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Don't let anyone tell you different: The labels we apply to people have a direct impact on the way we interact with them, and the way we interact with them determines how they react to us and what results we get with them.
When people label others as ‘toxic,’ they may disempower themselves and ... Views: 2712
Consider the following scenario: you and your neighbor engage in a political discussion. After a few moments, it becomes apparent that the two of you have serious disagreements about the upcoming presidential elections. Being equally as passionate about your positions, the debate quickly becomes ... Views: 2687
Conflict happens when two opposing parties have different views, interests, or goals, which seem incompatible with one another. Conflict usually occurs at the height of a stressful situation when everything seems to bubble over.
Typically, it's not just related to the one event that triggered ... Views: 2619
Conflict is part and parcel of life and conflicts do occur in every organization or between and among organizations. To effectively and constructively deal with conflicts people need to understand the dynamics of conflicts and the strategies for effectively dealing with them. An understanding of ... Views: 2582
What if I'll tell you, that the Win-Win approach - the one that we all (including myself) - were raised upon, does not work out in the field!
Most of the times I present this idea to a group of people, I get strange looks. It doesn't stop to surprise me, how deep the Win-Win perception is ... Views: 2581
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10 Smart Moves for Dumb Fights - by Rhonda Audia, LISW (founder of The Guru For Two Counseling Center in Cincinnati, Ohio.)
Tell me about your last "dumb fight."
You have got to know, first, that you are not alone. Most couples that have loving relationships get bogged down with repeated, energy draining, “dumb fights.”
Usually the conflict is over silly things like rinsing out coffee cups and closing ... Views: 2556
By Linney Elder
The subject of betrayal seems to pop up all around me with people in various relationships. I got to thinking about the nature of betrayal. What is it really? In fact, is it real at all? What is real?
I think it’s a choice of which doors to open and a choice of which doors ... Views: 2541
Each one of my children threw one temper tantrum in their lives. As with all toddlers, overwhelming frustration can lead to a meltdown of epic proportions. I was not the kind of mother who would wait patiently until them calmed down. Not me! I walked right up to them, grabbed their shoulders, ... Views: 2520
In order to make a good decision, adults employ all the logic at their disposal. However, if you are not an Adult Personality Type, or if you are married to an Individual representing another personality type, conflicts occur and logic may not be the primary consideration for deciding what to ... Views: 2519
The idea of creating a community or a group of unified like minded folks is a great idea, but what happens when there is conflict? As long as there are individuals with different worldviews, there will be conflict. Lack of conflict resolution techniques has been the undoing of many communities ... Views: 2517
Is it possible for something good to come out of the economic downturn? Can a relationship, even one that may be experiencing its own hard times, come out better for surviving the hard times? Here are some ways to use the recession to your benefit:
1. Back to Basics. View this as an ...Is ... Views: 2503
With the holidays around the corner, and before the stress and panic really hit, make this a time to look at your relationship and take inventory to see what’s working and what isn’t. Begin to NURTURE your relationship NOW, in new and more effective ways, so that the holidays can ... Views: 2496
Note to Readers: Friendships cause much stress and anxiety for many tweens and teens. I found the middle school years to be particularly challenging for girls. Emotional bullying is everywhere and the lines of friendship are blurred by an effort to be popular or just plain old accepted! I love ... Views: 2488
We all seem to think that we need to find our perfect mate or soul mate. But does a perfect mate even exist and, if so, does this mean that the only way to be happy is to find this perfect soul mate? What if you don’t? What if you spend your entire life looking, only to end up alone in your ... Views: 2485
Jesus got angry. He was troubled by the many injustices he encountered while on Earth. At times, he expressed his dismay to those around Him. Anger, as with all emotions, has a place and purpose. But how does one know if there is too much anger in their lives? Here are ten warning signs to ... Views: 2484
One of the greatest desires married couples have is to stay together forever and have a happy, healthy relationship. But what about past hurts that you can’t let go of? Are they creating more pain than happiness in your relationship?
When you get hurt by your partner, you lose trust and ... Views: 2473
"What turned in on will turn it off" – since the epistemic trap was created by self, it's in one's hands to unlock oneself. In other words, the door can only be opened from the inside.
