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- They'll Call You Crazy and Lock You Up! - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Dan L. HaysAfter years of struggling as a writer, by 1996, I had written two books, had publishers interested in both, and had walked away each time. Finally, in complete frustration, I gave up the dream of being a writer. I still felt something was locking up my writing, but I had no idea what it was. ...
Views: 1870(3 votes) - Letting Go: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Letting Go? - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen one is unable to let go, they’re going to end up using their energy to hold onto what they no longer need. And as they no longer need what they’re holding onto, it is not going to affect their ability to receive anything new. What one is holding onto no longer has a purpose and it is ...
Views: 1869 - Broken Sons of Narcissistic Mothers - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineSons of a Narcissistic Mothers Randi G. Fine, Author From the book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery © 2017 The experience I have with sons of narcissistic mothers was gained through my counseling work with them. I can assure ...
Views: 1867 - Learn to Protect Yourself From This Insidious Form of Abuse - by Mobbing in the workplace has long been studied in Europe (just look it up on a search engine). Now authors Elliott, Davenport, and Schwartz discuss this disturbing phenomenon in America in "Mobbing: Emotional Abuse in the American Workplace." It's about collective assault in the office, on the ...
Views: 1866 - Loving a Borderline - by Submitted on Mar 12, 2015 from Darlene LancerCaring about someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) tosses you on a roller coaster ride from being loved and lauded to abandoned and bashed. Being a borderline (having BPD) is no picnic, either. You live in unbearable psychic pain most of the time on the border between reality and ...
Views: 1864 - Power To Set Yourself Free - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2009 from Vonzel SawyerThis posting is about forgiveness. I don’t know about you, but most of the time when I have seen forgiveness addressed it involves the actions of two or more persons. This posting will take a more focused view where it mainly involves action of a single person. Part of improving oneself leads ...
Views: 1863(4 votes) - There's a fine line - by Submitted on May 03, 2011 from Teresa JoyceI am a first time author and I have written a book about my own personal experience. My direct web page – http://chipmunkapublishing.co.uk/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&products_id=1822 After an accident in which I injured my back, I was ill health retired. This has given me the time ...
Views: 1862(1 vote) - 5 Methods of Drug Abuse - by Submitted on May 08, 2013 from Lara SchusterIn order for drugs to affect the brain they must first be put into the body. There are five methods of drug use which allow drugs to enter the body: swallowing, smoking, snorting, through suppositories and injecting. 1. Swallowing Ingesting or swallowing drugs is the most common method of ...
Views: 1858 - Coping With Your Abuser - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2003 from Sam VakninHow to cope with your abuser? Sometimes it looks hopeless. Abusers are ruthless, immoral, sadistic, calculated, cunning, persuasive, deceitful - in short, they appear to be invincible. They easily sway the system in their favor. Here is a list of escalating countermeasures. They represent the ...
Views: 1856(2 votes) - Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2008 from Sam Vaknin(I use "she" throughout this article but it applies to male victims as well) Contrary to popular misconceptions, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Acute Stress Disorder (or Reaction) are not typical responses to prolonged abuse. They are the outcomes of sudden exposure to severe or ...
Views: 1855 - Grieving - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceGrief – it’s a word we can all relate to, if we have ever suffered the pain of losing someone close to us. It’s a word that is associated with love, the empty feeling it leaves behind as the bottom of our world falls out. It’s a word that is associated with death, as we try to move on in our ...
Views: 1854(1 vote) - Whitney, Michael, Heath, Who’s Next? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2012 from Cory CouillardThe shocking death of the pop star Whitney Houston brings prescription drug use and abuse into the spotlight once again. The deadly combination of Lorazepam, Diazepam, Xanax, and sleeping medications killed Houston in her bathtub at the Beverly Hilton. Clearly this is not an isolated event ...
Views: 1854(1 vote) - Narcissistic Pride Trumps Personal Health and Safety - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineNarcissists Need to Show Perfection to the World, At Any Cost There is an elderly woman I know (whom I will not name) whose narcissism is so severe that it is physically destroying her. This woman has been suffering from a painful auto-immune disease for thirty-five years. Progressively ...
