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- The Victim Tyrant Cycle - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2016 from Julie Roberts, Ph.D.The Victim Tyrant Cycle By Julie Roberts, Ph.D. This paper is about adults and not children. Children don’t have a choice when they are victims (they can’t leave their situation and if they do speak, often they aren’t heard). Adults have choice when they can see beyond the pattern that keeps ...
Views: 2221(1 vote) - Tongue Twisters: When Others Manipulate Your Words - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2015 from Janet PfeifferEffectively communicating with others can present enough challenges without the added issue of one who twists and distorts your words. Below is a transcript of a recent conversation I had with someone (who refers to himself as a member of the black race) on facebook. He posted the controversial ...
Views: 2216 - Why Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsThere are many areas in life where it can be noticed that men and women respond differently to a number of situations, recent research with brain imaging has shown that each gender responds differently to stress. The main difference is that stress caused changes in men's rights prefrontal ...
Views: 2216(1 vote) - Assertive Anger: Tough With a Twist - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Janet PfeifferSixteen years ago, I moved to a quiet dead-end street. Imagine my dismay when I discovered that I lived near a teenage heavy metal band! As day turned to evening, my silent haven was interrupted by the sound of innocent drums and guitars being tortured! . I was angry. I phoned the police ...
Views: 2205(1 vote) - When to Be Aggressive - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2010 from Margaret MeloniIs an aggressive communication style always bad? Sometimes it appears that much of the information about aggressive styles or dominant personalities is presented using fairly negative words. Or is it that I interpret these words as negative? Here is a list, what do you ...
Views: 2195 - Drug Alcohol Intervention - by Submitted on Nov 17, 2010 from Robert And Shelley JakobsenTreatment works. However, getting the individual to treatment is easier said than done. The exact nature of their problem may not be readily identifiable and those who could help are too close to the problem to be helpful. Family members, corporate colleagues and most clergy are not in the ...
Views: 2187(1 vote) - Forgiveness - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2013 from Don Neviaser,Practicing forgiveness is a two tiered path to inner peace that can diminish or eliminate emotional drains that no longer have a place in your life. One level lies in the ability to completely forgive others, which allows you to move beyond lingering negative emotions that may still be clouding ...
Views: 2182 - Gentleness And Humility - by Submitted on Oct 27, 2009 from Jack EliasGentleness and Humility are important doorways to Peace and to the support of Peace. Gentleness must be conveyed in every area of life to antidote the violence of judgement with others and within. It arises from Humility, a remembrance of the vastness of life’s mysterious context and ...
Views: 2168 - Expat Retirement Works Best When Cultural Differences Understood and Appreciated - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2012 from Susan KlopferTo survive as a stranger in a strange land – a visitor in a new land – requires education and enough personal depth to avoid unfair prejudices that result from ethnocentrism. AFTER WORKING nearly eight months months to get a special “pensionada” visa, scouting out the correct pet carriers to ...
Views: 2165 - Ouch! Best Responses to a Difficult Person - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2016 from Marcia Naomi BergerIs there a difficult person in your life? ll of us are likely to know someone who "pushes our buttons." The person could be almost anyone -- a spouse, in-law, other relative, friend, coworker, boss--or even (gasp!) our self! Which reminds me of what Rabbi Joseph Richards said: "People are ...
Views: 2160 - Why We Argue - by Submitted on Jun 06, 2012 from Susan Schwartz, Ph.D.In the midst of an argument with your partner there is no time to step back and ponder why this is happening, or to evaluate what about this disagreement is upsetting you so much. You can rely on the fact that when any of us are reactive in a variety of ways it shows we have some old issues, ...
Views: 2151(1 vote) - One Key Eliminates Fighting Forever - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2013 from Janet PfeifferConflict and fighting are not synonymous. Although they very often go hand-in-hand, disagreements need not end up as arguments, fights, or physical altercations. A conflict is simply two forces in opposition: a husband and wife disagree on where to spend their vacation; you support the ...
Views: 2146(2 votes) - The 15 Minute Conflict Resolution Solution - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI abhor arguing. It's a waste of precious time and energy and robs me of my serenity. Conflict, however, is horse of another color. Conflict occurs daily in each of our lives. It simply means that there is a disagreement, a difference of opinion. My husband and I engage in disputes on a regular ...