This point lays in the foundation of Phenomenology.
Let's explain the term using an example: Think of a dog, ... Views: 2469
Life doesn't always turn out the way we'd like. When situations take an unfavorable turn, we become upset, frustrated, or angry. When others don't agree with us, live their life the way we think they should, or act in a manner we find disturbing, anger is a typical response. With the exception a ... Views: 2462
For most of us, we want the holidays to be fun and exciting. But more often than not, the holiday season evokes tension and stress. By spending more money than our budgets allow, or going overboard by eating the wrong foods, or taking on too many activities…these external stressors are only a ... Views: 2452
They all complained about the daily gossip that ran rampant among them. Every one participated in it yet ironically no one could understand why they would be targeted. In the fifteen years I worked at the battered women's shelter, both staff and residents criticize those who engaged in rumors ... Views: 2446
“Pick battles big enough to matter, small enough to win. “
Jonathan Kozol: On Being a Teacher, 1981
Truthfully I do not know if I completely agree with the above quote,
I bring it to you anyway because part of me thinks, ‘well this makes sense, I want to pick battles I can win’; but part ... Views: 2404
When is it time to say, “My relationship is in trouble, and we need help”? How do you know when that time is?
When couples wait too long to ask for help, the relationship may be beyond repair. The sooner help is sought, the better chance there is of recovering, saving, and actually ... Views: 2394
Anger is a high energy emotion. When you can focus the energy in your anger towards an action that leads to a constructive outcome, you are turning your anger into power. Speaking up rather than acting out or holding back leads to healthier bodies and relationships that work.
Two divorces ... Views: 2393
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. ~Albert Einstein
Many of us have drama cycles that recur in our lives. It might be a situation we often find ourselves in that causes a great amount of stress or pain. It might be a particular type of person ... Views: 2384
She's strikingly beautiful: tall, large oval-shaped eyes, full lips, dark flowing hair. Her exotic look could land her on the cover of any fashion magazine. Her personality perfectly suits her ample frame. She's outgoing and bubbly, intense and opinionated and I've enjoyed the two years she's ... Views: 2374
How do most people feel when their boss walks in the door? There is a general belief that bosses and employees are often at odds with each other. This idea is often showcased in the media, entertainment and people’s social media statuses. But is this true? Do many employees find their bosses ... Views: 2372
One of the most popular ways to make money online work at home data entry jobs to become. Quickly process large amounts of data need to organizations worldwide. Data entry workers, a smooth and successful operation of information to ensure. You see a house mother or father, some gold ... Views: 2363
My Husband Wont Talk To Me After A Fight: After An Argument Comes Silent Treatment
While conflict in marriage is inevitable, fighting is optional.
The secret is in how you approach and handle the conflict. It can make the difference between a really great relationship and a breakup looking ... Views: 2349
3 Steps to Resolving Your Fights and Loving Each Other Again
Months before they married, Kyle told Hilary that he wanted to dance with her at their wedding. Hilary agreed, and they signed up for dancing lessons. But when the wedding day arrived, the train on Hilary’s dress made it too ... Views: 2342
One of my clients complained that her boyfriend had an annoying habit of constantly chewing gum. It drove her crazy! "Aside from that, he's perfect." she exclaimed. "But how do I get him to stop? He knows it bugs me yet he continues to do it. He says he's not doing anything wrong and then ... Views: 2332
Recently we have discussed steps to take to when you decide to step in and step up to conflict resolution. In ‘You Decide to Resolve a Conflict’ Part I and Part II one of the underlying assumptions was that you had time to plan your actions and the steps you would take to resolve the ... Views: 2316
This statement…”Life is never what you think it is” is the perfect statement you can say when life doesn’t turn out to be what you thought it was going to be? Do you ever know what life is going to be? Yes and No!
When you stay in your head, you can calculate, add two and two together, ... Views: 2310
It's only natural that we want to be "right" or feel that we are handling every situation to our best ability. But, the truth remains that it is not always the case. This becomes especially evident when we deal with people that are considered difficult, verbally aggressive, or just negative. ... Views: 2305
I've been presenting seminars on healing anger for twenty years and it never ceases to amaze me how much misinformation is circulating about one of life's most powerful emotion. I've decided it is time to debunk some of the most common myths. So without further ado, let me begin with...
