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- Symptoms of Norco Withdrawal - by Submitted on Aug 22, 2019 from Ken SeeleyWhen someone develops an addiction to Norco, it can be highly dangerous. Norco addiction can sneak up silently, with little or no warning that a problem is developing. The first sign of an issue comes when a person runs out of prescription and a person begins to experience signs of ...
Views: 1081 - Taking Back Your Power - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2008 from Tamiel McAfeeOne of the most essential steps in healing and recovery is to take back your personal Creator given power. First, you must come to the realization that taking back your personal power is possible and necessary. Realize that the only person you can change is yourself. You have the ability to ...
Views: 2210 - Taming the Beast - Improving the Narcissist's Quality of Life (Part 1) - by Many textbooks (and many patients ...) claim that the psychodynamic therapies when applied to personality disorders are ineffective. Functional (cognitive, behavioral) treatments should be preferred in certain cases and regarding certain aspects of the disorder.
To a Narcissist, I would ...
Views: 2193 - Taming the Beast - Improving the Narcissist's Quality of Life (Part 2) - by In the previous part we discussed the healing prospects of a Narcissist. yet, how can a False Self be anything but false? How can anyone on a permanent diet of reflections ever see true objects? How can the Narcissist - whose essence is the devouring of meaningful others and their transformation ...
Views: 2832 - Techniques of Sexual Harassers - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2018 from Piercarla GarusiHarassment is rife, certainly in London. It happens in all environments: from entrepreneurial environments, to very reputable companies, to day to day life. It happens regularly, and it is justified by society. I have experienced it many times and I have been disgusted by the low level of ...
Views: 1443 - Tell Your Children The Truth - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2007 from Sam VakninMost victims attempt to present to their children a "balanced" picture of the relationship and of the abusive spouse. In a vain attempt to avoid the notorious (and controversial) Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS), they do not besmirch the abusive parent and, on the contrary, encourage the ...
Views: 1036 - Ten Essential Elements of Violence Trauma Recovery - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2024 from William CottringerTen Essential Elements of Violence Trauma Recovery by William Cottringer Ph.D. There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds. ~Laurell K. Hamilton, Mistral's Kiss. Building Blocks (the basement). 1. Supportive ...
Views: 485 - Ten Resolutions To Get Out of Abuse - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2008 from Lisa Peck1-I will believe in my value and worth as a person. 2- I will take time weekly to learn about the dynamics of abuse. 3- I will tell at least one trusted person about my situation and ask for support. 4- I will become familiar with my local law agencies, and their procedures to help victims. 5- I ...
Views: 959 - The Abuse Survivor's Series: Paying Attention to Your Life - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2006 from Stephanie GagosAs a survivor of multiple forms of childhood abuse, I am aware of how damaging the abuse was to my sense of self, but it is what I think and believe today, that can either reverse the damage or perpetuate it. As children we may have dissociated, detached and pretended that we were not there ...
Views: 1103 - The Abuse Was Passed From One Generation To Another! - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver the years, I have had many conversations with my mother about what her childhood was like. This wasn’t simply because I wanted to know what this time in her life was like; it was because I wanted to find out why she behaved the way she did. As the years went by she settled down and was ...
Views: 1275 - The Abuser in Denial - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2007 from Sam VakninAbusers regularly deny the abuse ever took place – or rationalize their abusive behaviors. Denial is an integral part of the abuser's ability to "look at himself/herself in the mirror". There are many types of denial. When confronted by his victims, most abusers tend to shift blame or avoid the ...
Views: 1461 - The Addictive Personality Part Two - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineAddictive Personalities Part Two of a Three Part Article Written by Randi G. Fine Much has been written about genetic predisposition and its relationship to addictive personalities. Having an addict in the family does not guarantee that everyone in the family will become addicts. But many ...
Views: 1256 - The Anomaly Of Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2007 from Sam VakninIs abuse anomalous – or an inevitable part of human nature? If the former – is it the outcome of flawed genetics, nurture (environment and upbringing) – or both? Can it be "cured" – or merely modified, regulated, and accommodated? There are three groups of theories – three schools – regarding ...
