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- Anger: The Bigger Picture - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2016 from Janet PfeifferHave you ever found yourself in a situation that was somewhat confusing, uncomfortable or perhaps even dangerous? Sometimes it's hard to understand why things happen or why we must participate in particular activities. We don't often understand why certain people enter our lives or why they ...
Views: 1312 - More Advantageous Than Anger - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2016 from Janet PfeifferAnger is a very powerful emotion which many conclude is a bad feeling. Whether one chooses to use it in a constructive manner or in a hostile way, it carries a lot of punch (figuratively speaking, of course). As you become angry your body's muscles tense up. Inside your brain, neurotransmitter ...
Views: 1311 - The "OK" Solution to Criticism - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWe live in a harsh and judgmental world where people are quick to point out the faults and imperfections of others yet seem oblivious to their own. Some misguided souls believe they have a moral obligation and civil duty to help you to be a better person by telling you what a failure you really ...
Views: 1310 - Your Best Defense Against Anger - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2016 from Janet PfeifferCheck out Webster's dictionary. Anger is defined as "a feeling of discomfort or displeasure brought about by feelings of helplessness and powerlessness." My personal definition of a victim is one who views themselves as having no power or authority. Many times, a victim will claim that in a ...
Views: 1307 - End Conflict Now - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2009 from Joan CurtisHow many times do we find ourselves in awkward, uncomfortable situations? How many times have you wished you could talk your way out of those little messes or better still, disappear? Ever wonder how confident communicators do it? Want to learn ways to manage conflict and still keep your ...
Views: 1299 - Mediation With a Twist - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWe all have the opportunity to be mediators at various times in our lives. Two family members are arguing and cannot come to a resolution about the issue in dispute. We intervene and lend a helping hand. Perhaps an objective third part can offer some insights or suggestions that have alluded ...
Views: 1299 - You're Right (or Not) to Be Angry - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2015 from Janet PfeifferDon't you hate it when someone tells you not to be angry? People seem to think that they know best how we should or shouldn't feel. I was on the phone recently with a friend who needed to tell me something sensitive and prefaced it with "Now don't get mad at me for telling you this." So I ...
Views: 1299 - Global Change Could End The War - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2012 from Alvin ( AJ ) GentryWhat would it take to end war? That was a question I was asked yesterday by a close friend. I think it was intended to be politically inclined, but my answer stunned the listeners. Simply lay down the guns and go home to your families. War and other imbalances in the human living ...
Views: 1297 - The Advantage Of Marriage Counseling - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2011 from Sherwin Ree MirasThere are a lot of marriages that fails because they fall out of love; but still stay together for their children. Divorce for many couples is the solution to their marital problems beause they can no longer bare the arguments. Marriage counselors are there to help couples when it comes to ...
Views: 1297 - The power of intention - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Scott Q MarcusBeing a news junkie, I’m glued to the cable networks. Wedged between the peccadilloes of badly behaving starlets and inappropriately tweeted photos, the anchor brings in two political panelists to discuss the upcoming election (Already? Really? Oy!) To feign “balance” he has a GOP strategist and ...
Views: 1296(1 vote) - A War of Words - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from Hugh DeBurghYou Are Wrong! I was distracted today by a vigorous “debate” that I stumbled upon on Amazon.com. I never realized just how active the discussion groups at Amazon are and regarding much more than books! One such subject was the health care battle that is currently raging in Washington. Now I ...
Views: 1295(1 vote) - When All Else Fails - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2010 from Becky Yancey WaggamanHave you felt as though you have tried everything? That nothing works? You have searched for the answers from everyone you can think of and even though they all have suggested something different, you have tried it all. While doing what others suggest may be helpful, there are more questions ...
Views: 1291 - Overcoming Workplace Bullying With Support From Others - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2010 from Menno SpijkstraHave you ever tried reaching out for your workmates or colleagues and close friends to tell them regarding your situation or experience with being bullied at the workplace, but they were not there for you? And Why Does This Takes Place? There are top 3 reasons why sympathy and support might not ...
