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- Needy: Why Are Some People Needy? - by Submitted on May 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part is part of being human and this means they are nothing to be ashamed or something that one should try to remove. If each and every one of us was inherently independent, then we wouldn’t have needs. But as we are all interdependent, it means that we all have needs. ...
Views: 2895 - Happiness: Can Money Buy Happiness? - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile money can give someone the power to buy most things in life, it is often said that what it can buy is happiness. It then won’t matter how much money someone has, as the size of their ‘bank account’ won’t make any difference. And while being happy is something that most people want to ...
Views: 1793 - Inner Conflict: Is Inner Conflict Good Or Bad? - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is free from inner conflict, they are going to be able to experience inner peace. Not only this, but they will also experience a sense of clarity and this is going to make their life a lot easier. One could find that it is relatively easy for them to make decisions and for them to ...
Views: 2051 - Communication: Is It Important To Acknowledge Others? - by Submitted on May 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that human beings not only want to be noticed by others, they also want to be appreciated by them. But while these are two needs that each and every one of us would like to have fulfilled, it does mean that other people will always fulfil them. Generally, one would have ...
Views: 6208 - Emotionally Undeveloped: Why Are Some People Emotionally Undeveloped? - by Submitted on May 17, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperNot every part of a human being develops at the same rate, and this is to be expected. If one was to look at nature and see how a tree grows, they will soon see that the branches are not all the same length. Some are longer than others and at the same time, it hasn’t affected the tree. It is ...
Views: 4487 - Self Image: Who Defines Our Self Image? - by Submitted on May 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile no two people on the planet will view themselves in the same way, there are going to be people who have a self image that empowers them and there will also be people who have a self image that doesn’t empower them. And ones self image is something that can change as time goes by and is ...
Views: 1543 - Acceptance: Why Do Some People Find It Hard To Accept Themselves? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperOne of the greatest needs a human being has is to be accepted for who they are. But while this is the case, it doesn’t necessarily mean that one has been able to fulfil this need or that they believe it is even possible for them to fulfil it. If people were generally encouraged to be ...
Views: 3627 - Regret: Can Trapped Emotions Cause Someone To Have Regrets? - by Submitted on May 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone takes a certain action or a number of actions that don’t lead to the outcome that they desired, there is the chance that they will later come to experience regret. And while there is nothing that one can to do to change what took place, they will suffer nevertheless. This is ...
Views: 1627 - The Media: Does The Media Define What Is Attractive? - by Submitted on May 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn today’s world people don’t have to come to their own conclusions about what the world is like or what is true or what is not, as the media is there to do it for them. Now, if what the media presented was always accurate and there were no hidden agendas, this would be fine. But the ...
Views: 1505 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Always Need To Look Strong? - by Submitted on May 13, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings are inherently vulnerable, it doesn’t mean that they will always come across this way. And when this happens, they can come across as being unaffected by the challenges of life. This is not to be confused with people who are actually strong; as there are naturally going to ...
Views: 1715 - Relationships: Does Rescuing Others Keep Them Stuck? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAt times, one is going to feel the need to help another; either through someone asking for help or as a result of one offering their hand without being asked. And as human beings need help from time to time, it is good thing that there are people like this in the world. To help another ...
Views: 1847(1 vote) - Child Abuse: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is abused as a child, it is highly likely that they are going to have trouble feeling safe in life. This would have been something that they first experienced when they were growing up and something that has stayed with them throughout their adult years. So for some people, it ...
Views: 2064 - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Always Try To Impress Others? - by Submitted on May 11, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAs human beings, it is normal to want to look good, to give things, and to experience success for example. And yet, it is also possible for one to engage in each of these things just to impress others. To do this from time to time could be described as normal, but if one was to do this as a ...
Views: 28360 - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Always Need To Be Better Than Others? - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperBehind the desire to achieve and to have more can be the need for someone to fulfil their own wants and needs. And other people are also going to provide inspiration. No one is their own island and it is only natural that other people are going to play a part in what one does or doesn’t do ...
Views: 14457(1 vote) - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Walk All Over Others? - by Submitted on May 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people are used to having people walk all over them, there are other people who are used to walking all over others. The former is going to live a life of being violated and compromised, and the latter is going to live a life of violating and compromising others. Now, not everyone ...
Views: 2741 - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Only Feel Worthy When They Are Successful? - by Submitted on May 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people can feel worthy as a result of they are, other people can only feel worthy as a result of what they do. In the first case, ones worth has been internalised, and in the other, their worth is based on external factors. So the first person can just be and feel valuable without ...
Views: 1584 - Mindfulness: Can Mindfulness Cause Someone To Become Emotionally Disconnected? - by Submitted on May 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one reacts to what is going on externally or to what is going on internally, they are not experiencing self control and at times, this is to be expected; human beings are not robots after all. However, when one experiences no self control whosoever, they are going to find it difficult to ...