Views: 968 - The best skin care products: how to find a good product - by Submitted on May 15, 2020 from Wajahat AliWe will show you what to look for in the best skin care products. It all starts with the content of the products. Look for a product that does not include any of the fake products that are included in many of the natural skin care products on the market, such as: Petroleum: Petroleum is a ...
Views: 561 - The Big Cannabis Brands You Need to Know About - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Qasim IqbalIt’s odd to think that some of today’s leading recreational cannabis providers once emerged from pre-legality markets, more or less hidden from view. Back then, marketing one’s cannabis inventory was—to say the least—incredibly difficult. Often bootstrapped with gray market funds, some of the ...
Views: 832 - The Big Cannabis Brands You Need to Know About - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2020 from Qasim IqbalIt’s odd to think that some of today’s leading recreational cannabis providers once emerged from pre-legality markets, more or less hidden from view. Back then, marketing one’s cannabis inventory was—to say the least—incredibly difficult. Often bootstrapped with gray market funds, some of the ...
Views: 859 - The Broken Spirit - by Submitted on Feb 01, 2008 from Biancia TateMy name is Biancia Tate and I am the founder of The Hope Network whose mission is to provide educational support, hope and healing to survivors of trauma and/or crisis. Within the Hope Network, I have created The Hope Center which is full of spiritual resources for those who have or are ...
Views: 4245 - The Childless Scarlet A: Healing from Family Violence and Legal Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on May 28, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Some wounds are so severe that words cannot capture their complete pain. Being pushed out of one’s children’s lives or the lives of your grandchildren is one of these. When this is yours, the depths of it take your breath away. I hear women tell me the cries that come out of them over their ...
Views: 1099 - The Daily Homework - by Submitted on May 31, 2007 from Harry HenshawWe learn much of what we learn initially through repetitious exposure. It is by becoming present to something repeatedly that space is created for us to learn anew. It is by taking that which we are exposed to and bringing it forth into our life, committing it to action, that we begin to change ...
Views: 2323 - The Dynamics Of Spousal Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 11, 2007 from Sam VakninImportant Comment Most abusers are men. Still, some are women. We use the masculine and feminine adjectives and pronouns ('he", his", "him", "she", her") to designate both sexes: male and female as the case may be. It takes two to tango – and an equal number to sustain a long-term abusive ...
Views: 1164 - The Erotomaniac Stalker - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2008 from Sam VakninThis kind of stalker believes that he is in love with you. To show his keen interest, he keeps calling you, dropping by, writing e-mails, doing unsolicited errands "on your behalf", talking to your friends, co-workers, and family, and, in general, making himself available at all times. The ...
Views: 2832 - The Fast Life Grinds: How to Overcome Habitual High-risk Behaviors - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2015 from Anica OaksSome people are naturally drawn to high-risk behaviors. This may involve taking drugs or alcohol, engaging in promiscuous sex, gambling or getting into physical altercations. There are many different ways this tendency can manifest, but all can be dangerous. In some cases, such actions can have ...
Views: 1263 - The Gradations of Abuse - by Submitted on Aug 28, 2007 from Sam VakninIs sexual abuse worse than emotional abuse? Is verbal abuse less deleterious than physical abuse (beatings)? Somehow, the professional literature implies that there is a hierarchy with sexual mistreatment at its nadir. It is rare to hear about a dissociative identity disorder ("multiple ...
Views: 972 - The Great Marvel >>> THE 12 STEP PROGRAM OF RECOVERY - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from A.A., C.A., N.A. member Bill ChaseThe greatest attributes of "The 12 Step Program" and what makes it the greatest contribution to the world in the 20th and now the 21rst century- are many fold. To begin with here is a "Program of Recovery" That has literally saved millions of lives and improved or touched in a positive way ...
Views: 1452 - The Guilt of the Abused - Pathologizing the Victim - by Submitted on Aug 29, 2007 from Sam VakninIt is telling that precious few psychology and psychopathology textbooks dedicate an entire chapter to abuse and violence. Even the most egregious manifestations – such as child sexual abuse – merit a fleeting mention, usually as a sub-chapter in a larger section dedicated to paraphilias or ...
