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- Child Abuse: Why Are Some People Not Believed When They Talk About Being Abused? - by Submitted on Aug 10, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone has been abused as a child they have already gone through enough, without having to prolong the pain of what happened. However, there are certain things that can add to this pain and one of these things is when one finds that the people around them don’t believe them or it could ...
Views: 2407 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Always Talk About How Good Other Children Are? - by Submitted on Jul 13, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperWhile a parent can offer encouragement and acknowledge what their child is good at, they can also behave in a different manner. Instead, they can criticise their child for what they can’t do and overlook what they can do. A Negative Effect The child is then going to be brought up by ...
Views: 1297 - Child Abuse: Why Do Abusive Parents Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone was as abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this now that they are an adult. This can primarily be the result of the defences that their mind has in place. To handle what took place during their early years, so that their life didn’t come to an end, ...
Views: 1104 - Child Abuse: Why Is It Hard For Someone To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Oct 05, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they can be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. Like a car that has been in a massive accident, they won’t just have a few scratches; every part of them can be messed up. So, their thoughts and emotions can be all over the place, their brain might ...
Views: 897 - Child Abuse: Why Would Someone Only Say Nice Things About Their Parents After They Have Passed on? - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperThere are likely to be a number of people out there who not only have plenty of good things to say about their parents now that they passed on, but who had good things to say about them when they were alive. When something like this takes place, it could be said that someone valued their ...
Views: 1769 - CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS: RISKS AND RECOVERY - by Many children of alcoholics (COAs) leave the family they grew up in vowing “I will never become an alcoholic like my father/mother” Or, I will never marry an alcoholic.” Many do become alcoholic. Many do marry alcoholics. Very many suffer in adulthood from self-defeating patterns resulting from ...
Views: 2689 - Clapton: The Autobiography - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2009 from Sigrid MacdonaldThose who are looking for sensationalism and all the pomp and glory that go along with being a rock god may be disappointed in Clapton: The Autobiography. Some people think that Eric Clapton came across as shallow in this memoir and that his behavior over the years, particularly to women, was ...
Views: 1789 - Codependency And #MeToo — A Brief History Of Abuse! - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2021 from Dr. Anne BrownOur History When we look at the history of women as it relates to men, we see that it has only been in the last 100 years that we were given rights. Before we had rights, women and children were the property of men. Men could do with us whatever they pleased, whenever they pleased. This ...
Views: 1145 - Codependency And #MeToo — A New Way Forward! - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2021 from Dr. Anne BrownRecap So, to recap Part One, we discussed our history as women as it relates to our relationship with men and how up until the middle to late 20th century we didn’t have laws to protect us from abuses. Women, along with children, were the property of men. Men could abuse us with no ...
Views: 1182 - Cold Empathy: The Narcissist as Predator - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2014 from Sam VakninBy Sam Vaknin Author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" The narcissist cursed - or blessed - with mental X-ray vision. He sees through people's emotional shields, their petty lies, their pitiable defences, their grandiose fantasies. He knows when they deviate from the truth and ...
Views: 6263 - Color Me Butterfly - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2008 from Robin K"After Isaac left for work, Eloise went upstairs to her children, who had returned to their room. Rollie lay on the bed, crying. Foamy saliva and remnants of vomit still dripped from his mouth. Eloise held him and cried. The other children stood watching, crippled with grief. "Mattie and ...
Views: 1078 - Commit to End Binge Eating - by Submitted on Apr 09, 2012 from Kristin GerstleyWhen you want to stop binge eating, you need to make a decision and change your old habits. Perhaps these habits have been around for years, but no matter how long they have been your fallback, you need to make changes and create new, positive habits for yourself. You need to end the pattern. ...
Views: 3923 - Common Methods of Alcohol Abuse - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2020 from Zohaib AlvieThere are a number of ways that alcohol is currently being abused. It is advisable for those that abuse alcohol to consider undergoing treatment in alcohol rehabs. 1. Binge Drinking This is a term used in describing someone that drinks excessively. If a man drinks at least five drinks in ...
Views: 670 - Common Misconceptions About Opiate Treatment - by Submitted on May 08, 2021 from Mike WilliamsThe opiate addiction epidemic has recently been exacerbated by the pandemic and the availability of fentanyl and other hyper-deadly drugs. Record numbers of fatal overdoses are being recorded, and millions of Americans need help with Opioid Use Disorder (OUD). The medical and behavioral ...