Views: 1290(1 vote) - Relationship 202 - by Submitted on May 22, 2011 from Edith SiegRelationship 202 There are a million books out there on relationships – every conceivable kind of relationship. Many were probably written by authors about what they think should work. Some books are written by professionals based on the stories from their clients. Fewer still, like Dr John ...
Views: 1290 - Navigating You and Me with Love and Compassion: Can Being Wrong Be Alright? - by Submitted on May 31, 2012 from Ragini MichaelsEveryday Dilemma: Should I point out my thinking and doing is right, even though you’re telling me I’m wrong? Or, should I take the high road, avoid conflict, and let you believe I’m wrong and you’re right? ‘You’re wrong!’ Those words were a red flag to my bull. I love being right; and ...
Views: 1288 - Short Sale Success Secrets With Foreclosures - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2008 from DIYA soodIf you're active in real estate investing, you may already realize one of the biggest issues real estate investors face: Finding Great Deals. Foreclosures at a 52-year High With foreclosures at a 52-year high, there are thousands of deals available on the market, if you know where to find ...
Views: 1283 - Telling The Truth: A Human Deficiency? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2011 from Sarah RuizWhy is it that our human race has such a difficult time telling the truth? The politician scandals mount each day as our own leaders think the best way to get through something is to lie about it. Almost always, especially with today’s technology and media resources the ones who lie get caught ...
Views: 1283(1 vote) - Forgiveness: Clearing the Path to Full consciousness - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2011 from Heather YatesForgiveness is a topic that is spoken about often, but very difficult to truly understand. I recently have encountered a situation where someone I love has been treating me differently, treating me without respect and with a very cold shoulder. I believe I understand where a lot of it is ...
Views: 1282 - The Pause - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2008 from Judy Ringer"In between stimulus and response, there is a pause, and in that pause we have the opportunity to make a different choice." ~ Victor Frankl Reading a blog post recently by my friend and colleague, Judy Warner, I was inspired. Although I teach aikido techniques like the practice of centering ...
Views: 1281 - Even Counselors have to Survive Persons with Narcissistic Personality Disorder - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2015 from Gary DirenfeldI read an interesting few lines in an article by William E. Krill, Jr. L.P.C. The article is entitled, The Child Victim of a Narcissistic Personality Disordered Parent. Although he is writing about the experience of children and the non NPD parent, he also writes about counselors working with ...
Views: 1277 - Love In Recession Times - Part 4 - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2010 from Daniela RoherWhat happens to couples when they are forced by external circumstances to live together? How does this situation affect each partner and their children, if couples have children? I suggest that, rather than fighting their situation – which does not solve the problem anyway – couples should face ...
Views: 1275 - Is Anger at “X” ruining your life? - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from Sheryl StantonWe had a family gathering last week that one of my sons refused to attend. One of his brothers had said and done something to him a couple of months earlier that was very hurtful and he refused to come to any activity if his brother was going to be there. What his brother did and said was ...
Views: 1273 - UFO Method to Eliminate Arguing - by Submitted on Oct 28, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWe all argue. Well, for sure we all disagree. Arguing is an option. We can peacefully debate opposite sides of a topic and without having it escalate to anger, shouting, name-calling, and hurt feelings. Yet oftentimes it does. When people do not feel as though they are being heard or understood ...
Views: 1270 - Clarity Of Purpose - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2008 from Judy RingerI've been thinking a lot lately about why we fear our more serious conflict conversations, why we put them off or hold them in unconstructive ways. I had one of my own recently and was really quite uncentered for a bit, thinking about how I wanted to hold the conversation, what my positive ...
Views: 1269 - 5 Steps to Break Free from the Drama! - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2017 from Julie DohertyLife is full of challenging moments and if you are building a stable and significant life you are definitely going to have your fair share of these moments. But how you manage these moments is what will make all the difference to how you feel about yourself, your stability and having a relative ...
