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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Disrespect: Do Some People’s Childhoods Set Them Up To Have A Low Tolerance For Disrespect? - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is shown respect, they are likely to respond in a certain way, whereas, if they are not respected, they are likely to respond in another way. However, this is not to say that everyone feels they deserve the same level of respect. But when someone doesn’t get the level of respect ...
Views: 1905 - It’s Okay to Disappoint People - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2012 from Mike RobbinsHow do you feel about disappointing others? How about being disappointed yourself? I’ve recently noticed how much of my conscious and unconscious attention is focused on not disappointing others, while at the same time protecting myself against being disappointed. As I’ve been looking at ...
Views: 1904(1 vote) - Cultivating Self Trust - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from M.J. RyanSelf trust is a virtue, like patience, that has been all but lost in the externally focused society that has increasingly evolved over the past fifty years or so. It is the capacity to know ourselves deeply and to rely on ourselves confidently as the source of our decisions. It is a combination ...
Views: 1903(3 votes) - How to control your emotions - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2012 from M.Farouk RadwanA Lot of people think that having good communication skills involves only knowing what should be said or what should be done in certain situations, and even though this is correct, still there are lots of problems that arise from not being able to do what you know you should do. Suppose that ...
Views: 1902 - Attachment: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Attachment? - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that attachment creates suffering and this is one of the foundations of Buddhism. And when it comes to attracting something into one’s life, attachment is said to be the very thing that will sabotage its arrival. One only has to look at what they are attached to and what ...
Views: 1900 - Fear No More - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2012 from Mark EarlixWhy does fear have so much power over us? Fear has no free-will. Fear is our negator in this world. It tries to grab us and says, "Please don't trust your Self, because, if you do, I will lose you." Fear has a consciousness that wants to keep you away from the Divinity within. It, ...
Views: 1900(2 votes) - Free Speech: Why Do Some People Try To Stop Others From Expressing Their Views? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the people that one is closest to, they are likely to find that they have similar views. They may disagree about certain things from time to time, but in general they will be on the same page, so to speak. Whereas if one was to think about the people they that they are not ...
Views: 1900 - Emotional State: Can We Change How We Feel By Changing Our Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperHow we behave influence’s how we feel, and the only thing one needs to do to realise this is to change their posture. Many people realise how their body language not only affects how they feel, they also realise how it affects how others feel around them. There is then an inner change in ...
Views: 1897 - Feeling Good: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Feeling Good? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere is something that just about everyone wants, and that is to feel good. It plays a big part in what someone does and doesn’t do. This can relate to one feeling emotionally centred and at ease internally and/or through having a heightened sense of wellbeing because of what is taking place ...
Views: 1897 - Control: Is A Sense Of Control Important? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the word ‘control’, there is a chance that something negative will come to mind. They may begin to think about someone who is ‘controlling’, or they may think about a situation in their life that is stopping them from being themselves. However, this might not take ...
Views: 1895 - You Make Me Feel - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2012 from Shelly PriceDo other people make you feel things? Do they make you feel happy or sad? I’m curious. How do they make you feel this way? Do they say, “Hey, here’s a tin of sadness.” Or maybe they say, “Ahh, you need a bucket of happiness. Hold on, I’ve got one here you can have.” Can you find ...
Views: 1893 - Patterns: Do Patterns Run Our Life? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen we look at our lives or at the lives of others, we can see life through one of two ways, or as a combination of the two. On one side we can see that there are patterns to how we behave, think and feel and in how other people behave. And on the other side, we could also view our internal ...
Views: 1891 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Take Advantage Of People Who Are Kind? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one had the chance to get something for free, they could either take what they need or they could take as much as they could. Another way of looking at this would be to say that they can act with grace or they can act with greed. Two Outlooks When one only takes what they need, it ...
Views: 1891 - Feelings: Do Our Feelings Always Reflect Reality? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to watch a film that had no colour or sound, it is not going to be the same as a film that has colour and sound. It is unlikely to be as engaging or as entertaining, and one might soon lose interest and turn it off or walk away from what they’re watching. And the same could be ...
Views: 1889 - The Art of Having a Bad Day - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2010 from Paul DaltonA lot of personal development teachers and motivational guru’s like to drill home that the key to success is ‘State Management’, i.e. your ability to manipulate your physical and emotional being so that you are constantly aligned with success producing thoughts and actions. In fact, much of what ...
Views: 1887(2 votes) - The Truth Behind The Subconscious Mind And Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Chris D'CruzThere are quite a number of instances that work the desire for an individual to have more than average emotional intelligence. Watching some detective movies, especially those that seek to uncover hidden conspiracies connote the effectiveness of possessing emotional intelligence. Most people may ...
Views: 1886(1 vote) - Control: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Controlling Behaviour? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhat is common in today’s world and throughout history is control, but in most cases this is not self control, it is the control of others. And this can be seen at all levels of the modern day world. From the personal relationships that people have, to the authority figures of the world. To ...
