about me that is interesting. I’m completely average in every way. Nobody is interested in me because I’m not interesting. Tell me what I can do to become a more interesting person so I can have better conversations.” Over the years I have received several similar ...
Views: 1726(1 vote) - Excuse me while I Kiss the Sky - by Submitted on Jul 11, 2011 from cedric riceExcuse me while I Kiss the Sky The words of the title of this article are words which were made famous by the late Rock musician named Jimmi Hendrix. He was talking about a totally different type of experience than I am but I like the wording so excuse me while I kiss the sky. This has got ...
Views: 1725(1 vote) - What Is A Person’s True Character - by Submitted on Sep 27, 2009 from David SamuelIf I treated Paul with great kindness and generosity, he would praise me at my funeral as being the most wonderful man who ever lived. But if I also treated John with cruelty and cheated him every chance I could, he would have only terrible things to say. The two would argue bitterly ...
Views: 1723(2 votes) - Loss: Can The Need To Be Loyal Cause Someone To Get Stuck In The Grieving Process? - by Submitted on Oct 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences loss, it might be possible for them to carry on with the rest of their life; however, there is also the chance that they won’t be able to do this. In this case, it is could be quiet some time before they are able to do what they used to do before. What this comes down to ...
Views: 1722 - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage People To Label Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one uses social media, it gives them the chance to express themselves in a number of ways. As a result of this, it can be somewhere where they share things from time to time and stay up to date with people, or it can be so much more. In this case, it could be a small part of one’s life ...
Views: 1722 - Get Grounded While In Transition with These Three Steps - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2010 from Marlene ChismAny time you have been really caught off guard and you are in a lot of pain, there is always an awakening with lots of wonderful life lessons to follow. The world is in a financial crisis and people are losing their homes, moving in with relatives, wondering about where their next pay check is ...
Views: 1720(1 vote) - Why Inquiring Minds Care: Health And Longevity - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2010 from Hal WechslerWhy Inquiring Minds Care: It’s Health And Longevity Do you find that 95% of all Internet articles never teach you anything practical? Can you even remember the last useful strategy or schema (diagram/pattern) you implemented to improve your life? Inquiring Minds read books, articles and ...
Views: 1720(1 vote) - Toxic Shame: From One Generation To Another - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain things that can be passed on from one generation to another that are beneficial and life affirming. This could relate manners, values and etiquette. These aspects will not only affect how one lives their life, the lives of others are also going to be affected. Through being ...
Views: 1719 - Your Inner Guidance System - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from Allison Moseley MossWhen you have a problem or a question that you are working through or asking yourself, use your inner knowledge to find the answers. We each have our own inner wisdom and guidance system. The key is understanding how to listen. The first step is to set aside time to quiet your mind. With ...
Views: 1718(5 votes) - Fame: Can Being Famous Give Someone A False Sense Of Importance? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it doesn’t take much for someone to be famous, and this has meant that more people are ’famous’ than ever before. In the past, it was often necessary for someone to have achieved something significant in order to be known by others, but in today’s world, this is no longer the case. ...
Views: 1717 - How to stay Positive - by Submitted on May 31, 2012 from Machen MacDonaldI had the good fortune to listen in on a conversation the other day between two friends. One of them, we’ll refer to him as Steve, was focusing on and sharing all the things that were not going well with his struggling business which seemed to be spilling over into his personal life as well. ...
Views: 1717 - The Media: Does The Media Destroy Women’s Self Esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what the media focuses on, there are many things that are positive and constructive and then there are also numerous things that are negative and destructive. This is to be expected, as there are pros and cons to most things in this world. And with that in mind, it is ...
Views: 1717 - Kids' Emotional Intelligence: What is it, Who Has it, and How to Get It - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsYour nine year old is teased at school for being the new kid in class, or being too fat, or answering correctly one too many times, and tells you he wants to run away or kill himself. Your six year old feels humiliated at soccer practice cause she can't kick the ball as well as the other girls ...
Views: 1716(1 vote) - Are You Smart Enough? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2017 from William CottringerAre You Smart Enough? By Bill Cottringer “Half of being smart is in knowing what you are dumb about.” ~Solomon Short. I have been an avid researcher of the connection between intelligence and success for several decades now, and am finally ready to release my short list for ...
Views: 1715 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Need To Look Strong? - by Submitted on May 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings are inherently vulnerable, it doesn’t mean that they will always come across this way. And when this happens, they can come across as being unaffected by the challenges of life. This is not to be confused with people who are actually strong; as there are naturally going to ...
Views: 1715 - Since I accepted the Inevitably, I see Possibility - by Submitted on Mar 04, 2010 from Claude WarnerFor most of us our goal in life is to be comfortable. For instance, we want just enough money to be able to live a “comfortable life”. We don’t necessarily seek the passion of fulfilling great visions, or the other extreme of apathy and despair. For many of us our lives are focused on ...
Views: 1714(2 votes) - The Media: Does The Mainstream Media Use Entertainment To Distract People? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperNowadays, it is no longer necessary for one to watch TV or to go to the theatre in order to be entertained; the only thing they need to do is to have some kind of device. This then gives them the chance to watch something no matter where they are. So if one is in a position where they have a ...
Views: 1714 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Think They Are Superior To Men/Women? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about the opposite gender, they may start to think about some of the men/women that they know. Through doing this, they could reflect on what they are like and the kind of qualities they they bring to the world. One could then see that there are things that they can do that ...
Views: 1712 - Did I Really Say THAT? (Connecting Our Words To Our Experiences) - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Rev. Anne Presuel"Jerk!" I said, annoyed. "I can't believe he just pulled out in front of you like that!" My husband said nothing, but his hands tightened on the wheel. As we passed the other driver, I glared at him, wondering from what planet he had just come. Reckless drivers or thoughtless drivers ...
Views: 1711 - Relationships: Do Some Women’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Hate Men? - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile someone could say that they hate a certain type of food, for instance, they can also say that they hate the opposite gender. It one could relate to the first example (or if they hated something similar), it is unlikely to have much of an effect on their life. However, if they were in ...
Views: 1711 - Take the Time to CARE - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Julie DonleyWhen I started my career in health care nearly 20 years ago, I was struck by the compassion and care with which nurses and other professionals gave of themselves to their patients. It felt like home to me as I embarked upon my career as a caring professional. But I also noticed how unhappy ...
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