Views: 793 - Common Sense Tools for the Friend of Someone Who is Brainwashed! - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2017 from Dr. Anne BrownMost of us know or have known someone we care about who has come under the influence of a perpetrator using him/her for self-serving purposes. Very smart, educated, healthy people can, for some unknown, reason come under the spell of opportunistic, toxic, and insecure people. It is very ...
Views: 2259 - Communicate with Kids about Drugs - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2007 from Jane NelsenCommunicate with Kids about Drugs an excerpt from the book, Positive Discipline for Parenting in Recovery, by Jane Nelsen, Riki Intner, and Jane Nelsen Recovering parents know first hand the realities and dangers of using drugs and alcohol. The last thing they want is for their kids to go ...
Views: 1390 - Completing the circle of life - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2013 from Teresa JoyceMost of us believe in the circle of life it stands for reason because that makes sense. We are born we grow and then we leave this world. For each of us it’s a completely different path that we walk. We may enter into each other’s lives for many different reasons, each time our life’s are either ...
Views: 1458 - Condoning Abuse - by Submitted on Dec 17, 2007 from Sam VakninStatistics show that intimate partner abuse, including domestic violence, has declined by one half in the last decade in the United States. Jay Silverman and Gail Williamson demonstrated in "Social Ecology and Entitlements Involved in Battering by Heterosexual College Males" (published in ...
Views: 922 - Confusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2018 from Randi FineConfusion and Disappointment of Love Addiction (Codependency Part One) written by Randi G Fine, originally published on Life As A Human Have you ever believed that you could love someone enough to fix whatever is wrong in their life? Do you have the ability or tendency to deny and ...
Views: 1567 - Contracting With Your Abuser - by Submitted on Jan 08, 2008 from Sam VakninHow can one negotiate with an abuser without incurring his wrath? What is the meaning of contracts "signed" with bullies? How can one motivate the abuser to keep his end of the bargain – for instance, to actually seek therapy and attend the sessions? And how efficacious is psychotherapy or ...
Views: 986 - Controlling Relationships – The 4 Ways an Abuser Controls His/Her Victim - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Abuse is fundamentally about control. Violence may be a manifestation of relationship abuse, but domestic abuse is really about control. And the perpetrator can’t bear to be out of control. When perpetrators feel they are losing control, their means to exercise control escalates. What are the ...
Views: 1321 - Coping With The Uncopable: The Coat - by Submitted on Apr 21, 2009 from Gudrun FrerichsCoping strategies are designed to keep the person alive and functioning. Some people call these strategies defense mechanisms or avoidance - some might even go as far as talking about denial. That's all very judgmental and I personally prefer coping strategies. Why you may ask? Because these ...
Views: 1931 - Coping with Your Stalker - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2008 from Sam VakninAbuse by proxy continues long after the relationship is officially over (at least as far as you are concerned). The majority of abusers get the message, however belatedly and reluctantly. Others – more vindictive and obsessed – continue to haunt their ex-spouses for years to come. ...
Views: 1797 - Critical Thinking For Recovering Addicts And Alcoholics - by Submitted on Aug 25, 2008 from John SmethersCritical thinking (sometimes referred to as directed thinking) is purposeful, reasoned and goal directed--it is thought and knowledge and the relationship between them. To break it down more: the critical component is the evaluation that is most often agreed upon, and thinking is obtaining the ...
Views: 9864 - Critical Thinking: Do Some People Alternate Between Being A Victim And A Perpetrator? - by Submitted on Jan 17, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to hear the words ‘victim’ and ‘perpetrator’, they might have a good idea about what these words mean. Perhaps one of their friends has been in a relationship where they were victimised, for instance. Closer to Home Then again, they might know someone who has victimised ...
Views: 1351 - Critical Thinking: Is It A Surprise That Some Women Who Were Abused As Children End Up As Porn Stars? - by Submitted on Dec 12, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperRecently, a porn star committed suicide, and this was said to be due to the abuse that she received online. Based on this, it could be said that the people who abused her online were responsible for her death. The Trolls This is then an example of what can happen when someone is treated ...
