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- Five Mistakes to Avoid during Conflict - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenThere are so many positive strategies and processes to use in managing conflict effectively. And sometimes it’s very important to know how to avoid the pitfalls. You will enhance your success in finding heart peace if you stay aware of the energies that are the indicators and outcomes of ...
Views: 1700(2 votes) - ***How a Cup of Coffee Can Ruin Your Day - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniDanielle left the house with just five minutes to spare. It would have been better if she had left ten or fifteen minutes early because she wanted to stop and buy a cup of coffee. She decided that she could probably get in and out of the coffee house within seven minutes and that being just two ...
Views: 1698(3 votes) - The Courage to Confront - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2009 from James KrehbielOne of the most significant underlying assumptions that many people internalize is, “I must avoid conflict at all costs; if I let others know what I think and feel, I might get disappointed and hurt.” However, “sweeping things under the rug” tends to eventually magnify unresolved interactions ...
Views: 1698 - EXPOSING COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT ANGER - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2017 from Janet PfeifferI've been presenting seminars on understanding and healing anger for 25 years and it never ceases to amaze me how much misinformation is circulating about one of life's most powerful emotions. Lack of accurate facts and techniques can have serious repercussions in every aspect of life from ...
Views: 1697 - Harmony Through Conflict - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Trish LayWhen I was three years old, my adoptive mother was holding me as we stood in line at the grocery store. A gentleman in front of us turned and said what a pretty little girl I was…I then replied with, “no I’m not…I’m adopted.” Being adopted weighed on my shoulders for decades. Rejection and ...
Views: 1697 - Anger: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2016 from Janet PfeifferAs a child I was taught that anger was a bad emotion but I've have since come to understand that there are no bad feelings. All emotions have purpose and value as they teach us about ourselves based on how we react to external events. We assign value to each depending on how people act them out. ...
Views: 1696 - How Can You Think Differently! - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2014 from Dr. Mona AeyshaTensions and worries are of dissimilar varieties. Some are based on relationships, some are financial and others are conceptual. We live in a variety of cultures, thus experiences are too complex and ambiguous at a large level. Notwithstanding, our many of the troubles could be solved through a ...
Views: 1695(1 vote) - Say What You Mean Without Being Mean - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2013 from Janet Pfeiffer(Excerpt from BUILT TOUGH? ) I often meet people who refer to themselves as tough. My perception, at times, is quite the opposite: I see them as mean-spirited. What exactly does it mean to be tough? Ford Motor Company manufactures several size trucks. Their tag line is "Ford trucks, built ...
Views: 1694(1 vote) - WHEN LYING IS THE BETTER OPTION - by Submitted on Aug 16, 2017 from Janet PfeifferCurrently there is a commercial on TV where a cheerful woman visits her new neighbor with a homemade pie. She states that she has actually come by not to simply welcome the woman into the neighborhood but to see if in fact she might be weird in some way. The smiling neighbor inquires as to ...
Views: 1691 - Overcoming The Obstacles To Self Change - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2009 from Robert DarbyThe Dysfunctional Landscape It should be stated from the start that the obstacles mentioned in this article are those of a severe nature. I share the strategies and techniques for dealing with them because they are the same for minor dysfunctionality as they are for major train wrecks, the ...
Views: 1690(2 votes) - Anger Management Class - Three Easy Criticism Techniques - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2010 from Joe JamesGiving criticism can be just as, if not even more stressful than receiving it. Studies have shown that people who are about to offer criticism are often concerned that they or the other person may get angry at them and that they will not know how to manage that other person’s anger. According ...
Views: 1684 - MAD, SAD, OR GLAD: THE OPTIONS - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWe all get angry from time-to-time. Sometimes our anger is righteous, that is to say it is justifiable and other times without valid cause. For instance, imagine your child is late returning from an evening basketball game. He does not call to let you know that the game went into overtime. ...
Views: 1684 - ***3 Ways to Deal with Differences - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Margaret Meloni"There are three ways of dealing with difference: domination, compromise, and integration. By domination only one side gets what it wants; by compromise neither side gets what it wants; by integration we find a way by which both sides may get what they wish..." Mary Parker Follett The ...
