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- Causes of Alcoholism to be Identified - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2011 from Charles SomerAre there causes of alcoholism other than the constant drinking itself? If you haven't read anything about alcoholism, it is reasonable to assume that you think, just like many other people think, the only cause for alcoholism is the steady drinking over time, thus alcoholics can only blame ...
Views: 1751 - Celebrity Workshop: Adolescents New Addiction - by Submitted on Sep 11, 2008 from sherry gabaA frantic mother of a 15 year old daughter of a local suburban neighborhood tells her therapist that her daughter has quit the cheerleading squad, no longer dreams of college and becoming a lawyer, and her childhood friends have been replaced with friends she has never met. Her daughter has ...
Views: 3134 - Cell phone spying - by Cell phone spying has been around since '06. Mobile phone spy software programs are very affordable and very effective. It was once always easy to tune into cell phone discussions using a scanning device, as cell phones use analog signals at the present time with digital cell phones this can be ...
Views: 184 - Chances And Choices: Alcohol Addiction Statistics - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2008 from Terje EllingsenDrug and alcohol addiction are becoming increasingly prevalent in the United States. The line of celebrities entering and leaving rehab (often several times) seems endless. Additionally, young people are exposed to more than 1,000 beer and wine commercials on television each year. They also ...
Views: 1318 - Changing Inner Dialogue Crucial for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery - by Submitted on Apr 23, 2019 from Randi FineHow to Change the Way You Talk to Yourself From the book Close Encounters of the Worst Kind: The Narcissistic Abuse Survivor’s Guide to Healing and Recovery © 2017 Each of us has a subconscious inner voice, called an “inner dialogue,” that strongly influences our life. Since it has always ...
Views: 1067 - Child Abuse Doesn't Take A Day Off and Neither Can We - by Submitted on Jul 06, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsIt kind of trails off after the holidays. We would love to keep the issue in the front of everyone and that child abuse happens all year long. Abuse doesn't take a holiday, doesn't take a day off, and we can't either. (Jane Donovan) The it referred to in the quote is child abuse. It was in ...
Views: 1771 - Child Abuse Survivors - Learn How to Heal from the Messages of Family Shame - by Submitted on Nov 21, 2009 from Adam ApplesonIf you experienced child abuse, you've likely had the messages of family shame ingrained into the depths of your being. Do you remember hearing the following types of messages? Message #1: "You won't amount to much." Message #2: "I'm bending over backwards raising you kids. There's so ...
Views: 2515 - Child Abuse: Can A Parents Fear Of Being Abandoned Cause Them To Make Their Children Dependent? - by Submitted on Dec 30, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperIt is often said that it is down to parents to give their children what they need so that they can handle the world. At times, this is something that takes place, and at other times, this is something that doesn’t take place. As a result of this, one can look like an adult from the outside ...
Views: 1482 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Affect Someone’s Life Even If They Can’t Remember What Happened? - by Submitted on Oct 18, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperEven if someone was abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this now that they are an adult. What happened during their early years could be a mystery to them or they could make out that their childhood wasn’t that bad. Still, while they won’t remember much of what actually ...
Views: 834 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Disconnect From Their Aggression? - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that everyone on this planet has a part of them that provides them with aggression. This part of someone will provide them with energy, drive, enthusiasm and the ability to stand their ground. Of course, it can also be something that can cause them to cause destruction, not ...
Views: 851 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Feel Worthless? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat can make it more or less impossible for someone to feel comfortable in their own skin and to be grateful for the life that they have been given is if they feel worthless. Through feeling this way, their life can be unbearable and being alive can feel like a curse, not a blessing. To say ...
Views: 926 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Cause Someone To Hide Themselves? - by Submitted on Feb 11, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone may find it hard to fully show up in life. What could be normal is for them to hide when they are around others or to hide away from others. Still, regardless of what takes place, the outcome will be the same. If they do hide ...
