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- Domestic and Workplace Violence - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2010 from Peter StoneWhen are people going to get real? When society reads in the newspaper or catches on local news channels the headlines: Murder-Suicide, Domestic Abuse Homicide, or Workplace Violence, they are intrigued out of the common interest that everyone has been frustrated in a relationship at home, ...
Views: 1722(2 votes) - How to Resolve Self-conflicts in Eating Disorder Sufferers. - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2010 from Dr. Irina WebsterEating disorders are rooted in emotional struggles. These struggles are deep emotional conflicts within the sufferer, these are called self-conflicts. How the conflicts started in the first place? This process begins by fantasizing at a very early age. People fantasize a script, for ...
Views: 1718 - Is It Time To Stop Sleeping In? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2012 from Geoff LaughtonThree years ago, a young 22-year-old man my son knew was walking along a local overpass that is one of the busiest traffic corridors in the Boulder area. For some reasons that we’ll never really know, this young man – deeply loved by his family and his friends – made a decision; one that ...
Views: 1717 - Toxic People or Situation? LEAVE IT IN THE 'MYSTERY' - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2011 from Chelle ThompsonAll of us will encounter toxic individuals and circumstances in our lives at one time or another. During those experiences we need to use whatever helpful tools we can find to stay balanced and clear about "who we are." One of the methods I use to maintain perspective is to create a "healthy ...
Views: 1717(1 vote) - 10 PROLIFIC COMMUNICATE TIPS - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt's difficult for a lot of people to communicate with each other effectively. Unless you're a recluse, communication is something we all do every day. Perhaps because I'm a motivational speaker, author, and radio host, I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. ...
Views: 1716 - ANGER: FIRE OR ICE? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt doesn't take much to anger some people. Even the most innocent comments can cause some tempers to flare. Innocuous situations can be misinterpreted leading to screaming matches, cursing, or physical altercations. In an instant, violence can erupt where calm once existed and destruction of ...
Views: 1715 - Chief Phil Lane Jr ~ "The Gift of ForGIVEness" ~ by Pat Crosby - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Pat CrosbyIn this straight forward and revealing interview, Chief Phil Lane Jr shares his heartfelt journey as he learns the powerful freedom and empowerment that comes from forgiveness. In this living oral history, Phil clearly and powerful shares his trials and tribulations and victories along the ...
Views: 1715 - Anger is an Anchor: 5 Ways to Reduce Your Anger - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2015 from Anica OaksAnger can be one of the most destructive emotions of all. It can be harmful to your health, relationships and well-being. Taken to an extreme, it can cause you to do things you later regret or that have legal consequences. Fortunately, there are effective ways to manage and reduce your anger. If ...
Views: 1714 - How best to resolve a conflict - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2009 from Albert GaroliThe origin of most conflicts, whether between couples, colleagues or friends, stems from the conviction that each party feels he/she is “right.” One’s needs, values and interests thus differ from the other to the point that each party will try to persuade the other to agree with what one ...
Views: 1706(8 votes) - ***Don't Worry, Be Healthy - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2011 from Sylvia LafairCompanies could do a lot more to remove the triggers that bring patterns forward for most people. Stress is subjective. Performance evaluations, for instance, inspire a tremendous amount of dread. Although honest feedback is both healthy and helpful, evaluations are usually structured such that ...
Views: 1704(3 votes) - 3 Ways to Make Conflicts Healthy for Couples - by Submitted on Sep 12, 2012 from Jean CapangpanganWhen we don't understand what happened in the conflict, we always look for WHAT or WHO caused the conflict. While trying to figure things out, it's helpful that we trace and discuss things over. However, if people are quick to put a blame on people frantically, this is a problem. Blaming is ...
Views: 1700(1 vote) - Conversations with V! - How You Can Enjoy an Enriching, Enduring Relationship - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Val McLeodIn consideration of the myriad challenges to having an enriching and enduring relationship, it seems practically oxy moronic to use “healthy, romantic and relationship” in the same context. As a human relations expert, I am often asked, “Is it possible to have an “ideal relationship / ...