Views: 2556 - The Healing Power of Love - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2016 from Paul HellwigI remember when my first spiritual teacher told me that love was the most important thing there was, that it could transcend and heal all things. I thought he was crazy, not the love I was familiar with. The love that I knew was learned from those perfect families on TV and any of that I ...
Views: 1345 - The Hidden Effects of Childhood Maltreatment and How Life Coaching Can Help - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2005 from debra tulllisViolence against women is one of the primary health problems facing adults today. Many people are not aware that childhood maltreatment is a powerful risk factor for health problems in adulthood. Its victims can suffer lifelong health effects. Maltreatment is best viewed as a risk factor ...
Views: 1482 - The Human Struggle Acutely Described - by Submitted on Nov 28, 2007 from Chuck BarbarowReducing Society's Dilemma to the Ultimate Basic Fundamental truth.. The ultimate truth cannot be " figured out " by the human mind ..it must be observed through the Human consciousness.. when you can see this and experience you can accept this at an extraordinary elevated level of ...
Views: 3206 - The Impact of Childhood Stress - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsI have often been asked by colleagues why I use neuro-biological instead of psychological concepts to explain developmental processes. My answer is always that neuro-biological concepts can be 'seen' on MRI scans and we become more understanding of how our brain works. I find that exciting. So ...
Views: 1558 - The Intergenerational Transmission of the Cycle of Family Abuse - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.If your home consists of one (or more) parent that batters, chances are higher that your children will acquire the same tendency to be controlling and use battering to get their way. Now this doesn’t mean that all children of abusers become abusers, as they may very well instead become victims ...
Views: 1259 - The Legal Implications of Battered Woman Syndrome - by Submitted on Jun 23, 2010 from Su EricksenLet’s examine the legal implications of Battered Woman Syndrome. BWS was first proposed in the 1970’s. According to Joe Wheeler Dixon, PhD, JD BWS appears to be the product of legal advocacy and not science. BWS seems to owe its existence to the needs of legal advocates to support and justify ...
Views: 2012 - The lies we tell ourselves - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2011 from Manfred LuckMy appreciation for the gift of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is enormous. I've been using it in my practice for about 4 years mostly over the phone and on myself and I've yet to see a condition that it cannot relieve. While relief of pain and suffering and even major increases in peace ...
Views: 1217 - The Link Between Alcoholism and Genetics - by Submitted on Jan 26, 2009 from Scott MoagaThe link between alcoholism and genetics is still being explored and there remains much to be learned. It has long been the belief that if you have alcoholic parents you have a much greater chance of becoming an alcoholic yourself. However, the role of genetics in this puzzle is still being ...
Views: 1336 - The Love Within - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2017 from Renee L Richardson, M.Ed.Renee L Richardson, M.Ed. Knowing the "Love" Within: 1/6/2017 So many times, we find ourselves sitting on the wayside of love, extremely disappointed, hurt and totally exhausted; simply because we failed to receive the love of which we have given. Were our expectations too high? Did we ...
Views: 1513 - The Mind Of The Abuser - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2007 from Sam VakninTo embark on our exploration of the abusive mind, we first need to agree on a taxonomy of abusive behaviours. Methodically observing abuse is the surest way of getting to know the perpetrators. Abusers appear to be suffering from dissociation (multiple personality). At home, they are ...
Views: 1209 - The Narcissist's Conflicted Relationship with His Fans, Followers, and Admirers - by Submitted on Jul 04, 2013 from Sam VakninThe narcissist depends on his coterie for Narcissistic Supply. He resents this addictive dependence and himself for being so frail and impotent. It negates his self-delusional grandiose fantasy of omnipotence. To compensate for this shameful neediness, the narcissist holds his sycophantic ...
Views: 4346 - The Narcissist's Disabled and Challenged Children - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" The narcissist regards his disabled or challenged child as an insult, a direct challenge to his self-perceived perfection and omnipotence, a constant, nagging source of negative narcissistic supply, and the reification and ...
