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Welcome Back Kotter (Likeability)!
By
Bill Cottringer
“Welcome back, Your dreams were your ticket out. Welcome back, To that same old place that you laughed about…”~John Sebastian, Lov’n Spoonful.
One of the most popular TV programs of my generation was “Welcome Back Kotter.” I can ... Views: 2311
As we pave the way for observing National Education Day later this year, time is fitting to take a hard look at our country’s education report card, build on our strengths and commit to plug the many shortcomings. Gauging conditions, there is one point that strikes immediately and that is the ... Views: 2310
Technology: The Ritalin Cure For ADHD
By
Bill Cottringer
“For normal people, the artificial urgency created by today’s hyper-speed technology is a demon to be tamed; for people with ADHD, it turns out to be an angle in disguise just needing to fly itself into being tired.” ~The author.
... Views: 2309
Getting seriously injured can be scary. Dealing with physical and emotional pain, helping your family cope, and then trying to come to grips with what just happened can stretch you thin. Relationships can become strained and money can run tight.
Chances are that if you’ve just been in a ... Views: 2306
“We live in a moment of history where change is so speeded up that we begin to see the present only when it is already disappearing.” – R.D. Laing
Life is short. Seize the moment. Live each day as if it were your last. We’ve all heard advice like this before but most of us struggle to take ... Views: 2302
A Sharp Dressed Man
Traveling with a business man brought some unexpected revelations. However, one particularly stands out. We arrive the night before the "big meeting". You know the one you have spent weeks preparing for, the one with one of your biggest clients (a $50M plus deal), and the ... Views: 2301
What is success?
Have you got any idea what success means, what it means to you specifically? Explore the idea of success for a moment and try to decide what it means to you. Does it mean?
1) Having power and fortune.
2) Fame and fortune.
3) Following your dreams and loving what you ... Views: 2301
Life is pretty easy to figure out; we just complicate it by reading too much into it. We are wired to figure things out which work for us and we try a new approach if it isn’t working.
A large part of getting to where you want to be is envisioning yourself already there. If you are a ... Views: 2300
The personal advantages to laughter and humor are not so much about being funny or the ability to tell jokes well. Rather, it is more about being open to humor, to finding it (almost) everywhere and taking it in. Humor makes us feel good (or better) and when we do, we work better, play better ... Views: 2293
One of the greatest myths about California child support payments is that there is anything to argue about.
California has a mandatory statewide guideline for child support, meaning that a judge must order the guideline amount unless the parents have a written agreement otherwise, or unless ... Views: 2291
One of the key principles in leading a more fulfilling life is to pursue an abundant mindset. Most people live in a scarcity mindset, and they believe that there is not enough for everyone, and because they do not think they have a chance of obtaining their wants and/or desires, they just give ... Views: 2287
I was thinking the other night while I was getting to sleep, how being on one of those flat elevators at the airport is a great metaphor for describing how friends come and go in our life.
While we are on them some people stay at the same speed as us, going only as fast as the elevator takes ... Views: 2287
Why Do Leaders Seek Mediocrity?
By John Grubbs
While conducting research for my upcoming book...
“Idiots Love Mediocrity”, I have discovered some powerful reasons that explain why leaders seek mediocrity rather than excellence for the organizations they serve. Surprisingly, the ... Views: 2286
I spent yesterday and this AM with a friend who was given medical results 2 days ago that her (cervical) cancer is terminal. She laughingly refers to herself as “the bag lady”, as she’s had kidney problems on this journey and also has a wrapped leg due to lyphodema. She’s in so much better ... Views: 2283
We can teach others how to treat us, but others also reflect to us how we treat ourselves (self-value), which is often a more subtle dynamic. Do you see how this creates a loop?