Views: 1268 - Murray Teaches Vicki To Make Requests - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2008 from Vicki LeinWant an authentic relationship full of truth and humor? Read on… My husband Murray and I both listened to the call of our Muses eight years ago and quit our secure jobs to follow our dreams. I had two children in college and a tenured job with a school district, but I knew my body and soul ...
Views: 1266 - Rage Against a Lion Killer - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2015 from Janet PfeifferThe recent trophy killing of Cecil the Lion in Zimbabwe by an American dentist has enraged the world. Social media has exploded with demands to bring the killer to justice and ban hunting entirely. I am an animal lover in every sense of the word and share in the anger that so many others feel. ...
Views: 1264 - The "OK" Solution to Criticism - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWe live in a harsh and judgmental world where people are quick to point out the faults and imperfections of others yet seem oblivious to their own. Some misguided souls believe they have a moral obligation and civil duty to help you to be a better person by telling you what a failure you really ...
Views: 1264 - How To Deal With A Toxic Work Environment (According To Science) - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2019 from Marilyn VinchyDoes the thought of work stress you out? Do you feel depressed or overwhelmed while you’re there? Do you have a hard time disconnecting yourself from your job when at home? If you answered “yes” to these questions, you may be working in a toxic work environment. A toxic workplace will ...
Views: 1263(1 vote) - This Simple Exercise Can Transform Difficult Relationships - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2011 from Sally TempletonWhen I have a client with a difficult relationship with a boss or colleague, there is a simple exercise that I ask them to do. It is a transformational exercise that can become a life-changing practice. It is simply to list the positive aspects of their “difficult person”. This includes ...
Views: 1262(1 vote) - ***The Face of Conflict - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret MeloniOne of the more common definitions of conflict is that it is a clash between two (or more) opposing groups or that it is a power struggle or a battle between opposing forces. When you think of conflict, you may think of it as a negative (think power struggle or battle) or you may think that ...
Views: 1261(1 vote) - ***YOUR Time - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2010 from Margaret MeloniQuestion, what is the resource that you cannot acquire more of? Do you think it is money? Do you think it is a specific type of skilled labor or a certain type of raw material? NO! Although you or your company might be feeling financially challenged you can find ways to earn money, you can ...
Views: 1261(2 votes) - Ten Tips to Fight Fair - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI'm not a fan of boxing nor professional wrestling. I find that, as in real life, the players don't always fight fair. I understand that much is done strictly to boost ratings but still I find it distressing. In real life it is even more disturbing for much damage can occur when one or both ...
Views: 1261 - Are We Begging for Anarchy and Chaos in “Shooting of Unarmed Black with Hands Up”? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2014 from Richard RuhlingNever mind this unarmed youth just came from a convenience store that he robbed. Never mind reports that this 300-pound youth reached into the police car and tried to grab the officer's gun. We don't really know the whole story, but the story seems lop-sided and makes the black population angry, ...
Views: 1258(1 vote) - Your Best Defense Against Anger - by Submitted on Feb 17, 2016 from Janet PfeifferCheck out Webster's dictionary. Anger is defined as "a feeling of discomfort or displeasure brought about by feelings of helplessness and powerlessness." My personal definition of a victim is one who views themselves as having no power or authority. Many times, a victim will claim that in a ...
Views: 1258 - My Husband Wants Me Out Of His Life: My Husband Is Telling Me He No Longer Wants To Be Married - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2021 from Baker JackMy Husband Wants Me Out Of His Life: My Husband Is Telling Me He No Longer Wants To Be Married There are two ways you can look at an unhappy marriage. The pessimistic way to look at it is to believe that the situation is beyond redemption and irretrievable. Any attempt to save your marriage ...
Views: 1257 - Seven Tips for Managing Your Own History during Conflict - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenThe biggest obstacle to effective conflict management may just be your own history! You and the others in your relationships all have a past when it comes to communicating, building relationships and managing conflicts. Your patterns of behavior are built on your perceptions of what is ...
Views: 1256(1 vote) - Nobody taught me how to have boundaries… now what? - by Submitted on Jul 30, 2019 from Nicole WarrenBoundaries can definitely be a tough thing to master, they also can have a profound impact on how we interact with others. For a lot of us, we weren’t taught how to have boundaries so it can be tough to figure these suckers out. Maybe the people that raised us didn’t have boundaries and modeled ...