Views: 2134 - 10 QUICK TIPS TO RESOLVE FAMILY FEUDS - by Submitted on Sep 13, 2017 from Janet PfeifferFamilies can be our greatest source of joy as well as a never ending cause of stress. Comprised of a diverse blend of personalities, families are a mixture of quirky behaviors, opposing viewpoints, various needs, beliefs, and values, along with opposing methods of how members perform certain ...
Views: 2124(1 vote) - Don't Avoid Conflict And Confrontation When You Work With Your Spouse - by Submitted on Mar 07, 2008 from Kathy Marshack"I just let him handle things his way." "We're not very good at resolving problems, so I let it go." "I just hate confrontation!" Listening, talking, communicating, resolving problems, making joint decisions... these are requirements for all business owners, not just entrepreneurial couples. ...
Views: 2122 - It's OK to Change Your Mind - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2011 from Margaret MeloniJarrod listened to what the team had to say and then he reached a decision. He was very comfortable making decisions and most of his decisions played out well for him and for his team. His decision making style typically involved soliciting input from his most trusted team members and then using ...
Views: 2119 - Fatal Mistakes in Conflict Resolution - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2014 from Janet PfeifferFew people I know like to the process of resolving disagreements. In fact, when they hear "conflict" they automatically equate it with fighting. Yet one is not comparable to the other. Conflict is simply two forces in opposition. Fighting is defined with such words as "violent, battle, combat, ...
Views: 2103(1 vote) - "Did You Hear About...? A Look at Rumors and Gossip" - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI abhor rumors and gossip. They're petty, destructive, and hateful. Yet, truth-be-told, I have engaged in gossip from time-to-time. I'm not proud of it, just honest. I could try to justify it by saying that I've only done so out of concern for others. Sometimes the sharing of information about ...
Views: 2102 - A Formula for Relieving Relationship Stress - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2009 from Rita Bigel-CasherRelationships, which are the spice of life, often create feelings of inadequacy and pain which interfere with the sense of well-being that we all strive for. When faced with interpersonal conflict, we tend to either blame ourselves or the other. There is a third way. Accept the reality ...
Views: 2099 - Terrible Twos - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2011 from R. Paul ElliottThe terrible twos are, to say the least, an extremely stressful time for the parents of one of these young people whose actions are totally unpredictable from moment to moment. Those of us who live in constant fear of our trips away from home, who hasn't tried to comfort a screaming toddler at ...
Views: 2091 - Choose Your Advocates Wisely: Getting the Best for Your Child - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2009 from Jennifer KruminsImagine...after months of waiting and anticipation the moment has finally arrived! Your beautiful baby enters the world and life is the fullest it has ever been! As the nurse gently places your newborn in your arms she slips a book into your hands. “This is your child’s manual,” she explains, ...
Views: 2089(1 vote) - WHAT TO DO WHEN CONFLICT RESOLUTION FAILS - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWouldn't life be wonderful if every time we disagreed with someone we could find a perfect solution that would satisfy each party and put the issue to rest once and for all? So often when a conflict arises, we spend an enormous amount of time and energy debating it, trying to prove our position, ...
Views: 2077 - Peace Equals Unity - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2012 from Womens Recreation, Inc.Peace is such a wonderful word. It brings about change, a change in mindset, a change in behavior and a real humbling sensation within. When you say peace, it means drop all the weapons both physically and verbally. Peace makes you go deep within yourself and you realize, I don’t want all ...
Views: 2076 - ***A Year Without Arguments? 3 Proven Steps to Stop Fighting and Start Healing - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2012 from Sharon RivkinHave you ever considered a year without arguments? In these times of economic chaos, it is more important than ever to minimize your fighting and disagreements, and create a more harmonious relationship with your spouse and family. Couples simply cannot afford to divorce as easily during a ...
Views: 2074 - Taking the Power Out: when you think what you have to say may be taken the wrong way - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2010 from James HendrixHave you ever tried to tell someone something that you knew they would be hurt by or take the wrong way? Of course you have, and so have I. Being misunderstood is a common pariah. We all hate it and yet we often can’t finish a sentence without the other person: falling apart, or jumping in, ...