Views: 1853 - MADD and the NFL? What do they have in common? - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2012 from Cynthia Shelby-LaneWhat do Mother’s Against Drunk Driving (MADD) and The National Football League (NFL) have in Common? They are Partners. The NFL partnered with MADD in 2010 and endorsed their “Campaign to Eliminate Drunk Driving”. “MADD and the National Football League joined forces in 2010 to ...
Views: 1852(1 vote) - Substance Abuse and Violent Crime - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2012 from Debra DavisViolent crime has been closely associated with substance abuse since Prohibition was in effect in the United States more than 80 years ago. Since then rates of violent crime have skyrocketed, especially in the decades after the US government took up an active war on drugs. But while a great deal ...
Views: 1852(1 vote) - Personal RESPONSIBILITY - by Submitted on Feb 21, 2011 from Donna TorbicoOWNING MY T.E.A You may push my buttons, but I’m responsible for my Thoughts, Emotion & Actions WHAT IS IT? In it’s simplest form: honestly admitting, to ourselves, first of all, what we feel, think & have done - or - not. (Review T.E.A. - Thoughts, Emotions, Actions, pg 54 ) “I cannot ...
Views: 1846 - Ten Tips Prevent Narcissistic Re-victimization - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2019 from Randi FineTen Ways to Prevent Narcissistic Re-victimization One of the greatest fears of those in recovery from narcissistic abuse is re-victimization. People feel powerless against the covert mind control used by narcissists to trap unknowing victims. Knowledge is power. Awareness is protection. ...
Views: 1842(1 vote) - Common Sense Ways to Stay Friends With a Victim - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownAre you frustrated with someone you care about who appears to be the victim of a perpetrator? Do you find yourself getting angry for this person? We all have examples of these situations and we often struggle with what to say, how much time to spend with the victim, and how to continue being ...
Views: 1841(1 vote) - How to Quit Cigarettes For Good - by Submitted on Jun 13, 2011 from Michael WestbrookDo you have to discover ways to stop smoking cigarettes? How many times have you commented to yourself or somebody else, “I really should discontinue using tobacco,” only to turn around and blaze still another cigarette? In the event you are like most smokers, your response may be: “A great ...
Views: 1841 - A New Perception for Healing Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2007 from Marilyn RedmondIt is time to treat the whole person including emotional and subconscious aspects originating domestic violence and move beyond the current theory of behavioral and book solutions. When treating the whole person results are effective and long term, not the usual shallow help. Growing into ...
Views: 1839 - Abusive Behavior Part 2 - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2007 from Wayne MisnerAbusive Behavior Part 2 By Wayne L. Misner (MenDontListen@aol.com) 12. Do you physically force or emotionally coerce your partner to have sex? The breakdown of the 98.43% who answered: ...
Views: 1839 - What To Do If Your Child Is Being Sexually Exploited On The Internet - by Discovering that your child is being sexually exploited through the internet is a highly traumatic experience for both parent and child. Your child may be panicking, frightened that they have done wrong and will be punished, so much so that it may be hard to get any information from them. ...
Views: 1838 - Narcissistic Abuse | Betrayal | Divorce | Codependency | People Pleasing | Authenticity | Backbone - by Submitted on Mar 26, 2018 from Dr. Anne BrownHave you been a victim or do you know someone who's a victim of Narcissistic Abuse and Betrayal? Are you getting a Divorce? Do you want to learn more about Codependency and People Pleasing? Learn why havingAuthenticity and Backbone will help you. Be among the first to see my newest blog ...
Views: 1834(1 vote) - A Closer Look at Abuse - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2011 from Diane BabcockA stagnant stigma Let us take good look at the stagnant stigma surrounding abuse and see abuse for what it really is: an oppressed, suppressed, repressed mighty universal power that has been stolen – mostly feminine. Now look closer. It takes extraordinary resilience and endurance to ...
Views: 1833(1 vote) - Advantages of Multi-Panel Drug Test - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2010 from Aaron PeterDrug testing at homes, workplaces, schools, and sports is important as it helps to identify drug addiction among teenagers, employees, students, and athletes respectively. Performing drug testing using multi-panel urine drug test is easy, convenient, and provides quick results. Multi-panel urine ...
