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- 7 Steps to Overcome Withdrawal from a Break Up of an Addictive Relationship - by Submitted on May 09, 2013 from Jim HallAre You a Love Addict? Are you in a Break-Up from an Addictive Relationship? There is no doubt that for most people, “breaking up is hard to do”… for love addicts, breaking up is especially difficult. One of the most disturbing and defining features of addiction is withdrawal and obsessive ...
Views: 14555(3 votes) - Are You Stuck in a Woman’s Role? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2010 from Darlene LancerWomen assume many roles throughout their lives – as daughters, sisters, wives, mothers, and grandmothers. Women’s roles have been largely determined by the rules and expectations of culture, religion, and the patriarchy, as well as biology. Have you considered to what extent your roles have ...
Views: 1746(3 votes) - IS YOUR EX BLOCKING YOU FROM FINDING NEW LOVE? - by Submitted on Jan 27, 2010 from Katy AllgeyerTired of being solo when the whole world seems coupled up? Many of the people I work with want to improve their wealth area but I’d say finding a new relationship (or strengthening an existing one) is also the number one priority of most people. When I do an analysis of your home and interview ...
Views: 4715(3 votes) - What You Should Know about Narcissists, Their Partners, & NPD - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2019 from Darlene LancerPoor Narcissus. The gods sentenced him to a life without human love. He fell in love with his own reflection in pool of water and died hungering for its response. Narcissism was named for him. Like Narcissus, narcissists only love themselves as reflected in the eyes of others. It’s a common ...
Views: 1513(3 votes) - Not a Perfect Ten? Stop Beating Yourself Up Now! - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Beverley GlazerNot a perfect ten? Don’t beat yourself up. Being perfect is an impossible goal. Humans can never be perfect but there's nothing wrong with self improvement. We all have things that we would like to change about ourselves. However, in the quest for perfection we can get blindsided by our ...
Views: 1992(4 votes) - 10 Steps to Detect and Stop Secret Self-Sabotage - by It's a little known - yet much denied fact - that people treat you the way you secretly ask to be treated. Your unspoken request that determines how others behave toward you is extended to -and received by - everyone you meet.
What is your invisible inner life? It's the way you actually feel - ...
Views: 3809(1 vote) - Are You Worthy of Love? - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2012 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneThe music industry is obsessed with love. Songs about love reach #1 on the charts over and over again. But the type of love sung about is often more like compulsion, neediness, personal inadequacy, idealization of another, mystery, novelty, unavailability, codependency and actually the ...
Views: 2889(3 votes) - Codependents are the Majority! - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2012 from Darlene LancerThe term codependency has been around for almost four decades. Although it originally applied to spouses of alcoholics, first called co-alcoholics, research revealed that the characteristics of codependents were much more prevalent in the general population than had been imagined. In fact, they ...
Views: 2406(4 votes) - Don't Be A Victim's Victim! - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2010 from Becky TaylorHave you ever met any one who just doesn’t seem to be happy unless they are miserable? Some people are like that. They need a certain amount of drama surrounding them. They are what the medical community calls “crisis oriented”. They are sickly addicted to emotional or physical pain (or ...
Views: 1566(2 votes) - Energy Vampires - by Submitted on May 22, 2007 from Margaret PaulDo you sometimes wonder why you feel so drained after being with some people, while you feel energized when being with others? Some people are energy vampires, and actually drain energy from you. How do they do this? What can you do to avoid this? WAYS PEOPLE DRAIN ENERGY Sometimes the ways ...
Views: 7846(2 votes) - From Co-dependence to Confidence - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2012 from Michelle MorandHow do we relate to others? One of the key aspects which influences all our interactions with others is the extent of unconscious co-dependent behaviour that exists in us. Ask yourself this question: Is there anything in my life, right now, that I feel anxious about? Do I feel responsible, in ...
Views: 2337(1 vote) - GOT TRUST ISSUES? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2010 from Keith BrayTRUST ISSUES? It’s amazing how many people I run across that have major trust issues. The causes vary. In the information below, you will find some thoughts on dealing with trust issues, and issues of trust that come up in relationships. If you conclude that self-esteem or “the past” ...
