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- Relationships: Is It Possible To End Up With The Wrong Person? - by Submitted on Mar 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperJust as one can choose something on a menu and end up finding out that it is not very appealing to their taste buds; they can also end up choosing someone to be in a relationship with, only to find out that they are not a good match. However, although one can just stop eating a meal that doesn’t ...
Views: 814 - Relationships: Should Relationships Be Easy? - by Submitted on Jun 02, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are all kinds of ideas in the world as to how a relationship should be. These ideas are often shaped by popular culture, from influences such as Disney or Hollywood films. And by taking on board these perspectives, some people can come to expect relationships to be easy and straight ...
Views: 2235 - Relationships: What Can Sabotage Adult To Adult Relationships? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperEven though two people are in a relationship together, it doesn’t mean that they are relating as adults. Physically they may look like adults, but that could be as far as it goes. And upon closer inspection, it could look as though it is between a parent and a child. This won’t be limited to ...
Views: 1751 - Relationships: What Can Someone Do If They Keep Ending Up With The Wrong Person? - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had just bought a car, there is a strong chance that they would have taken it for a test drive first. This would have given them the opportunity to find out what it is like and to see if it would be a good match for them. Along with this, they would have most likely asked a number ...
Views: 983 - Relationships: What Causes Caretaking Behaviour? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile relationships can be a combination of both giving and receiving, they can also end up being out of balance. It is then no longer an adult to adult relationship; it is something that takes on the characteristics of a parent-child relationship. This might create the impression that they ...
Views: 1973 - Relationships: What Causes Enmeshed Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings are physically separate, it doesn’t mean that they are emotionally or intellectually separate. And as connecting to another human being involves opening up and allowing another person to open up, there are going to be moments where one merges with another. This is not only ...
Views: 2492 - Relationships: What Causes Jealousy? - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen there is an absence of trust in a relationship there is inevitably going to be certain problems that arise. Whereas although there is still going to be problems when trust does exist, there is less chance of jealousy appearing or if it does exist, then its effects will be minimal. As ...
Views: 1955 - Relationships: What Causes One Sided Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperLife is made up of what are often described as opposites and giving and receiving is part of this dynamic. When one of these is done and not the other, it will lead to an imbalance being created. One may receive from another and be unable to give in that situation. Or one may give in one ...
Views: 5556 - Relationships: What Does It Mean When Someone Says They Are Too Busy? - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone is available at one point in time, it doesn’t mean that they will continue to be available. There is the chance that they will continue to be around or everything could change, and they may be extremely hard to get hold of. However, without even going into how much ...
Views: 9226 - Relationships: What Does Love Mean To You? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s relationships love is often used to describe how someone feels about another person and as a description of what one is looking for. The world is made up all of kinds of relationships and although there are general meanings when it comes to love; there are also radically different ...
Views: 1989 - Relationships: What Is The Purpose Of A Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperI believe that one of the purposes of a relationship is to lead one back into wholeness. This includes the relationships we have had, the relationships we have and the relationships we will have in the future. They each contain the experiences and situations that are perfect for one to regain ...
Views: 2672 - Relationships: What Two Needs Can Define How Someone Behaves In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have all kinds of things that they look for in a relationship with another person. And some of these are going to be more important than others; this means that some of them will be able to be overlooked. But if this relates to what truly matters, then conflict is going to arise if they ...
Views: 1710 - Relationships: Where Do Men’s Expectations Of Women Come From? - by Submitted on Aug 21, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what a woman is going to be like, a man will have a set of expectations. And sometimes these can be consciously known and at other times, they can be completely unconscious. However, no matter whether these are conscious or unconscious, they will still have a massive impact ...
Views: 2358 - Relationships: Where Do Our Relationship Models Come From? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe relationships that each one of us has are being defined by the relationship models that we have. And this can range from the more meaningful and intimate ones, to the ones that are platonic and carry very little meaning. However, although we all have our internal models of what our ...
Views: 1693 - Relationships: Where Does A Man’s Idea Of A Woman Come From? - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to what women are like, there are numerous ideas that men can have. And while the world is made up of all types of women, there are certain ideas that a man will have formed. These are not just going to be disconnected descriptions, but descriptions that carry emotional ...
Views: 2015 - Relationships: Where Does A Woman's Idea Of A Man Come From? - by Submitted on May 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the outlook of what men are like, there is clearly not just one idea that a woman can have. And while some have an idea that men are a certain way, others view them in a completely different way. And no matter what this view is, it is one that is going to have massive effect ...
