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- Recovering From Abuse; Is It Possible? - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2010 from Esther AdlerSpousal abuse is devastating in every aspect. It creates deep wounds in the abuser, abused and anyone within close proximity to the experience. As a child, I not only witnessed my mother being abused by my father, but I too was severly abused. The violence created survival instincts so intense, ...
Views: 2071 - Alcohol Test to Control Drunk Driving - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2009 from Anne HamiltonThe holiday season is considered to be one of the most hectic times for police and traffic departments due to the significant increase in impaired or drunk driving. According to the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), there are more than 1000 people in America who are killed ...
Views: 2070(2 votes) - Preventing Relapse By Taking Action In All Areas Of Your Life - by Submitted on Mar 19, 2014 from Scott RobertsDo you have an addiction you simply can’t seem to get rid of? Try these techniques to help you boost success: Improve your mental and physical health It takes mental stamina and physical health to prevent relapsing. Trying to fight off an addiction is very draining mentally and physically. ...
Views: 2070 - Abuse: Have You Gone From Being A Victim To Being A Perpetrator? - by Submitted on Dec 16, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that abuse is passed down from one generation to another and it can be hard for people to understand why this happens. However, the next generation are not the only ones who can end up being abused; it is also something that can affect the people who the abuser comes into ...
Views: 2069 - Verbal Abuse - How To Stay Out Of The Line Of Fire When It Comes To Verbal Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.The moment the verbal assault springs off his/her tongue, the natural reflex is “ouch.” Correct? But lucky for you, it doesn’t have to be. Let’s face it, you cannot control what’s up with another person, much less what they dish out, but you certainly can control ...
Views: 2069(1 vote) - The Hunt - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. Hays(Written September 20, 1988) We were in a house trailer just outside the Lindreth trading post, in northwest New Mexico. There were six of us on the hunt that year: My Dad and I; Morris - Dad's best friend, and his son Brad; Don - who owned the trailer and was to be our guide, and his son ...
Views: 2066(9 votes) - Verbally Abusive Mothers: What Can Happen When Someone Is Verbally Abused By Their Mother? - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperFrom the moment someone is born, their mother has incredible power over them. She has the power to build them up or the power to tear them down. Ideally, one would have had a mother who was: loving, supportive and kind, for instance. But there are also people out there who had the complete ...
Views: 2066(1 vote) - Low Self-Esteem and Addiction: The Siamese Twins - by Submitted on Apr 25, 2017 from Hafiz AkindeLow self-esteem is a thinking disorder in which individuals view themselves as inadequate, unlovable, or incompetent. There are many manifestations of low self-esteem, the worst of them being addiction. There’s no doubt that low self-esteem is one of the chief causes of addiction. The ...
Views: 2065(1 vote) - Child Abuse: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is abused as a child, it is highly likely that they are going to have trouble feeling safe in life. This would have been something that they first experienced when they were growing up and something that has stayed with them throughout their adult years. So for some people, it ...
Views: 2064 - Sin, Virtue and Society - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2010 from Mark GillespieThe seven deadly sins were the seven cardinal sins enumerated by Saint Thomas Aquinas in the 13th century – pride or vanity, envy, gluttony, greed or avarice, lust, sloth, and wrath or anger. These seven certainly are the cause of much human misery and may even be among those faults that condemn ...
Views: 2063 - Bullying: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Be Bullied? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are many forms of bullying around today and some of these are more overt than others. At times, this is done in a way that is so subtle, that it can take place without anyone even noticing. And while bullying has taken place for many, many years, and is nothing new, the internet has ...
Views: 2059 - Relationship Violence: You Don't Know Because She Hasn't Told You - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2012 from Anna MossAbusive relationships are largely invisible to the public, most of whom are illiterate about this realm of life. Acts of abuse mostly take place behind closed doors and can go on for some time before there is visual evidence. For example, you can’t tell by looking that: • A woman was ...
Views: 2059(2 votes) - I Was My Parent's Son - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2018 from David HarmAs the years begin to pass me by, it is hard not to reflect on my life. Lost friendships, lost loves… just so much lost. Don’t get me wrong, I am very happy with how my life has turned out, yet I can’t help and look back at the destruction of my life. From early childhood, watching my ...