Views: 855 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Stop Someone From Developing Self-Awareness? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had a traumatic childhood, they may be in a very bad way now that they are an adult. Their early years would then have been incredibly difficult and now that they are an adult their life won’t be much better. What this could mean is that this was a time in their life when they ...
Views: 862 - Child Abuse: Can Child Abuse Take Away Someone’s Will To Live? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone might not have much motivation in life. This is, of course, will be in addition to all of the other challenges that they may have. So instead of having the need to embrace life and to make the most of the life that they have ...
Views: 780 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Believe That They Always Need To Be On Guard If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 25, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone may find it hard to let go and to relax now that they are an adult. Thanks to this, they can have the need to always be in control and on the go. Now, there could be moments when one thinks about how their early years are still ...
Views: 1030 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Believe That They Deserve To Suffer If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 26, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, what took place will be over but it doesn’t mean that they will have put what took place firmly behind them. So, in the same way that a soldier who has left a warzone can carry the effects of what they experienced, one can also be in the same ...
Views: 666 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel As Though They Are Betraying Their Parents If They Talk About Their Abuse? - by Submitted on May 04, 2022 from Oliver JR CooperIf, after coming to see that they were abused and/or neglected during their early years, someone might feel the need to talk about what they went through. At this stage, they might not feel comfortable speaking to one or both of their parents about it. Still, although they can have this ...
Views: 998 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Feel More At Peace When They No Longer Need Anything From The People Who Abused Them? - by Submitted on Aug 14, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused at the beginning of their life, it is likely to mean that they experienced a lot of pain during this time. In addition to this, most, if not all, of their development needs might not have been met. As a result of this, even though a number of years will have passed ...
Views: 2285 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Hate Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperAs a result of being abused and/or neglected as a child, one may find that it is a challenge for them to feel good about themselves. Their time on this planet is then going to be anything but fulfilling. In fact, it could seem as though they are in hell as opposed to hell being somewhere ...
Views: 787 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Have Trouble Moving Forward If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperWhen it comes to the human body, it could be said that it is designed to take someone forward. Of course, they can walk back but it is not as easy as it is for them to walk forward. Now, although going forward, not backwards is what is supposed to take place, it doesn’t mean that someone will ...
Views: 813 - Child Abuse: Can Someone Suffer If They Don’t Face What Happened When They Were Younger? - by Submitted on Jan 02, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for something to develop in the right way, it will need it to receive the right things. If this doesn’t take place, it might still grow but it is not going to grow in the same way as it would otherwise. Nature For example, if a tree was planted in the shade, it is not going to ...
Views: 1678 - Child Abuse: Can Someone’s Need For Validation Stop Them From Being Able To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on May 03, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf, after being abused and/or neglected as a child, someone was to get to a point in their adult life where they realised that this is what took place, they may experience a strong need for their experiences to be validated. It might seem strange as to why it took them so long to realise that ...
Views: 809 - Child Abuse: Can Toxic Shame Stop Someone Who Was Abused As A Child From Getting The Help That They Need? - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIn an ideal world, perhaps every child would receive the level of care that the need in order to develop into a well adjusted adult. Still, this is not to say that genetics don’t play a part; what it comes down to is that is that it will be a lot easier for someone to develop in the right way ...
Views: 1474 - Child Abuse: Can Validation Allow Someone To Heal From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 15, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperJust because someone has experienced some kind of abuse or has had to endure some other kind of pain, it doesn’t mean that they have been able to move on from it. Because although one could be innocent and have nothing to do with what happened, as in the case of child abuse, it doesn’t mean that ...
Views: 2141 - Child Abuse: Did Your Parents Make Out That You Were Perfect? - by Submitted on Jul 21, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was asked to talk about what takes place when a child is abused, they could say that they will be physically harmed or verbally put down. Alternatively, they could say that they will be neglected. Then again, one could mention all of these things, meaning that it won’t just relate ...