Views: 1884 - Embracing Change - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Lavinia PlonkaFor a month, I kept banging my head. Unintentionally, or so it seemed. Suddenly everywhere I turned, I encountered a barrier. Obstacles leapt in to connect with my forehead, my temple, the top of my skull. Cursing, but pushing on, I walked into more doors. I hit my head on the car door ...
Views: 1884(3 votes) - Boundaries: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Boundary Problems? - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many challenges in the world today and some these are big and some of them are small. And a lack of boundaries can create all kinds of relationship problems. This is also something that can be seen on a global scale; with certain countries going into other countries. This often ...
Views: 1883 - Resurrect Your Life Today - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2010 from Dr. Deana MurphyLast Saturday my family served at our church’s annual Easter egg hunt. This annual event generally brings children and families peacefully from both the congregation and nearby neighborhoods. Fun and games are on the menu for the children who will be putting their expectations and appetites on ...
Views: 1883(7 votes) - Communication: Is Empathy Important? - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings are ‘social animals’ and this is because they are interdependent. So while one may see themselves as being an individual, this is not the complete truth. The person they have come to be is the result of the experiences they have had with others and in order ...
Views: 1881 - Crying: Is Having The Ability To Cry Important? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough life is made up of moments that are pleasurable and moments that are painful, it doesn’t mean that someone is able to accept each side. There are going to be people who do everything they can to embrace pleasure and avoid pain, and, there are going to be others who renounce pleasure and ...
Views: 1881 - Grief: Is Grief A Mental Illness? - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs time goes by, more and more normal human experiences are being given labels, and what was part of life at one point in time, ends up being seen as a mental illness at another. For example: if one was experiencing anxiety in the past, they might believe that it is just part of life. It is ...
Views: 1881 - The Path to Happiness - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2013 from Guy FarmerMy clients frequently ask me how they can find happiness. While there are many elements that create happiness, I've noticed that a basic characteristic of people who are happy is healthy self-awareness. Self-awareness refers to a deep understanding of who we are and what makes us tick. It ...
Views: 1881 - Use Empathy to Unleash a Huge Reserve of Potential - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2008 from Julie DonleyConsider the thoughts that go through your mind on a daily basis – the fears, doubts, criticisms, and judgments. If you knew that other people have the same thoughts about life, their mate, their kids, the organization, about their co-workers and bosses, and about themselves as you have, ...
Views: 1881 - 3 Ways to Stop Worrying - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Angela SpaxmanWorrying is a very common source of stress and waste of energy. All of us have times when we worry, and some people rarely have times when they don't worry! Whether you are an occasional worrier, or a worry addict, learning how to worry less is an excellent investment in your life. Here are ...
Views: 1880(4 votes) - The Power of Hurt - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Dr Ana GarciaSonia Choquette says in her Oracle Cards (Card no 19 – Survival): “Your Healer Guides […] want you to recognize that the psychic attacks you’ve suffered through the unconscious, negative behaviour of others have left you injured. You’ve been betrayed and energetically wounded […] Stop blaming ...
Views: 1880 - A New Life Choice - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Dr Ana GarciaThe other day I saw a friend I hadn’t seen for quite a while. We had a lovely conversation. At a point in our discussion, I remarked that after all these years of spiritual work I felt much more equipped to deal with the fast changing energies that are sweeping the world today. One week ...
Views: 1879(1 vote) - Grounded: Is Human Touch An Important Part Of Feeling Grounded? - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is not uncommon to hear people say that they feel ungrounded and while this may be a term that is more commonly used amongst people who are into self development, it is something that anyone can experience. It therefore won’t matter if they are into self development or not, as they can still ...
Views: 1878 - Comforting the Little Orphan Girl - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2012 from Tina TessinaWhen life hands me a very difficult time, and I feel defeated and overwhelmed, I enter a hopeless and helpless state of mind I think of as The Little Orphan girl. This is the way I felt, as a teen, when I lost nearly my whole family, father, aunts and uncles, between the ages of 12 and 18. ...
Views: 1876 - Boundaries: How Can People React When We Form Boundaries For The First Time? - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough it is vital for human begins to have boundaries, it doesn’t mean that they always have them. And this could be the case with some areas of their life or it could apply to each and every area of their life. Ultimately, boundaries protect ones personal space and therefore stop others ...
Views: 1875 - Emotional Action Signals - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2010 from Luminita SaviucSo how do you eliminate emotional toxins? I really believe that if you are sharing your pain with somebody else, somebody you care about, somebody you trust, you are cutting the pain in half every time you do so. “Pain is life- the sharper, the more evidence of life.”Charles Lamb So what do you ...
Views: 1873(3 votes) - Naive: Is It Good Or Bad To Be Naive? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to start something new, they might try to find out everything they can about it. In this case, they are not just going to start something and learn as they go along; they are going to do some serious research. Through taking this approach, they are going to be prepared, and ...
Views: 1873 - Fame: Why Do So Many People Want To Be Famous In Today's World? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf a teacher one was to come across a group of students and they were to ask them what they wanted to be when they are older, there is the chance that a number of them would have the same answer. It could be said that this is to be expected, and this is because they are at an age where they are ...