Views: 1697(1 vote) - No Reason - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2011 from Janet PfeifferNo Reason Ten years ago, my Uncle John passed away. Although in his eighty’s, it was hard on his son, Johnny. Three months later, Johnny’s only child, his beautiful fourteen year old daughter, was in a car that plunged into an icy Ohio River where she tragically drowned. Her mother, Johnny’s ...
Views: 1696(1 vote) - Conflict Exploration - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2009 from Wendy McDonnellMost people dread arguments, power struggles, and the silent treatment. Exploring and resolving differences are skills as important as the 3Rs and the skills least likely to be talked about. Avoiding pain doesn’t make it go away. Instead , when we explore conflict, we paradoxically experience ...
Views: 1694 - Ways to Develop Your Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2011 from Dawn BarclayDo you have anyone in your life who displays any of the following behaviours (on a regular basis)? Gets all defensive and angry when they are given any form of feedback? ‘Flies of the handle’ at the slightest thing? Gets really upset and displays behaviours such as crying and tantrums ...
Views: 1681(1 vote) - Are you in Denial? - by Submitted on Jul 26, 2014 from Darlene LancerWe’re all in denial. We’d barely get through the day if we worried that we or people we love could die today. Life is unpredictable, and denial helps us cope and focus on what we must in order to survive. On the other hand, denial harms us when it causes us to ignore problems for which there are ...
Views: 1678(1 vote) - Forgive Through Compassion and Acceptance - by Submitted on Dec 01, 2011 from Mark PetroffPerhaps all of us have had an intimate partner that has said or done things to us which frankly seem unforgivable! Can you remember a circumstance where you spoke hurtful or hateful words, and later recognized that you did not really mean them? The context of your life affected the content of ...
Views: 1678(1 vote) - Fall in Love with Your Job Again - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2017 from Shae HollandWhen you first start your job, you love every aspect of it. You are eager to learn, and every activity is exciting. But as time goes by, some of us start to resent our jobs. You might feel stuck, frustrated, or just plain bored. But job satisfaction doesn’t always require a career change. Here ...
Views: 1677 - Why Forgiveness? - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2012 from Amy Torres"Webster's Dictionary" defines forgiveness as "ceasing to feel resentment against someone who has offended us in some way." How do we cease to feel resentment towards someone we feel has harmed us -- especially if that person in no way acknowledges any wrong doing? And why would we want ...
Views: 1675(2 votes) - ***The Big Cover Up - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2010 from Margaret MeloniAll of a sudden Sam had that ‘I think I forgot something feeling’, the feeling that makes some of us feel just a little bit sick to our stomachs or perhaps brings on a cold sweat. Then he realized what it was, he had completely forgotten to tell his project steering committee about the change ...
Views: 1674(3 votes) - Three Beatitudes for Better Communication - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2017 from William CottringerThree Beatitudes for Better Communication By Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Bernard Shaw. I first heard this simple but profound prescription for better communication below, used as a beginning and ...
Views: 1674 - ***Collaborating Over Conflict - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2010 from Margaret MeloniMary Carol had a difficult decision to make. Her team had an important and risky system upgrade to complete. The upgrade definitely needed to occur over a weekend. The schedule was tight and many of the team members felt that the upgrade should occur over an upcoming holiday weekend. This would ...
Views: 1672(2 votes) - How to Stop People From Annoying You - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2014 from Janet PfeifferThey're like mosquitoes on a hot summer night - those irritating and annoying people. They can be found anywhere from our families or coworkers to drivers on the roadways to complete strangers we encounter while on vacation. Their quirky behaviors and annoying habits can ruin our day. Other ...
Views: 1670 - Does Your Boss Have Empathy? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2009 from Harvey DeutschendorfFiona was Corrie’s manager at a branch of a large financial institution that had branches across the U.S. Europe and Asia. They had recently come up with a new process that Fiona was hoping that the organization would adopt throughout their operations. As Corrie was instrumental in developing ...
Views: 1670(3 votes) - FIVE EASY STEPS TO INNER PEACE - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferOne of my favorite authors, the late Dr. Wayne Dyer, once stated that "There is no way to peace. Peace is the way." This seemed rather contradictory to the common belief that a peaceful state of existence is a destination we arrive at after traversing a righteous path. Wayne challenges us to ...
