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- Loving Yourself When Your Partner Is Needy - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2017 from Margaret PaulAre you an empathic person who feels others' pain and then takes responsibility for their feelings in an effort to alleviate their pain? Is it hard for you to feel others' pain without trying to fix them? Often, empathic people become caretakers to try to alleviate others' pain so they don't ...
Views: 1332 - ***How To Reassure Your Inner Child - by Submitted on Sep 05, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. August 22, 2016 Are you afraid that if you practice Inner Bonding, you will have to feel painful feelings that you have been avoiding your whole life with your various addictions? Most people who have done even a little bit of Inner Bonding know the power it has ...
Views: 1330 - ***What Are You Waiting For? - by Submitted on Jan 24, 2014 from Margaret PaulIs there something you've always wanted to do but have never done? What’s stopping you? “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” –Chinese Proverb How often do you say to yourself, "I wish I had…..?" ...
Views: 1327 - ***Do You Have The Courage to Love Yourself? - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD January 31, 2017 Discover why it takes great courage to learn to love yourself, and why it's so important to make loving yourself one of your highest priorities. Loving Yourself"Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more ...
Views: 1326 - “I Keep Attracting Narcissists” - by Submitted on Feb 05, 2018 from Margaret PaulSeema asked me this question during one of my webinars. It’s a question that I‘m often asked. “I seem to attract men who are often narcissistic, selfish, cheating and abusive. As much as I try to not repeat this pattern and learn my lessons and grow, I still find myself with this type of ...
Views: 1324 - ***Loving Yourself When Public Speaking - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 16, 2017 Has giving talks or presentations been scary for you? Discover why and what to do about it. Michael, one of my clients, asked me for help in one of our phone sessions: "I have to give a presentation to my boss and others on our staff on Friday. ...
Views: 1322 - ***Staying Centered in Conflict - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you conflict-avoidant? Does conflict terrify you? Discover how to heal this. ________________________________________ Angela writes: "I avoid conflict as much as possible because I cannot handle the anxiety it produces in me, as if I am going ...
Views: 1321 - ***Single? What Are Your False Beliefs About Relationships? - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ If you are single, do you relate to any of these false beliefs about being in a relationship? ________________________________________ I have discovered that many of the single people I work with have a number of false beliefs about relationships. If ...
Views: 1319 - ***Managing The Heartbreak of Not Being Seen or Heard - by Submitted on May 02, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. May 02, 2016 _________________________________________________________________________________ Learn to manage the shattering heartbreak of when someone doesn't grok you – doesn't see you, hear you or understand you. ...
Views: 1316 - ***Healing Your Inner Cult - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2015 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Heal your inner cult with the Six Steps of Inner Bonding. _______________________________________ What do you picture when you think of the word 'cult?' For me, what comes to mind is being involved in a community where you have to follow certain ...
Views: 1313 - ***Relationships: When Is It Okay To Call It Quits? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. October 10, 2016 Do you feel ready to leave your relationship but wonder whether or not this is the right time to call it quits? Many of my clients struggle with knowing when it's the right time to end a relationship. Mary asked me: "I married my first ...
Views: 1311 - Loving Yourself Rather Than Giving Yourself Up - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2018 from Margaret PaulMarina asked: “I often go out of my way and do different things for my fiancé. For example if he wants me to stay and do something with him, I cancel what I have to do and stay with him. But he never does the same. He takes care of whatever he feels he needs to. Then I’m filled with ...
Views: 1311 - ***Do You Define Your Adequacy By Looks and/or Performance? - by Submitted on May 24, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ What was valued and approved of in your family as you were growing up? ________________________________________ When you were growing up, how did you learn to define your worth? Here are some of the things my clients have said to me: • In my ...
Views: 1305 - *** Succeeding Through Failure - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2013 from Margaret Paul"I've missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. 26 times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. --Michael Jordan, Former Professional Basketball Player and ...
Views: 1304 - ***Finding The Partner Of My Dreams - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you seeking the formula for attracting the partner of your dreams? Here it is! ________________________________________ Rochelle asks: "If I assess myself quite objectively, if I know my accomplishments as well as my drawbacks, is there a ...
Views: 1303 - ***"I Lose My Cool In Relationships." - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you find that as soon as you really like someone – whether as a friend or as a partner – you 'lose your cool?' ________________________________________ Relationships offer us more opportunities for personal growth than just about anything else in ...
Views: 1301 - ***Loving Yourself When in Conflict - by Submitted on Nov 07, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. November 07, 2016 You have a much better chance at conflict resolution when you are loving yourself rather than trying to control the other person. One of the questions I often receive is about how to manage conflict. If you think back to the role-modeling you ...
Views: 1300(1 vote) - ***Is Unconditional Love Realistic? - by Submitted on Aug 08, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you have the expectation that you will receive unconditional love from a partner? Most of us would love the experience of being loved unconditionally by someone. This is the experience we needed when we were growing up, but most parents are not connected enough with themselves and ...