Views: 1733 - Boundaries: Why Do Some People Fear Setting Boundaries? - by Submitted on May 04, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn order to protect ones personal space and what they own, it will be important for them to set boundaries. Other people are not always going to know what ones boundaries are; if people could reads minds, it would be different. At times, other people will know what is appropriate and what is ...
Views: 3932 - Communication: Is Listening Important? - by Submitted on May 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFor some people, talking will be something they enjoy doing and this will be balanced out by their ability to listen. But there will also be people who are good at either talking or listening and yet, they will fall down when it comes to the other option. This is going to mean that they are out ...
Views: 1936 - Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Walked Over? - by Submitted on May 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile boundaries are essential, it doesn’t mean that they are going to be the same for everyone. One person could feel infringed upon when another person does something, and if this was to happen to someone else, it might not cause any problems. But although there will be differences in what ...
Views: 1779 - Resilience: Can Embracing Our Pain Lead To Resilience? - by Submitted on Apr 29, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperPain is part of life, and while this much is true, it doesn’t mean that this makes it any easier to accept it. And while there will be times when one does all they can to avoid pain, there will be other times when they are forced to face it. Experiencing pleasure is something that is more ...
Views: 1468 - True Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Supported When They Are Hiding Their True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to living ones truth, feeling supported is incredibly important. For if one doesn’t feel supported when comes to their own needs and wants, there is the chance that they will deny them. This could take place at certain times, or it could be something that has become a way of ...
Views: 1487 - Relationships: What Causes Enmeshed Relationships? - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile human beings are physically separate, it doesn’t mean that they are emotionally or intellectually separate. And as connecting to another human being involves opening up and allowing another person to open up, there are going to be moments where one merges with another. This is not only ...
Views: 2486 - Validation: Why Do Some People Always Need Validation From Others? - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf human beings were independent, it wouldn’t matter if other people validated them or not. They would be their own island and they would be able to give themselves all the validation they needed. But as human beings are interdependent, it means that they need to be validated by others. ...
Views: 24900 - Relationships: Why Do Some Women Ignore Their Intuition? - by Submitted on Apr 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that women are more intuitive than men, and this could be due to a number of reasons. One reason is because they are often more in touch with their feelings. Men on the other hand, are often more logical and out of touch with how they feel. This is simply a generalisation ...
Views: 2031 - Interpretations: Do Our Interpretations Define How We Feel? - by Submitted on Jan 20, 2015 from Oliver JR CooperOne thing that can be said about human beings is that we all want to feel good. This need is something that can enhance one’s life, and at the same time, it can also create problems. It can cause someone to grow and to evolve, and it can also cause them to stay stuck or to regress. For ...
Views: 1665 - Dependent: Why Are Some People Dependent? - by Submitted on Apr 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen people talk about what it means to be an adult, being independent is never too far away. Here, one will be empowered to live their own life and to support themselves. So whereas a child is dependent on their caregivers to survive, an adult is not dependent on anyone in particular. And so ...
Views: 2333 - Astrology: Why Do Some People Judge Others Based On Their Star Sign? - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are lots of ways for people to define themselves and to give their life meaning. And one of the ways that this can be done is for someone to get into astrology. In the western world, this will often involve someone finding out about their star sign and then seeing how they match up with ...
Views: 2502 - Impostor: Why Do Some People Feel Like Impostors? - by Submitted on Nov 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has worked hard to achieve something, it doesn’t mean that they feel as though they deserve it. The ideal would be for someone to feel as though they are worthy, no matter what they accomplish. However, there are some people who are unable to accept their achievements. ...
Views: 1794 - Objectification: Why Do Some Women Objectify Their Bodies? - by Submitted on May 24, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFeeling good is something we all want to experience and there are many ways to achieve this. One way this takes place is through receiving attention from other people; with this attention being positive. It is easy to feel down and unattractive when the attention from others is negative and/or ...
Views: 1904(1 vote) - True Self: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Hiding Their True Self? - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperMany words and phrases have been used to describe the true self, and while these differences do exist, they are simply labels. Underneath these labels is the same thing, and this relates to someone’s true needs and wants. The true self has been portrayed as something that is fixed, and based ...
Views: 1857 - Feelings: Why Are Some People Out Of Touch With Their Feelings? - by Submitted on Apr 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough feelings can be overlooked and seen as being unimportant, they are a vital part of who we are. They allow us to know what we need and want in each moment of our life, amongst other things. When someone is unaware of how they are feeling, they are disconnected from themselves. ...
Views: 6753 - Relationships: Why Do Some People It Find It Hard To Receive Love? - by Submitted on Apr 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperLove is something we not only want to receive from others; it is something we need to receive. And while love can mean different things to different people, the love that I am talking about here relates to: affection, kindness, support, validation, touch and compassion. This can be something ...
Views: 3756 - Self Worth: Why Do Some People Only Feel worthy When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Apr 14, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people feel accepted for who they are, there are other people who only feel accepted when they are pleasing other people. This could be something they are consciously aware of, or it could be something they are completely oblivious to. But there are going to be clear distinctions ...
