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- Enhancing Relationships With the Enneagram - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2009 from Nicola BuntingWhat difference would it make to your life if your relationships, at home and at work, were based on mutual understanding and respect, where you inspire each other to be your best and enjoy the differences between you? The Enneagram is a powerful and still surprisingly little known approach to ...
Views: 3719 - Is Solution-Focused Brief Therapy for You? - by Submitted on Feb 26, 2011 from Leila McKay, MA, LPC.You have probably heard the expression "What we focus on becomes stronger." The theory behind Solution Based Therapy (SBT) is that focusing on what we want, rather than what we don't want, can help change old patterns of behavior and free-up energy for our full participation in life. When ...
Views: 3692(2 votes) - Managing Organizational Conflict - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Greg GiesenAll too often organizations cry out for what I call the quick fix. You know the scenario: two employees not getting along, probably personality differences, not real receptive to previous internal interventions, etc., so the organization decides to bring in outside help to fix the problem. ...
Views: 3659 - How to Get Rid of Hypochondriasis - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2011 from amir bashirHypochondriasis some times called health anxiety is an illness in which patient is preoccupied with fear of having a serious disease. This type of thinking persists despite all negative investigations and reassurance. He misinterprets various normal bodily sensations or mild physical symptoms as ...
Views: 3630(1 vote) - ***Crazy Firemen's Dance - by Submitted on Feb 02, 2015 from Barbara SteppHow many times have you've heard someone say (not yourself, of course), "I'm angry"? When people identify themselves with an emotional response, this is not only ludicrous, inaccurate, and stupid; it's also extremely crappy hypnosis. When they do that, the deletions are there other than ...
Views: 3594 - Silent Anger - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2014 from Janet PfeifferIn the late sixties, I married my high school sweetheart. He was a quiet person by nature so when we began having difficulties in our marriage and his response was one of silence I thought it was just his personality. Little did I realize it was a manipulative technique that would eventually ...
Views: 3533 - How to Deal With Devious Co-workers? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2009 from zurab tsvenThis question comes back over and over, it is the same in class with the kids, as it is at work as it is between families and countries. The fact is that all people are equal on one very important level, at any age, any were in the world, all we really want is to be noticed appreciated, ...
Views: 3518 - Managing Difficult Conversations - Part II - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2011 from Asaf ShaniManaging the 2nd Type of Conflict - Having the Difficult Conversation The difficult conversation model is comprised of three stages: Preparation - Conversation - Conclusion. At each stage there are clear requirements without which there is no point in, and often no possibility of, moving on to ...
Views: 3449(2 votes) - ***The Most Important Argument You’ll Ever Have in Your Relationship - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2012 from Sharon RivkinThe first argument is the most crucial argument you will ever have in your relationship, setting the stage for all arguments to follow. Future conflicts will often look and sound like they’re different, but most times are simply variations of the first, unresolved argument. Understanding that ...
Views: 3424(1 vote) - Toxic People - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2011 from Lisa PhillipsA few years ago, I attended one of Debbie Ford’s ( No1 NY Times Best Selling Author and Self Development Expert) Shadow process workshops in New York. One of the biggest light bulb moments I had on this course was when Debbie led us through a process where we learned to accept that ‘ There are ...
Views: 3423(6 votes) - Does Your Spouse Steal the Limelight? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinDoes your spouse take credit for your ideas? Or do people compliment your spouse for tasks or projects that you did? Do you get the credit where credit is due? For example, Jill herself maintains a beautiful garden and takes a lot of pride in it. One day, a neighbor comes to visit the couple ...
Views: 3407(2 votes) - Time to Stop The Birth Mother - Stepmom Animonsity - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2013 from Dianne MartinIsn’t it Time to Stop the Bio- Mother ~ Stepmother Animosity? Your stepchild’s Bio-Mom (BM) will always be a part of your life. Over the years you will both attend graduations, sporting events, family celebrations, marriages, births, grandchildren, illness or death of a mutually ...
Views: 3366(2 votes) - Indigo Children - Born to Lead, Hard to Manage - by Submitted on Jun 04, 2010 from Judy WrightAs I travel the country teaching workshops for parents, teachers and day care providers I often ask them if they recognize the Indigo Children. These children are not content to color in the lines or glue macaroni on paper. They are very bright but also very active and curious. Born To Be ...