Views: 2058 - Taking Care of You: 54 Ways to Nurture and Self-Care - by Submitted on May 28, 2011 from Gail OKeeffeLearning to take care of yourself is at the very core of your healing process. It’s a way to demonstrate self-love and respect of yourself. No matter how busy you get, making time to care for yourself—mind, body, and spirit—is a must. Neglecting self-care can have negative effects on body, ...
Views: 2058(1 vote) - Healing: Do We Heal When We Are Ready? - by Submitted on Feb 19, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has experienced some kind of abuse as a child and this could be physical emotional, verbal or sexual, there is often the need to recover as fast as possible. To look for the answers and to find the solution or solutions that will make everything better. This is natural and must ...
Views: 2057 - Understanding the Dynamics of Verbal Abuse in Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Verbal abuse is toxic. The following is Kate Carlson, OTR/L interviewing domestic abuse consulting expert Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. in an effort to help people recognize and understand verbal abuse in unhealthy relationships. 1) KATE CARLSON: In your words, please define verbal abuse and ...
Views: 2051 - Domestic Violence On The Rise - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2009 from Joan HangarterDOMESTIC VIOLENCE ON THE RISE- HOW CAN YOU PROTECT YOURSELF Just this summer, Governor Schwarzenegger cut funding for all Domestic Violence Programs in the state of California as part of his $489 million in budget cuts. You certainly don’t need to be a psychic to predict an increase in ...
Views: 2045(4 votes) - Domestic Violence Victims and Soldiers--What Do They Have in Common? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Gayle Joplin Hall“A battlefield is a battlefield. I don’t care where you are fighting it. Unless you have lived through fearing for your life on a nightly basis, you cannot imagine what war is like." - Dr. Gayle J. Hall. A victim of domestic violence fights for her life on a daily basis, just like a soldier ...
Views: 2043(1 vote) - Independence Day - Little Danny Set Free! - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2011 from Dan L. HaysFor the last two years I've been working to overcome the effects of damage done by my Grandmother, who we all called Mamaw. When I was 8 years old, she asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I said a famous writer, and she was appalled, and said "If you are a famous writer, they'll call ...
Views: 2042(7 votes) - Plato's Cave - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2009 from Beau HermesIn the book The Republic, Plato tells the story of prisoners of war that were held captive in a cave for such a long period of time, they could not remember their lives before their captivity. These men were forced to face the back of the cave wall for decades, while a fire burned behind them ...
Views: 2042 - Why Everyone in Recovery Must Be Trauma-Informed—For Women and Children's Sake (Part 3) - by Submitted on Jun 18, 2011 from Dan GriffinMy passion in looking at men and trauma comes primarily from my personal experience as a young boy, first growing up in a violent alcoholic home and then having to deal with the impact of that trauma long into my thirties — and long into my sobriety. I still have vivid memories sitting on the ...
Views: 2041(1 vote) - Traubuse: The Trauma and Abuse Symbiosis - by Submitted on Aug 30, 2011 from Diane BabcockPsst! Abuse. Shhh! Voicing openly on the subject of abuse is still largely considered taboo and best kept as ‘civilized’ society's dirty little ‘bully secret’. When you think about it, it’s quite inconceivable that in every society bullying as domestic abuse is more acceptable than ...
Views: 2038(2 votes) - Heightened HYPER-SENSITIVITY A by-product of Betrayal - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2011 from Elizabeth McNallyBetrayal, big or small, trashes your heart to bits. You do survive and heal. When it has been shattering, your scar will usually be deep and render you hyper-sensitive. You may have a tendency to armor yourself in order to protect yourself from any other injury. This armor may be so ...
Views: 2033 - How to Help an Alcoholic - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2013 from Gareth CarterDo you have a loved one that is addicted to alcohol? If your answer was ‘yes’, you have now made a positive step in helping them overcome their alcohol addiction. In this article, we’ll tell you how to help an alcoholic and also provide you with some guidelines on what treatment is best ...
Views: 2031(3 votes) - Patt Manna's "Experience Strength and Hope" - by Submitted on May 07, 2011 from Patt MannaI am a believer who struggled with co-dependency and alcohol. The first time I was exposed to the Twelve Steps, it was in Alcoholics Anonymous and they gave me sobriety from alcohol. I was on the 4th step working this program, when my sponsor sent me to Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA), and ...