Views: 2482(3 votes) - Karma, Balance, and Why Being “Nice” Isn’t Always Good - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Kari SamuelsIf you ask most people about what karma is, they will most likely respond with references to “good” and “bad” deeds. Most people strive to be the best they can be for themselves and others. We want to be good. And yet, most of the clients who I see in my intuitive counseling sessions have to ...
Views: 6615(3 votes) - Motherless Daughters Healing The Pain - by Submitted on May 28, 2011 from Gail OKeeffeThere is nothing like Mother's Day to remind you of just how much you have lost and how painful that loss is if you are estranged from your mother due to abandonment (disclosing your abuse, mental illness, drug abuse, physical or emotional abuse etc) or loss. When I disclosed my abuse to my ...
Views: 3234(2 votes) - My First Signs of Codependence - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2005 from Kay KopitThe pink slip read, “Kay, come to the principal’s office.” I was sixteen, a senior in high school and had never before been asked to see Mr. Ober. With the glass doors straight ahead, I was visibly shaking as I walked down the rambling corridor. When I entered the room three faces were ...
Views: 2187(1 vote) - Overcoming Codependency - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2010 from BB BergCodependent behavior can definitely impact ones quality of life in a very negative fashion. In my own example it was very clear about the kind of men I attracted into my life before I "let go of my need to rescue." I attracted men who were distant or obsessed or addicted. I found men who ...
Views: 4501(2 votes) - Relapse - What Families Can Do For Prevention - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2011 from Lisa EspichThe problem of relapse remains the major challenge in recovery. Because addiction alters the brain, the recovering addict may deal with drug-related memories, strong drug cravings, and diminished impulse control. This leaves them vulnerable to relapse even years after being ...
Views: 1686(3 votes) - Signs of Codependency - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2009 from Claudine StruckWhat is codependent behavior? When you try to define codependent you may see many definitions that essentially refer to the same problem: an excessive caring for another person that borders on psychological obsession. Is there such a thing as a person being too caring? Don’t all people desire ...
Views: 5274(1 vote) - Stop Sabotaging Yourself! - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciStop Sabotaging Yourself! Have you noticed that when you are really close to what you want or to the next level in your life, things seem to go wrong? You are close to having your car paid off and you total it, you are about to win a sports competition and you get injured, you are about ...
Views: 3748(3 votes) - T'ai Chi Ch'uan - Relaxation is the Key! - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2009 from Harvey Kurland MSc, MFS, CSCST’ai-chi ch’uan, also spelled taijiquan and tai chi chuan, is a martial art that many people practice for promoting good health, balance and for stress reduction. The interest in it as a martial art has resurrected in recent years, as has t’ai-chi competition. Some ...
Views: 2646(2 votes) - Top 10: How to Use The 12 Steps for Management Conflict and Resolution - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2004 from Elizabeth TullOne of the reasons for the success of the 12 Step programs is that they are based on solid principles that can be applied to many areas of life, and that includes business. A successful company takes stock regularly and turns liabilities into assets. Here are some guidelines for applying ...
Views: 2168(1 vote) - When What You Give is Squandered: Re-thinking identity as a giver when giving too much can hurt - by Submitted on Apr 17, 2010 from Fannie LeFloreIf you’ve been victimized often, chances are the positive qualities you possess were viewed as an opportunity to take advantage of you – often by someone who lacks caring and concern, consciousness or character, usually in combination. Being un-thoughtful and even callous in our stressed, ...
Views: 2137(1 vote) - Why Passive Aggressive Behavior is so Hard to Grasp When You Are in Love - by Submitted on May 09, 2012 from Neil WarnerIt seems to be a silent but growing epidemic of miscommunication between people in any kind of relationships. If you read forum comments, help requests are popping up everywhere, and the hurt from miscommunication seems to be a shared national pain. Several factors have contributed to the ...
Views: 5476(1 vote) - Women's Self-Esteem For Stress Reduction, Balance, and Autonomy - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2010 from Darlene LancerIn working with women for decades, I've found that self-esteem is the common denominator of many women's issues. With better self-esteem, women are more able to find balance, handle stress, and claim their autonomy. Universally, women are considered inferior to men, and although our culture ...