Views: 1872 - Let Go of Your Need to Be Right - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2009 from Julie DonleyHave you ever had an argument? It’s a silly question, for sure. Everyone has. You know, in that moment, when you’re so sure that you’re right, when you just wish the other person would hear you - your version of reality, that is, your right way of looking at the world. If they would only ...
Views: 1872 - Focus: Does What We Focus On Grow? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to come to the conclusion that what shows up in their personal reality is the result of random factors and that one is nothing more than an observer, they might end up receiving the approval of the majority of people around them. And this is because the western world generally ...
Views: 1867 - Gender Roles: Can Gender Roles Stop People From Growing? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years, men were seen as being one way and women as being another way. And as time has passed, these differences are no longer as extreme as they used to be. But while some things have changed, in regards to what men and women are like, there is still work to be done. This is ...
Views: 1867 - Goodwill Thinking - by Submitted on May 26, 2012 from Razan Z. KilaniWorry is a misuse of imagination. Dan Zadra What I have learned from life and coaching is that most people spend more time worrying about troubles than actually thinking of preventing them from happening, or handling them positively after they do. Additionally, what I have learned from my ...
Views: 1867 - Handling Life Changes or Life Changing Events - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2011 from Jayne KoppHow Do You Handle Change or Life Changing Events? How well do you handle change or life changing events in this fast paced world of ours? It seems to me there is always something new to face. Granted some changes are good, some bad, some gradual and some exceedingly speedy (technology ...
Views: 1867 - The Psychedelic Emotional Drive To Success - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2010 from Andre ZiziThis is a chapter of my current book. (Copyright09) The stream waves of emotions drive us to inspiration and elevation. Reason? Effective life mastery comes from a deeper awareness of the stream waves of consciousness that lies within us. This knowledge can only be activated, and acted upon ...
Views: 1867(7 votes) - Anger: Is Anger An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain emotions that are often described as being negative and others that are often described as being positive. And in today’s world of positive thinking and of always needing to be happy, embracing the other side of one’s emotional spectrum is generally frowned upon. Based on ...
Views: 1866 - Catharsis or Constipation? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Greg BeckamCatharsis is an old word. I don’t really hear anyone using it anymore. But what a great word it is! Indeed! If you REALLY want to charge up your life try this on for size… Our dictionary defines these words as follows: Catharsis: 1. the purging of the emotions or relieving of emotional ...
Views: 1866(1 vote) - Using Emotions Tech from TrueTalk to Monitor Health and Wellbeing - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2018 from Tori UtleyIts stating the obvious but our bodies respond physically to how we think and feel. This is the final article in a series of 4 describing how emotions impact health and how we can use this fact to improve our wellbeing. The previous article is here. Imagine being able to monitor and ...
Views: 1866 - Relationships: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear The Opposite Sex? - by Submitted on May 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile the opposite sex can do things that will cause one to feel fear and to want to keep their distance, there is also the chance that one will feel this way no matter what they do. It is then not something that depends on how another person behaves; it is something that one experiences as a ...
Views: 1865 - ***Unexpected Teachers: 5 Things I Learned From a Great White Carp - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2013 from Rob WhiteLife's teachers come in the most unexpected forms. Sometimes, they even sport fins and scales, like the three-foot carp that lives in the pond where I take my daily stroll. OK, this carp has a human interpreter, Robert, a fishing enthusiast who I met a number of years ago during one of my pond ...
Views: 1864 - 9 Ways to Improve Your Presence and Boost Your EQ - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2018 from Michele MolitorDid you know that only 7% of our communication comes through speaking? The rest of communication comprehension relies on visual and energetic cues such as eye contact, facial expressions, body language, posture, touch and movement. With this in mind, it’s key to be conscious of what you’re ...
Views: 1863(1 vote) - Imagine Yourself on the Big Screen with Neuro-Linguistics - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Kaileen SherkImagine yourself on the Big Screen Have you ever imagined what life would be like as a movie star? We all love to be entertained and live vicariously through the adventures, loves, mistakes, and conquests of our favorite heroes. A good movie is one that evokes emotion and connection to the ...
Views: 1863(1 vote) - The Danger Of Thinking And Feeling - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2008 from Mark Ivar MyhreI learned this morning one more time - how important it is to pay attention to my thoughts and feelings. It happened as I was looking at the barriers I've put up to 'receiving'. I was curious to know why I don't receive more love, more success, etc. I knew I must be blocking so much of ...
Views: 1862 - What’s so H.A.R.D. about Change? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2011 from Julie DonleyWhy does change have to be so darn hard? We struggle to lose weight, get in shape, eliminate debt and stay (happily) married. Health issues such as heart disease, depression, addiction and obesity - preventable illnesses – are rampant. Why is it so hard to change? The answer to this ...
Views: 1858(2 votes) - Physical Pain: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Physical Pain? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one experiences some kind of physical pain or tension it can be normal to just see it as the body reacting to something and that some kind of external solution is needed to deal with the pain. And this is a natural consequence of seeing the body as separate from the mind and something ...
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