Views: 1681(2 votes) - One Picture And Two Effects: Light Or Dark - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2014 from Dr. Mona AeyshaWe all have different types of personalities, attitudes, moods, emotions, languages, cultures, beliefs, values, traditions, customs, and priorities in life. We share a few commonalities and the big differences even when we live together as a family member, a part of a social group and being a ...
Views: 1679 - How to Communicate More Effectively with a Difficult Ex - by Submitted on May 29, 2012 from Nancy KayDoes your stomach churn at the thought of having to communicate with your ex? Would you rather clean out a 45 gallon fish tank than contact your ex about the kids’ holiday schedule? Many former spouses continue to experience significant difficulties in the ways that they communicate with each ...
Views: 1672(2 votes) - IT'S NOT FAIR! - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was ...
Views: 1671 - Road Rage: Drive to Stay Alive - by Submitted on Oct 16, 2013 from Janet PfeifferRoad rage is one of the leading causes of accidents and deaths in this country. According to a report by CNN, an estimated 28,000 people each year are killed due to aggressive drivers. It's easy to see how cities such as Miami, NY, Boston, LA, and Washington DC (the cities with the most ...
Views: 1671(3 votes) - Why Do We Connect A Few Dots To Perceive All! - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2014 from Dr. Mona AeyshaThe law of closure in which we tend to see the incomplete figures as a whole while ignoring gaps and missing spaces. This popular law of gestalt psychology, shape our over all perception indeed. We, not only perceive pictures as a whole, rather every thing as a whole. By nature we do not like to ...
Views: 1671 - If You Are In Doubt, Leave It Aside For A While - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2014 from Dr. Mona AeyshaWe are educated, informed, smart and vigilant. Even then we make wrong choices, wrong decisions, keep guilts and miseries. In one way or the other we suffer from our own misjudgments and misperceptions. We cannot control our mistakes from being happen and cannot save ourselves from being ...
Views: 1670 - Tolerance Can Be Overrated - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2008 from Alan Sharland(....or why conflict avoidance, under the guise of tolerance, can be a dangerous thing.) I was once asked to support a man who had been sent to prison for carrying out a violent attack on his neighbour. He was referred to me to see if I could help him with what was considered to be some ...
Views: 1670 - Five Red Flags of Resistance - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from Marlene ChismYour boss doesn’t listen to your ideas. Your spouse refuses to try to understand. Your employees resist your leadership, and secretly you know you keep doing things you don’t really want to do but you feel stuck and don’t know how to tip the lever to change. What we are talking about is ...
Views: 1669 - Improving Your Conflict Resolution Skills: Step-by-Step Guide for This Process - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2017 from Justin OsborneConflicts can appear anywhere. Whether you are in a coffee shop and someone got past the line or you are work and you have some misunderstandings with your colleagues, they are part of our day-to-day life. There are some things you can’t predict and prevent. You can’t foresee you will have a ...
Views: 1669 - D~U~C~A~P Method of Dealing With a Difficult Person - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe could all use a few suggestions for dealing with those difficult coworkers, obnoxious family members, or challenging neighbors that find their way into our lives. Some really know how to push our buttons and bring out the worst in us; others are stubborn or opinionated; still others can be ...
Views: 1668 - The Power of Co-Creating: A Law of Attraction Guide for Successfully Handling Negative People - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2009 from Nea Joy JusticeYou may be coming to the realization that you are a powerful Being whose thoughts summon law of attraction, thus creating your reality and contributing to the expansion of the Universe. But do you know that your creative power is magnified when you pair your energy with the energy of another ...
Views: 1668(4 votes) - ***Getting Back In So You Can Finally Stay Out - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinOne of the hardest things to do is to leave a relationship. A more difficult undertaking is staying out. Maybe it wasn’t so bad. Maybe I didn’t try hard enough. Maybe she could change after all. Maybe I could put up with more than I thought; after all, I do love him. When we leave our ...