Views: 1364 - Cure For Addiction. - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2008 from Andre BrinkThis article comes from the experiences I had myself and workshops I have written to assist others in there "struggle with addiction". First and foremost, what is addiction? It is only the result of abuse. To clarify this, I will break it down step by step. Before any person gets to a stage of ...
Views: 1420 - Cyberbullying - The H1N1 of Technology: Causation - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2011 from Holli KenleyPart One: Causation © Holli Kenley On January 14, 2010, a bright young 15 year old high school student named Phoebe Prince took her own life after enduring a lengthy period of relentless cyber bullying. As reported by Kennedy ( 2010), the activity directed towards Phoebe was designed to ...
Views: 1826 - Daily Homework - by Submitted on Aug 15, 2006 from Harry HenshawWe learn much of what we learn initially through repetitious exposure. It is by becoming present to something repeatedly that space is created for us to learn anew. It is by taking that which we are exposed to and bringing it forth into our life, committing it to action, that we begin to ...
Views: 1045 - Dangerous Dieting - by Submitted on Dec 24, 2007 from VicToria FreudigerThe Escape Artists that hide their Dangerous Dieting: "Needing some true research," April explained to me. I'm sure it'll bring back memories, but still it would be helpful to us if you think you can do it." "Well, of course, I can do it!" The time for this particular event was 1988, I ...
Views: 1355 - Daughter In Abusive Relationship: How To Help Your Daughter In An Abusive Relationship - by Submitted on Jul 27, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Often it is the person closest to the abused individual that becomes vocal about the existence of an abusive relationship. This may be mother, father, sister, brother or best friend. What becomes most difficult for these bystanders is helping their loved one acknowledge the abuse as they see ...
Views: 1202 - Deadly Drug Craze...Cheese - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2008 from Amy CrowellHearing “Cheese” does not mean to flash your pearly whites for the camera anymore. Cheese is the nickname for the emerging deadly drug craze sweeping the country. It is also known as Cheese-Heroin and it is the new face of heroin. It is a combination of black tar heroin and Tylenol PM ...
Views: 3233 - Dealing With Child Abuse Past & Present - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2009 from Diane BabcockChild Abuse To know about a person's open wound on the outside is obvious. To treat it we apply a bandage and some TLC To know about a person's open wound on the inside may come from observing a person's demeanour which requires more study or by simply being told about it. To treat ...
Views: 3272 - Definition: Abuse and Recovery - by Submitted on Aug 24, 2008 from Douglas PakPhysical abuse is abuse involving contact intended to cause feelings of intimidation, pain, injury, or other physical suffering or harm. Psychological abuse or emotional abuse is a form of abuse characterised by a person subjecting or exposing another to behaviour that is psychologically ...
Views: 1155 - Demonizing - by Submitted on Dec 08, 2014 from Kate JarosinskaDemonizing is a coping mechanism that we employ to painlessly process our fears. It is the act of projecting onto a person, situation or environment-separation. Any time we speak negatively of another person, situation or environment, we are claiming that this seemingly separate experience is ...
Views: 1799 - Depth Psychological Perspectives On Addiction And Treatment - by Submitted on Oct 08, 2008 from John SmethersChemical dependency has been beaten like a dead horse. There are causal theories from genetic predisposition to various theories of learning, which has contributed greatly to a social construction of reality--a clearing that needs to be re-visioned. Discussed here will be psychological and depth ...
Views: 7469 - Die Wichtigkeit, nicht förderliche Gewohnheiten und Überzeugungen zu ändern: - by Submitted on May 05, 2021 from Wajahat AliSie setzen also Ihren negativen Aktionsplan in Bewegung, dann stoßen Sie plötzlich aus irgendeinem Grund gegen eine Mauer oder Ihre Pläne schreiten nicht so schnell voran, wie Sie es sich erhoffen: Sie beginnen zu zweifeln, negativ und zweifelhaft Gedanken füllen deinen Kopf und du fragst dich: ...
Views: 480 - Different Types Of Engineering Degrees - by Submitted on May 23, 2021 from Wajahat AliDesigning is a wide term that will cover a wide scope of uses just as enterprises. Consolidating, science, innovation, and math, engineers produce astounding answers for this present reality issues. Along these lines, there are for sure a ton of sorts of science certificates. Kinds Of ...