Views: 2027(2 votes) - Putting An End To Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 11, 2010 from Monty RitchingsRecently, my daughter made a trip to the town where she was born. Unfortunately, it was not a happy occasion. The daughter of one of her childhood friends had committed suicide. The girl was 15 years old when she decided that she could not tolerate any more bullying. The only way she could ...
Views: 2027(2 votes) - When is Alcohol Treatment Needed? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2013 from Gareth CarterAre you asking yourself ‘when is alcohol treatment needed?’ The fact that you are asking this question indicates that there could be a problem at hand. In this article, we’ll tell you how you to determine when alcohol treatment is needed. Knowing the Signs and Symptoms of Alcohol ...
Views: 2027(1 vote) - Triggering Cascade, Trauma Imprinting, and Total Reactance - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2019 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" "Triggering cascade" is when a seemingly minor trigger results in vastly disproportional trauma. Painful memories, replete with the attendant negative emotions, are walled behind mental barriers: combinations of dams and ...
Views: 2020 - 5 Ways to Help Your Teen Avoid a Relapse - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2017 from Desiree PattonYour teen has relapsed. Despite whatever fear, disappointment, and frustration you may feel, you need to remain as calm as possible. Your loved one still needs your support. So, what can you do as a concerned parent to help them get back on the road to recovery? 1. Envision Relapse as a ...
Views: 2019 - Courage against the enemy - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2012 from Teresa JoyceHow do we measure courage? I guess it very much depends on your mind set. There are so many ways that it can be measured. We hear stories about the loss of lives in our armed forces whilst serving overseas; sadly this is a measure of their courage after the loss of life. Unselfishness whilst ...
Views: 2019(1 vote) - Emotionally Abusive Relationship - 5 Signs You’re Entering into an Emotionally Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Feb 23, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Lack of emotional safety is the number one indicator of a potentially dangerous relationship. It may seem subtle, yet it is ever so significant with respect to your well-being. When you have emotional safety, it’s palatable. You can feel it in every fiber of your being. When it’s missing, you ...
Views: 2013 - The Legal Implications of Battered Woman Syndrome - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2010 from Su EricksenLet’s examine the legal implications of Battered Woman Syndrome. BWS was first proposed in the 1970’s. According to Joe Wheeler Dixon, PhD, JD BWS appears to be the product of legal advocacy and not science. BWS seems to owe its existence to the needs of legal advocates to support and justify ...
Views: 2012 - Victims Have Purpose In Life - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2008 from Nikki JourdanNow that I have your attention, allow me to explain why I know, beyond any reasonable doubt, that our choices and decisions either make or break our true destiny and purpose in God. If you are not where you want to be, there is still hope for you. My purpose is to exhort women leaders and others ...
Views: 2008 - Substance Abuse Evaluations. Who Needs One? - by Submitted on Jan 19, 2012 from Dean SunseriA substance abuse evaluation is an assessment of an individual to discern whether the drugs or alcohol use is a problem in the person’s life. There are basically three general categories of using drugs, which are social use, abuse and addiction. Social Use is either the experimentation of ...
Views: 2006(1 vote) - Facilitating Narcissism - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Sam Vaknin"The new narcissist is haunted not by guilt but by anxiety. He seeks not to inflict his own certainties on others but to find a meaning in life. Liberated from the superstitions of the past, he doubts even the reality of his own existence. Superficially relaxed and tolerant, he finds little use ...
Views: 2002(1 vote) - Sex and Drugs: Effects of Addiction on Sexuality - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2012 from James DavisSubstance Abuse has a Profound Impact on Sex Sex and drugs always seems like a hot topic in the media and in nearly all social circles, but the reality of the situation is that sex and drugs can pose serious, lifelong consequences to those who engage in such behaviors simultaneously. There ...
Views: 1992(1 vote) - Feeling Safe: Can Trapped Emotions Stop Someone From Feeling Safe In Their Body? - by Submitted on Nov 25, 2013 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough each one of us has a body, it doesn’t mean that everyone feels that it is safe to be in their body. It might even sound confusing as to how this could be; especially as one’s body is a big part of who they are. Instead of one being in their body, what they can end up doing is living ...
Views: 1991 - ***8 Year Old Child Killer: Criminal, Mentally Ill, or Trauma Victim? - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2009 from Kathy SeifertThe headlines read: Eight Year-Old Kills Father and a Boarder. Was this tragedy preventable? If it is proven that the known causes of youth violence were there, it was entirely preventable. This is worse than a tragedy and it must be fixed. Experts agree that most youth who become violent share ...