Let’s bypass childhood and more extreme scenarios, as both of those are different conversations. Let’s consider ... Views: 2283
Transcript from May 19, 2011 Blog Talk-Radio Show, A Fine Time for Healing http://www.blogtalkradio.com/randi-fine
We have, or will all experience shattering times or violations in our lives that wound us deeply. To quote Thomas Chandler Haliburton, “The memory of past favors is like a ... Views: 2281
Every single day, and I mean literally everyday, there are some decisions that you have to make. Actually, we are all required to make them regardless of our professional position in life. I am going to discuss two of these decisions from a list of seven that I have discovered. When we make ... Views: 2279
Practicing gratitude is one of the best habits we can develop. It not only changes our lives, but it affects others around us. Our gratitude is like a positive energy that can inspire and energize others. I knew a woman who always confessed that she had a black cloud that followed her ... Views: 2278
Learn this quick exercise, and when your mood falls down, pick it up fast. This whimsical yet spiritual exercise really works! Whatever problems you have on your mind be they personal or world problems: they can be more easily solved when you are in a better mood.
The HappyU Exercise
Get ... Views: 2278
Yes, I do.
Throughout my life I have had to deal with bullies. Some of my first memories are of my mother mistreating me physically and emotionally. I encountered numerous bullies as colleagues, and too many of them used me for target practice. I also married a man who nearly destroyed me ... Views: 2278
So much of this world is negative, bad and wrong. However, if we choose to stress about this fact, we waste precious moments to experience happiness, joy and blessings. We take a step toward greatness when we focus and share positivity instead of negativity, both in our lives and every place we ... Views: 2277
When you read the article title, does it rev you up or make you want to crawl back under the covers? Let’s look at what it means and go from there.
The dictionary offers several meanings for the word bold, not all of them nice. One of its definitions is fearless. There’s a difference between ... Views: 2275
Low self-esteem is a psychological condition that influences all sides of a person’s life: their career, relationships, health, sex life and social life. The vast majority of its consequences are ugly.
When a person has low self-esteem, it means they’re making an unwarrantedly negative ... Views: 2275
In May 2008, I went on a vacation to Thailand with my dear friend. We traveled there without a plan, a hotel room, or any converted dollars to baht. Just a commitment to have an incredible time, and return home with as many unique experiences as possible. By the end of our visit, we ... Views: 2274
Personal presentation skills include correct, method of portraying oneself in public or a social surrounding. It is basically the ability to enhance our communication skills in an appropriate manner. Whether in a completely official set up or while dealing with situations in our daily life, ... Views: 2269
There comes a time in our lives when things start taking an upward spiral as we get into a rhythm after having created our own winning formula to deal with the ebb and flow of life. There are many ways to play the game of life. However, the article below highlights the traits of the successful ... Views: 2269
Do you have a very strong locus of control? You know - you feel absolutely in control of your own destiny, know how to influence, make decisions, take risks, create results...
I'm a bit like that.
OK, a lot like that.
I've been an independent little tot since I was able to walk. Mum had ... Views: 2264
This is a new day. Treat it that way.
Do not be burdened by past results or beliefs.
Do not limit yourself today by what you were or weren’t able to accomplish yesterday.
Quit complaining.
Do you like being around complainers? Me either.
If you aren’t pleased with something, change ... Views: 2264
How would you describe a self-confident person? Generally, many people consider a self-confident person to be a perfect know-it-all, who is the center of attention, and never shows weakness.
Some folks confuse the terms self-confidence with self-esteem. The former is cosmetic, and may not be ... Views: 2262
I recently gave a TEDx talk in which I reflected on what I've seen and learned over the past fifteen years - researching, writing, and speaking about essential human experiences in the workplace. As I addressed in this talk, I believe that for us to thrive professionally, especially in today's ... Views: 2258
The importance of self-esteem is an unavoidable reality. All of us are impacted by our self-esteem, whether we recognize it or not. High self-esteem allows us to respect ourselves and makes it easier for others to respect us as well. When we feel good about ourselves we are more able to ... Views: 2258
Are you motivated?
Motivation or enthusiasm is a big concept for the survival of human mind, if look back in history, and the rise of any civilization there are some group of Enthusiasms and Motivated people either Scientists or Philosophers or politicians, or even normal working class, who are ... Views: 2256
Stress is generally perceived as a negative emotion considering the negative impact it has on a person’s mind and body. Although there is something called ‘good’ stress that is characterized by the pressure of a deadline that charges you to work harder and put in more effort, when we talk about ... Views: 2251
Restrictions. Restrictions everywhere. The thought arised to compose this article the moment I saw this quote. “To remember who you are, you need to forget who they told you to be.” Scary for some but needed for most.