Views: 1838 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Clingy In Relationships? - by Submitted on Aug 07, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are certain behaviours that are going to cause problems in a relationship and could even sabotage one from taking place, and one of those behaviours is when someone is clingy. This can appear at the start of a relationship or it can appear as a relationship develops. For the person on ...
Views: 2049 - Relationships: Why Are Some People Emotionally Unavailable? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has a relationship with another person, ideally, their body, heart and mind will be shared. This means there will be a physical connection, an emotional sharing and an intellectual exchange. But this doesn’t always take place and this means that one could have a relationship ...
Views: 8594 - Relationships: Why Are Some Women Attracted To Abusive Men? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some women out there, it can seem as though they have a sign on their forehead that says ‘’abusive men only’’. And this is due to their experience of only attracting men who are abusive. It may even go further than this and a woman could come to the conclusion that all men are the same. ...
Views: 3779 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Fear Women? - by Submitted on Dec 07, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperAs men are often physically stronger than women, it often makes it hard to comprehend that they could be fearful of women. This is something that can sound illogical and abnormal. When some people hear this, it can sound like some kind of joke. But while this may sound illogical and even ...
Views: 2008 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Feel Powerless With Women? - by Submitted on Jun 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is a human need to feel a sense of power; with the most important power of all said to be based around having a sense of personal power. This is more of an inner power, where one is generally in control of themselves, as opposed to being in control of others. And when it comes to the area ...
Views: 4519 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Hate Women? - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThe title of this article may sound a bit extreme and yet when it comes to male and female interactions, there is not always peace, harmony or respect. Throughout time, women have been murdered, manipulated and abused by men. And although the rights of women have gradually improved in certain ...
Views: 2721 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Need A Women’s Approval? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a certain amount of approval seeking is part of relationships; when it is out of control and taken to the extreme, it can create dysfunctional consequences and unnecessary pain. And when this happens, a man’s mental and emotional wellbeing is going to suffer. However, in order for a man ...
Views: 12083 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Pull Away After Sex? - by Submitted on Jan 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen two people come together with the intention of having a relationship or just the desire to spend time together, it is generally going to lead to them having sex. And this could be something that both of them equally want to experience or something that one of them is more attached to than ...
Views: 12056 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Try To Save Women? - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperFor some men out there women are seen as people who need to be saved or rescued from what is taking place in their lives. And so it doesn’t matter how big or small these women’s challenges are, as this type of man is only too happy to get involved. So this also means that unless a woman has ...
Views: 6507 - Relationships: Why Do Some Men Worship Women? - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen the idea of worshipping a woman is mentioned it can trigger all kinds of meanings in one’s mind. And what these meanings are can depend on is where one was brought up. To worship the feminine, which is what women physically represent, can be seen as sacred. The earth itself is often ...
Views: 5560 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Feel Abandoned? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperOne can have the desire to be in a relationship that is meaningful and fulfilling and yet they might find this hard to achieve. And it could be that they can’t seem to attract the right person or that when they are in a relationship with someone who they connect with, it soon ends. There ...
Views: 2031 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Need To Look Strong? - by Submitted on May 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings are inherently vulnerable, it doesn’t mean that they will always come across this way. And when this happens, they can come across as being unaffected by the challenges of life. This is not to be confused with people who are actually strong; as there are naturally going to ...
Views: 1720 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Attract People Who Are Needy? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to dynamics in relationships that cause problems and a fair amount of frustration, there are two common patterns of behaviour. One of those is when one is attracted to people who are unavailable. So they desire to be another person and yet continually end up being attracted to ...
Views: 4545 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Cheat? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to describing why some people cheat, it is certainly not a black and white answer. So based on my current level of awareness and intelligence; I will do my best to give some answers to this question. Three Experiences I believe that in order to understand or at least try to ...
Views: 2420 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Fear That Their Partner Will Cheat? - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are numerous challenges that can arise in a relationship and while some of these are fairly insignificant and can be overlooked, others are far more significant and can’t be ignored. And while there is going to be external challenges, there is also going to be internal challenges. So ...
Views: 2084 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Abandoned When A Relationship Ends? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are able to handle break ups reasonably well, there are other people who find them to be extremely difficult. And although it could all depend on how long the relationship has lasted for or on the kind of connection that they had with the other person, these two factors are not ...
Views: 2009 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Smothered In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough one can have the desire to be in an intimate relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean that this feels comfortable. In their mind this could be what they want and yet when it comes to making this a reality, it doesn’t feel right. What feels right is for them to stay away from ...