Views: 1829(2 votes) - College bullying: a temporary issue or severe illness of the young society? - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2020 from Amanda Sparks“It will get better.” This is the common statement to victims of bullying, often made by celebrities – celebrities who were once bullied themselves. And there is also this common belief that once a victim leaves high school and moves onto college, it’s over. It’s Not Over Not so fast. ...
Views: 1826(2 votes) - Depression And The Traveler Within Us All - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2010 from Shayne and Lori NorthThe road was long, dusty and rough. It went on winding through the forest and was strewn with rocks and ruts, which was hard on the feet. A lone pair of soft leather slippers worn by a tired peasant trod along its path. The road started up a hill, passing under a large oak tree overhanging the ...
Views: 1825(2 votes) - Transcending: Turning Pain into Poetry - by Writing poetry based in personal experience gives us a chance to focus on small, manageable pieces of past events and transform them into art. When we turn our painful memories into poetry, we remember our experiences, validate them and examine them from a new perspective. As we write, we ...
Views: 1825 - Abusive Behavior-Part1 - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2007 from Wayne MisnerIt's very possible the questionnaire can be skewed in various ways. For a number of reasons more women have filled out the form. It’s possible that men who have been abused may be too embarrassed to admit it. Mirroring the old joke of men not asking for directions, it seems they ...
Views: 1824 - Writing Through PTSD - by Submitted on Aug 05, 2011 from Dan L. HaysWhen I was six years old I felt very connected with God. I had a sense of peace about my world, and knew, I just knew, that one day I would become a famous writer. It was a sense of destiny that was as tangible as anything I’ve experienced since. I started my first novel at age 13, something ...
Views: 1824(2 votes) - When Parents Control - 3 Keys to Breaking Free from Parental Control - by Submitted on Mar 23, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.A controlling parent can have as much a crippling effect on an adult child as on an intimate partner. And I’m sure you know why. But help for that adult child is touch and go. There are no shelters for them, yet they have many of the same financial issues as battered women. If they haven’t ...
Views: 1823 - Cyberbullying - The H1N1 of Technology: Causation - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Holli KenleyPart One: Causation © Holli Kenley On January 14, 2010, a bright young 15 year old high school student named Phoebe Prince took her own life after enduring a lengthy period of relentless cyber bullying. As reported by Kennedy ( 2010), the activity directed towards Phoebe was designed to ...
Views: 1818 - Finding The Right Psychiatrist For You - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2012 from Teresa JoyceWe are entering a mind field here where the only way to find the right help for you is by trial and error, in my own experience I spent so many years doing just that. At times I felt as if here was no one out there that could ever fill those shoes. The key here is to consider other aspects of ...
Views: 1815(1 vote) - When Anguish Overwhelms Take These 4 Steps Before Other Action - by Submitted on Sep 16, 2016 from Gary DirenfeldIt just happened. You discover an infidelity; a partner signals an intention to separate; someone has passed away; there’s been some kind of personal tragedy. In the midst of anguish life feels totally out of control; is turned upside down; is overwhelming. Anguish, in the midst of a ...
Views: 1814 - Addiction And The Criminal Justice System - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2008 from David CarrollStraight off the top… Addicts for one reason or another, have a problem coping with every day life in our Society! Drugs fill some void in their life, family or personality. A large number of people, who progress to the stage of drug use that is Addiction, are self-medicating! Many Addicts’ ...
Views: 1808 - Childhood Abuse: When the past is present - by Submitted on Jun 09, 2009 from Dr. Kathleen YoungWHAT IS CHILDHOOD ABUSE? Child abuse can take the form of any act of emotional, physical or sexual abuse perpetrated against a child. Child abuse can also take the form of neglect: ignoring the child's emotional and or physical needs. Child abuse can take place inside and outside of the ...
Views: 1808(3 votes) - Is Narcissistic Personality Disorder the same as Narcissism? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineNarcissism is an instinctive trait of self-love that everyone possesses to some degree. In infancy we all possess traits of narcissism that are appropriate for that level of development such as self-absorption, omnipotence and grandiosity. However, these same characteristic are seen as ...