Views: 818 - Child Abuse: Do Parents Lack Empathy When They Deny What Happened? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperOver six years ago, I wrote an article titled, ‘Abusive Parents: Why Do They Deny What Happened?’ In terms of the amount of comments that I have received for this article, it has to be one of the most popular articles that I have ever written. I wrote this article at a time when I was trying ...
Views: 1604 - Child Abuse: Do Some Parents Try To Live Their Lives Through Their Children? - by Submitted on Dec 29, 2016 from Oliver JR CooperAlthough there are certain things that children need in order to develop into well-functioning adults, it doesn’t mean that they will always receive these things. Now, it could be said that it is not always going to be possible for a child to get their needs met. However, this is not going ...
Views: 1586 - Child Abuse: Do Some People Go From Being Abused By Their Parents To Abusing Their Parents? - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperIt could be said that not everyone is brought up by parents who treat them in the right way, and this can have a big effect on how they will experience life as an adult. For some people, this would have been a time when they were abused on a regular basis, for others, this would have taken place ...
Views: 1469 - Child Abuse: Does Child Abuse Cause Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Mar 02, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperFor quite some time now, it has been said that there are a lot of people who are not in a good way internally. When something like this is spoken about in the media, the words ‘depression’, ‘anxiety’ and ‘suicidal’ are often mentioned. It can then seem as though this is a fairly new problem ...
Views: 915 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Develop An Adult Self In Order To Move On From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused during their early years, they may find that it is not possible for them to put the past behind them. A number of decades may have passed since that time in their life, but it could be as if very little time has passed. And although their caregivers didn’t treat them ...
Views: 854 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Forgive Themselves If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 10, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperEven though someone may see that they were abused as a child, it doesn’t mean that this is something they have realised for very long. If they have been aware of this for a little while, it doesn’t mean that they were very young when this became clear. The main reason as to why it would have ...
Views: 684 - Child Abuse: Does Someone Need To Move On If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 09, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe beginning of someone’s life is supposed to be a time when they will receive what they need in order to grow and develop in the right way. When this takes place, their developmental needs are generally going to be met. As a result of this, they are likely to have the resources that they ...
Views: 1522 - Child Abuse: How Can Someone Be Compassionate Towards The People Who Abused Them? - by Submitted on Jul 20, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was treated badly during the beginning of their life, by the very people who were supposed to love and protect them, the last thing on their mind can be to show them compassion. In fact, what they could think about is how they would like to get revenge for what was done to them. ...
Views: 1149 - Child Abuse: How Can Someone Develop A Sense Of Safety And Security After Being Abused? - by Submitted on Oct 11, 2018 from Oliver JR CooperIn the same way that a house will need strong foundations, a human being will also need strong foundations. When strong foundations are laid down for a house, this part will be strong enough to handle the other levels that are added, and, when it comes to a human being, strong foundations will ...
Views: 1131 - Child Abuse: How Can Someone Move On If They Have An Emotionally Unavailable Parent? - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperWhat one may have come to see is that their parent wasn’t emotionally available during early years and, now that they are adult, this parent is no different. As a result of this, the pain that they experienced as a child could continue to this day. It then won’t be a case of what took place ...
Views: 816 - Child Abuse: Is Anger An Important Part Of Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperThere are some emotions that are seen as ‘bad’ or ‘negative’ and while this might be the case if they are shown in certain situations, this is not going to apply in others. Every emotion has purpose and a reason for appearing; this not to say that one should act upon every emotion that arises ...
Views: 2236 - Child Abuse: Is Child Abuse A Form Of Indirect Revenge? - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused by one or both of their caregivers during their early years, it can be hard for them to understand why this was. One question that can enter their mind is: why would the people who were supposed to love and care for me treat me so badly? This can be a question that they ...
Views: 841 - Child Abuse: Is Child Abuse One Of The Reasons Why So Many People Have Mental And Emotional Problems? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn recent years, a lot has been said about the amount of people that are not in a good way mentally and emotionally. Alongside this, a number of solutions have been put forward. One thing that is often recommended, if someone is not in a good way, is that they open up to friends or family ...
