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Snapshot Management: Leaders under the Spotlight Use Emotional Intelligence - By Reldan Nadler- Needy: Can Unmet Childhood Needs Cause Someone To Be Needy? - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo have needs is part of being human and this means it is not possible for one to remove their needs. But regardless of this fact, it doesn’t mean that one feels comfortable with their needs or that they’re able to get their needs met. Some people are going to view their needs with disdain ...
Views: 2085 - Self-Punishment: Why Do Some People Feel As Though They Deserve To Be Punished? - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOn one side, one can punish themselves, and on the other side, they can be punished by others. And while this is the case, it is often easier to see when one is punished by others. If one ends up being treated badly by someone, for instance, there is a strong chance that they will be looked ...
Views: 2085 - The Mainstream Media: Where Perspectives Become Truths - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the challenges I have with the mainstream media, is that what is shown is largely portrayed as the truth. It could be said, that all forms of critical thinking are gradually eroded by exposing ourselves to it. Of course, it could be argued that it is down to the individual to use their ...
Views: 2084 - How to Oversome Fear of Change - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2010 from Hal WechslerHow to Overcome Fear Of Change Does this make sense to you? Humans are wired as a species to have Danger-Avoidance functions take precedence over our Pleasuring-Seeking functions. What does it mean? Fear overrides our desire for pleasure. Is it hard to believe 40-million Americans, ...
Views: 2083(3 votes) - Social Media: Does Social Media Create Impossible Standards Of Beauty? - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperFor many years now, the mainstream media has been criticised for editing pictures, and this is because of the effect this has on women. When they see these images, they are often unaware of what has been done, and they can come to believe that what they see is normal. If they were able to ...
Views: 2082 - Human Contact: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Fear Human Contact? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some needs that human beings will need to have fulfilled in order to survive, there are other needs that can go unfulfilled without leading to someone’s death. This is not to say that it won’t have an effect on someone’s wellbeing though. For example: if one doesn’t receive ...
Views: 2080 - Our Story: Is Our Story Who We Are? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWe all have a story to tell, no matter who we are or where we’re from; a story that reminds us of a past that can never be forgotten. This is a story can define one’s life; one that contains the potential to create a life that is a reaction to the story or a life inspired and motivated by ...
Views: 2076 - The Repetitive Life:Healing Your Patterns by Mark Earlix - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2012 from Mark EarlixThe Repetitive Life: Healing Your Patterns by Mark Earlix Imagine what it might be like if; that everything you have experienced and you are currently experiencing, is an event you have repeated and repeated and repeated over and over again. Each time that you are thrown back into this ...
Views: 2075 - Emotional Expression: What Can Happen When We Don't Express Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf one was to stop eating and drinking it wouldn’t be long before they would start to experience problems. And if this went on for too long, they would soon die. But while one is likely to be aware of their physical needs in most cases, what they might not be aware of is what is going on for ...
Views: 2071 - From Steve Urkel to Stefan Urquelle: Transforming Your Life Coaching Practice by Transforming Who You Are - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2011 from Jason WestlakeBuilding a life coaching business and learning to attract clients is so much more than just learning HOW to run a successful business. Building a successful lifecoaching practice is a process of complete transformation of who you are. If you’re a life coach and your business isn’t going how ...
Views: 2071(1 vote) - Emotional Regulation: What Is Emotional Regulation? - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions and feelings are something each one of us has, it doesn’t mean that they are easy to handle or manage. For some people, they generally don’t cause too many problems, unless there is a major challenge in their life. And then there are other people who find it incredibly ...
Views: 2070 - Abuse: Have You Gone From Being A Victim To Being A Perpetrator? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that abuse is passed down from one generation to another and it can be hard for people to understand why this happens. However, the next generation are not the only ones who can end up being abused; it is also something that can affect the people who the abuser comes into ...
Views: 2069 - Offended: Does The Fear Of Offending Others Stop Some People From Sharing Their Views? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who generally think before they speak, there are others who don’t. As a result of this, they are likely to come across as being radically different human beings. Holding Back When it comes to the former, it could be said that they are typically not going to say ...
Views: 2069 - A TRUTH Perception, a tricky thing - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2011 from Elizabeth McNallyA truth is seen by one person as factual, verifiable. The funny part of it is that it will vary from one individual’s perception to the next. Your perception is the way you receive and process a fact and what it means to you. It will be influenced by your values, previous experiences, your ...
Views: 2067 - Attraction: Can Trapped Emotions Define Who We Are Attracted To? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to who one is attracted to and attracts, it can appear to be a random process. And that one has no control over who they attract or are attracted to. Certain physical traits are often cited as being the reason why one is or was attracted to someone. And physical characteristics ...
Views: 2066 - Repressed Emotions: How Can Someone Know If They Have Repressed Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough emotions are meant to flow, this is not something that always happens. This is not to say that one should always express how they feel; as this is not always going to be appropriate. What it will involve, is for one to accept how they feel and then to contain their emotional ...