Views: 3360(3 votes) - ***Be Impeccable with Your Word - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2009 from Margaret Meloni“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.” Do any of you remember that charming little childhood chant? It was meant to ward off the cruel verbal taunts we received from other children. Sometimes kids can be very harsh with their teasing. Sometimes adults can be very ...
Views: 3353(4 votes) - 10 Tips to Diffuse a Volatile Situation - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe are living in a very volatile and dangerous age. Not only have issues of domestic violence, child and animal abuse, anger in the workplace and so on been more apparent, but we are definitely witnessing a rise of violence within our communities. Gangs and individual assaults seem to be taking ...
Views: 3319 - ***How Your First Argument Could Last For 50 Years - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2012 from Sharon RivkinSounds crazy, but it’s true! Simply put, the first argument you have with your partner, if left unresolved, will manifest itself time and time again - in different forms – throughout your entire relationship. When we fall in love and begin a partnership, we temporarily maintain our best ...
Views: 3313(1 vote) - What Do You Do When You Find Out Your Spouse Is Being Unreasonsable, Inconsiderate, and Selfish? And Can't Accept Your Well Mean - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2009 from Pamela LipeHave you begun to notice that your partner is more selfish than you ever thought? Does it seem like she will never understand you. Does it feel like he’s being inconsiderate and even treating you poorly? It’s not uncommon for us to see our beloved partner in a less favorable light after ...
Views: 3290(1 vote) - ***Should YOU AVOID Conflict? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2010 from Margaret MeloniMost of the times you do not want conflict to go unaddressed. It is your job as a leader to ensure that your team engages in healthy and productive conflict and to make sure that conflict is not ignored. After all desperately hoping that an issue will just go away is a great way to turn a small ...
Views: 3252(7 votes) - ***Santa's 7 Holiday Stress-Busting Secrets - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Jim AllenIt's the most wonderful time of the year... Or so they say. While the end of year holidays are supposed to be a time of peace, love, and joy, it often turns out to be a time of stress, depression and worry -- especially as people struggle to create some "holiday magic" for their friends and ...
Views: 3249(3 votes) - Relationship Red Flags: 5 Tips for Identifying Your Negotiables and Non-Negotiables - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinYou’re in a new relationship, and you’re starting to see some red flags, warning you that the relationship may not be a good bet, but does that mean you should leave? How many red flags does it take to make that decision? How do you know if the red flags mean future disaster, or are just a ...
Views: 3239(3 votes) - Child Custody Mediation: Things to Keep in Mind - by Submitted on Oct 14, 2011 from Matthew BrickmanIn many states, a child custody mediation session must take place before any legal court documents can be drawn up outlining custody of the child and visitation rights. This is in an attempt to get everything settled legally and peacefully instead of having to go before a judge, which would take ...
Views: 3156 - ***Mel Gibson Had His Button’s Pushed - by Submitted on Jul 23, 2010 from Teagin Maddox,Mel Gibson strikes again, and this time, his disgraceful tirades have been caught on tape and released for all to hear. His behavior has generated a domestic violence investigation and some surprising discussions amongst celebrities, some whom are more upset about the tapes being made public on ...
Views: 3145(1 vote) - Communication in Recovery - Ten Steps to Fair Fighting - by Submitted on May 24, 2009 from Peggy FergusonUse the following ten steps to replace old, ineffective arguments with an effective fair fighting session: 1. Fight to resolve an issue or solve a problem. 2. Identify the problem to be solved. 3. Take turns stating your case, using I messages. 4. Practice active listening. 5. Generate ...
Views: 3096(1 vote) - I'm Just Too Nice: The Truth About Passive Behavior - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2013 from Janet PfeifferPeople often tell me, "My problem is that I'm just too nice! That's why I get hurt a lot." But what they perceive as a case of terminal politeness, I see as an issue of passive behavior. Don't misunderstand: most of these people truly are nice. But those who are yes people, who don' t disagree ...
Views: 3088(3 votes) - A No-Win Situation: What to Do When You're Caught in the Middle - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWe've all found ourselves in situations where we feel as though we're caught between a rock and a hard place. Faced with making a necessary decision, our choices are less than favorable and all options have potentially serious consequences. Your best friend confides that she's having an affair ...
Views: 3083 - ***Can Spouses Have Friends with the Opposite Sex? The Do’s and Don’ts for Making it Work - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2012 from Sharon RivkinMale or female friendships are usually a threat to the primary relationship, but they really don’t HAVE to be. What fears us the most is the sexual aspect of this oftentimes complicated relationship. It’s difficult to keep the friendship platonic, given that 90% of the time, one of the friends ...
