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- "I Felt Invalidated By My Therapist!" - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it became clear that I felt the need to be loyal to my father, towards the end of 2015, and that this was holding me back, I knew that I needed to do something else. The emotional processing work that I was doing at this time wasn’t having much of an impact on this issue. The Wrong ...
Views: 1505 - The crutch we depend on - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceI’m in a bad way I have only just made it to the bathroom before throwing up; sitting there on my cold floor tiles I put my head between my knees just to keep upright. The room is spinning, rotating all around me like some never ending merry go round. I know that this is where I will sleep ...
Views: 1502(1 vote) - The battle within us - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceFor so many years I walked around with an enormous Psychological and Sociological residue, firmly believed that there was no way back for me. I sit here today typing, in the knowledge that the battle within myself is almost over. This is by far the battle you struggle with; it’s so hard to make ...
Views: 1500(1 vote) - A Is For Avoidance - by Submitted on Jun 26, 2011 from Sara DillingerI know what’s going on. I have at least become that self-aware in the last sixty-one years. I am practicing the art of avoidance. I know that I am going to have to write this sooner or later, but I am assiduously putting it off as long as possible. We all have that tendency, don’t we, when it ...
Views: 1497(1 vote) - Mentoring Youth Involved in Domestic Violence - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2009 from Todd HicksAre you familiar with any young people who have a domestic violence background? Would you be honored to instill in them a message that discourages inflicting harm against others, especially the ones they live with? You will learn methods you can use to mentor youth who have committed domestic ...
Views: 1497 - A Few Signs of Domestic Violence You Cannot Ignore—Part Four, in a Series of Six - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2011 from Gayle Joplin Hall“My personality and entire lifestyle changed. I had to quit my active involvement with the Chamber of Commerce, could not call on my big corporate accounts with male clients, and was accused daily of having affairs. My long-time friends did not know the hell I was living through. I was so ...
Views: 1496(1 vote) - Moving On: Sorting Through the Lies - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2011 from Sara DillingerIf you’ve ever packed up and moved from one house to another, you know something of what the subconscious is like. I’m not talking about the kind of move where someone else comes in and packs up all your stuff, even down to the ashes in the ash trays. I’m talking about the kind of move where ...
Views: 1496(2 votes) - Sometimes In Life We Can See The Good Through Our Tears - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceI am sitting next to my mum holding her hand, just as I have been doing for the last thirty days. They have just turned off the life support; I watched her dying breath as it escaped her tiny body. She had gone to hospital with lower back pain, a complaint that should never have caused the loss ...
Views: 1496(1 vote) - Are we evil? - by Submitted on Sep 28, 2013 from Teresa JoyceThis question used to be at the forefront of my mind, imbedded so deeply that there seemed to be no escaping the powerful emotions that it evoked. When did it start? Why was I born this way? How could I stop the terrible things going on all around me I was hurting so many people. Maybe the ...
Views: 1495 - Is Suffering Optional? - by Submitted on Jul 15, 2009 from Dr. Kathleen YoungMy title is prompted by the oft repeated phrase: Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. What is your experience of this? Is suffering optional? Is that even a desirable goal? Or are there experiences that automatically cause suffering? Is there a function to “suffering” or feeling one’s ...
Views: 1492(2 votes) - The Hidden Effects of Childhood Maltreatment and How Life Coaching Can Help - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2005 from debra tulllisViolence against women is one of the primary health problems facing adults today. Many people are not aware that childhood maltreatment is a powerful risk factor for health problems in adulthood. Its victims can suffer lifelong health effects. Maltreatment is best viewed as a risk factor ...
Views: 1491 - Getting Past Victim - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2016 from Monty RitchingsWhat value is there in keeping your past alive, especially when it wasn’t so great the first time around? This may seem a ridiculous question but it is very true. When we allow ourselves to run in victim mode, we are keeping our past alive and prevent a future of happiness and ...