Views: 2226(2 votes) - Your Relationship is the Key to Your Success! - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciOur relationship is one of the biggest, most powerful asset and gift we have in our life! It is a true "treasure chest" worth a fortune. It can deliver unimaginable heights of satisfaction, peace, joy, love, happiness and success!! To cash-in on this fortune we have to polish the "gems on ...
Views: 1848(1 vote) - From Anger to Love - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2009 from Terri BrittAnger. No one likes the feeling. Your body tightens. Your blood pressure heightens. You feel out of control. Have you ever asked yourself why you get angry? The tendency in our world is to think that someone or something has made us mad. The truth, however, is that our anger comes from ...
Views: 1802(4 votes) - What is Spiritual Growth? - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Caroline NettleSpiritual growth is a very personal journey. We are spiritual beings in a human body from our first breath to our last. Each time we breathe in, we accept life and all she has to offer us. With each out breath, we release all that we no longer need. As small children, we wonder at nature and ...
Views: 2110(3 votes) - HEALTHY OPPOSITES - Change Your Behavior, Change Your Life - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2009 from Donna TorbicoFor ACoAs- (Adult-Children of alcoholics, abusers, abandoners & other narcissists) ACoAs know how they would like their life to be: TO have a fulfilling career, loving relationships, less pressure, a little fun... and they try, struggle, obsess - but not much changes. They become more & more ...
Views: 2878(5 votes) - When You Decide To Be Codependent No More, You Won't Want Emotionally Unhealthy People In Your Life - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2007 from Diane England,Could your codependency or another emotional issue be the reason you want someone back who left you? When you are codependent, you are typically looking outside yourself for definition or a sense of self. It might be through material things or the roles you play in life, for example. You might ...
Views: 23305(5 votes) - Bring Your Self to Your Relationship - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciBring Your Self to Your Relationship It is a phenomenon when we feel energized, connected, and alive past the infatuation stage of our relationship. At the beginning, we fall in love. We feel euphoric, on top of the world, passionate, sexy, wanted, lustful, etc. This stage lasts and can be ...
Views: 2068(12 votes) - *** Emotional Dependency vs. Emotional Freedom - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2009 from Margaret PaulWhat is Emotional Dependency?Lydia consulted with me because her relationship with her husband, Andrew, was falling apart. Andrew had moved out, stating that he could no longer tolerate Lydia's neediness and constant pull on him to make her feel loved and secure. Now that they were separated, ...
Views: 7515(6 votes) - Coping with a Break-Up and Rejection - by Submitted on Aug 13, 2013 from Darlene LancerRejection and break-ups are especially hard for codependents. They can trigger hidden grief and cause irrational guilt, anger, shame, and fear. Working through the following issues can help you let go and move on. Codependents often blame themselves or their partner. They have low ...
Views: 1903(2 votes) - Coping with Codependent Parents - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2009 from Claudine StruckParents want what is best for their children. If a mother and father do their best to raise their child, offering strong guidance and attentive parenting, then it is a job well done. However, letting go of that parental authority can be a challenge, particularly when the child grows into a ...
Views: 20543(2 votes) - Don’t Wait for Someone or Something to Make You Happy - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2009 from Kimberley CohenEarl Nightingale said, "Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and ...
Views: 8626(4 votes) - For your marriage - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2011 from Pradnya Ajinkya“For your Marriage ………………………….” Dr. Pradnya Ajinkya MS Counselling and Psychotherapy, PhD, PG Journalism I am a Mumbai-based psychological counsellor and family therapist. I have seen fair share of dysfunctional marriages. Here, I recount the case of Subeesh and ...
Views: 2233(2 votes) - Importance of web hosting services for web development tasks - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2011 from william BellInternet is the basic source and a specialized asset through which all the international marketers are working upon their bases and interact through each other. After the large number of experiments we have come to resolute over various computing devices. There are different types of ...
Views: 1143(2 votes) - Low Self-Esteem Is Dangerous - Some Techniques To Deal With It - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2011 from Sawas DeeLow self-esteem is a characteristic of the person from a psychological point of view, but nevertheless it’s a good idea to view it as a disease. It’s similar to a disease in the fact that it brings lots of negative impact in your life. From the overall feeling of worthlessness, through the ...