Views: 1983 - Child Abuse: Is There Something Wrong With People Who Are Abused As Children? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be abused as a child is going to have the potential to cause all kinds of problems and these problems are unlikely to just end there. They could end up affecting this person for the rest of their adult life. And to what degree their adult life is affected will depend on many factors. ...
Views: 1981 - A Journey to a New Life - by Submitted on Jul 16, 2010 from Mark GillespiePersonal growth and recovery from abuse is a journey. The journey we shall take commences at the point when one’s inner life begins, as a child, but not a living child, an inner-child, locked in time, forever orbiting in the universe within one’s head, and there is likely more than one such ...
Views: 1974 - Beware Gangs Of Time Thieves Are On The Prowl - by Submitted on Nov 10, 2008 from Andrew RondeauTick-tock, tick-tock, tick-tock… Right. No time for hanging around today. Lots to do, so let’s get organized. First things first. Make a list. Now where’s my note pad. I know I left it here somewhere. Isn’t it amazing how things just disappear around here? I ...
Views: 1974(1 vote) - How Drug Abuse and Addiction Affects the Brain - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2010 from addiction professorDrug addiction and abuse can be prevented. Research has shown that prevention programs that involve families, schools, and communities can help reduce drug abuse. It is important for the youth and general public to understand the real risks of drug abuse and addiction. Community leaders must ...
Views: 1974(2 votes) - Depression and Women - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2010 from Darlene LancerLast year, a study reported that despite the improvement in women's lives, their happiness relative to men has declined since the '70s, when the reverse was true. This held true across racial and socio-economic lines in several industrialized countries. Women's happiness also declines with age. ...
Views: 1970(1 vote) - Coping With The Uncopable: The Coat - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsCoping strategies are designed to keep the person alive and functioning. Some people call these strategies defense mechanisms or avoidance - some might even go as far as talking about denial. That's all very judgmental and I personally prefer coping strategies. Why you may ask? Because these ...
Views: 1968 - Munchausen and Munchausen by Proxy Syndromes: Forms of Pathological Narcissism? - by Submitted on Nov 24, 2013 from Sam VakninPatients afflicted with the Factitious Disorder colloquially known as “Munchausen Syndrome” seek to attract the attention of medical personnel by feigning or by self-inflicting serious illness or injury. “Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome” (Factitious Illness or Disorder by Proxy, or Imposed by ...
Views: 1963 - What Do You Do With Your Anger? - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2007 from Wayne MisnerI would like to thank the men and women who took the time to share their personal stories and complete the survey questions for us. This was not a scientific survey. However the candid answers may help the reader who is going through the same type of emotions. (The questions and a small sampling ...
Views: 1956 - Healing the Effects of Abuse - by Submitted on May 21, 2011 from Dr. Carolyn PorterYou are magnificent! In fact, you are absolutely a fabulous, unique, one-of-a-kind masterpiece, and you are priceless! Has anyone ever told you that? Beginning right now, at this very minute, I am asking you to begin saying this to yourself every day until you believe it. Why? Because it is the ...
Views: 1947(1 vote) - PEOPLE SHOULD TREAT ME BETTER - But I WON’T LET THEM - by Submitted on Mar 08, 2011 from Donna TorbicoACOA DOUBLE BINDS - Either way we lose ourselves, to stay loyal to the family If you’d like to know about double binds, go to pg. 10 of www.acoarecovery.com. ACoAs have a terrible dilemma: 1. On the one hand we desperately want to be loved, acknowledged, seen, heard. We complain bitterly ...
Views: 1947(2 votes) - Abusers That Abuse - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceMore than once to date I have received an email from an abuser and not the abused. The question that must pop in to our heads is why? Why would someone of that ilk visit my web page? Is it not rubbing their noise in it? Are their reasons for being here pure? After much pondering, I have decided ...
Views: 1946(1 vote) - Forgiveness! - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2012 from Meg HubbardWhen there has been abuse, sexual, physical, emotional and verbal it's tough to forgive, darn near impossible. I know because I've been in each of these situations, so I speak from my heart and soul, to yours, with love, respect and light. The abuser went to prison for his actions. Well ...
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