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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Self Development: Can Toxic Shame Cause People To Be Obsessed With Self Development? - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that we live in the age of self improvement and this is not limited to one area of life. In America for instance, the self help industry takes in billions of dollars every year. So there is the chance for one to ‘improve’ their mind, body, physical appearance, relationships and ...
Views: 1854 - The Thoughts You Keep Can Lift You Up or Bring You Down - by Submitted on May 22, 2011 from Kimberley CohenIt can be challenging to maintain a positive outlook when you are in the midst of negative situations and/or people. With the increasing costs of living, natural disasters, wars, company closures, lay-offs, divorces, illnesses, addictions and adultery, to name just a few, it can put a real ...
Views: 1853 - Image Obsessed: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Image Obsessed? - by Submitted on Dec 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked what comes to mind when they think about social media, they might say ‘Selfies’. These are rarely pictures that people just take and then share; they are pictures that are usually altered so that they look right and after this has taken place, they are shared with their ...
Views: 1852 - Social Media: Does Social Media Encourage People To Objectify Animals? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the things that people generally do when they have a social media account (or a number of them), is to share pictures of themselves. This can be something that takes place when one wants to update their profile picture, or it could take place more often. If one only takes pictures of ...
Views: 1852 - Constructive Criticism: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone From Being Able To Accept Constructive Criticism? - by Submitted on May 06, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne person could watch a film and think it’s one of the best films ever, and another could watch the same film and believe it is one of the worst. What this shows is how people have different outlooks, and just because one person likes something, it doesn’t me another person will. Now, this ...
Views: 1851 - The Power of Yin - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Dr Ana GarciaThe TAO says: “The softness and yielding of water overcomes the hardness and strength of stone” TAOISM is a chinese philosophy which advocates simply the way and order of the Universe. Through stillness and receptivity (feminine or yin) natural intuition guides us in knowing when to act and ...
Views: 1850(2 votes) - What Helps You Expand Your Thinking? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2009 from M.J. RyanSo many of us think about creativity in the context of being an artist or musician. However I prefer the definition that resiliency expert Frederic Flach uses. Creativity is “a response to a situation that calls for a novel but adaptive solution, one that serves to accomplish a goal.” That’s ...
Views: 1850(9 votes) - Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2010 from Keith CollinsMy Emotional Intelligence is my ability to consciously comprehend my own emotional States of Being. Being ‘Emotional’ means that I am aware of the feeling that is my emotional state of being. Being ‘Intelligent’ means I have a rational knowledge or logical understanding of the situation, ...
Views: 1849 - Illness: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Illness? - by Submitted on Aug 23, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is very little attention given to emotions and feelings in the western world and the role that these play in whether the body is in a place of balance or imbalance. The typical approach is to look at things in isolation and what happens to the body is then a random occurrence. And ...
Views: 1848 - Relationships: Does Rescuing Others Keep Them Stuck? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, one is going to feel the need to help another; either through someone asking for help or as a result of one offering their hand without being asked. And as human beings need help from time to time, it is good thing that there are people like this in the world. To help another ...
Views: 1847(1 vote) - Empathy: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To A Heightened Sense Of Empathy? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to look back on their time at school or to a time when they were playing sports, they might remember a moment when someone fell over or injured themselves. Now, as they picture this in their mind, they might see that some people laughed and some people didn’t. One way of looking ...
Views: 1846 - Tips on How to Develop Your Creativity Taking On a New Business Niche - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2016 from Leon EdwardBefore you can focus on taking steps to raise your creativity, you have to realize just what creativity is. Basically creativity is about finding new ways to remedy issues and finding ways to approach various situations. We all have creativity within ourselves and this doesn't just apply to ...
Views: 1846 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Blame Men/Women? - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something goes wrong, one can either look into what took place, or they can simply find someone to blame. If they were to look into what happened, it would give them the chance to make a difference. For example, they could see if they have played a part in what took place and if so, ...
Views: 1844 - The Media: Does The Media Promote Intolerance? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to think about what the propose of the media is, they may start to think about how it is there to inform people about what is taking place around them and in the world at large. Based on this outlook, it will be normal for them to look towards the media in order to be informed. In ...
Views: 1843 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Feel Guilty For Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who are able to set boundaries, and there are others who are find it incredibly difficult. It wouldn’t matter whether one was able to set them if they were not important, but as they are a vital part of life, it is essential that one is able to. One may be in a position ...
Views: 1840 - “I Felt Depressed!" - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn the beginning of 2012 and throughout 2013, I would often feel flat, and at times, it was a challenge for me to get out of bed in the morning. While this was going on, there was another part of me found it hard to accept how I felt. I believed that I couldn’t allow myself to experience ...
Views: 1840 - Powerless: Can Trapped Grief Make Someone Feel Powerless? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to experiencing mental and emotional wellbeing, having a sense of personal power is important. This doesn’t mean that this will allow someone’s life to always go how they want it to go, but what it does mean is that they won’t feel like a victim. They will know that they are ...