Views: 1113 - Child Abuse: Is Feeling Safe An Important Part Of Healing From Child Abuse? - by Submitted on May 12, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperWhen someone is abused as a child, it is highly likely that they are going to have trouble feeling safe in life. This would have been something that they first experienced when they were growing up and something that has stayed with them throughout their adult years. So for some people, it ...
Views: 2064 - Child Abuse: Is It A Surprise That Some Parents Deny They Were Abusive? - by Submitted on Jan 14, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone comes to see that their early years were a time when they were not treated very well, there are a number of things that can take place. Firstly, they can start to think about what they can do to heal the damage that was caused, and, secondly, they can have the need to talk about what ...
Views: 1039 - Child Abuse: Is It Clear To See That Abusive Parents Were Also Abused By Their Parents? - by Submitted on Oct 07, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was to see that they were abused as a child, they can struggle with two questions. Firstly, they can wonder why their own parents treated them so badly, and secondly, they can wonder why their parents would repeat what was done to them. These two questions can consume their mind a ...
Views: 763 - Child Abuse: Is It Normal For Someone To Feel Guilty After Their Abusive Parent Passes On? - by Submitted on Oct 06, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone had parent who was abusive during their early years, it can be hard for them to get on with them now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that this parent could be in denial when it comes to what took place all those years ago. Or, this parent could make out that one ...
Views: 814 - Child Abuse: Is There Something Wrong With People Who Are Abused As Children? - by Submitted on Jan 18, 2014 from Oliver JR CooperTo be abused as a child is going to have the potential to cause all kinds of problems and these problems are unlikely to just end there. They could end up affecting this person for the rest of their adult life. And to what degree their adult life is affected will depend on many factors. ...
Views: 1981 - Child Abuse: Should Someone Expect Other People To Empathise Them If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Mar 05, 2017 from Oliver JR CooperThe beginning of someone’s life can be a time when they received what they needed in order to develop into a well-adjusted adult. As a result of this, they will now have what they need to handle life. Now, this is not to say that their life will be plain sailing; what it comes down to is ...
Views: 1782 - Child Abuse: Was Someone Being Punished If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, they might not realise that this is what actually took place. They can then have a number of different problems, but they won’t be able to join the dots, so to speak. One can have mental and emotional problems and their relationships can be anything but ...
Views: 620 - Child Abuse: What Beliefs Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Oct 30, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected during their early years, there is the chance that their life is far harder than it would be otherwise. They can have mental and emotional problems, health problems, and their relationships could be in a complete mess. However, while what took place ...
Views: 866 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Sep 15, 2019 from Oliver JR CooperIn order for a problem to be solved, two things need to take place. Firstly, it needs to be clear that there is a problem, and secondly, it needs to be clear what the problem actually is. For example, ones car might not be running properly but, until they become aware of this absolutely ...
Views: 932 - Child Abuse: What Can Happen If Someone Was Verbally Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jan 30, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused as a child, it could be something that they are only too aware of. Many years will have passed since they were a small child, but it could seem as though very little has actually changed. They would have gone through hell during this part of their life and they could ...
Views: 844 - Child Abuse: What Expectations Can Someone Have If They Were Abused As A Child? - by Submitted on Jun 15, 2020 from Oliver JR CooperIf someone was abused and/or neglected as a child, it doesn’t mean that their suffering will be over now that they are an adult. The reason for this is that while what took place will be over, what took place during this period of their life may have had a massive impact on them. Many years ...
Views: 740 - Child Abuse: When Will We Do Away with This National Recognition? - by Submitted on Jun 07, 2009 from Intent.com AuthorsApril is National Child Abuse Prevention Month. We take one day to remember mothers and fathers, those who gave their lives for this country, the signing of The Declaration of Independence, a man who gave his life in the name of civil rights, and the day Christ was born. I have often wondered ...
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