Views: 1489 - How to Forgive Anyone Anything - by Submitted on Dec 04, 2014 from Kathi CalahanTrying to justify my resentment, anger and hatred was not worth the price of my health, nor is it worth yours. Today I have not only survived, but thrived and I'll show you how I did it. Resentment is a Latin word meaning to feel anger over and over. Like a poison, it shoots adrenalin into our ...
Views: 1489(1 vote) - Preventing Sexual Assault - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2009 from Kerry SauveRecently there was a very violent abduction/sexual assault in our city. While this is not surprising in a major city anywhere in North America, it is however sad that we rarely think twice about the impact this type of crime has on the victim and society after the headlines fade. I would like to ...
Views: 1487 - Child Abuse: Can A Parents Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause Them To Make Their Children Dependent? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is down to parents to give their children what they need so that they can handle the world. At times, this is something that takes place, and at other times, this is something that doesn’t take place. As a result of this, one can look like an adult from the outside ...
Views: 1486 - When The Nightmares Start - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceI shoot up in bed sweat pouring from my body, the sheets clinging tightly all around me. I try to adjust my eyes to the light, while they are darting from one corner of the room to another. I know he is here I heard his footsteps on the stairs. He is coming closer and closer to me with ever step ...
Views: 1486(1 vote) - ***CHOICES IN ANGER: Emotions, Mind and Spirit, Part 1 - by Submitted on Jun 22, 2009 from Daniel BenorEach of us literally chooses, by his way of attending to things, what sort of universe he shall appear to himself to inhabit. William James Introduction Anger is a natural response to being endangered or hurt. Challenges that commonly elicit anger include: Being attacked verbally or ...
Views: 1485(1 vote) - ABUSE!! And what would you do?? - by Submitted on May 20, 2014 from Dr. Anne BrownThe Grand Jury file on reports filed against Sandusky in the Penn State Sex abuse scandal illustrates some of the most egregious rationalizing (right up there with the Catholic Church's sexual abuse of children) in our country. There are some people involved who attempted to do the right thing ...
Views: 1485(1 vote) - Living A Practical Spiritual Life - by Submitted on Nov 13, 2011 from John GilmoreSeptember is coming. My life will be changing greatly in September as I seek employment and have less time to do the things which I love like writing, studying, meditating, and passing on words of inspiration. Yet again, I feel that things are happening as they should. Today we are engaged ...
Views: 1484(2 votes) - Why Go Off Track With An Attack; It’s Really A Lack. - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2009 from Ewa SchwarzUnderstanding what happens when a person verbally attacks is the key to knowing how to respond to them. The hardest situations are ones where there have been ongoing attacks for a long period of time. We all know this by its common name, verbal abuse. There are two sides that we need to look at ...
Views: 1484 - Secret Wish of Islamic Women; Female Mutilation; US—Great Satan; Iran v West in Daniel 8 Prophecy - by Submitted on May 26, 2015 from Richard RuhlingWhen a woman sees her husband is touched with tenderness toward her from Scripture and that he prays for God's blessing on their marriage, her heart is touched and she may even weep with love for God and him. This could be a secret wish or unidentified need of half the world's ...
Views: 1482 - Child Abuse: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone Who Was Abused As A Child From Getting The Help That They Need? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn an ideal world, perhaps every child would receive the level of care that the need in order to develop into a well adjusted adult. Still, this is not to say that genetics don’t play a part; what it comes down to is that is that it will be a lot easier for someone to develop in the right way ...
Views: 1481 - The Heart of Transformation - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2009 from Glenn BergerHow do we change? Change takes one tiny step, but to take that one step can require a journey of a thousand miles. So many of us can dream of the life we want to have and the person we want to be. It can be especially frustrating when we get to the stage in our adventure where we ...
Views: 1481(6 votes) - Separating from an Abusive Partner - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2009 from Gary DirenfeldIf you are in an abusive relationship and are seeking to separate or divorce from your partner, your safety may be at risk and your ability to achieve a reasonable separation agreement may be compromised. Abusive relationships are characterized by one party seeking power and control over the ...