Views: 1298 - ***How To Be A Loving Advocate For Your Inner Child - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. September 27, 2016 What does it look like to be a loving advocate for your inner child? Learn how now! What does loving self-care really mean? Our wounded self and our loving adult have totally different concepts of what self-care really means. The wounded ...
Views: 1295 - ***Do You Believe You Are Worthy of Love? - by Submitted on May 23, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you sometimes find yourself resisting receiving love because you believe you don't deserve it? Have you ever heard yourself say, "I'm not worthy of love," or "I'm not worth loving," or "I'm unworthy of God's love"? I frequently hear this from my ...
Views: 1291 - ***Loving Yourself Fiercely and Relentlessly - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD January 23, 2017 How fiercely and relentlessly devoted are you to wanting to love yourself and wanting to learn to treat yourself lovingly? Gerard sat opposite me at one of my Inner Bonding Intensives. "My body hurts and I feel irritated," he complained, in a ...
Views: 1285 - Loving Yourself Can Heal Fear - by Submitted on Mar 27, 2017 from Margaret Paul"I believe that anyone can conquer fear by doing the things he fears to do, provided he keeps doing them until he gets a record of successful experiences behind him." ~Eleanor Roosevelt I know from my own experiences that what Eleanor Roosevelt said in the above quote is very true. - I ...
Views: 1284 - ***Why Can't I Commit? - by Submitted on Mar 28, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you have problems committing to a relationship, or are you involved with someone who has a fear of commitment? Louis wrote to me: "I have been dating an amazing girl, but recently ended it because I am not sure if she is good for me. Our relationship has ...
Views: 1281 - ***Does Your Life Feel Alive And Meaningful? - by Submitted on Jun 20, 2016 from Margaret PaulDo you find that nothing really excites you or holds much meaning for you? Does your life lack aliveness, passion and purpose? Vera sought out counseling with me because her doctor advised her to discover the emotional causes of her chronic fatigue. Vera, a successful stockbroker, was in a ...
Views: 1279 - ***Where Kindness Comes From - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you allow your natural kindness to shine forth? "Kindness is an inner desire that makes us want to do good things even if we do not get anything in return. It is the joy of our life to do them. When we do good things from this inner desire, there is kindness in everything we ...
Views: 1279 - Loving Yourself When Feeling Overwhelmed - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2018 from Margaret PaulIn our stressful society, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. It’s easy to feel inundated with all we need to do, and besieged when too much is coming at us at once. It’s my experience that overwhelm comes from two different places: -If you are a highly sensitive person – which means that your ...
Views: 1279 - ***Does Controlling Others Make You Feel Happy? - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2013 from Margaret PaulAre you aware of the feelings you cause yourself when you attempt to control others rather than love yourself? "I have never been able to conceive how any rational being could propose happiness to himself from the exercise of power over others." - Thomas ...
Views: 1266 - ***Developing The Habit Of Loving - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. Like anything worth learning, developing the habit of loving takes practice. As you practice Inner Bonding, your brain develops the habit of loving. "We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." ~ Aristotle All of us develop ...
Views: 1262 - ***Friendship: Connection or Neediness? - by Submitted on May 02, 2014 from Margaret PaulDo you have problems having truly connected friendships? Friendship is a big topic. There are people who always seem to have many friends, and others who can't seem to find the way to make friends. Some people have deeply connected friendships, and others have only superficial ...
Views: 1260 - Why Self-Abandonment Can Kill You - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2020 from Margaret PaulWhy Self-Abandonment Can Kill You Click here to register for this webinar. This event will be recorded and available free for one week after the webinar - You will receive an email for the link when you register. https://www.innerbonding.com/webinar/3827 Hosted By Dr. Margaret ...
Views: 1260 - ***Relationships: When To Let Go and Move On - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Are you staying in an abusive relationship because you believe you can change it or not be bothered by it? ________________________________________ The question of when to leave a relationship comes up over and over with my clients and with the ...
Views: 1259 - *** Over-Talking: The Need to Talk Too Much - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2014 from Margaret PaulAre you aware of needing to talk too much, or have you been with people who go on and on? There is a good reason for this. I have found over the years of practicing Inner Bonding that the more I listen to myself, the less need I have for others to listen to me and hear me. Not that ...
Views: 1254 - ***Loving Yourself When Feeling Engulfed and Controlled - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD November 15, 2016 What do you do when someone is trying to control you? Do you give in, argue or resist? Discover how to love yourself instead of abandoning yourself. Loving yourselfMost of us have had the experience in our relationships of someone trying to ...
Views: 1248 - ***Intimacy With Others Starts From Within - by Submitted on Nov 01, 2013 from Margaret PaulHave you wondered why you may be having a hard time connecting with others? "Intimacy begins with oneself. It does no good to try to find intimacy with friends, lovers, and family if you are starting out from alienation and division within yourself." - Thomas ...