Views: 1667 - My Husband Starts Fights Then Blames Me: Husband Wife Fight Solution - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2021 from Maci AspenMy Husband Starts Fights Then Blames Me: Husband Wife Fight Solution In a relationship it is important to establish rules for how to handle conflict. A conflict occurs when two people want different things at the same time. Here are seven rules that will greatly help when trying to resolve ...
Views: 1662 - Conflict – Are You Using it Productively? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2009 from Gael DrumConflict is a good motivator to address problems and to seek solutions for unresolved issues. It is a good warning sign that an area of your life, or your personality may need attention. However, if you sweep the warning signals under the carpet or ignore the motivation to confront and resolve ...
Views: 1660(2 votes) - Are You A Defeated Parent? Scream Free Parenting Will Alter Your Family! - by Submitted on Oct 29, 2010 from Paul DonahueAre you having discipline problems with your children? If you are, scream free parenting is for you! Please pull up a chair and read along to find out if this is for you or not. If you're hear now, chances are you are not satisfied with the relationship you have with your children. If it's ...
Views: 1659(2 votes) - 5 Keys to Find Peace by Placating - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2013 from Merna Throne, M.S.To Appease or not to Appease Is placating the answer? By Merna Throne, M.S. I thought this was a good topic to finally write about as I know so many people go through this mental dilemma, but they endure in silence and their relationships suffer ...
Views: 1658(1 vote) - Does Your Culture Support The Positivity Inside You? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2014 from Dr. Mona AeyshaPositivity is a universal trait and a common factor to enhance our well being over all over the world. Every day we learn about positivity and try to adopt it as much as possible in our day to day life. We love to be called as positive parents, couples, children and positive members of our ...
Views: 1657 - Healing From the Past; Communicating About Money - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Mindy Sitton-HalleckAs most of us know, conflict is a destructive force in any relationship. Money is often a source of conflict. Money is an immense issue in our everyday lives; how we manage and communicate about it sets the tone for our relationships. Is that tone potentially explosive, argumentative, deceiving ...
Views: 1654 - Intuitive Decision Making with Confidence - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2011 from Laura SilvaIntuitive decision making is the way of the future. Intuitive decision making is direct knowing without conscious reasoning. The mind is a wonderful tool for analyzing. Our intuition is a wonderful tool for knowing. In the natural evolution of man we move from instinct to ...
Views: 1654 - Only A Step Dad - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2015 from David HarmSomething has bothered me for a long time. The use and understanding of the phrase “Real Dad.” A real dad, to me, is someone who raises you, who guides you, and sets an example for a healthy way to live with some morals attached. So many people come from blended families and two of my three ...
Views: 1654 - Truth - Yours or Mine? - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Lauren Kennedyby Lauren Kennedy - http://laurenpkennedy.wordpress.com "Knock. Knock." " Who’s there?" " Truth." " Truth Who?" " Mine or Yours?" And there in lies the dilemma. And the source of immense conflict. We like to think that truth is absolute, explicit, definite, unambiguous and ...
Views: 1653(2 votes) - Workplace Bullying and Conflict Management - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Sue WhiteConflicts arise from a variety of sources - some are avoidable, while others are not. One of the more insidious causes of conflict in the workplace is the subtle, but devastating, situation known as workplace bullying. Workplace bullying includes all types of interpersonal harassment and ...
Views: 1652(1 vote) - "GO AHEAD - GET GOOD AND ANGRY!" - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt's hard to avoid getting angry. Even those who are relatively easy going find themselves irate from time to time. At the most inopportune moments, anger can rear its ugly head and create all sorts of havoc in our lives. Consider these examples: You've been under extraordinary amounts of ...
Views: 1650 - Your Primary Relationship - by Submitted on May 10, 2013 from Tina TessinaMost of us put a lot of emphasis on our relationships: family, friends and significant others. But, did you know that the relationship you have with everyone else is based on your relationship with you? That’s right, the closer you get to other people, the more you treat them the way you treat ...