Views: 1838 - Is Natural Disaster Due to LOA? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Andre ZiziThe Law of attraction does not discriminate between good or bad, kind of vicious, false of imagined. An event like that of Italy is no different that what is happening all over the world. If you perceive the law of attraction as a 'being' who ought to reward or punish his or her community, or ...
Views: 1837 - Emotional Problems: Why Do Some Men Suffer In Silence When They Have Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile anyone can suffer from mental and emotional problems, there is a stronger chance that someone will reach out for support if they are woman. What this comes down to is that this is something that affects each sex differently. Times Have Changed As although certain parts of the world ...
Views: 1837 - The Power of Impulse Control - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2009 from Harvey Deutschendorf“A true history of human events would show that a far larger proportion of our acts are the result of sudden impulse and accident than of reason of which we so often boast”. Albert Cooper Have you ever spoken out in anger and regretted the words almost as soon as they came out? Ever acted ...
Views: 1833(2 votes) - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Build Walls Around Themselves? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone feels safe in their own body it is going to make their life a lot easier. But while this is the ideal, this is not something that everyone on this planet can relate to. If one doesn’t feel safe in their own body it will be normal for them to be walked over and/or for them to ...
Views: 1832 - Brain and Heart Management for Better Success - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2014 from William CottringerBrain and Heart Management for Better Success By Bill Cottringer The lion’s share of success and failure is mostly due to how well we manage our brains and hearts—specifically how we learn, grow and improve the thinking and feeling which drives our behavior. Psychologists have never ...
Views: 1832 - Bringing the feminine forward - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2018 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.What does it mean to bring more of the feminine into our culture and why should we do that? Is there evidence that it helps? In a study in Leadership: Women Do It Better Than Men, Harvard Business Review (https://hbr.org/2012/03/a-study-in-leadership-women-do), Dr. Jack Zenger and Dr. Joe ...
Views: 1832(1 vote) - Boundaries: How Do People Protect Themselves When They Haven’t Got Boundaries? - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust about everything on this planet needs to be protected, because if this doesn’t take place, it will begin to erode or end up simply being destroyed. This is true for a car, the ocean, forests and houses for instance. These things will need to be protected by humans, from humans and from ...
Views: 1831 - Compulsive Behaviour: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Compulsive Behaviour? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the biggest challenges when it comes to acting in ways that are healthy and functional, is something known as compulsive behaviour. This is something that has received wide spread publicity in recent years. When someone behaves in ways that are compulsive, it means that they are not ...
Views: 1831 - Positive Thinking: Is Positive Thinking Dangerous? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has read anything do with self help or come across one of the primary figures in the industry, they will have heard of the term ‘Positive Thinking’. This is nothing new and has been around for many years. In 1952, Norman Vincent Peale published the book - The Power Of Positive ...
Views: 1829 - Beating Road Rage - by Submitted on May 15, 2009 from Harvey DeutschendorfThe other day I was driving down a four lane road at about 3:00 in the afternoon. There was light traffic and I was in the right lane. All of a sudden this car cuts right in front of my as he swerves into my lane and THEN he hits his brakes. My first impulse was to get both of my hands ...
Views: 1828(3 votes) - After Death Communication: Do Some People Try To Contact Their Loved Ones To Avoid Facing Their Grief? - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen some people lose a loved one, they may think that that’s the end of it and that it’s not possible for them to talk to them again. In this case, they will have to rely on their memories and the memories other people have. There are then going to be others to believe this is not the case, ...
Views: 1827 - Approval: Is It Good Or Bad To Care About What Other People Think? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is addicted to something, they can feel the need to go the other extreme and to cut it out all together. And while this can seem like the right idea, it might not have the desired effect. Another approach would be to cut down on the amount that one has of something; this will ...
Views: 1827 - LEADERSHIP Knowledge is a Tool! - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2011 from Elizabeth McNallyAs a leader, you will be called upon to solve a variety of problems. People will seek out your expertise to enhance performance and productivity. Your people skills will be sought out to facilitate, even mediate at times. Your wisdom will build your reputation and increase your responsibility ...
Views: 1827(1 vote) - Healing your Shadows to Empower Your Relationships - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2010 from Darlene MontgomeryAbsolutely everything in our life is a projection from within us of what we believe and perceive life to be. In the last few years, since discovering shadow work, I have had a chance to apply the process to different troubling situations with amazing results. For those who haven’t been ...
Views: 1825(3 votes) - Being Present: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Being Present? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperEver since Eckhart Tolle’s book ‘The Power Of Now’ came out, being present has consumed the self help industry. And even people who were not into self development came across this book. Interpretation And whether it is a teacher speaking about being present or whether they are talking ...
Views: 1824 - Understanding How Institutional Fit Plays Into Hiring Decisions - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2010 from Sean CookI spent over 15 years working in higher education, 13 of which were in residence life. This meant that there were several times of year when I spent more time on campus getting ready for students to arrive than I did with my family. It wasn't uncommon during August to work until 1 a.m. some ...