Views: 2070(4 votes) - Varieties of Psychotherapy And Their Applications - by Submitted on Jul 12, 2011 from Sawas DeeIn today’s world there are many and different types of psychotherapy, each one varying in its approach to patients and it’s common and founding hypothesis and theories. And even though there is still no complete understanding of how the human brain functions, most of the therapeutic approaches ...
Views: 2070(1 vote) - Men are from Earth and so are Women - by Submitted on Apr 10, 2012 from Bob LivingstoneThere has been a lot written about how men and women are fundamentally different (Men are from Mars Women are from Venus as an example). There is not much discussed about how the sexes are similar. While several social movements in America have created more equality between the sexes, societal ...
Views: 2059 - When Family and Friends Hate Your Significant Other - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2009 from Menno SpijkstraWhen friends and loved hate your significant other, it can be a major disappointment. There’s no doubt that this can be a painful issue, since conflicts are always waiting to happen. The situation can make you feel as if the people who matters most in your life are disrespecting you by ...
Views: 2059 - About Child Protective Services - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2012 from C BowsterChild Protective and Preventive Services are offered to families by the Department of Social Services which is mandated by law to protect children from abuse or neglect within their families, in foster care, or by persons responsible for the child's welfare as defined by statute. Services are ...
Views: 2054(4 votes) - The Relationship Advice Approach to Deal with Infidelity - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2011 from Dr. Joseph AbrahamInfidelity is one of the most heart-wrenching problems a marriage can face because it shakes the base of trust on which relationships are built. However, it is not inevitable that all couples divorce after such an event. It is natural that couples have a hard time to re-connect and re-build ...
Views: 2053 - The Impact of Conflict Management Training on Customer Service Delivery - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2009 from Rosanne DausilioThe Impact of Conflict Management Training on Customer Service Delivery. This was the title of my case study in partial fulfillment of my doctoral degree which I completed in 1996. More on this in a moment. Here it is 13 years later and… In a recent survey training participants were asked ...
Views: 2050(2 votes) - Problem Interactions in the Workplace - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2015 from Janet PfeifferMost of us work for a living. On or off the job we are bound to encounter a wide range of, shall I say, challenging personalities? Bullies, intimidators, hypocrites, backstabbers, underminers, instigators, complainers, gossips, withholders, and know-it-alls just to name a few. Their presence can ...
Views: 2049 - LAUGH AWAY ANGER - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2017 from Janet PfeifferPeople take life far too seriously. There are important issues in our world such as child abuse, war, poverty, starvation, disease, etc. These are all matters critical for the well-being of humanity. Each one needs to be addressed and resolved quickly in order to protect mankind and eliminate ...
Views: 2041 - Precautions after Cosmetic surgery - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2012 from Alexis NormanHumans have always been concerned about the beauty throughout the history of civilization. The first ever plastic surgery was reported around 1500 B.C. in India. The ancient surgeon Sushruta has made significant contributions to the field of plastic surgery. He has described various techniques ...
Views: 2038 - MIND BOGGLING - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Chidi Asika-EnahoroThe beauty of the mind can also be its downfall. One cannot overstate the significant importance of the human mind. Anyone can harbor anger and animosity at someone next to him or her and not be obvious about it. The mind is one instrument of amazing capacities that the human have control over, ...
Views: 2026(3 votes) - Six Steps to Rebuilding a Broken Trust - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2015 from Janet PfeifferHave you ever disappointed someone or broken a promise? Was the incident serious enough to ultimately compromise the trust between you? We all have been untrustworthy at some point. That doesn't mean that we're bad or selfish. Sometimes, even under the best of circumstances, we let people down. ...
Views: 1997 - ***3 Ways Your EQ Resolves Conflict - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2010 from Margaret MeloniYour Emotional Intelligence can help make or break you. After all your Emotional Intelligence or EQ is your ability to handle yourself and others. It is all about your ability to get along with others and build relationships. In today’s world it is not enough to be good at the technical aspects ...
Views: 1988(2 votes) - Difficult People: 10 Tips to Save Your Sanity - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2010 from Scott & Stephen PetulloYou’ve experienced it. Perhaps with a coworker, a neighbor, or even a relative. You try to get along with the bully to keep the peace, but they always manage to get under your skin and you react, sometimes not so nicely. You avoid them as much as possible. But for those times when you have no ...