Views: 1668 - 5 Ways to Stop an Argument in Less Than a Minute - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2014 from Pat LaDouceurThe trouble with arguments is that they don't work. I'm not talking about a good debate, where you have some great ideas, and they clash, and you start a healthy back-and-forth that feels fun. I mean arguments – where tension starts to rise, responses start to get personal, and you go around ...
Views: 1665(1 vote) - My Words - My Beliefs - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2012 from Dr. Mona AeyshaWe speak languages that often represent our thoughts, cultural beliefs, religious beliefs, viewpoints and serve as communication needs in all over the world. Our languages contain different words for different feelings such as being happy, grieved, cheer full, cool, indifferent, warm, hot, ...
Views: 1665 - ***Formula for Creating a Strong and Healthy Marriage - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinThe healthiest and longest lasting relationships don’t just happen because a couple fell in love. The majority of strong and healthy marriages are created by using a formula composed of six vital elements. 1. Good/open/honest communication and a willingness to change. This happens with ...
Views: 1662 - ***The Face of Conflict - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniOne of the more common definitions of conflict is that it is a clash between two (or more) opposing groups or that it is a power struggle or a battle between opposing forces. When you think of conflict, you may think of it as a negative (think power struggle or battle) or you may think that ...
Views: 1662(9 votes) - STICKS AND STONES: DISARMING HURTFUL WORDS - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI used to pride myself on being sensitive. The problem was I was easily hurt by the things other people said to me. I lived in a chronic state of pain which lead to a lifetime of unhappiness and low self-esteem. But the alternative (being cold and aloof) was less appealing so I resigned myself ...
Views: 1662 - A Little Whine Can be Good for your Health - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2012 from Linda SapadinA recent article in the Wall St. Journal, “For a Nation of Whiners, Therapists Try Tough Love”, has created quite a stir in the psychological community. The author advocates that therapists should provide ‘tough love’ for their clients, firing those who can’t stop complaining. “Crybabies be ...
Views: 1660 - L~A~V~S~S METHOD: 5 KEYS TO RESOLVE CONFLICT - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2016 from Janet PfeifferKeeping our disagreements from becoming full-blown fights can be challenging. Many times, we're so passionate about our beliefs or what we want to do that any form of opposition causes us to become frustrated and angry. We may prefer that others simply agree with our position or if they don't to ...
Views: 1660 - When is Constructive Criticism Not Constructive? - by Submitted on Aug 19, 2013 from Nicole NenningerDoes this sound familiar: “Would you mind if I give you a little feedback?” Or, “Can I be honest with you?” (Here comes the criticism!). You know what’s coming and your body reacts immediately. Maybe you catch yourself holding your breath for a moment, your heart picks up a beat, or your ...
Views: 1660(1 vote) - 14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhile conducting research for today's show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes - hurt, fear, and frustration - that prompt anger in us. Let's ...
Views: 1656 - Part II - Forgiveness - The 5 Things That Keep You From Living the Life of Your Dreams - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2012 from Sandra WapniarskiPart II - Forgiveness - The 5 Things That Keep You From Living the Life of Your Dreams 2. Forgiveness Forgiveness is three fold; forgiving others, asking for forgiveness and forgiving yourself. In my lifetime there were many relationships that were shattered, but the connection to the ...
Views: 1655(1 vote) - True Forgiveness - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2011 from Pamela ArwineAt the core, everyone is God Essence, pure love and light. We are all one…individual and unique manifestations of the universal divine. We are all innately good. And, in our heart of hearts, we all desire love…to love and to be loved. Although this seems pretty incongruent with many of the ...
Views: 1655(1 vote) - How To Communicate Rationally When You're Angry - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2015 from Janet PfeifferCommunication is difficult for most of us. It is one of the most necessary interpersonal skills we need yet few have ever been formally trained in. For most, it's a learn-as-you-go process. What makes effective communicating so challenging is that we all converse on different levels and employ ...