From fictional characters like Superman or Goku to political patrons like ... Views: 2251
Today, I am bringing you some words of wisdom about true happiness. How do you feel about that title: "Desperate search for something that I know ultimately won't fulfill me"?
Let's play a little game, you and I, shall we? Tell me, What did you want ten years ago?
There's a good chance ... Views: 2247
Change! Such a loaded word. What comes to your mind when you think of the word change? Stop for a minute and try to answer that question. What types of feelings does it bring up in you? Hope, excitement, joy, or on the other hand, fear, anxiety, loss, or to make things more complicated, a ... Views: 2246
Smiling is a great stress buster and it can also change the environment around you. I have noticed the power of a smile when visiting workplaces for consulting or training projects. When the team is in their “serious mode”, it is obvious through their facial expressions (or lack of expression) ... Views: 2246
When you see a beautiful fruit tree and enjoy its fruits, you notice the seed inside the fruit. In this small seed, the mighty fruit tree grew. It produced the sweet fruit and created pleasure. It bore abundant fruit because it was carefully cultivated.
When you think of fruit, it is easy ... Views: 2244
I’ve been on a cancer journey for 3 years and I can honestly say that my life has been enriched by the experience. I’d like to share 5 ways I’ve learned to consciously cope well with cancer. These tips can apply to any kind of life challenge:
1. Face and feel your feelings fully.
It’s only ... Views: 2238
Do you remember your mother telling you "birds of a feather, flock together!"? She was right!
"Research confirms - and quantifies - it. Your chances of becoming happy increase by at least 15 percent if someone in your immediate social circle is happy." - Dr. Mehmet Oz
You know that you are ... Views: 2234
After a meeting with a client today I was struck at how positive my mood was. I reflected on why this was, and I came to the conclusion that it really boiled down to authenticity: to the opportunity for both of us to just ‘be real’. We both took advantage of that space that coaching affords – ... Views: 2232
Richard Bach said, “Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they are yours.” By the same token, argue for your blessings and they are also yours. I have a friend who wanted more love in her life so she set her watch to beep once an hour to remind her to take a deep breath and choose to feel ... Views: 2232
WHAT DO YOU THINK ARE THE 9 MOST IMPORTANT AREAS FOR YOU TO FOCUS ON TO CREATE LOVING RELATIONSHIPS?
* Do you think money is the solution? If only my partner and I had enough money....
* Do you think career is the solution? If only my partner and I had better careers, positions, jobs, ... Views: 2230
Yes, the 'silly season' is upon us again. People are about to wind down and get into festive party mode.
Not that this is a bad thing, no, not at all ! We all need rest and recreation. But, do make sure that you also make the most of this time for another vitally important activity - ... Views: 2228
Are you a perfectionist? Is the need for other people's approval a driving force in all that you do? Do you feel like nothing is ever good enough?
While some aspects of being a perfectionist are healthy, feeling the obsessive need to be perfect with everything can negatively affect our ... Views: 2226
The gratitude season is here. With Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah and the New Year on the horizon, maintaining a calm grateful attitude throughout the next several weeks will reduce your anxiety, put you in-control and increase your personal blessings tenfold. Your holiday season will be ... Views: 2225
I own a martial arts school. I've instructed martial arts for
many years. Also, like a lot of people, I’ve played sports. And in
my experience, you always have those individuals who don't
want to make a mistake.
It's like the football player who wants to be great and score a
bunch of ... Views: 2224
I am probably the only author who has used a quote from "Chicken Run", a very funny movie that's set in a chicken farm that oddly resembles a World War II concentration camp.
Many of us spend our lives, or at least parts of them, in self-imposed prisons. If this is our own doing, why do we ... Views: 2223
Shyness is a very common psychological occurrence. Oddly enough, recent studies are pointing out that our society is slowly but surely getting shyer, despite the fact methods of interacting with others are now more available than ever.
Psychologists are giving a lot of attention to the study ... Views: 2223
Often times you will find the person who wins thought they could win. From athletic contests to the lottery winning is fun and provides benefits to the victor. In some cases winning requires a long process of preparation and toil. Dedication and commitment are also often precursors to ... Views: 2221