Views: 1981 - Depression: Acupuncture & Chinese Medicine - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2010 from Ben Arnold"Depression is Rage Turned Inward" This expression best illustrates Depression in its most common form. For while you may feel tired and depressed, your energy is all but gone. What has happened, through time, is you have learned to redirect your energy poorly within the body. That is to ...
Views: 1967(4 votes) - Happy Family at Holidays? Not So Fast - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from Mary Jane Hurley BrantFor many people, family gatherings during the Happy Holidays aren't so happy. While most of us enjoy getting together at holidays, mixed feelings of love, anxiety and confusion often collide. But why in the world would family holidays cause consternation or anxious feelings? Why would family ...
Views: 1966(5 votes) - ***Stop the Shoulding! - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2010 from Margaret MeloniThe women next to me in line said to her friend, "I am so tired of people telling me what I should do. I just want to yell, STOP SHOULDING ON ME!" I could not help but smile a bit. Not at her annoyance and frustration, but at the phrase, 'stop shoulding on me.' I thought, "What a great ...
Views: 1963(5 votes) - Reminiscence - Impacting Brain Fitness, Lifelong Learning, Healthy Aging, and Wellness - by Submitted on Apr 26, 2010 from Beth SandersFor thousands of years, people from diverse cultures around the world have passed on their traditions, beliefs, and advice through the telling of stories. These stories have explained the following: • Lessons of life • How to survive in difficult circumstances • Why things have happened ...
Views: 1962 - ASSUME, ACCUSE, ASK - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt some point in almost every person's life, we have made false assumptions about another or blamed an innocent party for something they were not responsible for. Needless to say, both of these behaviors can lead to hurt feelings, people being offended and outraged or an angry defensive response ...
Views: 1954(1 vote) - The Art of Dealoing with Difficult Children and Becoming Effective Parents - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from Rita Bigel-CasherHaving three children, three step-children, seven grandchildren, and the added experience of nearly thirty years as a Family Therapist and Coach for better living, I can tell you that I know a little bit about parenting. Are there difficult children? You bet! However, in the ...
Views: 1954 - HOW TO PREVENT PEOPLE FROM PUSHING YOUR BUTTONS - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWe've all blamed others for how we feel at times. "You really make me angry!" "You hurt my feelings!" "You totally embarrassed me!" Most people don't realize that by allowing others to push our buttons and determine how we feel, we actually give away our personal power. Others decide for us ...
Views: 1950 - Perceptions And Leadership - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2008 from Chidi Asika-EnahoroPerception is everything because as we perceive, so it becomes. Perception is the single most important factor in starting or resolving conflicts. The devious axis of the world that have mastered the art of divisiveness, utilize this aspect of human nature to divide and conquer. Although it is ...
Views: 1948 - Managing Their Reactions: An Aiki Approach - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2008 from Judy RingerWhat happens if you're in a conversation or a conflict and the other person is out of control? How do you manage their strong emotional energy, especially when it's forcefully directed at you? It takes courage to engage in conflict conversations, especially if prior experience produced outcomes ...
Views: 1947 - How to practice the *Stress Release Exercise* - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2010 from BeiYin *The People Whisperer*The serious aspect of a stress condition is, that a person who has stress, mostly is not aware of it, being so much used to it. Often trying to compensate tension with smoking, drinking, excessive eating, biting nails or many other ways. The exercise offered here releases stress, so that one ...
Views: 1920(2 votes) - Family Therapy In The Background Of Other Therapies - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2011 from Sawas DeeToday’s psychotherapeutic developments have outgrown the past situation of psychology and psychotherapy. Where in the past, only few people would go and try to solve their problems through therapy, nowadays such people are more in numbers. That doesn’t mean that more people are experiencing ...
Views: 1917(1 vote) - How Dare You Judge Me! - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI'm reasonably confident in saying that there's not a person on this planet who has not felt unfairly judged at some point. While we may feel justified in imposing verdicts on one another, when we are on the receiving end the feeling can be quite hurtful. It is not uncommon to react with anger, ...
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