Views: 1253 - ***What Difference do Differences Make? - by Submitted on May 17, 2010 from Margaret MeloniYou have worked side-by-side with your team for quite some time and the good news is that it has been truly enjoyable. You get along, you work hard together and you laugh hard together. Lucky you, this might even be an example of a high performing team. You assumed it was because you had so much ...
Views: 1249(2 votes) - Is Your Anger Under Control Or Are You “Eating Your Heart”? - by Submitted on May 01, 2017 from Noelle NelsonThe ancient Egyptians had a fairly complicated process by which they were allowed - or not – to access what we might now call “Heaven” after their death. Among other things, they were to approach the gods of the Underworld with a series of negative affirmations: a recitation of all those things ...
Views: 1249 - Dealing with a High Conflict Personality? Three goals for survival… - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldDo you have a partner, a colleague, a friend, a loved one where everything is a challenge and every conversation becomes a competition; where if they don’t get their way, there is hell to pay; where they are relentless in their pursuit; where somehow or other they are always right; where if they ...
Views: 1248 - ***Would the REAL You Please Stand Up? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2010 from Margaret MeloniMary Carol read the email from Tisha and was really annoyed. She had just met with Tisha yesterday and everything seemed fine. Now here was this really harsh email. It made no sense. The most puzzling thing was that working with Tisha was like working with two different personalities all ...
Views: 1246(1 vote) - Three Ways That The Happy Child Guide Can Assist Parents With Child Disciplining! - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2010 from Paul DonahueIf you are being affected by child disciplining problems, there is a strong likelihood that the happy child guide can assist you. An essential factor to take into account, prior to us starting, is the fact that it can be best to keep a receptive imagination. We're not here to evaluate you in the ...
Views: 1245(5 votes) - Keep Your Sanity in the Technological World - by Submitted on May 18, 2010 from Maly SolanIn one of the families I worked with lately, the father, a very successful director has been working about 18 hours a day and was abroad once a month, leaving the mother alone to cope with their two babies. After two stressful years the company he worked for collapsed. He was subsequently ...
Views: 1244(2 votes) - Dr. Romance on Anger: Cleansing Squall or Hurricane? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2011 from Tina TessinaAnger is the emotional energy within each of us that rises up when something needs to change. If you act on the need to create change, your anger can be channeled effectively; but it’s not redirected to something effective, your frustration will build, sometimes to hurricane force. Anger ...
Views: 1243(1 vote) - 4 Tips to Resist the Fight on the Way to the Negotiating Table - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldYou finally recognize that your adversarial battle isn’t resolving your dispute. You’re draining your resources both financially and emotionally. You don’t believe your former partner would ever negotiate a truce, let alone a settlement. Mediation is discussed and one person says they’ll go but ...
Views: 1242 - Living the Nightmare – What Wakes You Up At Night? - by Submitted on May 21, 2011 from Vickie GriffithChasing a young boy, a weary mother is desperate to catch him. The back yard alley turns and twists as if it were a labyrinth seen in the lawns of the old English castles. Barbs and thorns poke into the pathway from the walls- tearing at her clothes. Tripping over the gnarly roots on her ...
Views: 1241 - Birds And Bullies - by Submitted on Mar 14, 2008 from Alan SharlandConflict Resolution in the Bird World (or how to find a win/win solution with someone who seems to be a bully.) I usually spend some of the Christmas period at my parental home in Surrey, South East England. Outside the kitchen window there is a bird feeder suspended from an apple tree. One ...
Views: 1233 - Are YOU Playing to YOUR Strengths? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2011 from Margaret Meloni“Oh no, here we go again” thought Joe as his Quality Assurance Analyst Heidi approached him with his memo, complete with typos circled in red ink. He was not really annoyed by Heidi, she was just doing what she does; he mainly felt embarrassed. After all as the leader shouldn’t all of his work ...
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