Views: 1650 - ***Building Your Conflict Resolution Skills? Consider these tips. - by Submitted on Jan 06, 2010 from Margaret MeloniFor many of us becoming comfortable with conflict is part of our continued personal development. Here are three tips for you to work with as you continue to make peace with conflict. 1) Take time to learn and understand the various conflict resolution modes. What are the conflict resolution ...
Views: 1649(1 vote) - Ten Tips on How to Argue With an Idiot - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2013 from Janet Pfeiffer"Idiots" are simply people like you and I who are struggling with unresolved personal issues ranging from low self-esteem to ego, insecurity to poor impulse control and more. While it is acceptable to regard the behavior as idiotic, it is never permissible to label the individual as such. People ...
Views: 1643(2 votes) - ROAD RAGE: A MATTER OF LIFE OR DEATH - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2017 from Janet PfeifferRecently, I've been driving into NY City to do mediations for a large clothing manufacture on Madison Ave. I used to teach classes at the Learning Annex and some of my son's doctor's were in the city as well. However, it's been awhile and as incomprehensible as it may sound, NY has become even ...
Views: 1642 - Conflict: The Dance of Disagreement - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2009 from Sally ConnollySharon and Bill fought a lot about money, children and household chores. The disagreements always began with Sharon’s request in what she thought was a friendly tone but Bill heard as a nagging tone. Bill’s response was generally a defensive one, complaining about her tone or the fact that she ...
Views: 1640 - Seeking Reconciliation – A Conflict Management Strategy! - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenTherefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. (Matthew: 5:23-25) Managing conflict sometimes means ...
Views: 1638(2 votes) - Resolving conflict with fairness - by Submitted on May 02, 2011 from Baya MebarekConflicts and disagreements are unavoidable. As long as relationships exist, conflicts and disagreements will always be part of them. As soon as you put two human beings together, you have two cultures, two backgrounds, two frame of reference, two mindset, two families of origin, two ways of ...
Views: 1637 - Staying True to Your Inner Voice - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineAlways Remain True to Yourself We each have subtle senses; intuitions, gut feelings, little voices inside our heads that guide our judgment. We do not need to elicit our intuition every time we have a decision to make. Many of our decisions are determined by conscious thought, prior ...
Views: 1635(1 vote) - Tapping: Clear the Problem – Close the Gap - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2011 from Annabel FisherWhat happens when you've cleared a long standing problem with EFT? Most usually, there is a feeling of ease, relief, excitement and even curiosity. Sometimes, it's as if a void is left in its place. It's almost as if there is a gap; something is missing now. The heavy coat. In one of ...
Views: 1635 - THE T-I-B-Bs AFFECT ON ANGER - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAlthough we often classify a person's actions as problematic, in truth a person's conduct is never the real problem. Behavior is nothing more than an outward expression of an internal issue. For example, if an individual is in a bad mood and arguing with those around them, the fighting simply ...
Views: 1633 - "THE F~B~I WAY TO WARD OFF ANGER - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferI've been teaching people about anger for nearly twenty five years. What I do is commonly referred to as anger management training. However, this implies that people must first become irate and then seek methods of how to manage it effectively, express it appropriately, and ultimately put it to ...
Views: 1631 - Response-Ability - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2013 from Tina TessinaOne of the trends I dislike in our culture is the reluctance of people to take responsibility, or to respond with care to each other. In my counseling practice, I hear a lot of self-justification, mind-reading, defensiveness, blaming and complaining; which is why relationships, friendships, ...
Views: 1629(4 votes) - "Remove The Occupation From Your Mind" ~ Interview with Alison Ramer by Pat Crosby - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2011 from Pat CrosbySocial Healing ~ "This Takes Work" ~ One Person at a Time We caught Alison Ramer enroute to Jerusalem, just after an explosion rocked the city there. She shares her hopes, dreams, and visions that give her the stamina to go back to the war zone and continue the fight for peace, justice, ...
Views: 1628 - 14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhile conducting research for today's show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes - hurt, fear, and frustration - that prompt anger in us. Let's ...
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