Views: 2066 - Resolving Conflict by Johanna Courtleigh - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2013 from Johanna Courtleigh, MA,It can be scary and uncomfortable to say we’re sorry. To own up to the fact that perhaps we did something less than stellar and that it negatively impacted someone we care for. We want to just brush it under the rug. To have it let go. To not have to meet and experience the discomfort of ...
Views: 2066 - Anger: Why Don't Some People Get Angry When They Need To? - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are many examples in people’s private’s lives and in the world at large of anger that is openly expressed and out of control, there is another dynamic that is often overlooked and this is because it is not as easy to recognise. This is when one should get angry and express how ...
Views: 2064 - How is Your Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2013 from Anne Dranitsaris and Heather Dranitsaris-HilliardWe believe that through focusing on their personal development, people can learn to handle emotions intelligently, and in doing so increase their ability to succeed in personal and professional relationships. Emotional self-awareness is the core of emotional intelligence. Knowing one's emotional ...
Views: 2064(1 vote) - Communication: How Do You Make People Feel? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to communicating and connecting with others it is rarely what one says that is important. This means that the words that are used are only a very small part of the equation. How something is said will make a bigger difference than what is said. But this is not the focus of this ...
Views: 2061(2 votes) - The Land Beyond Intellect - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Susan McNeal VelasquezI’ve been asked why I named my book beyond intellect instead of unleash the power of your intuition. That’s a fair question, so I thought I’d try to answer it. We live in a task-oriented, skill-based society. After the question, “What is your name?” is answered; the next question is usually, ...
Views: 2061 - Healing: What Actually Works? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to healing ones childhood pain or in healing the pain that has come about through later life experiences; there are many techniques and methods out there. And each one of these is often described as the one and only way. So based on this, if one was to use this method, it would ...
Views: 2060 - Bullying: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Bullied? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many forms of bullying around today and some of these are more overt than others. At times, this is done in a way that is so subtle, that it can take place without anyone even noticing. And while bullying has taken place for many, many years, and is nothing new, the internet has ...
Views: 2059 - Skinny Dipping is Better Than Double Dipping - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2011 from Arthur LevinePlease feel free to use this article as long as credit is given to the resource box. (C) Copyright, Arthur Levine 2011. Works: Keywords: Skinny Dipping, Double Dipping, Johnny Oops What has sex got to do with economics? I’ve come to the conclusion that swimming naked in the pool is a ...
Views: 2059(1 vote) - No Worries Mate - Everything Is Gonna Be Alright - by Submitted on Oct 13, 2008 from Yangki Christine AkitengOne thing that life has taught me is that, if there is anything a man or woman, young or old must learn about life, it is learning how to stay calm, cool and collected in situations fraught with uncertainty and unpredictability. Let me rephrase it this way: if there is anything one must ...
Views: 2057 - Blame: When Someone Blames Others Can It Make Them Blind To Their Own Faults? - by Submitted on Feb 09, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something goes wrong, one can look into why it has gone wrong or they can find someone to blame. If one was to take the first option, it could be said that there is a greater chance of them being able to find a solution. Whereas if they were to find someone to blame for what has taken ...
Views: 2055 - Selfies: Why Are Some People Obsessed With Selfies? - by Submitted on Sep 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThrough the introduction of social media, people have been able to express themselves in ways that were not available in the past. People can share how they feel, where they are and where they are going, amongst others things. But one is not limited to words when comes to what is taking ...
Views: 2053 - Inner Conflict: Is Inner Conflict Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is free from inner conflict, they are going to be able to experience inner peace. Not only this, but they will also experience a sense of clarity and this is going to make their life a lot easier. One could find that it is relatively easy for them to make decisions and for them to ...
Views: 2051 - Anxiety: Can Toxic Shame Cause Anxiety? - by Submitted on May 01, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough feeling anxious from time to time is a normal part of life, if this is something one suffers from on a regular basis it is likely to mean that something isn’t right. Now, this is not to say that one has to be in a constant state of anxiety for there to be problem; as it could also be ...
Views: 2049 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Fix Others? - by Submitted on May 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who try and fix others. This could be something they have a habit of doing or something they do once in a while. And while these people may think that they are helping others, they are generally having the opposite effect. A bit like how a mechanic may fix an engine or a ...
Views: 2047 - Change: Do Some People Try To Change The World In Order To Avoid Themselves? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are the changes that one can make in their own life and then there are the changes they can make in the world. And as one is part of the world, what takes place in their life can end up affecting the world. The internet has given individuals the power to make more of a difference than ...
Views: 2043 - Giving Children Choices Fosters Responsibility - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2015 from Marvin MarshallYoung people have choices, both conscious and nonconscious. These choices are a significant factor in determining their lives. The sooner young people become aware of this, the earlier they will start to make responsible choices. Young people also become more responsible when they learn that ...
Views: 2043 - Staying Positive in a Negative Environment - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2008 from Julie DonleyProbably one of the hardest things we must do as leaders is to stay positive when everyone else around us is negative. It’s not easy to maintain a positive attitude and not be drained or consumed by the negativity that surrounds you. But as a leader, that’s exactly what you must do. ...