Views: 550 - Divorce Visitation - When Domestic Abuse Revels Itself in the Interest of the Controlling Parent - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.In helping people negotiate child custody and visitation schedules, I’ve come to see a pattern express itself in terms of parents’ desire for their children to have equal access to both parents. The moment I see resistance to equal access to both parents based on what a parent “may” do without ...
Views: 1024 - Do Sexual Abuse Survivors need Therapy? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2008 from Gudrun FrerichsI have been asked the other day whether people need to go to a psychotherapist or counsellor to recover from sexual abuse. I think that is a really good question. Does a person need therapy to heal? I don't think it is necessary to go to a psychotherapist or counsellor. However, they need ...
Views: 1097 - Does The Film ‘Joker’ Show What Can Happen If Someone Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperA few days ago I had the chance to watch ‘Joker’ and I must say that this was an intense film. I thought the story was solid, the acting was stupendous, and the score worked nicely too. Unlike so many of the other superhero films, this was very lifelike. I would even go as far as to say that ...
Views: 951 - Domestic Abuse - Why Water For Domestic Abuse And Trauma Recovery? - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2008 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.What’s with the water for domestic abuse survivors? Water can be like soap to the body on a cellular level. It flushes out the impurities in the system. And let’s face it when you live with someone who tells you that you are junk...toxicity builds up in your system. So how do you ...
Views: 902 - Domestic Abuse and Family - The Use of Your Immediate Family to Carry Out Your Abusive Partner's Agenda - by Submitted on Jan 21, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.To add insult to injury, confusion to the complicated, mystery to the already oozing drama is the use of your own family to carry out your abusive partner’s agenda. Why? Whose Family Is My Family? If you’re perplexed as to why your parents are suddenly supporting your ...
Views: 825 - Domestic Abuse Counseling and Psychotherapy in the Age of Internet Technology - by Submitted on May 12, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.I can remember twenty years ago having an elitist attitude about how I found my doctors. I only saw a doctor by referral. I was not the kind of person to find a doctor in the yellow pages. And I was accustomed to patients seeking me out through referral. Roughly 90% of my patients came to me ...
Views: 1341 - Domestic Abuse From Seduction to Survival Part One - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineDomestic Abuse and Violence From Seduction to Survival, Part One Written by Randi G. Fine One out of every four women will experience domestic abuse or domestic violence sometime in her life. Although women are more commonly victimized, roughly two out of every five domestic abuse victims ...
Views: 1248 - Domestic Abuse From Seduction to Survival Part Three - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineDomestic Abuse and Violence From Seduction to Survival, Part Three Written by Randi G. Fine Domestic abuse creates a complex emotional and psychological syndrome in victims that makes their reality very difficult to accept. Victims believe that if they do and say all the right things, the ...
Views: 1296 - Domestic Abuse From Seduction to Survival Part Two - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2018 from Randi FineDomestic Abuse and Violence From Seduction to Survival, Part Two Written by Randi G. Fine There isn’t any accurate way to predict who will abuse and who won’t. What we do know is that children who have grown up with abusive role models and learned that violence in a relationship is normal ...
Views: 1217 - Domestic Abuse Survivor Tips - The 3 Keys to Thriving after Domestic Abuse - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.We all have our moments when we slide into that beaten down spot and find ourselves wallowing in thoughts that keep us there. It’s as if one picks up where one’s former batterer left off. When that happens, nip it in the bud. In the same way that you may quash a cold coming at its early onset ...
Views: 1180 - Domestic Abuse Victims - 5 Tell-Tale Signs That You’re Still Wearing “The Abused” Hat - by Submitted on May 21, 2009 from Jeanne King, Ph.D.Domestic abuse victims heal and transform themselves at different rates. You can tell when their recovery process remains in progress, yet to be completed. And if you are a domestic violence survivor, you know when you’re still wearing that “I’m a Victim” hat. Here are some tell-tale signs that ...
Views: 1529 - Domestic Abuse: Chris Brown Incident Sparks Influx of Inquiries - by Every nine seconds, a woman in the U.S. is a victim of dating violence. Since the arrest of singer Chris Brown in the alleged beating of girlfriend Rihanna, the issue of dating violence is again in the spotlight.
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