Views: 11234 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Feel Unlovable? - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a relationship where one feels a healthy sense of love from another, is one of the most important elements of having a fulfilling relationship. Love can mean different things to different people, but generally this can include: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch, care and ...
Views: 8918 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Trust Others? - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings are inherently interdependent and therefore reliant on others, relationships play a vital role in not only ones survival on this planet, but also in their ability to thrive. And this means that how one perceives others will play a big part in how they experience life. Of ...
Views: 1876 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Find That Other People Are Never There When They Need Them? - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIf one needed something, they may find that there is someone who they can call on to be there for them. In fact, there could be a number of people who would be only too happy to support them. And the reason they have this outlook is going to be because these people have been there for them ...
Views: 1636 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Go Back To Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Jun 08, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can stay in abusive relationships and have a hard time leaving, other people can leave an abusive relationship, only to return shortly after. And this is often hard to comprehend. Why would anyone return to something that is clearly dysfunctional and even dangerous? The ...
Views: 1895 - Relationships: Why Do Some People It Find It Hard To Receive Love? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperLove is something we not only want to receive from others; it is something we need to receive. And while love can mean different things to different people, the love that I am talking about here relates to: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch and compassion. This can be something ...
Views: 3763 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Look For love In All The Wrong Places? - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to finding or attracting someone to be in a relationship with, the need is going to be there to meet someone who will treat one as they want to be treated. And through another behaving in certain ways, one will end up feeling loved. However, just because someone is in love, it ...
Views: 2134 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Need Others To Tell Them What To Do? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough each and every one of us is physically separate and therefore has our own needs and wants, it doesn’t mean that one is always aware of what these are. So instead of one looking within for guidance and a sense of purpose, they can end up looking to other people. This is what will be ...
Views: 1794 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Repeat Unhealthy Relationship Patterns? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because one is with someone who looks different to the person they were in a relationship with before, it doesn’t mean that their experience is going to be any different. And if ones last experience was generally healthy and functional, this is not going to be something that one is going to ...
Views: 2241 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Sabotage Healthy Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo have a relationship that is healthy and functional is something that most people want in this world. Now, for some people this is reality and for others; this is often nothing more than a good idea and something that eludes them. And while there are people who have fulfilling relationships ...
Views: 2862 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Stay In Abusive Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperTo see or hear about someone who is being abused in a relationship and yet continues to stay in the relationship is hard to comprehend. Logically it makes no sense whatsoever and sounds completely dysfunctional. The type of abuse can vary from what may seem to be fairly moderate, to extreme ...
Views: 1913 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Try To Fix Others? - by Submitted on May 26, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some people who try and fix others. This could be something they have a habit of doing or something they do once in a while. And while these people may think that they are helping others, they are generally having the opposite effect. A bit like how a mechanic may fix an engine or a ...
Views: 2053 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Always Feel Trapped In A Relationship? - by Submitted on Dec 31, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that women prefer to be in relationships more than men do. And while this can sound like the truth, it is not always the case. There are going to be men who appreciate being in one, just as there are going to be men who don’t. Some women will enjoy being in them and then ...
Views: 2429 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Attract Controlling Men? - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough a woman can want to experience a relationship with a man that is healthy and functional, there are numerous things that can get in the way if this actually taking place. And one of these things is when a man is controlling. To a one degree or another, both men and women are ...
Views: 5175 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Hate Men? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperCertain emotions are often seen as positive and others are often seen as negative, and this can cause people to embrace some and to deny others. But regardless of the label they’re given, they all have a purpose. What matters is: how one responds to how they feel and not how they feel. If ...
Views: 2131 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Sabotage Healthy Relationships with Men? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a woman can say to herself and others that she wants to be in a relationship with a man who is healthy and functional, it doesn’t mean that she will be attracted to a man who is like this. This can relate to woman who can’t seem to attract a guy that is healthy and for women who do attract ...
Views: 4074 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Try To Rescue Men? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a relationship between a man and woman is meant to be based on giving and receiving, this is not always the case. For some women, this will be exactly how it is for them and this is going to enhance their life. And yet for others, this will be far from what they can relate to. When ...
Views: 5334 - Relationships: Why Does 'Treat Them Mean And Keep Them Keen' Work? - by Submitted on Jun 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough some relationships are healthy, there are others that are completely dysfunctional. And when this is the case, they no longer have the ability to transform one’s life and to assist in their personal evolution. That is unless one leaves the relationship and uses the experience to ...
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