Views: 1788 - Needs: Why Do Some People Always Put Other People's Needs Before Their Own? - by Submitted on Apr 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperHaving needs is part of being human and this means that they can’t be overlooked or denied without certain consequences arising. This doesn’t mean that one will always have their needs met; this is not going to be possible. But if one’s life has taken on a pattern where their needs are ...
Views: 2273 - Momentum: Is Momentum An Important Part Of Success? - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen something is moving, it can be a lot harder to stop it. And yet when something is not moving, it can be a lot harder to get it going. If a boulder was rolling down a hill for example, stopping it could be extremely difficult. If this boulder was not moving, getting it rolling could also be ...
Views: 3668 - Personal Power: Why Do Some People Believe They Have No Effect On Their Environment? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile having complete control of one’s environment would be practically impossible, what is possible is for one to have some control over their environment. And in some ways, the more control one has, the more empowered they will feel. Control is often seen as something negative and as ...
Views: 1585 - Needs: Why Do Some People Not Expect To Get Their Needs Met? - by Submitted on Apr 07, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIf human beings were not interdependent, it wouldn’t matter if other people were available to meet their needs. This is not to say that someone’s need’s can only be fulfilled by other people; this would be inaccurate and a sign of dependence, not interdependence. A child on the other hand, ...
Views: 2565 - People Pleasing: Why Do Some People Only Feel Safe When They Are Pleasing Others? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to behaviours that will have a negative impact on one’s life, trying to please others is high on the list. And this doesn’t relate to pleasing others on the odd occasion, it relates to trying to please others all of the time. To set out to please people every now and then is ...
Views: 1823 - Control Freaks: Why Are Some People Control Freaks? - by Submitted on Apr 05, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to describing someone who has the need to have complete control over every part of their life, the term control freak is often used. To experience a certain amount of control is not enough, the only thing that will do is having complete control of everything. And while control ...
Views: 2437 - Emotions: Why Do Some People Hide Their Emotions? - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that women show how they feel and men keep their feelings to themselves. And this is surely going to apply to some men and women, but not all of them. It is simply a generalisation and one that allows people to navigate their world more easily. One reason why it is this way ...
Views: 10753 - Happiness: Why Do Some People Feel Responsible For Other People's Happiness? - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen other people are unhappy, it can cause someone to feel a sense of concern and to be curious as to why they feel as they do. As a result of this, one can hope that this person begins to feel better and even see what they can do to help them. This could apply to anyone one meets that ...
Views: 2951 - Verbally Abusive Mothers: What Can Happen When Someone Is Verbally Abused By Their Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the moment someone is born, their mother has incredible power over them. She has the power to build them up or the power to tear them down. Ideally, one would have had a mother who was: loving, supportive and kind, for instance. But there are also people out there who had the complete ...
Views: 2066(1 vote) - Boundaries: What Stops People From Having Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile some people have boundaries and are therefore able to stand their ground, there are other people who don’t. For them, having boundaries is a challenge and this could relate to a certain area of their life or every area. Standing their ground may be something they do at times, but it ...
Views: 1766 - Success: Why Do Some People Sabotage Their Success? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst growth and progress are what many human beings seek, it doesn’t mean that this is what always takes place for them. There are some things that one might be able to achieve without too much trouble and others things that can always seem to remain out of their grasp. And while this ...
Views: 1635 - Painful Memories: Can Trapped Emotions Keep Painful Memories Alive? - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhile one can form memories that are pleasurable and remind them of moments that were special and uplifting, it is also possible for one to have memories that are painful. And these will remind them of moments that were stressful and even traumatic. This is part of life and there is unlikely ...
Views: 1494 - Relationships: Can Environmental Factors Stop Someone From Moving On From A Breakup? - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen a relationships ends, there is the chance that it will lead to one experiencing a lot of emotional pain. There is also the chance that one will be quiet happy with what has happened and although there may be a mild sense of loss for example, they will soon settle down and be on their ...
Views: 2235 - Relationships: Why Do Some People Need Others To Tell Them What To Do? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough each and every one of us is physically separate and therefore has our own needs and wants, it doesn’t mean that one is always aware of what these are. So instead of one looking within for guidance and a sense of purpose, they can end up looking to other people. This is what will be ...
Views: 1790 - Success: Does Success Depend On Who You Know Or What You Know? - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIn the modern day world, education is seen as an important part of becoming successful and as a means of increasing ones quality of life. And so getting the right qualifications or the right training for instance is therefore imperative when it comes to making progress. This sounds logical ...
Views: 4793 - Relationships: How Can Someone Know If Their Relationships Are Dysfunctional? - by Submitted on Mar 21, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are people on this planet who are experiencing relationships that are functional and healthy. This might be how it has always been, or it could be the result of them making certain changes throughout their life. On the other side of the spectrum will be people who are currently ...
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