Myth ... Views: 2299
They're like mosquitoes on a hot summer night - those irritating and annoying people. They can be found anywhere from our families or coworkers to drivers on the roadways to complete strangers we encounter while on vacation. Their quirky behaviors and annoying habits can ruin our day. Other ... Views: 2289
Crises continue to be in our newspaper headlines and the lead stories on radio and television broadcasts. And crises continue to affect businesses in many forms and continue to occur without notice. But what’s happening where we work in response to this continuing trend of crises? Are ... Views: 2277
According to statistics, 45 or 55 percent of married women and 50 to 60 percent of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship. An affair is one of the most difficult challenges a couple can face, and nothing destroys a marriage faster than marital ... Views: 2261
In the former article: Flaws of Win-Win - part I, I’ve tried to show why the Win-Win model that advocates collaboration is not necessarily an Archimedean point in initiating collaboration.
Hopefully I’ve left you with the question “o.k. so what do you offer instead?”
The model I am suggesting ... Views: 2258
There are so many things that happen on a daily basis to add to your stress level. A new project just landed on your desk, the school called, new bills in the mail, and you are waiting for that important phone call or letter.
This is the hardest thing to do, just wait. Sure, you can occupy ... Views: 2250
I think that about 50% of all clients requests I have received during last years are about different relationship issues. After doing some initial energetic analysis in most cases there are negative energies between involved people.
These negative energies can come from many sources. The ... Views: 2243
An affair is one of the most difficult challenges a couple can face. It is a powerful catalyst that can either end the relationship or take it to a greater level of intimacy. An extreme symptom of a relationship that has been in trouble for some time, affairs do not happen out of the blue. ... Views: 2241
Bad as it is, conflict is a fixed part of society.
It does not only destroy, but builds and improves human relationships. Conflicts rooted from simple and complex causes. They are either caused by misinformation or differences in values and interests or structural flaws or a mix of the ... Views: 2240
In college, one of my philosophy professors would frequently have the class debate a hot topic. He'd randomly divide the class in half and have each side present their best argument in support of their assigned position. Regardless of how you felt personally, you were expected to gather as many ... Views: 2238
1. Be proactive instead of reactive.
One morning when I got out of bed and turned toward the bathroom, I cut a tad too close to the bed. My toe caught the leg of the footboard. !#%*^%$#*!. Once the hollering and jumping around was over, I had a choice to make. I could feel very sorry ... Views: 2238
Did you blink? Here it is again, another holiday season! Do you love this time of year or do you dread it? Perhaps your feelings are a bit mixed. Your holiday experience can be really upsetting, tiring and stressful OR your holiday season can truly be one of peace and joy. The choice is up to ... Views: 2237
Sometimes conflict cannot be avoided and that is not a bad thing. When you and your team or you and a colleague resolve a conflict together, you build a better working relationship. When I say to you, ‘Don’t give in without a fight’; I don’t mean go have an ugly nasty altercation. I mean don’t ... Views: 2233
"One of my coworkers is so annoying! She's always making personal calls when she's supposed to be working. Then when she can't finish her work she asks me for help!"
Recently, one of my clients (a mechanic) complained about missing tools. "We are all responsible for our own tools. I keep mine ... Views: 2233
“For your Marriage ………………………….”
Dr. Pradnya Ajinkya
MS Counselling and Psychotherapy, PhD, PG Journalism
I am a Mumbai-based psychological counsellor and family therapist. I have seen fair share of dysfunctional marriages. Here, I recount the case of Subeesh and ... Views: 2233
Anger is a completely normal and healthful emotion. It helps us focus our awareness on situations that require our attention, and helps us rouse the energy needed to protect ourselves from harm. But when anger is frozen into cynical hostility or resentment, it robs us of our natural capacity to ... Views: 2233
Every human being needs to get around satisfactory human relations, both in the family and other areas. Your emotional well-being will depend largely on the capacity you have to achieve this objective. In 328 BC, Aristotle said humans are social animals. Nowadays, more and more evidence is ... Views: 2231