Views: 1247 - ***Embracing Panic - by Submitted on Jul 03, 2014 from Margaret PaulDiscover how to manage panic in a way that allows it to dissipate rather than escalate. "That's the strange thing about panic – when we lean into it, it loosens it's grip on us." Daniel Siegel, M.D. "The power of reflection allows us to approach, rather than ...
Views: 1246 - ***Accessing Great Thoughts From Your Spiritual Guidance - by Submitted on Dec 27, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD December 27, 2016 ________________________________________ Have you discovered what connects you with your spiritual Guidance and supports you in downloading 'great thoughts?' ________________________________________ "All truly great thoughts are conceived ...
Views: 1243 - ***Are You Hard On Yourself? 9 Reasons to Love Yourself Instead - by Submitted on Jan 31, 2014 from Margaret PaulIf you are hard on yourself, do you believe that this is helpful to you? You might want to re-evaluate this false belief. Are you hard on yourself? Do you think this is a good thing? Do you believe this motivates you to do better? Think again. If you are doing well, it's likely in ...
Views: 1243 - ***Are You Relationship-Avoidant? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you believe that you want a relationship but never seem to find the 'right one?' ________________________________________ Most people say they want to be in a relationship, yet they consistently do things that keep them from achieving this. If you ...
Views: 1241 - ***Relationships: Hanging in Through the Hard Stuff - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2013 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you have the courage to hang in through the hard times and do the learning and healing we all need to do to create a loving relationship? ________________________________________ Are you committed to working through the difficult and painful ...
Views: 1241 - Passionate Purpose, Vibrant Health! A 30-Day at home - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2020 from Margaret PaulPassionate Purpose, Vibrant Health! A 30-Day at home Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul The next course will start on April 15th, 2020, and is offered only once a year. Are you ready to discover your calling, and have the health and vitality to pursue it? Passionate Purpose, Vibrant ...
Views: 1238 - Are These False Beliefs Controlling Your Life? - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2018 from Margaret PaulWhat limiting beliefs are controlling your life? Do you identify with any of these common false beliefs? All of us absorbed numerous deep false beliefs as we were growing up, and these beliefs now govern much of what occurs in our work and our relationships. It is sometimes challenging to ...
Views: 1233 - ***Are You a Trash Can for Others' Negativity? - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. July 11, 2016 Do you allow others to dump their negativity - their complaints, judgments, anger, self-centeredness and sense of entitlement - onto you? Carmen, a client of mine, told me at the end of one of her sessions, "I'm no longer willing to be a trash can ...
Views: 1233 - ***How To Stay Joyful All The Time - by Submitted on Aug 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. These three simple – but not always easy – choices can create such incredible joy! One of the things I love to do is walk every morning out in nature and do my Inner Bonding process. I've been walking almost every morning for at least the last 40 years, and doing ...
Views: 1228 - ******Filling Up Emptiness From The Inside - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2014 from Margaret PaulFor many people, inner emptiness is a big problem. They believe that they can fill their emptiness from the outside, which is a false belief. The cause of inner emptiness is a lack of a loving connection with your inner child - your essence, your true Self, your Being, which then results in ...
Views: 1223 - ***The Gifts Of Laughter And Tears - by Submitted on May 24, 2016 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, Ph.D. May 23, 2016 When you do not allow yourself to express yourself with laughter and tears, physical pain, due to stress and a lack of passion for life, may be the result. Ron grew up in a household where laughter and tears were never expressed. Anger was the main ...
Views: 1216 - ***Loving Yourself in the Face of Others' Expectations - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD February 07, 2017 How often are you stressed and frazzled in trying to meet others' expectations? You can learn to love yourself instead! I was staying at a friend's house on one of my teaching trips. I walked into the kitchen early one morning to find my friend ...
Views: 1213 - ***Do You Have Patience? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2016 from Margaret PaulHas having patience been a challenge for you? Discover an underlying cause of impatience. Some people seem to be naturally patient. I'm not one of those people. I think I was born impatient. I have spent a lot of time cultivating having patience and trying to understand what triggers me ...
Views: 1212 - ***Does Your Partner Judge You In Front Of Others? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Do you get stuck not knowing what to say or do when your partner treats you disrespectfully? ________________________________________ Louise asked me: "Do you have any suggestions on what to say when my husband says unloving words to me in front ...
Views: 1203 - ***Why Loving Yourself Creates Sexual Passion With Your Partner - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2017 from Margaret PaulBy Margaret Paul, PhD February 13, 2017 Discover the great benefits to your relationship in learning to love yourself! What creates sexual passion? • First, there needs to be sexual chemistry between two people. Sexual chemistry can sustain passion for a while, but it isn't enough ...
Views: 1199 - ***"Is There Hope For Our Relationship?" - by Submitted on Feb 28, 2014 from Margaret Paul________________________________________ Discover what you can do to give your relationship a chance. ________________________________________ Lauren asks: "I have been married for 12 years, our marriage has always been a struggle of various forms. I have gotten to feel so empty and ...
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