Views: 3038(1 vote) - Secrets to Dealing with Difficult People - by Submitted on Feb 25, 2009 from Sheila Van HoutenThey are everywhere you go--at work, in the family, among friends, at the church and synagogue. They are difficult, annoying, irritating people. You want to avoid them, but no matter where you go, thee they are. The fact is, they are playing their part PERFECTLY by allowing you to figure out ...
Views: 3028 - Why we often struggle with forgiveness - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2010 from John PayneWhy is it that we often struggle with forgiveness? When do we know that we have in fact forgiven and what are the pitfalls? One of the main issues with forgiveness is it is often attempted from the stance of the good forgiving the bad, the better forgiving the worse or the superior forgiving ...
Views: 3005 - Anger Problem? Learn All About Techniques & Counselling - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2010 from Associated Relationship & Marriage Counsellors SydneyDO YOU NEED ANGER MANAGEMENT TIPS, TECHNIQUES & ANGER MANAGEMENT COUNSELLING? Do you often feel agitated, angry or aggressive, or do you often feel 'shut-down' yet seething with anger on the inside? You may be suffering from an anger management problem. ANGER MANAGEMENT ISSUES ARE ...
Views: 2965 - What Can We Do to Improve Our Relationship? Answers from "Ask Peggy" - by Submitted on Nov 06, 2009 from Peggy FergusonCommunication is not only the life's blood of a marriage, it is the cornerstone that the foundation of relationship skills rest on. You have to have good communication skills to be able to convey your love, affection, and commitment to your loved ones. You can not effectively problem solve ...
Views: 2951(3 votes) - Resolving Conflict in Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2009 from Jim BrittAre you tired of experiencing conflict in your relationship? Do you ever find yourself choosing the wrong person? Have you ever thought, “if only I’d known…” about my partner? Just imagine what it would be like if you could have a relationship where you could easily resolve problem, make ...
Views: 2939 - Epistemic traps - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2011 from Asaf ShaniWe are trapped within the boundries of our knowledge. We are prisoners to an epistemic trap. The reason traps trap us is because there are made in an asymmetric way. We make an assumption that getting into a room will be as simple as getting out but once the door is closed behind us, we ...
Views: 2927(1 vote) - Can we just Get Along: Working with Others - by Submitted on May 29, 2019 from Dr Amicitia (Cita) Maloon-GibsonCommunicating effectively is a key element to success. It involves the elements of transmitting, receiving and understanding the message being directed to others in relationships especially in the workforce. As a senior leader and manager, I welcomed my employees to state the problem. However, ...
Views: 2911(2 votes) - Stages of Dementia - What to Expect - by Submitted on Dec 02, 2011 from Andy YangThe middle dementia stages can be regarded as as being the most problematic stage for the caregiver and even those individuals that suffer with this ailment. Individuals who suffer from dementia struggle with uncertainty along with discouragement particularly when he/she also have intellectual ...
Views: 2908(1 vote) - How to make the right decision... the spiritual way - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2010 from Tim OngWe make decisions every day. Most times, these decisions do not lead to a significant change in outcome. For example, we decide whether to have sandwich or pizza for dinner, or we decide whether to watch a movie or go to the park this weekend. However, some decisions can lead to big changes ...
Views: 2893(1 vote) - KINDNESS, TOLERANCE & DIVERSITY - Life Quotes to Empower You from the Inside Out - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2011 from Chelle Thompson"FEELINGS, TENTATIVELY TOSSED, CAN BARELY SCALE THE WALLS OF OUR SELF-IMPRISONING FEARS. WHEN WE RECOGNIZE OUR DIVINE NATURE, OUR SPIRIT SOARS OVER OBSOLETE WALLS. FREE, THEN TO LOVE OURSELVES, WE CAN LOVINGLY EMBRACE A WORLD OF DIFFERENCES." — Chelle Thompson ©2003 Inspiration Line "Human ...
Views: 2885(1 vote) - Narcissist's Frustrating, Negativistic, and Passive-Aggressive Behaviors - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2016 from Sam VakninFrustrating one's nearest and dearest has the dual "advantage" of simultaneously satisfying the narcissist's masochistic and sadistic urges. By withholding love, sex, intimacy, and the fulfillment of other people's desires and needs, the narcissist torments them even as he obstructs his own ...