Views: 1654 - Lane Changing Thoughts - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2010 from Vonzel SawyerI was contemplating what could I write that would reach people and help them to get them started toward the path of life that best suits them and those connected to them. Here is what came to me, “When purpose is not known, abuse is inevitable” When we meet others and purpose is sensed ...
Views: 1651(6 votes) - “I Had No Choice” Is a Lame Excuse! - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenUnderstanding your choices is essential in managing conflict. And, yes, there is always more than one choice! You just have to decide what consequence you will live with. This helps you resolve your own inner conflict. And just as important is the strategy of providing choices for others ...
Views: 1647(3 votes) - Ten Tips for Dealing With Difficult People - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from Janet PfeifferDifficult people - ya gotta love em! Or not. Whether you do or don't, it's a fact of life that they are all around us - in our families, places of employment, communities, social events, and everywhere else. For whatever reasons, we all have personal issues that cause us to behave in ways others ...
Views: 1645(3 votes) - Diffusing Family Tension - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI've spent over twenty years working with families as a spiritual life coach. Many of my clients divulge painful or embarrassing situations that their families are struggling with, believing there must be something wrong with them since other families they know appear so well adjusted. I assure ...
Views: 1645 - THE WHY'S WAY TO NEUTRALIZE ANGER - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIf I told you that there was one simple word that could prevent anger from arising would you be interested in discovering what that word is? Or in the event that anger showed up without warning, this same word could easily subdue it and restore your sense of calm? Would you utilize this ...
Views: 1644 - "Quit Taking Everyone's Emotional Temperature" - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2011 from Susan FoxleyGrowing up with nine siblings, all with big personalities, was quite a rich and deep experience. My role in such a large Irish Catholic family was “the peacemaker”. With everyone close in age there were always arguments over who got the prize at the bottom of the cereal box, or fighting over ...
Views: 1642(2 votes) - The Courage to Confront - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2009 from James KrehbielOne of the most significant underlying assumptions that many people internalize is, “I must avoid conflict at all costs; if I let others know what I think and feel, I might get disappointed and hurt.” However, “sweeping things under the rug” tends to eventually magnify unresolved interactions ...
Views: 1641 - Harmony Through Conflict - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Trish LayWhen I was three years old, my adoptive mother was holding me as we stood in line at the grocery store. A gentleman in front of us turned and said what a pretty little girl I was…I then replied with, “no I’m not…I’m adopted.” Being adopted weighed on my shoulders for decades. Rejection and ...
Views: 1636 - ***New Ideas - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2010 from Margaret Meloni“There is no squabbling so violent as that between people who accepted an idea yesterday and those who will accept the same idea tomorrow… “ CHRISTOPHER MORLEY Wow now isn’t that the truth? Here is another excellent opportunity to sharpen your conflict resolution skills. Some of you ...
Views: 1635(2 votes) - THE 15 MINUTE CONFLICT RESOLUTION SOLUTION - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI abhor arguing. It's a waste of precious time and energy and robs me of my serenity. Conflict, however, is horse of another color. Conflict occurs daily in each of our lives. It simply means that there is a disagreement, a difference of opinion. My husband and I engage in disputes on a regular ...
Views: 1635 - The BLAME Game - by Submitted on Nov 16, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhen something goes wrong in your life, who do you blame? “I’m in so much debt because the economy is bad and everything is so expensive. It’s not my fault” “My mother always criticized me when I was a child. That’s why I suffer from low self esteem and make so many bad choices.” Sadly, ...
Views: 1635 - ***The Downfall of Fall - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAs summer ends, we see the light changing and the days becoming shorter and shorter. That fall chill in the air seems to come out of nowhere, and we often begin to sense sadness and maybe even depression, prompting us to think, what’s that all about? Though fall is beautiful with the leaves ...
Views: 1633 - ***Before, During, and After: How to Declare a Truce at the Holiday Dinner Table - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinWith the holidays fast approaching, our emotions seem to jump all over the place. We’re excited, anxious, stressed, because there’s so much to plan, and we want the holidays to be perfect. Yet, the thought of the holiday dinner quickly reminds us of past events that have been anything but ...
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