Views: 1479 - "I Was Attacked Twice!" - by Submitted on Dec 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember being with a friend and doing some pad work; we were both taking turns to punch and kick the pad. After a while we both needed something to drink, so we headed over to the shop. Interestingly, my friend said that if we waited a little while, his mother would be back and then we ...
Views: 1477 - Review: hippopotamus sea; my viral sobriety by Norm Goldman of Bookpleasures.com - by Submitted on Jul 29, 2011 from Norm GoldmanAuthor: Jared Bryan Smith ISBN: 9780984595501 Jared Bryan Smith with his hippopotamus sea; my viral sobriety transports his readers to a place that most would not dare to go, or wouldn't even think of going. In excruciating detail, Smith's biographical account details the life of a tragic ...
Views: 1477(5 votes) - Drug Abuse Rehabilitation Centers - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2010 from addiction professorJust as drug addiction has been on a steady rise throughout the United States, so has a steady growth in the number of drug abuse rehabilitation centers to help those struggle with drug addictions. As long as people can get their hands on alcohol, cigarettes, cocaine, heroin, marijuana, ...
Views: 1476(1 vote) - Child Abuse: Do Some People Go From Being Abused By Their Parents To Abusing Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that not everyone is brought up by parents who treat them in the right way, and this can have a big effect on how they will experience life as an adult. For some people, this would have been a time when they were abused on a regular basis, for others, this would have taken place ...
Views: 1475 - "I Walked On Eggshells As A Child!" - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf I wanted to ask my mother something when I was younger, I would often wait until there were guests around. The reason for this was that I knew that there was less chance of my mother raising her voice or losing her temper. Through having other guests around or oven just one person, it ...
Views: 1474 - Lost days - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2013 from Teresa JoyceIf you have ever been abused we all have them. Days that we either choose to push back into the recess of our mind, or we have completely lost all memory of them. To this very day I still recognize this trait within me. In truth the only difference is that I no longer feel the need to revisit ...
Views: 1474(1 vote) - “I Was Brought Up To Tolerate Abuse!” - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperI remember sitting at the dinner table, after I had come back from school and having an argument with my mother. This soon came to an end, though, as she ended up leaving the table and going to her room. I can’t remember exactly why we had this argument as it was a long time ago, but I think ...
Views: 1472 - Adult Talk - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2009 from Fireflies Team"Not again!" I screamed silently as my dad's footsteps careened him into the wall. . . slurring a curse, he stumbled. He was home and drunk - again. "I hope. . . " I continued my silent plea, "I hope you just keep on going past me. No need to say anything." The very large house I lived ...
Views: 1471(2 votes) - Drinking Addiction: Why Alcohol is One of the Most Dangerous Substances - by Submitted on Jul 18, 2017 from Anica OaksWhen you think of dangerous substances that you could get addicted to, you might think about cocaine, heroin and other substances of the same nature. However, alcohol is among the top substances that are abused, and there are quite a few reasons why it's highly addictive. Not only does alcohol ...
Views: 1470 - Truth, Like Surgery - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2009 from Catie HayesIt has been my experience that even when we feel the most alone, the most vulnerable or the most enraged, guidance and support surrounds us, if we only take time to notice. A huge ice storm hit just before Christmas. Branches laden with ice brought down wires and utility poles, not to mention ...
Views: 1468 - The Abuser in Denial - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2007 from Sam VakninAbusers regularly deny the abuse ever took place – or rationalize their abusive behaviors. Denial is an integral part of the abuser's ability to "look at himself/herself in the mirror". There are many types of denial. When confronted by his victims, most abusers tend to shift blame or avoid the ...
Views: 1466 - Music For Tragic Times: Tuning In to Recovery - by I was fortunate to be with family, though far from my home in Los Angeles, when tragedy struck last week. An old friend pulled me aside at the end of that long day when we were raw with terror. "Do you know what I did this morning, after I saw the news, to cope?" asked Bonnie. "I turned off the ...
Views: 1463 - Spirituality and Recovery - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2018 from Astharte De Los SantosWhen I think of recovery I automatically think of a beach. A beautiful serene setting that inspires you to write a poem or to paint. A long walk by the shores finally answering life’s toughest questions. To me spirituality and recovery go hand and hand. You must submit your will to some ...