Views: 2043 - You Have Everything You Need To Be Happy - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Jeannette KoczelaOne morning I was writing out a grateful list and I couldn't stop writing. I just kept thinking of more and more things to be grateful for. It made me realize that I loved my life. That wasn't always true for me. But here's what I know now. You have everything you need to be happy. Yes, it's ...
Views: 2043(4 votes) - Anger: Can Trapped Grief Cause Someone To Have Anger Problems? - by Submitted on May 25, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile there are some people who are able to express every emotion on the spectrum, there are others who are stuck on one end of the spectrum. When this happens, it is not going to be possible for someone to be a whole human being. This may mean that one is always ‘positive’, and that they ...
Views: 2040 - Emotional Avoidance: What Can Happen When We Avoid Our Emotions? - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperNo matter how old or young someone is, where they have come from on this planet or if they are male or female, one thing is clear, and that is that they will have emotions. For this is part of the human experience, without them life wouldn’t be the same. However, one of the challenges with ...
Views: 2040 - Feelings Are Energy in Motion - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2012 from Amy TorresFeelings are not facts. This is important to understand because when we are under the influence of a strong feeling, we have the sense this feeling will never end. If the feeling is anger, we are consumed with fiery heat. If the feeling is sadness, we are heavy, lethargic. If the feeling is ...
Views: 2040(1 vote) - Social Media: Can Social Media Cause People To Create A False-Self? - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is in touch with their true-self, it is likely to mean that they are in touch with their true needs and feelings, among others things. These inner aspects will then go onto shape their behaviour, and the idea people have of them can then match up with who they are. However, this ...
Views: 2037 - Reality Or Projection: What Do We See? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the questions I have been asking myself recently is; are we seeing reality based on how it is today or are we interpreting and creating it based on what happened in our past The first response to this question could be; Of course we are seeing reality for how it is today, what else is ...
Views: 2035 - Relationships: Is Needing Someone The Same As Loving Them? - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one thinks about what it means to love someone or for someone else to love them, they are likely to have an idea in mind. This idea could also be backed up by a certain feeling or a combination of feelings. What it means to one person is not necessarily going to be the same as what it ...
Views: 2032 - Being And Doing: What Is The Difference? - by Submitted on May 20, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor a long time, the western world has been familiar with the word doing and the word being has been something that the people in the east were familiar with. And this has gradually changed in the west, with people becoming more aware of these eastern approaches and vice ...
Views: 2031 - The Media: Does The Media Promote Instant Gratification? - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people want to find out about what is taking place locally and globally, they often look to the mainstream media to inform them. This could be seen as a normal part of living in the modern-day world. But while this has been the way for so long, it is it beginning to change and this is ...
Views: 2029 - Inner Conflict: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Inner Conflict? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people work together and are all on the same side, so much can be achieved. If there is disharmony amongst people, problems can appear and this can lead to things being slowed down, or stopped completely. One example that comes to mind here is a sports team. When everyone in the team ...
Views: 2028(1 vote) - Interpretations: Do Our Interpretations Create Our Experience Of Life? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can often watch a film with an ending that is unclear and come up with an interpretation that is completely different to another person. Or perhaps there is a cloud in the sky; one sees it to be a certain shape and another person sees another shape or cannot see this shape at all. Then ...
Views: 2028 - The Matrix: What Is The Matrix? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the words ‘The Matrix’ are mentioned the first thing that comes to mind is probably the film by the same name. And this was a film that had a profound influence on many people. This was not only because of the quality of the film, but also because of the questions it made people ask and ...
Views: 2027 - Communication: Is It Important To Be Emotionally Expressive? - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to connecting to other people, our facial expressions play an important role. And like one’s body language and their tone of voice, one is not always aware of how they’re coming across. Or one might be aware of their body language and their tone of choice, but their facial ...
Views: 2025 - Emotional Dilemmas - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2012 from Mark Earlixwww.healerMarkEarlix.net EMOTIONAL DILEMMAS Emotional dilemmas, either the drama or trauma creations in our daily living as we are going through them, are truly meaningless. Through, these dilemmas in our life we will eventually take on their true meaning and healing only as our dilemma is ...
Views: 2023(1 vote) - What's Happiness Got to Do With It? Women, Life and Pleasure! - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Dr. Elsbeth Meuth, EdD & Freddy Zental WeaverThe elusiveness of happiness! What a rat race to find it and then if you were lucky to get it how to keep it. Marcus Buckingham's research and findings in HuffPost based on his paper "The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness" inspired me to reflect on my own progression in life to happiness and ...
Views: 2023(1 vote) - Criticism: How To Make It Work For You. - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2008 from Brock HansenGiving and accepting criticism gracefully can be a tricky business. Many a friendship or family relationship has foundered on the shoals of major, minor, or even anticipated criticism. Performance evaluations at school or work are minefields of misunderstood criticism. What makes criticism ...
Views: 2021 - Healthy Emotional Boundaries: Your Value Systems In Action - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2012 from Veronica Burgess“Setting limits is a way of defining who you are and what you’re all about, what you will do and what you won’t; what’s acceptable to you and what’s not”. —Laura Stack— Many people have seen and understand a no trespassing sign posted on private property. And if you were to cross the line, ...
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