Views: 2858 - Please read this... It will mean a lot to me. - by Submitted on Oct 19, 2009 from Danish AhmedHey there everyone!! Thanks. I appreciate you taking the time to read this. Now, why do you think this means a lot to me? Take a moment and think about it. What got you to start reading this? If you don't read "every" post, what got you to start reading this time? Was it simply because I ...
Views: 2840(26 votes) - 7 Ways to Say No - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2009 from James LeGrandWhen you are serious about keeping your word, simplifying your life, or taking control of your schedule, you have to become selective about what you agree to doing. The word “no” isn’t the bad word you may have been taught it was as a kid. Instead, it’s your ticket to freedom. Understanding ...
Views: 2833(4 votes) - Adult ADHD - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2011 from Les LinetMost of the talk and research about ADHD has been directed towards children with little more than passing reference to adult ADHD. Most adults with ADHD do not look like the typical depiction in childhood, Typically, but not always, as kids with ADHD mature into adolescence, the hyperactive ...
Views: 2824(4 votes) - Tips for Resolving Conflict for Couples - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2009 from Sally ConnollyTips for Resolving Conflict 1. Begin your concern or complaint in a positive way. This may involve saying things like “I really liked it when you helped me with the housework yesterday. I would love it if we could do more of our chores as a team.” or “I felt very hurt when you talked badly ...
Views: 2816 - How Your First Argument Could Last for 50 Years - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Sharon RivkinSounds crazy, but it’s true! Simply put, the first argument you have with your partner, if left unresolved, will manifest itself time and time again - in different forms – throughout your entire relationship. When we fall in love and begin a partnership, we temporarily maintain our best ...
Views: 2790(2 votes) - Viewing the World with Different Glasses - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Steven AitchisonWe all have different glasses we wear when looking at the world, and in particular, when dealing with certain events that happen in our lives. I'd like to give you an example of what I am talking about here. A few years ago when I was driving my eldest son home from one of his clubs, I ...
Views: 2790(2 votes) - 10 Steps to Creating Positive Momentum - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Ron BroussardThere is positive momentum and negative momentum. Are you creating positive momentum in your life, drawing the things you want in your life, or you pushing it away? Here are ten suggestions (or reminders) to help you focus on what really matters. 1. Take some time to decide what you want ...
Views: 2784(1 vote) - Listening Can Resolve Conflict - 10 Benefits! - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2009 from Alberta FredricksenConflict happens in relationships. And the tension it brings is opportunity knocking at the door. We actually learn more by listening than we do by talking! When we are experiencing contrast or conflict with others, we are usually trying our best to persuade them to our point of view. ...
Views: 2784(4 votes) - Heart At Peace - by Submitted on Aug 11, 2008 from Judy Ringer"We give ourselves the best opportunity to make clear-minded decisions only to the extent that our hearts are at peace." -- The Anatomy of Peace Choosing to resolve conflict begins when we approach it with a "Heart at Peace." So opens a new book I just finished, The Anatomy of Peace: Resolving ...
Views: 2773 - How To Handle Conflict Part 2 - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Andrew SchwartzFive Methods of Handling Conflict: Avoidance. Ironically, avoiding pending conflicts can sometimes squash a potential outburst. A sudden difference of opinion can immediately result in conflict. If you as a manager can justify its avoidance (on the basis that it is a conflict of belief, ...
Views: 2773 - ***Your First Holiday Season After A Divorce or Separation - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Sharon RivkinAfter a separation or divorce, the first holiday season can bring tremendous stress and sadness, in addition to feeling overwhelmed and frightened. Coping with loss and grief, coupled with changes in familiar patterns and traditions, can magnify your feelings about the separation or divorce ...
Views: 2763 - How To Handle Difficult Family Members - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2012 from Kimberley CohenA family may include parent(s), sibling(s), partner, children, aunt(s), uncle(s), cousin(s), grandparent(s), grandchildren, step-parent, step brother(s) and sister(s), foster and adoptive families, and in-laws, to name a few. Whew, that's a lot of people to get along with! Whether you have a ...
Views: 2722(1 vote) - Change Your Language, Change Your Relationship: How We Say Things Does Matter - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Sharon RivkinThat old phrase, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me” is not really true. Words may not inflict visible bruises like sticks and stones, but they pack a punch nonetheless. They injure our insides, our feelings, and our self-esteem. External bruises are tangible ...
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