Views: 1824 - Changing Behaviour the Easy Way - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2010 from Clive MillerIn Groundhog Day Bill Murray keeps playing out the same situation, over and over, never finding a way to make the outcome different. Do you ever keep making the same mistake? I sometimes have to make a mistake many times before I begin to change my behaviour and react differently. Traumatic ...
Views: 1823(2 votes) - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to behaviours that will have a negative impact on one’s life, trying to please others is high on the list. And this doesn’t relate to pleasing others on the odd occasion, it relates to trying to please others all of the time. To set out to please people every now and then is ...
Views: 1823 - Affirmations: Can Affirmations Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf one has the need to change their self-image, they might end up using affirmations. This could be because someone else has recommended this approach, or it could be something they have decided upon. However, although one may have decided to use them, it doesn’t mean that they will have ...
Views: 1822 - Relationships: Can Relationships Be Unconditional? - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo love without conditions or requirements is often spoken about when it comes to evolved or adult relationships. And then there are also other needs that can come into this, such as; acceptance, approval, appreciation, respect, attention and many others. To be loved by another and to have ...
Views: 1822 - Strength In Being Human - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2008 from Julie Donley“I am seen as a pillar of strength. I was brought up this way. I don’t show my emotions or to talk about the bad stuff going on in my life. When people ask how I’m doing, I say, ‘I’m fine.’ As a nurse, I am always there for others. I don’t want to have to ask for help or lean on others for ...
Views: 1822 - Celebrities: Can Feeling Worthless Cause Someone To Be Obsessed With Celebrities? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIn the past, someone could follow a celebrity through watching TV, buying a magazine and/or through reading a paper, for instance. If they were an actor or an actress, they could also watch their films, or if they were a musician, they would also be able to listen to their music. Today’s ...
Views: 1821 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Only Say Nice Things About Their Parents After They Have Passed on? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be a number of people out there who not only have plenty of good things to say about their parents now that they passed on, but who had good things to say about them when they were alive. When something like this takes place, it could be said that someone valued their ...
Views: 1821 - Emotional Brilliance - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2009 from Mick QuinnAre the ways in which other people act emotionally disturbing to you? Are you sometimes of the opinion that other people don’t seem to care enough? Do you question the insensitive ways of other people? We are all subject to deeply felt emotional responses that seem to originate because of ...
Views: 1821 - Offended: Does Being Offended Make Someone Right? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one spends time around people there are likely to be moments when they agree with what they hear. Along with this, there are also likely to be moments when this isn’t the case. It could be said that this is part of life, and this is partly because they will have their own views. If they ...
Views: 1821 - Caution! Child Under Construction: Getting it right the first time - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2010 from Brian WalshA friend of mine is a construction contractor specializing in tiles. During a recent conversation, he was complaining that his previous job was problematic because it was a renovation rather than new construction. When he removed old walls and plumbing, he uncovered many examples of shoddy work ...
Views: 1820(1 vote) - Emotional States: Do Our Emotional States Control Our Life? - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere is often talk around the power of one’s thoughts and how these need to be changed in order for one to live a better life. And what this means, is that emotions are often overlooked. This could be due to a number of reasons and one of these reasons is because of the emotional repression ...
Views: 1820 - Moonlight Becomes You - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2011 from Susan McNeal VelasquezOur outer surroundings supply nourishment for creative endeavors and the pursuit of fulfilling the dream of living a quality life. The not so obvious challenge that we each face is how to grow an internal life that matches the vibrancy and illumination that makes up our outer reality. Are ...
Views: 1820 - Saving the American Dream - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Richard (Dick) WarnBooks Atkinson, 1894-1984, American journalist, said, “This nation was built by people who took risks - - pioneers who were not afraid of the wilderness, business men who were not afraid of failure, scientists who were not afraid of the truth, thinkers who were not afraid of progress, and ...
Views: 1820(7 votes) - Perfectionism: Can Toxic Shame Cause Perfectionism? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are things that are around today that are seen as being perfect but as time passes, they will be seen as imperfect. And this is how life has always been and something that will continue to take place. What this shows is how life doesn’t stand still and that there is always something ...
Views: 1818 - Always Right: Can Toxic Shame Cause Someone To Believe They Are Always Right? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperThere are going to be times in someone’s life where they are right and there are going to be times when they are wrong. If human beings were all-knowing, then this wouldn’t be something that would occur. However, as it is not possible for someone to know everything there is to know, there ...
Views: 1817 - Free Speech: Do People Need To Be Protected From Other People's Views? - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhile it is not as if people have just started sharing their views, there is a difference when it comes to how things used to be. For one thing, the internet has given people a platform to do so. Restricted In the past, someone would have generally shared their views with their friends ...
Views: 1817 - Three Beatitudes for Better Communication - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2017 from William CottringerThree Beatitudes for Better Communication By Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. I first heard this simple but profound prescription for better communication below, used as a beginning and ...
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