Views: 1808 - Every Month Should Be Child Abuse Prevention Month! - by Submitted on May 29, 2009 from Miss Becka MarschEvery month should be Child Abuse Prevention Month. As a parent educator, mother of three children and former preschool teacher, I am appalled by the growing rate of child abuse, neglect, maltreatment and murders in our country. Why is it that, in a country such as ours, where we are always ...
Views: 1805(1 vote) - Support child charity to stop abuse - by Submitted on May 16, 2012 from alex charlsIf your youth work in a low paid job in the very tender age of their life then your nation can never bring anything good to your country or to the world in bigger aspect. Children are the future of the nation. But the financial problem is highly responsible in the poor families which leads the ...
Views: 1803(1 vote) - What is Abuse? - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam VakninAbusers exploit, lie, insult, demean, ignore (the "silent treatment"), manipulate, and control. There are a million ways to abuse. To love too much is to abuse. It is tantamount to treating someone as an extension, an object, or an instrument of gratification. To be over-protective, not to ...
Views: 1803(1 vote) - ***Female Violence: Problems & Solutions - by Submitted on Sep 20, 2008 from Kathy SeifertViolence in the family is a major source of teen female violence. The future well-being of a society is directly linked to its ability to care for and educate its young. Families that cannot successfully care for their young, nurture the seeds of future violence and criminality. Until we learn ...
Views: 1802 - Child Abuse Prevention Month: Prevention and Education Resources - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2011 from Lisa SiegleApril is Child Abuse Prevention Month in the US, where 906,000 children are victims of abuse or neglect every year. Risk factors include family history of abuse, stress and lack of support, alcohol or drug abuse, and domestic violence. The majority of children in out-of-home care are victims ...
Views: 1799(3 votes) - “I Felt Completely Violated” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhilst my mother was in hospital recovering from her stroke, towards the end of 2010, it was just me and my father at home. But even though my mother wasn’t there, it was so much more peaceful. And this was something that became clear when my mother came out of hospital; the energy of our ...
Views: 1799 - A Brief History of the 12 Step Program by Alcoholic Anonymous - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from addiction professorIf you haven't heard of the Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) 12 Step Program, you are a rare individual. AA started the 12 Step Program in 1935. The 12 steps collectively make up the methodological approach developed for fighting alcoholism, as well as other addictive behavior patterns. Dr. Bob ...
Views: 1796(1 vote) - Talk of Tigers/The Tiger Unveiled - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysTalk of Tigers (Written March 9, 1990) "Tell me about your tiger," she said. They were at the zoo, standing in front of the tiger cage. A huge, restless Bengal tiger paced back and forth the length of the cage. His eyes looked devoid of life, cold, neutral. The huge paws silently padded up ...
Views: 1793(4 votes) - “REAL RAPE” - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2016 from Roni Weisberg-RossThis past weekend I read an article in the New York Times Sunday Magazine entitled “To Catch A Rapist”. It highlighted the work of a dedicated inspector and some of her colleagues in the Special Victims Unit of Law Enforcement in New Haven, Conn. and the repeated roadblocks they come up against ...
Views: 1792 - Coping with Your Stalker - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2008 from Sam VakninAbuse by proxy continues long after the relationship is officially over (at least as far as you are concerned). The majority of abusers get the message, however belatedly and reluctantly. Others – more vindictive and obsessed – continue to haunt their ex-spouses for years to come. ...
Views: 1789 - Domestic and Workplace Violence - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2010 from Peter StoneWhen are people going to get real? When society reads in the newspaper or catches on local news channels the headlines: Murder-Suicide, Domestic Abuse Homicide, or Workplace Violence, they are intrigued out of the common interest that everyone has been frustrated in a relationship at home, ...
Views: 1789(2 votes) - How to heal from an abusive relationship. - by Submitted on Sep 01, 2013 from Heather WattersHealing from an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to do. Many people never truly heal, and thus stay a victim for the rest of their life. Learn how you can start the healing process to become a better you! Healing from an abusive relationship is one of the hardest things to ...
Views: 1789(1 vote) - Demonizing - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Kate JarosinskaDemonizing is a coping mechanism that we employ to painlessly process our fears. It is the act of projecting onto a person, situation or environment-separation. Any time we speak negatively of another person, situation or environment, we are claiming that this seemingly separate experience is ...
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