Views: 1461 - The legacy we leave behind us in our journey - by Submitted on Nov 27, 2011 from Teresa JoyceWhen we make the empowered decision to take back control of our lives, there is another hard fact that we need to face up to. While going through the trauma that engulfed our life’s for so many years, there is always going to be a fall out. Mine was the peace and protection I thought I had ...
Views: 1461(1 vote) - “I Was Physically Abused!” - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhen my sister and I were growing up, we had to do as we were told; if we didn’t, we would often end up being hit by my father. In a lot of cases, this would be something that our mother was behind. So, while my father was physically stronger than my mother, it didn’t mean that he was in ...
Views: 1461 - Child Abuse and Empowerment, Can There Be Such A Thing? - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2011 from Nikki MathsonI was recently asked why I chose to write and publish a book about abuse and empowerment. Being a victim of child abuse by multiple people and reading everything I could about how to help myself I chose to start sharing with others how they too could benefit from what all I have learned, ...
Views: 1460(1 vote) - The Great Marvel >>> THE 12 STEP PROGRAM OF RECOVERY - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from A.A., C.A., N.A. member Bill ChaseThe greatest attributes of "The 12 Step Program" and what makes it the greatest contribution to the world in the 20th and now the 21rst century- are many fold. To begin with here is a "Program of Recovery" That has literally saved millions of lives and improved or touched in a positive way ...
Views: 1458 - Up From The Ruins - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2010 from Bruce SullivanFOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: New autobiography recounts author’s determination in face of hardship Up From the Ruins by Bruce Wayne Sullivan portrays a childhood marred by violence and lifelong commitment to hard work BILOXI, Miss. – Up From the Ruins, an autobiography by Bruce Wayne ...
Views: 1457 - Cure For Addiction. - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2008 from Andre BrinkThis article comes from the experiences I had myself and workshops I have written to assist others in there "struggle with addiction". First and foremost, what is addiction? It is only the result of abuse. To clarify this, I will break it down step by step. Before any person gets to a stage of ...
Views: 1456 - How Victims are Affected by Abuse - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2005 from Sam VakninRepeated abuse has long lasting pernicious and traumatic effects such as panic attacks, hypervigilance, sleep disturbances, flashbacks (intrusive memories), suicidal ideation, and psychosomatic symptoms. The victims experience shame, depression, anxiety, embarrassment, guilt, humiliation, ...
Views: 1452 - The Psychology of Abusers - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2018 from Piercarla GarusiAbuse can take many forms, it happens in many ways and in many environments. There is currently a lot of talking about sexual harassment, also particularly thanks to TimesUp movement. There is so much harassment going on and most of it is not known or recognized. For the brave people who decide ...
Views: 1452 - 3 Telltale Signs of Emotional Abuse - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.How do you know if this is emotional abuse? How do you know if you are being abused emotionally? You know from the inside out. Look closely at these three tell-tale signs of emotional abuse and let your awareness of your inner experience, relative to each, permeate your entire being. 1) Being ...
Views: 1451 - Out Of The Fishpond: Emotionally Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Judi GoodmanOut of the Fishpond: The Emotionally Abusive Relationship Out of the Fishpond: How much time do you spend being preoccupied with your relationship? Are you anxious around your partner? Do you identify with these statements? "I feel like scrambled eggs when his anger comes out of nowhere. I ...
Views: 1451 - Techniques of Sexual Harassers - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2018 from Piercarla GarusiHarassment is rife, certainly in London. It happens in all environments: from entrepreneurial environments, to very reputable companies, to day to day life. It happens regularly, and it is justified by society. I have experienced it many times and I have been disgusted by the low level of ...
Views: 1450 - Healing From the Ravages of Sexual Abuse - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2009 from Lori FalkSexual abuse runs rampant in today’s society, and it's effects can be devastating. Recent statistics show that 25% of all young women, and 20% of all young men, are sexually abused by the age of 18. And this, they say, only represents the reported/documented incidences. While you may not ...
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