Views: 2425(2 votes) - Mommy burnout and saying "No" - by Submitted on May 13, 2011 from Bo BradleyMom's set the example for their family. Saying No is a part of setting and holding clear boundaries which make the entire house calmer and smoother because everyone has clarity and knows those boundaries. Always giving in and saying yes to children creates an entitlement monster who are bound to ...
Views: 1563(2 votes) - Say No to Waffling!!! - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Dr. Anne Brown“It comes from saying No to 1000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do to much.” Steve Jobs Are you beginning to see where we need our tools, ability to say No, ability to make requests, ability to speak our truth in order be a good leader, and in order to be able ...
Views: 1383(2 votes) - The Truth about Addiction - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2016 from Lou Worldweaver“The greatest pain is not being loved for who you are in your naturalness.” As you read this article I encourage you not to exclude yourself from having addictive patterns, you can become addicted to anything from the most overt to the most subtle. This includes things like social media, cell ...
Views: 1513(2 votes) - A Typology of Codependence and the Dependent Personality Disorder - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2009 from Sam VakninTypology of Codependents Codependence is a complex, multi-faceted, and multi-dimensional defence against the codependent's fears and needs. There are four categories of codependence, stemming from their respective aetiologies: (i) Codependence that aims to fend of anxieties related to ...
Views: 5864(3 votes) - Codependency Symptoms - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2008 from Carla ValenciaI come from a family with a codependent mother. I am neither judging her nor blaming. But identifying codependency symptoms in her helped me a lot to overcome low self esteem. Codependency definition : Codependency is not a disease, it is an emotional and behavioural condition that is learned ...
Views: 3988(3 votes) - Recovery from Codependency - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2013 from Darlene LancerCodependency is often thought of as a relationship problem and considered by many to be a disease. In the past, it was applied to relationships with alcoholics and drug addicts. It is a relationship problem; however, the relationship that’s the problem is not with someone else, but the ...
Views: 2973(8 votes) - "I am Terrified that S/he will Abandon Me! I will Do Anything to Avoid It!" - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2012 from Sam VakninClinging and smothering behaviours are the unsavoury consequences of a deep-set existential, almost mortal fear of abandonment and separation. For the codependent to maintain a long-term, healthy relationship, she must first confront her anxieties head on. This can be done via psychotherapy: the ...
Views: 2073(2 votes) - 6 Tips for Letting Go - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2013 from Darlene LancerHave you been told, “Just let go of it,” or tell yourself, “I have to let go,” but wonder, how? I’ve asked myself that question. Sometimes you want to let go of a worry or an obsession about someone else. You may try to detach, but can't. Other times when you can’t move forward after a major ...
Views: 3006(8 votes) - A List of the Top 20 do's & Don'ts of a functional relationship - by HOW TO ATTRACT EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY PEOPLE
1. Who you think you are is important. Like attracts like. Think about it. Do you like who you are?
2. What you want in a relationship is important, and when you are willing to ask for it, you will be able to create it. But only ask for what you want ...
Views: 1536(1 vote) - AMP Up Your Relationships Now - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2012 from Dr. Erica GoodstoneAMP up your relationships, a new approach to creating passionate and enduring love relationships, comes from research in economics and business about what helps us to develop and maintain drive and motivation to succeed - and what causes us to becomes less interested and even lethargic and ...
Views: 2294(2 votes) - Are You Divergent? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Joy ChudacoffWithin the last week, I've had the opportunity to see the movie "Divergent" not once but twice due to the fact that the movie (and book) is all the rage with girls and my daughter is no exception. It's your typical good versus evil plot but the twist is a young woman named "Tris" who's ...
Views: 1452(2 votes) - Are You Showing Up in Your Relationship these Holidays? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2014 from Emma ViglucciAre You Showing Up in Your Relationship these Holidays? The Holidays are always a difficult time of year for people for many reasons. At the risk of adding to the plethora of writing on this topic, I still feel called to share with you how you can use this time as an opportunity for change and ...
Views: 1734(1 vote) - Being as Good to Yourself as You Are to Others - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2009 from Kari SamuelsIn the Intuitive Development class that I teach, I often ask people to close their eyes and listen to their hearts instead of listening to their thoughts. So often we get wrapped up in all of our responsibilities and worries that we don’t even know what our own needs are. We know what our ...
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