Views: 4370 - The Narcissist's Seriously Ill child and Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome - by Submitted on Jul 10, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" Narcissistic parents of seriously ill children derive narcissistic supply from onlookers, friends, family, colleagues, and community by attracting attention to their role as saintly caretakers. They are demonstratively and ...
Views: 1807 - The Narcissistic Mothers Accomplice - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2015 from Randi FineWhen Children Don’t Stand a Chance Narcissistic mothers do not have children for the right reasons. They are not nurturers. They have no maternal instincts or genuine love to give. To the narcissistic mother, children represent a captive narcissistic supply. Because a young child’s very ...
Views: 2132 - The Narcissistic Stalker - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2008 from Sam Vaknin"Such a one (the narcissist – SV) is encased, is he not, in an armour – such an armour! The armour of the crusaders was nothing to it – an armour of arrogance, of pride, of complete self-esteem. This armour, it is in some ways a protection, the arrows, the everyday arrows of life glance off it. ...
Views: 8581 - The Narcissist’s Relationship with Money - by Submitted on Mar 24, 2015 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" When the narcissist has money, he can exercise his sadistic urges freely and with little fear of repercussions. Money shields him from life itself, from the outcomes and consequences of his actions; it insulates him warmly ...
Views: 5324 - The Nurturer - Sabotager - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2007 from Jay KrunszyinskyYou love your partner very much. You want to please him at all costs. You will go out of your way to create the perfect life for him by reducing or eliminating all of his stress and pressures of life. What can be wrong with helping people and ensuring that peace and harmony exists wherever ...
Views: 5243 - The Path to Abuse - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2007 from Sam VakninThe abuser mistreats only his closest – spouse, children, or (much more rarely) colleagues, friends, and neighbours. To the rest of the world, he appears to be a composed, rational, and functioning person. Abusers are very adept at casting a veil of secrecy – often with the active ...
Views: 1014 - The Peaceful Warrior And Recovery - by Submitted on May 21, 2008 from Harry HenshawThe work of Dan Millman is very powerful for assisting a person in transforming his or her life. In my work as a psychotherapist at the Holistic Addiction Treatment Program I introduce all of the clients to “The Way of the Peaceful Warrior” both as a book and as the movie. The ...
Views: 2119 - The Power Of Loving Touch - by Submitted on Jan 28, 2008 from Paul VinczeIn 2000 I had eye surgery, please imagine if you will being strapped onto a table so you are unable to move, you are fully awake your eye is taped open and you see a large machine over your head. To say the least I was a little stressed. My body was tense my heart rate was high and my breathing ...
Views: 1508 - The Power of Topical Creams - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2024 from Adam JoonesIn the realm of skincare and wellness, topical creams have emerged as versatile and effective solutions for various ailments. These creams, designed for external application, offer targeted relief and have become increasingly popular for their ease of use and localized impact. From pain ...
Views: 483 - The Psychology of Abusers - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2018 from Piercarla GarusiAbuse can take many forms, it happens in many ways and in many environments. There is currently a lot of talking about sexual harassment, also particularly thanks to TimesUp movement. There is so much harassment going on and most of it is not known or recognized. For the brave people who decide ...
Views: 1444 - The Psychopathic (Antisocial) Stalker - by Submitted on Mar 17, 2008 from Sam VakninStalking is a crime and stalkers are criminals. This simple truth is often ignored by mental health practitioners, by law enforcement agencies, and by the media. The horrid consequences of stalking are typically underestimated and stalkers are mocked as eccentric and lonely weirdoes. Yet, ...
Views: 4399 - The Psychosocial Politics of Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Dec 18, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.As a psychologist, I’m often asked what is the psychopathology of individuals in abusive relationships? The perpetrator’s mental health status is usually more self-evident, whereas the victims’ mental health status is clouded with the psychosocial politics of domestic violence ...
Views: 1011 - The Role and Impact of Verbal Abuse in Abusive Relationships - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Intimate partner violence is best avoided by understanding emotional verbal abuse and the warning signs of an abusive relationship. In an effort to help educate people and increase awareness of verbal abuse, Kate Carlson, OTR/L interviews Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D. Kate Carlson: Throughout the ...
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